Why only few people can host?

[feedersmiracle]

18 hours ago, HydroNaut said:

 

Yes... precisely what happened. After I organised one group session at my place. 4 guys always messaged me everyday asking if got any session everyday. 

I cannot blame them... my place is solely mine as i stay alone and I normally offer a drink buffet(whisky, cocktail, mocktail etc..) cum snack session before the start. I also personally provide all the necessary lube and condoms and even have wall projection of porn on the wall facing my bed. 

 

But the headache coming from the mess i need to clean after the whole thing. 

Personally if I was invited to anyone's house for anything I would not mess it up PLUS I'll prolly offer to wash the dishes if you prepared any meals 

[HydroNaut]

6 hours ago, feedersmiracle said:

Personally if I was invited to anyone's house for anything I would not mess it up PLUS I'll prolly offer to wash the dishes if you prepared any meals 

 

No  Dishes lah... all finger foods and snacks for alcoholic drinks. Just their sperm will shoot all over the place under you offer to cum inside your mouth to avoid the mess.

Lol...

[Guest Rolleyes]

Don't think there is any need to detail how u host here....

It's a lame way to get responses .. and I'm sure some may have fell for it too...

 

 

On 6/18/2019 at 2:28 PM, HydroNaut said:

 

Yes... precisely what happened. After I organised one group session at my place. 4 guys always messaged me everyday asking if got any session everyday. 

I cannot blame them... my place is solely mine as i stay alone and I normally offer a drink buffet(whisky, cocktail, mocktail etc..) cum snack session before the start. I also personally provide all the necessary lube and condoms and even have wall projection of porn on the wall facing my bed. 

 

But the headache coming from the mess i need to clean after the whole thing. 

 

[HydroNaut]

10 minutes ago, Guest Rolleyes said:

Don't think there is any need to detail how u host here....

It's a lame way to get responses .. and I'm sure some may have fell for it too...

 

 

 

 

Dun think there is a need to. I have my regulars and that is enuff heachaches for me already.

As I have mentioned, I am already having headaches organising it so why am I trying to get responses for my post? 

 

 

[HydroNaut]

In relation to the topic... one more note why few people can host or wanna host. 

Being a guest is easy, you just sit there and wait to be texted on the timing and get your butt over.

 

The headaches coming from the host is... all the participants will want to know who is going...how they look like, body fit or not and cock size, top or btm, age....the after-cleaning, being the moderators to make sure everyone is comfortable with one another, then have to kickstart the whole thing, have to make sure people turn up. So having regulars are much of ease.

 

As for 1-1 session, it all voices down to if you have your own place and have to take chances to meet discreet people with only torso pics. Even if you wanna meet outside, you need to take the risk of rejections or meeting up with people that might not look like their pics and then waste your time travelling from places to places.

 

Thus it is like online shopping, you buy what you see online but might not fits your size sometimes. The most time saving means is to have regulars or go to saunas where it is like walking into a boutique and choose and try it on for the best comfort (WYSIWYG).

 

 

[Guest Screamy Queen]

On 6/19/2019 at 4:23 PM, HydroNaut said:

The most time saving means is to have regulars or go to saunas where it is like walking into a boutique and choose and try it on for the best comfort (WYSIWYG).

 

 

Ya lor,  suana can do washing too, with free flow of condom and lube and everything hairy. You get to scream your heart out, with joy, but at home you can't scream unless your neighbours are all deaf.

[TopChinese]

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

[auri]

38 minutes ago, TopChinese said:

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

1. It may be better for you to go now, I need to rest/do some work

2. Better go now, my wife is coming home

 

[LeanMature]

52 minutes ago, TopChinese said:

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

 

Have this type of guests coming to create trouble ?  

[Gentleman]

7 hours ago, TopChinese said:

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

 

that's quite an a-hole way of treating someone whom you've just had fun with...surely there are better way of treating your guests, even if it's just a ONS.

 

 

[Guest Guest]

8 hours ago, TopChinese said:

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

 

Have fun in the afternoon. 

[feedersmiracle]

Make up an excuse while organising so they get when they are supposed to leave?...

