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When you’re in the process of looking for a boyfriend, partner, or even just someone to hook up with, are you usually the one who has to woo or pursue the person you're interested in, or are you usually the one who is wooed by someone who is interested in you? Do you find that the connections you make are usually initiated by you or by the other person? Do you find that when you're in the process of courting or dating someone, you seem to expend more effort or take more initiative in moving the relationship forward, or the other person does? When someone catches your eye or you find yourself falling for someone, is it usually one-sided (i.e. you are more interested in the other person than the other person is interested in you)? When you're pursuing the object of your affection or lust, have you ever felt like the other person was your first choice but you were only their second/third/backup choice? When you're in a relationship, have you ever felt that one party loved the other more or treasured the relationship more? (Or when you're hooking up with someone, have you ever felt like one party felt more attracted to the other?) Alternatively, have you ever experienced a connection where both parties are equally attracted to each other and equally interested in making/deepening the connection (whether just physical or more)? Is this even possible? Please share your experiences and views on whether love/affection/lust/attraction is ever equally reciprocated between two people, or if it's usually the case that one person is more invested than the other.