Guest SomeOne Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 It's been almost a month since we had a quarrel, my BF can't get hard when we make love, have to play a porn video to be able to cum. Not sure what we can do to restore our sex life back to what it was without the need to watch other guys. Any advises? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 How old are you and your bf? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Read wrongly Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 I have to confess I read your title wrongly and read 'A big squirrel' killed your sex life. Then come in to see what the hell happened. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SomeOne Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 1 hour ago, mate69 said: How old are you and your bf? I'm in my 50's and my BF in his 60's. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 7 minutes ago, Guest SomeOne said: I'm in my 50's and my BF in his 60's. It is not reasonable to expect yr bf to perform up to yr standard in bed, given his age. Talk to him, and be reasonable while doing so, with no expectations. Don't make him feel small or feel forced to do something that he knows he is not up to, just to please you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Someone Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 19 minutes ago, mate69 said: It is not reasonable to expect yr bf to perform up to yr standard in bed, given his age. Talk to him, and be reasonable while doing so, with no expectations. Don't make him feel small or feel forced to do something that he knows he is not up to, just to please you. But he didn't have this problem before we had a quarrel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhiteWhite Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 3 hours ago, Guest SomeOne said: It's been almost a month since we had a quarrel, my BF can't get hard when we make love, have to play a porn video to be able to cum. Not sure what we can do to restore our sex life back to what it was without the need to watch other guys. Any advises? Is it sex important to you? i always think that Love come first. When i was young, sex was important to me. But after one night stand, you will feel empty. After falling in love, after sex, i feel the love. Now, without sex, my partner and I feel still lovely. Both of us can't turn hard too. Thinking will change after ages. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sam8899 Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 What was the quarrel about? Were hurtful words used in the quarrel? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sex maniac lor Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 I bet quarrel over his cock not hard enough to poke your ass right... And you showed him you black face, and he scolded you back... So familiar to me and my partner. We now don't fuck each other since that quarrel to avoid embarrassing each other. Difference with you is on age... I am 30 plus and he is only 40 plus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mary Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 You are already in your 50's and he is even older With this age, you still behave like young innocent punks going online seeking advise ?? Just talk to him and sort it out . Alot of time, people have problem instead of going to the root-cause, they asked around irrelevant people or solicit advise online How much do we know you , your ? Even if we do , each case is different Especially cases whereby no right / wrong , then best is to talk to the concern and have it sorted out God, you sure, you are in your 50's or fresh grad, just started working and very inexperience with life Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benedict5856 Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 Forgive but not forgotten. Whenever had sex, the topic of quarrel is STILL inside his mind..... Heart disease is hard to cure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Steve5380 Posted August 19, 2019 Report Share Posted August 19, 2019 19 hours ago, Guest SomeOne said: It's been almost a month since we had a quarrel, my BF can't get hard when we make love, have to play a porn video to be able to cum. Not sure what we can do to restore our sex life back to what it was without the need to watch other guys. Any advises? 18 hours ago, Guest SomeOne said: I'm in my 50's and my BF in his 60's. 17 hours ago, Guest Someone said: But he didn't have this problem before we had a quarrel. The 60s are not old enough to have erection problems, although erections are not as easy as in the 20s. But... everyone is different. Don't get too worried with this. As was said before, you two are at a stage where true love is more important than sex. Could it be that your BF has developed desires to have sex with others? And the quarrel turned this desire into frustration? If you love him, give him the chance of a more open relationship and let him try other sex partners. Maybe you could have threesomes with younger guys? Steve Temp 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SomeOne Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 3 hours ago, Steve5380 said: The 60s are not old enough to have erection problems, although erections are not as easy as in the 20s. But... everyone is different. Don't get too worried with this. As was said before, you two are at a stage where true love is more important than sex. Could it be that your BF has developed