[benedict5856]

On 6/21/2019 at 11:16 AM, TopChinese said:

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

 

Ask him, wanna go for supper? that u are super hungry....

after that, ask him, how he goes home while eating.

Some ppl do not have spare cash for taxi.

[cyr8x]

On 6/18/2019 at 4:26 PM, benedict5856 said:

I can host any time, any day....

 

But sadly, there is not enough cute chubs around....

 

So my wish never come true till now.....

So can I stay over? 

[benedict5856]

4 hours ago, cyr8x said:

So can I stay over? 

 

cannot. u sleep at Shogun sauna, its 24 hours. And there got many men to serve u whole night. hahahahaha

[armitage]

always thought if no place - hotel or car perhaps?

[Guest guest]

On 2/12/2019 at 3:43 PM, LeanMature said:

Work permit holders cannot host because landlord said no guests allowed.

Local boys cannot host because staying with parents.

So only old uncles staying alone can host but no one interested.

LMAO.... old uncles r always e rejected goods!

BUT if e old uncles r those well maintain executives manly look, I m sure many r interested. 

[cyr8x]

2 hours ago, benedict5856 said:

 

cannot. u sleep at Shogun sauna, its 24 hours. And there got many men to serve u whole night. hahahahaha

[Guest Thunder]

Most G you meet at Grindr are bustards. Selfish self-entitled idiots who wanna see your face, bod and dick pics but either dun show theirs or show Fake ones. Then ask if you can host, so they can conveniently go to your place, shaft their ugly faces into yours, force you to have a "good" time and then leave, leaving you to clean up the mess. 

[LeanMature]

On 6/23/2019 at 4:35 AM, benedict5856 said:

 

Ask him, wanna go for supper? that u are super hungry....

after that, ask him, how he goes home while eating.

Some ppl do not have spare cash for taxi.

 

That's a good way!  Many came all the way from far to meet and wanted to save taxi fare which is not cheap after midnight.  

[yoyo74]

On 6/21/2019 at 11:16 AM, TopChinese said:

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

Before you host you should state your requirement than this kind of situation wont happen. If they dont comply with whats agreed upon than you got the right to be nasty to them.

[doncoin]

28 minutes ago, yoyo74 said:

Before you host you should state your requirement than this kind of situation wont happen. If they dont comply with whats agreed upon than you got the right to be nasty to them.

 

 

That is why I have learnt to host before dinner for guys I am inviting over to my place the first time. That way, you don't have to be stuck with them, and you can have excuse that you are meeting people for dinner or have plans in the evening. If the guy is nice, and we had a good time, I may invite him to go out with me for dinner or hang out outside of my place post sex. 

 

I only had one really bad experience once when a guy whom I hooked up with earlier that afternoon, showed up at my place around 3am plus, buzzing at my door. I had to let him up as I don't want to have him waking up my whole apartment building. He came up, and was pretty tipsy. Long story short, it was pretty annoying as I was already in bed then, and to be woken up by a drunk guy who proceeded to pass out on my bed. 

 

Well when he woke up the next day past noon, I was pretty pissed at that point. I let him take a quick shower, and he tried apologizing by offering to the me out to brunch which I declined. We had a brief, awkward polite chat and that was the last time I saw him. 

 

So, here is a little hosting tip I picked up years ago. Invest in rubber sheets, especially if you are doing a group session. With rubber sheets, all you need is to take those cleaning wipes or sprays, after you are done, and wipe down and toss the paper towel. No laundry needed. You put the rubber sheet over your regular cotton sheets, and they even have rubber pillow cases. They work well with lube, and you don't have to stress ruining your 100% 1,000 thread count Egyptian cotton sheets.

 

 

 

 

[Latte]

Years ago, in my previous place, I only host occasionally cos (1) dun want neighbors to see me bringing boys back home (2) my home is a sanctuary and I dun want it to be a sex den.

 

But now that I'm sexually liberated, I'm fine with hosting. Just that I will lock up my wallet & valuables before the guy comes. If guy requests to stay over, I'll just tell them politely that I dun let guys stay overnight at my place. So far no problem.

