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why place such high expectations on someone? the fact is that even if they decide to leave one day or stop feeling the way they do about you, that is something you have to accept because people are people. the main toxic self-hurting behaviour is that you have done things "for him" to prove your loyalty to him, hoping to be reciprocated. is it really his fault that you decided to do this at all? all it is, is a kind of game you are playing to earn loyalty points. that is never the basis of a healthy relationship. and besides, it is unnecessary to be become a martyr for anyone in a relationship, it is dangerous and often heartbreaking. that is not to say, to be selfish and an asshole, but whatever needs or changes must be communicated with and talked about openly. another toxic behaviour is the use of ultimatums which is a sign of immaturity. it is basically an adult tantrum, an inability to process and adapt. you either take it or leave it, which reveals that there might be a darkness in you that can make you a very cruel person. an ultimatum is basically emotional hijacking, only toxic people use it to gain leverage. from the sounds of it, a long term or lifelong relationship is something that you value deeply. realistically, any relationship that spans 10, 20, 30 years will go through many adversities, twists and turns, changes of heart, changes of plan. the test of how much you love this individual is won by sticking it through, talking about it, always listening, and clarifying within yourself with a lot of self-reflection why you feel certain things, and whether those feelings are even warranted or necessary. if you really do have issues of possessiveness, being abandoned, low self-esteem in being along, or whatever, it is unfair to weight all these on your partner, be it the present guy or next one to come. these same issues will rear its ugly head, no matter who you meet and decide to have a relationship with. because these are your own demons that you are carrying. i see this happening with many people, some into 40s, 50s who are still at the stage of petulance and obstinance. it is always someone else who needs to fit to their wants, but no self reflection into why things have turned out the way they are,. not just with partners, but often with family and friends too. they are often bitter, lonely, angry, most have given up and say they are unlucky etc. luck / blessings has little to do with it. relationships are not easy, period. but if you love your partner and yourself, you really dig deep and stick it through, even the parts that are not perfect. Perfection, Expectation, and Lack of Communication are the main ingredients for disasters in relationships. When these are not respected and resolved, it starts to degrade into issues of trust, betrayal and neglect, which can lead to the union dissolving. if you are a young person, which sounds like it, don't beat yourself up too much. but also do not indulge in your bad behaviour and feelings because they will slowly become your habits, which becomes your personality which will eventually become your destiny. dont believe in that "you complete me" nonsense. talk about expectations, haha. it is never the duty of another person to make you whole. it is your own gift and blessing, even if you forget it, to acknowledge and honour your own Life first, be a happy person and then enter into someone else's life and create more happiness. if you cannot be happy with yourself, you have no business trying to be happy with someone else. sorry if all this is coming out harsh, but tough love is better than gentle lies.

Nope. I never want my partner to give up everything for me. He has worked hard for the things in his life. They range from friends, to co-workers, to clothes on his back, car etc. It is his, and I respect them, and him. The last thing I need is for him to give up everything that he has worked for, for me and become resentful towards me later. That to me is the worst. If he gives up something, or someone in his life, it should be his decision alone. Not yours to push or emotionally blackmail. Accept that he is his own person. As part of a relationship, you are just one half of the equation. Not whole.

You said it yourself, in the end, it will just be you and him. Why not let him have his life, and you yours, when at the end of the day it's still gonna be the two of you? Him choosing his friends over you for that one day tells me more about you than about him. Because to him it might never have been abt choosing one above the other until you gave him the ultimatum. This was a one year relationship that could have gone longer if you had asked yourself was it worth it to fight about losing him a day and risk losing him for a lifetime? It's also worth asking and confronting your own reasons for wanting to give him the ultimatum. Was it your fear of losing him, envy born out of your own lack of friends, frustration over unmet expectations that's unfair, loving him base on reciprocity that's unspoken, or just fomo? Some behaviours are toxic in relationships and would just prevent you from having fulfilling relationships in the future.

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Self Pity is Self Destruction where you are your own worst enemy. If you don't start to help yourself and come to term that only you have the power to make a change, no amount of help or wise words anyone here can give you will start to solve your issues and make a change to your life. Do people really care if you don't ? No. That is the hard fact of life. Your Life. It's all in your own hands all this time to do what you will with it.

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Different things are important at different times in someone's life. Most of the time, if you really love each other and don't take each other for granted, your s/o will pick you. If it is urgent and you tell your s/o he NEEDS to be there, they will certainly pick you (if they don't then either something is wrong on their side or you cried wolf too much). But sometimes, when it's a friend they really want to be with at that moment, or maybe even if the friend asked to meet first and they already committed, they will pick their friends. And that's ok. (To be very fair, if you want your s/o to pick you every single time, that's ok too. But good luck finding someone who will be willing to do that.) Don't mix the important and the urgent. Just because you are the most important thing in your s/o's life does not mean you are always the most urgent thing. Who knows? Maybe your s/o needs their own space as well and this is their way of unwinding. Being in a relationship is like a Venn diagram. There is you, there is them, and there is the relationship (the middle bit). It only becomes a problem if you cannot agree on how large you want the overlap. I don't want my partner to give up everything for me. I also don't want to give up everything for my partner. There are many things to help us feel fulfilled and satisfied - friends, family, sports, recreation, work, love, time alone... some people can do with only one. Some need a bit of everything. If you ask me, my personal feeling is you are demanding too much. Only dogs come every time they are called. But hey, you do you. Only you will know what you need. If this is what you need, then stick with it. Just remember, it is also possible that you don't love your love of your life enough to give them the space they need.