desires to have sex with others? And the quarrel turned this desire into frustration? If you love him, give him the chance of a more open relationship and let him try other sex partners. Maybe you could have threesomes with younger guys? I've already brought up the more open relationship long before we had the big quarrel to spice things up, and he did not want it. being quite in his nature I'd say a bit secretive as in only talk when its necessary character, I am not always know what's in his mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 22 minutes ago, Guest SomeOne said: I've already brought up the more open relationship long before we had the big quarrel to spice things up, and he did not want it. being quite in his nature I'd say a bit secretive as in only talk when its necessary character, I am not always know what's in his mind. Maybe he is not aware that good communication is what keeps a relationship healthy? Could he understand if you tell him that it's fine to be secretive with anyone he wants EXCEPT with his partner? Ask him if he would like if you are secretive with him. And if he would be more happy being alone. Steve Temp 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SomeOne Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 15 minutes ago, Steve5380 said: Maybe he is not aware that good communication is what keeps a relationship healthy? Could he understand if you tell him that it's fine to be secretive with anyone he wants EXCEPT with his partner? Ask him if he would like if you are secretive with him. And if he would be more happy being alone. I think he's being himself - secretive or quite in nature. I can't change that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonjuice Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 Maybe he feels insecure in certain aspects of his life in particular that he fears that you would leave him for someone younger/stronger? And when you brought up an open relationship, it exacerbated his fear even more ...? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SomeOne Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 8 minutes ago, Lemonjuice said: Maybe he feels insecure in certain aspects of his life in particular that he fears that you would leave him for someone younger/stronger? And when you brought up an open relationship, it exacerbated his fear even more ...? Because of his quite sometimes secretive in nature, even we have been together for a long time, I sometimes don't even know what's in his mind. I understand a picture or an act is worth a thousand words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 天若有情天亦老。 何况是一个人。 Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FattChoy Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 (edited) 3 hours ago, Guest SomeOne said: I think he's being himself - secretive or quite in nature. I can't change that. Imagine that. He's secretive and you're airing to the whole world that he's got ED and other penile issues. My advise : 1) Keep your mouth shut and don't argue with him anymore. I'm sure he very sianz already. 2) Don't air your toxic laundry here. 3) Be grateful for still having a bf. Edited August 20, 2019 by FattChoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 I think this is a problem of middle aged men regardless of orientation. They get tired of their spouse and the financially capable ones will hunt around for preys a fraction of their age. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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benedict5856 Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 6 hours ago, Guest SomeOne said: I've already brought up the more open relationship long before we had the big quarrel to spice things up, and he did not want it. being quite in his nature I'd say a bit secretive as in only talk when its necessary character, I am not always know what's in his mind. The truth is out. He does not want open relationship. He feels insecure. U are NOT a faithful guy. When u really love someone, how can u tolerate to see him being penetrated by another?! fab 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Blank Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 50-60 yo still will quarrel? By that age should be very zen and calm, no? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Eatlovepray Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 Maybe you should be happy that he is still alive. Pretty sure the life span of gays here is very short, most will either migrate or die by 60+. Its a sad lonely path. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Blank Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 1 hour ago, Guest Eatlovepray said: Maybe you should be happy that he is still alive. Pretty sure the life span of gays here is very short, most will either migrate or die by 60+. Its a sad lonely path. Die by 60+ automatically? Thought the average life span is over 80 here? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest drama Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 12 hours ago, Guest SomeOne said: I think he's being himself - secretive or quite in nature. I can't change that. Instead of talking around the bush tell us what the quarrel was about or why he started qquarreling. If not everything is a guessing game. We are adults here, we can handle a lot. Otherwise refrain from asking us for advice if we don't know the most important details. