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On 10/17/2020 at 1:08 PM, FattChoy said:

 

 

 

Generally if I have a best friend whom I begin to have feelings for, I would make up my mind not to romantically or sexually be involved with him.  I would mind what I say.  It's not an easy thing to cultivate.  I remembered the first time I felt that way was towards my university mate.  I remembered I happened to be resting on the opposite bed in his room and he was taking a nap in his shorts.  And I was fixated, staring at his body as his ribcage went up and down as he breathed in his calm sleep.  

 

I told myself that my friend is not stupid and sooner or later he would realize I have an attraction to him.  So I went cold turkey and avoided him for a good three weeks or so, just by not being around him.  It worked, my feelings of infatuation for him went away, and I get to keep my best friend for life.

 

However, I wonder if TS has a bigger and deeper issue of being stuck with an unsatisfactory partner? 

Haha. I really hope the method of “cold turkey” works. For me it never work. I did not talk to my best friend for 3 years. And I realized that my feeling for him after 3 years has not changed at all. 

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On 10/11/2021 at 11:28 AM, DiscreetBiChi said:

I've been in love with my best friend since we were 13. He is charming and athletic, problem is he is super str8. We had gfs in highschool and always hang out together. He has no idea that I'm bi and secretly in love with him. We would watch porn together back in highschool, but things never happened. I wished we could jerk off together or something, but like i said, he is super str8. The closest I can get is sniffing his Renoma and boxers when i hang out in his house. I love the musky and moist smell of his underwear and the salty taste, jerking off to it makes me cum hard. 

 

He's married with kids now, but still as hot and manly as ever. During his bachelor party, we went to BKK for holiday. One night, we went to the strip club. Beers and girls dancing on poles, the usual stuff. We were both enjoying ourselves. Later I paid for a lapdance for him, the girl he's been eyeing on. Sitting next to him watching him get horny and high is so exciting. The feeling is strong, I remember it like it was last week. After the dance, I asked him how was it, he said damn hot bro. I can't help but look at his bulge, I was sure he was hard. It must had been the beer, I brave myself and cupped his bulge like a str8 guy would do to each other. He was definately hard, I joked as said "tua kee" (huge is hokkien). That definately got mine hard as well. Guess what, what happened next is a dream come true. He touched me back, even squeezed a bit, sizing me up. Then he said, not bad bro yourself, not bad! Feeling he took advantage by squeezing my dick, I took the opportunity to really touch and sized him again. He was totally cool with that during that moment. That was one of fav memories with him.

 

To be cont'

 

Just wonder whether any super straight guy would touch the private parts (even in pants) of another guy.

 

I have certain suspicion he is pretending to be super straight but he is gay or bi too.

In Asia there are too many fellows who are married but in their real heart they are gay.

 

No straight guy would touch the dick of another guy.

The only exception I could see in a straight swinger party, but that I would consider rare too.

 

 

 

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On 10/14/2021 at 7:38 PM, singalion said:

 

Just wonder whether any super straight guy would touch the private parts (even in pants) of another guy.

 

I have certain suspicion he is pretending to be super straight but he is gay or bi too.

In Asia there are too many fellows who are married but in their real heart they are gay.

 

No straight guy would touch the dick of another guy.

The only exception I could see in a straight swinger party, but that I would consider rare too.

 

 

 


I think there’re chances this could be the case.

 

Had a straight friend who would always choose to urinate in the cubicle, as he finds the chance of seeing another cock at the urinal actually troubles him.

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Do you feel sad or envious when you learn that your straight best friend is attached to a girl? How do you try to overcome those feelings and be more secure of the friendship that you have enjoyed together?

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On 10/15/2021 at 9:34 AM, Librium said:


I think there’re chances this could be the case.

 

Had a straight friend who would always choose to urinate in the cubicle, as he finds the chance of seeing another cock at the urinal actually troubles him.

 

Normally Straight guys won't pay attention to flaccid cocks eg in shower rooms, changing rooms etc. They only find erected cocks repulsive. 

 

Your Straight friend Sounds like a gay in denial case.

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On 10/30/2021 at 5:14 PM, fab said:

 

Normally Straight guys won't pay attention flaccid cocks eg in shower rooms, changing rooms etc. They only find erected cocks repulsive. 

 

Your Straight friend Sounds like a gay in denial case.

 

Homies , horse playing among each other.

 

Does this count as Homo erotic ?

 

 

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On 10/30/2021 at 12:08 PM, Guest Guest said:

Do you feel sad or envious when you learn that your straight best friend is attached to a girl? How do you try to overcome those feelings and be more secure of the friendship that you have enjoyed together?

Well, in retrospect, there really wasn't that much of a difference. It may have mattered at that moment, but not anymore. 