 

And if the guy turns out to be real different from his pics & totally not my type, I will just them I'm not interested and end the session. I've even turned away guys with suspicious body rashes etc. First time do it, its a bit paiseh, but subsequently I dun feel bad about it at all as its a case of better be safe than sorry. 

[squared]

On 6/21/2019 at 11:16 AM, TopChinese said:

For those of you who host, how do you kick them out when you've shot your load?

 

I hate it when the other guy assumes he can sleep over and spend the night just because he offered his ass once. I want sperm, not snoring from some stranger. 

 

For me, thank goodness I have two guard dogs who will jump on them and push them out of their rightful spot. I'm curious how the rest of you will handle this situation. 

 

It's best to agree beforehand what's the 'rules of engagement'. It can be quite turn-off when the excitement vibe becomes formal, e.g. 'btw, you can't stay over', but it helps to avoid the awkward situation after the deed is done. 

[squared]

On 10/25/2020 at 5:48 AM, Latte said:

Years ago, in my previous place, I only host occasionally cos (1) dun want neighbors to see me bringing boys back home (2) my home is a sanctuary and I dun want it to be a sex den.

 

But now that I'm sexually liberated, I'm fine with hosting. Just that I will lock up my wallet & valuables before the guy comes. If guy requests to stay over, I'll just tell them politely that I dun let guys stay overnight at my place. So far no problem.

 

And if the guy turns out to be real different from his pics & totally not my type, I will just them I'm not interested and end the session. I've even turned away guys with suspicious body rashes etc. First time do it, its a bit paiseh, but subsequently I dun feel bad about it at all as its a case of better be safe than sorry. 

 

I agree with you - i treat my home as a sanctuary and unless necessary, I won't bring anyone home. But in a way, I am selfish as I expect people to host. 😅

[versatilehairyman]

We are still quite a discreet society and to avoid any bad experiences. Why let a potential bad guy know where we stay?

[Guest Hollywood]

9 hours ago, squared said:

 

I agree with you - i treat my home as a sanctuary and unless necessary, I won't bring anyone home. But in a way, I am selfish as I expect people to host. 😅

Big deal, sg gays like you are known to be gu niang behavior.

Here say don't host, meet up then say to invite me home for drinks. So gu niang.

[squared]

1 hour ago, Guest Hollywood said:

Big deal, sg gays like you are known to be gu niang behavior.

Here say don't host, meet up then say to invite me home for drinks. So gu niang.

 

Wow, you sure assume alot. Except for the initial few times when I came out, I have not hosted - be it for fun or drinks. 

Edited November 9, 2020 by squared

[Guest home alone]

On 2/12/2019 at 3:43 PM, LeanMature said:

Work permit holders cannot host because landlord said no guests allowed.

Local boys cannot host because staying with parents.

So only old uncles staying alone can host but no one interested.

 

Haha, I’m staying alone. Not an old uncle. Don’t know why but I seldom host. 

[upshot]

Hosting a friend versus hosting a ONS stranger is not and never the same thing. Nothing happen, it was a good night of sex and you part amicably but if something happen, you can not un-cock that bottle after it is opened. Even if it ended well, it can still go bad if you move on to a new lover but he now want to continue this and worst, not accept your decision to have fun with others and he turns up at your home day in day out. I know a fuck buddy who had that nightmare.

 

 

 

 

[PassingGuess]

41 minutes ago, upshot said:

Hosting a friend versus hosting a ONS stranger is not and never the same thing. Nothing happen, it was a good night of sex and you part amicably but if something happen, you can not un-cock that bottle after it is opened. Even if it ended well, it can still go bad if you move on to a new lover but he now want to continue this and worst, not accept your decision to have fun with others and he turns up at your home day in day out. I know a fuck buddy who had that nightmare.

 

 

 

 

U must be desirable 

[PassingGuess]

On 11/9/2020 at 12:18 PM, versatilehairyman said:

We are still quite a discreet society and to avoid any bad experiences. Why let a potential bad guy know where we stay?

Potential bad guy? U branding all your meet up bad guys?

