Why only few people can host?

[ethancsg]

On 2/12/2019 at 3:43 PM, LeanMature said:

Work permit holders cannot host because landlord said no guests allowed.

Local boys cannot host because staying with parents.

So only old uncles staying alone can host but no one interested.

Totally true. So unless you are keen with them. go hotel.

[Guapo]

On 2/12/2019 at 3:43 PM, LeanMature said:

Work permit holders cannot host because landlord said no guests allowed.

Local boys cannot host because staying with parents.

So only old uncles staying alone can host but no one interested.

Ha ha true

[singalion]

On 11/30/2024 at 4:57 PM, Bdman78 said:

Majority issue is not staying alone. That's why. 

 

Also maybe because some might worry that they will encounter weirdos whom might become quite scary....maybe will suddenly pop out again after few days later, or when he gets horny again, then start loitering outside his unit etc, 

Or maybe robbers in disguise,haha. 

Well, my wild guess.

 

Mine problem too, always can't find a proper place to have fun, especially after cruising at public places, hooked up with someone I like, but end up no play. Can only exchange contact numbers, but how many will actually call again to arrange for another meeting since both already said can't host. 

 

For those who can host and if the places to host are so limited in Singapore, then I totally don't understand the most common and often exchanged reply when inviting someone which is:

 

"Too far"...

 

Maybe just sex drive is lower here because nearer to the equator?

 

 

[beurself]

On 12/13/2024 at 11:54 PM, ethancsg said:

Totally true. So unless you are keen with them. go hotel.

認同

[egal]

no moeny

[cbm]

Bringing up this topic as I'm curious to get more views or concerns that you guys have regarding hosting.

 

I host and have not encountered the concerns that have described in previous posts.

 

As least one person has told me that he prefers going to a house and not a hourly rate hotel or sauna. I think it's because he's not comfortable going to places that are deemed as sleazy.

 

Is not having place still a big issue today?

 

[tyan]

But going to a person’s place has risk of hidden cam. 

[auscent]

There shouldnt be hidden cams. If you are not good enough to get someone to agree with being on cam, just admit it.

 

Hidden cams are for losers.

[cbm]

6 hours ago, tyan said:

But going to a person’s place has risk of hidden cam. 

 

This is another angle, from the guest's perspective. So far the previous posts were about host's perspective.

 

Guest become scared now because of the Hongjie scandal is it? He secretly recorded his hookups and then tried to sell the videos online.

[doncoin]

Having sex is nothing to be shameful about. If you are filmed having sex, there is a record of you getting laid. Of course, ideally it is with your consent. Even if without your consent, you are doing nothing illegal. You just had sex. Granted, it is a gross invasion of privacy. If the content is being monetized, you do have the right to ask for your share from the revenue generated. 

 

  

[leckmich]

11 minutes ago, doncoin said:

Having sex is nothing to be shameful about. If you are filmed having sex, there is a record of you getting laid. Of course, ideally it is with your consent. Even if without your consent, you are doing nothing illegal. You just had sex. Granted, it is a gross invasion of privacy. If the content is being monetized, you do have the right to ask for your share from the revenue generated. 

 

  

so you would like to be filmed?

[mate69]

1 hour ago, doncoin said:

Having sex is nothing to be shameful about. If you are filmed having sex, there is a record of you getting laid. Of course, ideally it is with your consent. Even if without your consent, you are doing nothing illegal. You just had sex. Granted, it is a gross invasion of privacy. If the content is being monetized, you do have the right to ask for your share from the revenue generated. 

 

  

 

Yes agreed

[ToughGuy]

On 2/14/2019 at 4:51 PM, gstringuy26 said:

Better be careful then sorry? 

If you know the guy than it's OK but if it's stranger and he don't even has a face profile then better meet outside first! 

Very true.. Many cases in M'sia, cash, watches stolen... Some even got robbed...how to report to police in Islamic country where "aktiviti songsang diharamkan" ?🤦

[doncoin]

20 hours ago, leckmich said:

so you would like to be filmed?

 I have been filmed without consent years ago, and it appeared on some adult website. I didn't even know about it till a friend sent me the link asking if it was me. I reached out the website and have them take it down. I am sure it is still out there replicated somewhere on the millions of adult website out there. 

 

I personally do not see the logic in being filmed, unless my goal is to monetize the experience. If that is my goal, I do not mind being filmed. 

Edited October 2, 2025 by doncoin

[Zephyrisky]

Used to host when I was staying in Woodlands. Had good and bad experience. No weird behaviours though I once had $100 stolen from my wallet when I went to wash up. Should have seen it cos the guy was eager to go when I came back from toilet. Like super eager. 