Seems like all the security guards there doing the same thing. So i presume they are not molesting but just doing their jobs. Some will cupped the crotch area to see if you are hiding anything inside the undies... I did when i was in Germany on biz trip 3 years back. Cos my team has one muslim colleague tagged along so the whole team was like kena tight security spot check. 6 of us and he randomly picked 3 (the muslim is compulsory being picked) and followed the security officers to 3 different rooms behind a partition (that is, public will not be able to see the rooms). Each of us was escorted by one officer each into the room. The moment i got inside, that's the conversation and action between him n me (for ease of explaining what actually happened) He: Please put your hand carry bag on the floor and put your hands on the wall. Me: Dropped my hand carry bag on the floor and place my hands on the wall. He: Started to use his hands to pat my body from shoulder, hands, armpit, side of my body, down to my thighs outer and inner, butt and crotch areas He: Ok now, remove your T-shirt and unzip your jeans and remove completely except leaving your underwear on. Then put your hands on the wall and spread your legs wide. Me: Dare not asked why so just removed my T-shirt, unzipped my jeans and remove it completely leaving just a pair of my GMW spandex tanga underwear on. Placed my hands on the wall and spread my legs wide. He: Use his hands to pat my body as before and this time round upon reaching the inner thigh, he grabbed my bulge from behind and started to feel it. Me: I was like why the hack is he doing this, how can i hide something inside my balls and i am not consulting a doctor from scrotum problems ? But i kept quiet and let him do what he wants. He: After feeling nothing, he asked me to remove my GMW spandex undies completely and then put your hands on the wall again with legs wide open. Me: I did as being told. He: He spread my ass cheeks apart this time and asked me to bend down lower. Me: I knew what will be next as i do watched movies whereby police will check inside the hole in prison but i am not in prison ? Just let him continue what he wanna do. He: Put on some lubes on his fingers and then started to rub on my hole and then insert his finger into my ass hole. Me: Damn it was painful but i have to keep quiet and endure. And started to get even more painful. He: Your ass hole is tight and small, so i need to use 2 fingers in order to check if you are hiding anything inside your ass. Started to go around inside my ass to feel Me: Was fucking painful but i endured it. And after awhile the painfulness started to subside. I felt his fingers were withdrawing out of my ass hole. He: Ok, cleared nothing hide inside. Now turn around and lean your back against the walls Me: Damn, i pondered awhile as my cock was already 75% hardness when he felt my ass hole. Then i slowly turned around and lean my body against the walls with my hands trying to cover up my hardon manhood. He: Please remove your hands and put them behind you. Me: I removed my hands and put behind my butt. And i saw his eyes were kinda got wide and his mouth was making an 'O' shape which i interpreted as 'OMG" He: Your Dickie is responding. And started to hold my hardon manhood and feel the shaft from bottom to top and down a few times. Then using two hands to open my cock openings. Then gave a slight smile and said 'dude, you are getting wet' Me: Yah, sorry about that. i cannot help it. He: Let me wipe it off for your. Instead of using a tissue papers, he bent down to pick up my GMW spandex undies and started to wipe my precum away. Me: I was like damn, why use my undies to wipe it. He: Okie, you are completely cleared. Pls put on your undies, jeans and T-shirt. Then followed me out....

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I was at the pool ystd evening. Went into the showers, expected that a guy would shower in a cubicle with the door open. But did not expect the guy to fondle with his dick throughout until i got dressed up. I knew he was giving signals to me but i couldn't react cos my family was around. If i came alone, probably i would've gone to you. U dressed up in office attire, then went straight to the toilet, god knows what u were doing. Hope to see u again.

erm... it is creepy to spend entire time with just a single person and it is not healthy

Eh. I agree with Doncoin. I believe that a healthy relationship should have a mix of both time spent with your significant other and other groups of friends. Saying this even as I'm introverted myself. It's important that your partner be significant in your life but not the only relationship that you have nor he is allowed to have. Friends will come and go, yes, so we should spend what time we can with them shouldn't we? After all, if a relationship is meant to last you'd have your partner with you for many many years. Hopefully you'll have some time to cool off and see what you really want. Some times having time apart helps - hence the saying that separation makes the heart grow fonder.

Not painful to pee after surgery but the swelling might cause the pee to separate in two separate directions. Sensitivity depends whether you have exposed the cock head to the elements previously, otherwise perhaps time to time you may just get a jolt when the fabric rubs against the head (will diminish in time to come).

Bad enough if this is real he is cheating on you but you doing the same does make you as bad if not worst. And not doing yourself any favor. And whats worst...you only guess he is cheating.. without any solid proof.

Stop comparing yourself with others and you will feel better.

wa dont act like some fucker eh, people come here seek some help and advice you come here show no empathy disgusting la dey grow up hor. also, why do you need to feel insignificant for? you have traits others don't as well, so why feel like they are better? for everytime you think shitty about yourself and how great others are, yo uthink of a good point you have and focus on that and then think on how to expand your good points and branch out from there

Stop comparing yourself with others

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U do not worry he always use protection...u need to get your facts right before you go into such a conclusion .

i hope he is a responsible person and use protection with each and every client he fuck.. but then again as times goes by i am sure someone would request for raw sex willing to pay more $$$. So a masseuse who fuck his clients is still consider a high risk for sextual transmitted diseases. For all massage lover including myself, we should be careful and always takes prevention options. Have fun but don forget your own life living and health i would say. Not pouring cool water but stating the facts reading here everyday if its all real happening does raise consents for all good ppl out there. Do take care.

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As far as I know the number of PhD candidates accepted is really small (6 per annum I think), and many of them are quite senior with ample policy analysis experience. But that's perhaps the best place to study public policy. I was stunned at their executive training program, and later I went through their impressive interview process for MPA. Good luck mate.

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