[PassingGuess]

On 6/24/2019 at 12:00 AM, Guest Thunder said:

Most G you meet at Grindr are bustards. Selfish self-entitled idiots who wanna see your face, bod and dick pics but either dun show theirs or show Fake ones. Then ask if you can host, so they can conveniently go to your place, shaft their ugly faces into yours, force you to have a "good" time and then leave, leaving you to clean up the mess. 

I concur

[PassingGuess]

On 2/13/2019 at 8:59 AM, LeanMature said:

 

Who is this guy ? From this forum?

Why wud he want to do that ruffled

 

On 2/13/2019 at 11:08 AM, Rice60640 said:

When you have your own place you tend to be more careful about who you invite over because, invariably, the other person will have your location and could 1. Stalk you, 2. Come over uninvited, 3. Decide not to leave, 4. Leave nasty notes on your property, 5. Actual person don’t match picture, etc. etc. The risk factor is too high. Best to meet in public first and then maybe invite over or go in opposite directions. 

That is the smartest move dude 

[upshot]

1 hour ago, PassingGuess said:

U must be desirable 

Was not me... I never host.

 

No way anyway since i have a mother to look after. It was one of my fuck buddies from way back who has own home. And we are both not the best looking type hahahah

[Guest Guest]

3 hours ago, upshot said:

Was not me... I never host.

 

No way anyway since i have a mother to look after. It was one of my fuck buddies from way back who has own home. And we are both not the best looking type hahahah

You are so candid. Appearance is one thing. The mind is another. You don't have both. Sigh

[upshot]

1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

You are so candid. Appearance is one thing. The mind is another. You don't have both. Sigh

Thanks... I know I have not had much time feeding you trolls of late with my preoccupation with the Election 2020 but hope that little nibble made your night. I will try not to leave it too long next time. You do need a reason for your existence after all.

Edited November 10, 2020 by upshot

[Guest Sweet]

I bet more people can host now

[Guest Niccolo]

Rent is so high now

[egal]

too poor/ too arrogant / too picky / too inconvenient

[passinthenight]

On 11/10/2020 at 9:18 PM, upshot said:

Hosting a friend versus hosting a ONS stranger is not and never the same thing. Nothing happen, it was a good night of sex and you part amicably but if something happen, you can not un-cock that bottle after it is opened. Even if it ended well, it can still go bad if you move on to a new lover but he now want to continue this and worst, not accept your decision to have fun with others and he turns up at your home day in day out. I know a fuck buddy who had that nightmare.

 

 

 

 

 That's pretty much stalking.

[cutejack]

Spore houses too expensive.  How to host dear? Most of us staying with family members. How to bring back different guys? 

[cbm]

All good points shared by several people about their concerns regarding hosting.

 

What about the flip side, what are the positive points of hosting?

Edited November 22, 2024 by cbm

[tyan]

Unable to host or find someone who can host is always the roadblocker for me. Alternative includes car, toilet, park, sauna, hotel. 

[tyan]

15 hours ago, cutejack said:

Spore houses too expensive.  How to host dear? Most of us staying with family members. How to bring back different guys? 

Even one can afford own place in SG. I dunno who will dare to open their house for stranger. The risk is just too high. 

[cutejack]

27 minutes ago, tyan said:

Even one can afford own place in SG. I dunno who will dare to open their house for stranger. The risk is just too high. 

OK la. End of the day ,some strangers have to enter the house to clear the dead person out of his or her house. Many found dead alone at home in spore for not even allowing relatives in the house.

[Bdman78]

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Edited October 3, 2025 by Bdman78

[DonT]

Indeed. Very few host 

[Balestier]

it's not safe to invite strangers into your flat. Things can go missing. You may meet a psycho and things can turn ugly. He may be on drugs and that will get you into trouble.

Best is kB or tmc

Edited December 1, 2024 by Balestier

[singalion]

But you can chat with people sufficiently long enough until you know them better or meet outside first.

 

How to find your boyfriend if you just go sauna?

 

Someone loitering around your home should be also the minority. If this happens it shows you didn't check on him sufficiently beforehand. Those very clinging guys will give certain signals during the chat.

 

Get to know the people a bit better during your chat...