[Balestier]

Dont want to run risk of losing items, drugs taking or weird people

[Steve5380]

With so many hazards and dangers by hosting,  I think that meeting in a gay sauna is the best alternative.  Lack of privacy?  What better proof of commitment when there is no privacy?  And if there is no commitment, then what better than the sauna to have alternatives?

[Balestier]

56 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

With so many hazards and dangers by hosting,  I think that meeting in a gay sauna is the best alternative.  Lack of privacy?  What better proof of commitment when there is no privacy?  And if there is no commitment, then what better than the sauna to have alternatives?

There is no commitment. Why need one ?? Feel free to shop around. Try other guys.

[GregZy]

Interesting topic here. I guess many do not want to host mainly due to living with parents, scare kenna blackmail, intrusion of privacy or even cleaning up the aftermath. At the same time, there are some who dun mind hosting as playing at home offers privacy and you can be more at ease and open up freely.

 

Personally, I will not take the initiative to host unless I know the other party well due to trust issue. If I do host, I will set some ground rules for my mates and thankfully everyone is cooperative and the session went well. Apart from my own bedroom, the rest of the house is open for play. As for the cleaning up part, it is inevitable that you see stains everywhere. The one issue I have now is my sofa which is now smelling of sex. haha

[Balestier]

10 hours ago, GregZy said:

Interesting topic here. I guess many do not want to host mainly due to living with parents, scare kenna blackmail, intrusion of privacy or even cleaning up the aftermath. At the same time, there are some who dun mind hosting as playing at home offers privacy and you can be more at ease and open up freely.

 

Personally, I will not take the initiative to host unless I know the other party well due to trust issue. If I do host, I will set some ground rules for my mates and thankfully everyone is cooperative and the session went well. Apart from my own bedroom, the rest of the house is open for play. As for the cleaning up part, it is inevitable that you see stains everywhere. The one issue I have now is my sofa which is now smelling of sex. haha

Cum smell on it ???

[Balestier]

10 hours ago, GregZy said:

Interesting topic here. I guess many do not want to host mainly due to living with parents, scare kenna blackmail, intrusion of privacy or even cleaning up the aftermath. At the same time, there are some who dun mind hosting as playing at home offers privacy and you can be more at ease and open up freely.

 

Personally, I will not take the initiative to host unless I know the other party well due to trust issue. If I do host, I will set some ground rules for my mates and thankfully everyone is cooperative and the session went well. Apart from my own bedroom, the rest of the house is open for play. As for the cleaning up part, it is inevitable that you see stains everywhere. The one issue I have now is my sofa which is now smelling of sex. haha

What ground rules u have

[GregZy]

11 hours ago, Balestier said:

What ground rules u have

Just some simple ones.
1. My bedroom is out of bound. (Usually Lock)
2. Mobile phones are all place together at 1 location.
3. No drugs or getting too drunk
4. No uninvited guest
5. Leave when it is time to leave

From what I observe in grp funs, the last 2 points are the hardest to control. What it meant to be a simple 3p or 4p fun becomes an orgy. 

[GregZy]

12 hours ago, Balestier said:

Cum smell on it ???

Hahaha, something like that. the smell of cum and sweat esp if the action is on the sofa. That is why I always tell my mates to control your aim if you are not shooting in the hole.

[leckmich]

yall do not clean up after play?

[Carrot Cake Man]

1. Once had a btm came on my sofa. 

2. Another guy turn on my lap top that is on the table to 'surf' 

3. Someone also refuse to leave after sex and keep chatting with me in the living room. 

4. Prior to inviting people over, always need to go around the house to check if i leave things ' worth stealing' around - like wallets, watches etc. Had some one go through my wallet before. 

 

so yah, if i don't know you well enough. i won't let people come over. 

Edited November 5, 2025 by Carrot Cake Man

[onlylonely]

I got place but also choose not to host.

[transmissionsm]

because married so house have 1 helper always around...the only time i host for just less than 30mins is when I know helper and wife go out.

 

Recently did thought of hosting at midnight for a suitable guy since my house layout is like..the living room and door entry area is separated. Meaning if helper/wife midnight wake up to go toilet/kitchen they will not walk past the living room and based on my experience..yeah they don't ever come to the living room at night.

[Balestier]

2 hours ago, transmissionsm said:

because married so house have 1 helper always around...the only time i host for just less than 30mins is when I know helper and wife go out.

 

Recently did thought of hosting at midnight for a suitable guy since my house layout is like..the living room and door entry area is separated. Meaning if helper/wife midnight wake up to go toilet/kitchen they will not walk past the living room and based on my experience..yeah they don't ever come to the living room at night.