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted August 20, 2019 Report Share Posted August 20, 2019 6 hours ago, Guest Eatlovepray said: Maybe you should be happy that he is still alive. Pretty sure the life span of gays here is very short, most will either migrate or die by 60+. Its a sad lonely path. OH! I thought that the life of Singaporean gays is very long, since you are not married to Singaporean woman! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Loquacious Larry Laminator Posted August 21, 2019 Report Share Posted August 21, 2019 4 hours ago, Steve5380 said: OH! I thought that the life of Singaporean gays is very long, since you are not married to Singaporean woman! My mother is a Singaporean woman. That remark is not funny. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted August 21, 2019 Report Share Posted August 21, 2019 (edited) 43 minutes ago, Guest Loquacious Larry Laminator said: My mother is a Singaporean woman. That remark is not funny. I apologize for indirectly involving your mother, your mother is a saint. It is just that I hear so much about many SG women not being very gracious, and I have observed this too, the way they can be aggressive, the way they mistreat their husbands and maids (this of course does not apply to all SG women). I am more used to Hispanic women, who are more attentive and loving to their husbands and treat others like equals. (Oh darn! I realize how my last phrase could lead me even more into trouble! So just in case, I APOLOGIZE for being sincere) . Edited August 21, 2019 by Steve5380 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted August 24, 2019 Report Share Posted August 24, 2019 On 8/21/2019 at 9:39 AM, Steve5380 said: I apologize for indirectly involving your mother, your mother is a saint. It is just that I hear so much about many SG women not being very gracious, and I have observed this too, the way they can be aggressive, the way they mistreat their husbands and maids (this of course does not apply to all SG women). I am more used to Hispanic women, who are more attentive and loving to their husbands and treat others like equals. (Oh darn! I realize how my last phrase could lead me even more into trouble! So just in case, I APOLOGIZE for being sincere) . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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jaynorr Posted July 28, 2020 Report Share Posted July 28, 2020 me and my bf had a big quarrel, because he is some very emo type of guy, where he got angry with me over some matter that i find small. after that quarrel, its true that we rarely had sex, although we have been back to normal. there is still a dark spot in my mind that i couldnt get rid of over that quarrel. is it my problem? since then, i would rather masturbate than having sex with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jiriki Posted July 28, 2020 Report Share Posted July 28, 2020 1 hour ago, jaynorr said: me and my bf had a big quarrel, because he is some very emo type of guy, where he got angry with me over some matter that i find small. after that quarrel, its true that we rarely had sex, although we have been back to normal. there is still a dark spot in my mind that i couldnt get rid of over that quarrel. is it my problem? since then, i would rather masturbate than having sex with him. You rejecting your bf advances or both of you just no longer initiating? If so, then I think both of you are affected by the quarrel or other reasons... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaynorr Posted July 29, 2020 Report Share Posted July 29, 2020 2 hours ago, jiriki said: You rejecting your bf advances or both of you just no longer initiating? If so, then I think both of you are affected by the quarrel or other reasons... no longer initiating. but once in a few months, he will.initiate to have sex with me and i never turn him down. but all the while, he will get angry with me over matters that i find not relevant. but i still care for him, if he is unhappy, i get unhappy too, if he is sick, i feel worried too. but thats just not sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FattChoy Posted July 29, 2020 Report Share Posted July 29, 2020 5 hours ago, jaynorr said: me and my bf had a big quarrel, because he is some very emo type of guy, where he got angry with me over some matter that i find small. after that quarrel, its true that we rarely had sex, although we have been back to normal. there is still a dark spot in my mind that i couldnt get rid of over that quarrel. is it my problem? since then, i would rather masturbate than having sex with him. A relationship is usually dead when one partner has contempt for the other. Deal breaker whether you realize it or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaynorr Posted July 29, 2020 Report Share Posted July 29, 2020 7 hours ago, FattChoy said: A relationship is usually dead when one partner has contempt for the other. Deal breaker whether you realize it or not. Quite true at certain level, but in my case, my bf is so much older than me that i think i have the responsibilty to take care of his wellbeing. Also, he does not have any steady income as he is a retiree. Imagine a strainght couple, where the wife is taking care of the husband when he is sick, this is what i am doing now. I feels that somehow, this relation last till now because i feel that i have the responsibilty but no longer have any sex desire towards him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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