Will be horrible if yr family saw it

[Balestier]

4 hours ago, Carrot Cake Man said:

1. Once had a btm came on my sofa. 

2. Another guy turn on my lap top that is on the table to 'surf' 

3. Someone also refuse to leave after sex and keep chatting with me in the living room. 

4. Prior to inviting people over, always need to go around the house to check if i leave things ' worth stealing' around - like wallets, watches etc. Had some one go through my wallet before. 

 

so yah, if i don't know you well enough. i won't let people come over. 

Lock up wallet, cash , and expensive items.

[Balestier]

5 hours ago, GregZy said:

Hahaha, something like that. the smell of cum and sweat esp if the action is on the sofa. That is why I always tell my mates to control your aim if you are not shooting in the hole.

Or shoot on the chest

[GregZy]

50 minutes ago, Balestier said:

Or shoot on the chest

 Haha, if they want to, which ever ways that satisfies their kinks. Most importantly, do not throw your used condoms around.

[Balestier]

Just now, GregZy said:

 Haha, if they want to, which ever ways that satisfies their kinks. Most importantly, do not throw your used condoms around.

I saw used condoms in toilets WCs

[GregZy]

3 hours ago, transmissionsm said:

because married so house have 1 helper always around...the only time i host for just less than 30mins is when I know helper and wife go out.

 

Recently did thought of hosting at midnight for a suitable guy since my house layout is like..the living room and door entry area is separated. Meaning if helper/wife midnight wake up to go toilet/kitchen they will not walk past the living room and based on my experience..yeah they don't ever come to the living room at night.

that is pretty dangerous unless u like to live on the edge.

[A.gamer1]

personally, i ok with old uncle. its hard to host if living with family

[transmissionsm]

2 hours ago, GregZy said:

that is pretty dangerous unless u like to live on the edge.

small head take over big head..I don't mind risking.

[singalion]

Which reminds me on an episode where I had to climb from the room window onto the HDB corridor after the fun because the boy's parents returned home earlier than expected by the host and I was unable to leave the flat. Lucky my shoes were with me. 

 

In another incident I had to sleep with the boy in his bed until 5am because his sister who was supposed to sleep over at a different place returned to the family home unexpectedly at 10pm ... but the cuddling wasn't bad anyway... and the room had an atrached bathroom. 

 

 

[singalion]

On 10/2/2025 at 10:15 PM, doncoin said:

 I have been filmed without consent years ago, and it appeared on some adult website. I didn't even know about it till a friend sent me the link asking if it was me. I reached out the website and have them take it down. I am sure it is still out there replicated somewhere on the millions of adult website out there. 

 

I personally do not see the logic in being filmed, unless my goal is to monetize the experience. If that is my goal, I do not mind being filmed. 

 

Didn't just happen to you. 

 

The problem starts if guys republish the pics or videos every 3 weeks and you have to write in repeatedly... 

 

In most cases it takes 5 to 21 days for certain sites to remove them...

 

[OYJaden]

I used to lament not being able to host when I was younger. Now that I finally have my own place, I find myself avoiding it, because I’ve come to value keeping my space clean, calm, and sane.

[GregZy]

7 hours ago, singalion said:

Which reminds me on an episode where I had to climb from the room window onto the HDB corridor after the fun because the boy's parents returned home earlier than expected by the host and I was unable to leave the flat. Lucky my shoes were with me. 

 

In another incident I had to sleep with the boy in his bed until 5am because his sister who was supposed to sleep over at a different place returned to the family home unexpectedly at 10pm ... but the cuddling wasn't bad anyway... and the room had an atrached bathroom. 

 

 

 I suppose the boy and his sister slept in different room?  Still can have oral fun...

[Veloster]

On 11/6/2025 at 10:24 AM, OYJaden said:

I used to lament not being able to host when I was younger. Now that I finally have my own place, I find myself avoiding it, because I’ve come to value keeping my space clean, calm, and sane.

I agree even with my own place though my str brother me being bi we do of cos have our fun with ONS at our place it's only ppl we want to make out with not for anyone random..more Abt space and yes sanity!

[Jonathandliai]

LOL. I also have my own place to host but honestly, to deal with the cleanup of cum or possible shit on my sheet after fun? Screw that. I rather book a hotel or go to their place instead. I cum and someone else cleans up the mess

[onlylonely]

On 7/9/2026 at 1:25 AM, Jonathandliai said:

LOL. I also have my own place to host but honestly, to deal with the cleanup of cum or possible shit on my sheet after fun? Screw that. I rather book a hotel or go to their place instead. I cum and someone else cleans up the mess

Agree 

[juicyass]

On 7/9/2026 at 1:25 AM, Jonathandliai said:

LOL. I also have my own place to host but honestly, to deal with the cleanup of cum or possible shit on my sheet after fun? Screw that. I rather book a hotel or go to their place instead. I cum and someone else cleans up the mess

 

This. I used to host at night after my parents asleep. Around 1030pm ~ 11 pm. Since my parents sleep dead, and my room is at the end of the house, I always sneak them through the back door straight to my room.

 

And yes, cleaning the aftermath is such a hassle. By the time we were done, it's already 1130pm or 12am. I usually do a quick clean and shower and went to bed. 

 

Now, as I grow older, I need to hit the sack by 11pm. 

 

If I have the house for myself, I always host between 8 pm ~10pm. These times are just perfect for both parties. Not too late, timing just right. 

[singalion]

48 minutes ago, juicyass said:

 

This. I used to host at night after my parents asleep. Around 1030pm ~ 11 pm. Since my parents sleep dead, and my room is at the end of the house, I always sneak them through the back door straight to my room.

 

And yes, cleaning the aftermath is such a hassle. By the time we were done, it's already 1130pm or 12am. I usually do a quick clean and shower and went to bed. 

 

Now, as I grow older, I need to hit the sack by 11pm. 

 

If I have the house for myself, I always host between 8 pm ~10pm. These times are just perfect for both parties. Not too late, timing just right. 

 

Hm, but don't you think that claim on cum and shit is a bit overrated? You can take precaution. 

I assume those guys prefer not to have any sex at all because they need to do some clean up afterwards. It is also rare that guys shoot their cum from the bed onto the curtains... 

 

You can take some precautions on top of your bed or take two thick towels. 

In the worst, buy those protective sheets or waterproof bed mats. there are also these waterproof disposable underpads called Chux or Chucks (50 pads , 40$), which they use in hospitals or clinics.   Still cheaper than any hotel. 

 

There are also hotels that charge you if you stained the bed sheets. Can be quite costly. Like 100 for a bacterial cleaning. Actually, the budget hotels are the worst and most fussy on these things...

 

Regarding that psychic fear of locals to invite anyone to their home I will refrain to comment... 🙃

 

 

Edited July 11 by singalion

[juicyass]

31 minutes ago, singalion said:

 

Hm, but don't you think that claim on cum and shit is a bit overrated? You can take precaution. 

I assume those guys prefer not to have any sex at all because they need to do some clean up afterwards. It is also rare that guys shoot their cum from the bed onto the curtains... 

 

You can take some precautions on top of your bed or take two thick towels. 

In the worst, buy those protective sheets or waterproof bed mats. there are also these waterproof disposable underpads called Chux or Chucks (50 pads , 40$), which they use in hospitals or clinics.   Still cheaper than any hotel. 

 

There are also hotels that charge you if you stained the bed sheets. Can be quite costly. Like 100 for a bacterial cleaning. Actually, the budget hotels are the worst and most fussy on these things...

 

Regarding that psychic fear of locals to invite anyone to their home I will refrain to comment... 🙃

 

 

 

I don't use towel on top of my bed because I have to wash it and my parents would question me about it.

 

I use cheap vinyl table mat I bought from shopee, 1m length enough to cover my whole bed. Any mess of the mat I can just use water and cloth and wipe it. Then I fold and put it back in my wardrobe. It makes cleaning ultra easy and convenient. It is cheap and waterproof. I can't stand those top who sweat heavily during sex and lay on my bed staining the sheets. 

 

[singalion]

5 minutes ago, juicyass said:

 

I don't use towel on top of my bed because I have to wash it and my parents would question me about it.

 

I use cheap vinyl table mat I bought from shopee, 1m length enough to cover my whole bed. Any mess of the mat I can just use water and cloth and wipe it. Then I fold and put it back in my wardrobe. It makes cleaning ultra easy and convenient. It is cheap and waterproof. I can't stand those top who sweat heavily during sex and lay on my bed staining the sheets. 

 

 

The towel was just some advice to avoid heavy stains on the bed sheets. 

 

On the sweating part: but sweat will dry off easily...

Some bottoms always ask for long fun, naturally a top would start sweating at some point... 

 

ha ha

[juicyass]

Generally, being able to host is such a luxury.  Out of 10 guys, only a handful can host.

But when you finally can host, not many people willing to travel all the way to your place to have a 10 minutes sex. 

The best is when either of you can host but both of you are staying nearby.

I am thankful my regular top and I stay 5 minutes away from each other. Although the sex was not as good, at least he is near and available to satisfy both of our sex crave.