We still talked about our relationship, given that his partner is very similar to myself and how my partner is similar to him. We don't talk about the confessions,and I guess there really isn't a need to. He knows it. I knows it. And we are fine with how things are. 

 

Talking about the security of our friendship, having known the fact that he have decided to put our friendship over the fact that I was once in love with him, it is to me a big decision. I am not too sure how he does it, but he said he cherish me as a friend and honestly, since he was willing to be my friend after everything, I never felt more certain and comfortable to have him as my friend. Never know what the future holds, but as of now, we will be celebrating our 10/11 years of friendship. 

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When it comes to the topic of relationship, I guess no one here is truly wrong or right. Looking at the comments, many have given their inputs but having read all, I realize how different the replies were. What I have understood is, People have different way of doing things, and you don't have to follow their way. You just do you. Everyone is equally unclear when it comes to love, so take everyone input with a pinch of salt. 

 

In this journey, some may agree, while others may disagree with the way you do things. And that is perfectly fine. You are just living your life for yourself, not for them. If you make mistakes along the way, just learn from them. That's what life is. Not to overthink and come up with a flawless plan that is absolutely right and supposedly no hiccups. We just live for the day, and appreciate what we have. 

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Why call him your boyfriend when he is not attractive to you? This is 2022...no need to be attached if it is not the right guy lah...hahaha...nothing wrong to shop around until the right guy shows up. The one that can make you forget about your straight friend...hmm...you should chase him instead...Don't make your life miserable...everyone deserves to be happy...just don't be a source of misery to others...haha

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Hi guys, 

The problem I'm having now is I'm starting to develop a romantic feeling to my straight friend. I believe there could be some of you whom might have experienced this situation. Can you guys please advice me how do I get rid of this feeling?  I just don't want to ruin our relationship as friends. I'm so afraid if at one point he found out that I like him more than just as a friend and things will get super ackward after that or he would no longer want to befriend me anymore. Btw he knows that I'm gay and he's okay with that.

 

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Besides the advice, I would appreciate if you could share your personal experience confessing to your friend, especially one who is straight or gay friend who's been treating you only as friend.

 

Thanks a million to those who have responded so far. 🥰

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44 minutes ago, rayzzz said:

Hi guys, 

The problem I'm having now is I'm starting to develop a romantic feeling to my straight friend. I believe there could be some of you whom might have experienced this situation. Can you guys please advice me how do I get rid of this feeling?  I just don't want to ruin our relationship as friends. I'm so afraid if at one point he found out that I like him more than just as a friend and things will get super ackward after that or he would no longer want to befriend me anymore. Btw he knows that I'm gay and he's okay with that.

 

 

I would venture to say that with most PLUs, at one time or another in our lives we develop some sort of feeling for a straight friend.

The only way to get rid of this feeling is by feeling for someone else so try to meet more, other gay people. Hopefully you find someone else, someone gay who can reciprocate. In the meantime, it wont be easy and you have to be disciplined. I was in your position and touched the person. On my part, it was an innocent touch but he reacted negatively and like you said, things were really never the same after that.

 

Good luck.

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Maybe just a lust. He is str8 and deserved to married a str8 woman. What you can do is be his buddy or friend. If you can develop a trust etc he can be your bi buddy if he decided to explore....don't or never confess your feelings it will destroy your relationship. 

 

I encounter this before and I even ask him ask her out etc...be his buddy.. motivator...so he can trust you with anything. 

 

Never be selfish. He also deserved his life or exploration. So what if he is attached or dating or married a girl. Be a friend or buddy..etc..build kinship or etc...he will never forget you haha...

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7 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Easy. Imagine one of your female friends like you and wanna develop further. How would you react and how would you advise her?

I'm not planning to confess my feeling to my straight friend, he is straight af and there's no single hint or indicator that he might be a discreet bi or even a gay. 

 

I just can't help myself in this situation, I feel so happy and easy around him. We can talk about a lot of stuff and at some point it got me to fall for him. He didn't realize about this because I have all been acting normally as friend. But deep inside I begin to love him more than just as a friend. I want to get rid of the feeling before I did anything stupid that could potentially ruin the friendship we have built up. 😭 

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7 hours ago, Guest Gast said:

I would venture to say that with most PLUs, at one time or another in our lives we develop some sort of feeling for a straight friend.

The only way to get rid of this feeling is by feeling for someone else so try to meet more, other gay people. Hopefully you find someone else, someone gay who can reciprocate. In the meantime, it wont be easy and you have to be disciplined. I was in your position and touched the person. On my part, it was an innocent touch but he reacted negatively and like you said, things were really never the same after that.

 

Good luck.

Hey thanks man

 

This sounds like a workable plan. Really appreciate that. We don't do touchy feely thing because he's naturally don't touch people that much either. Yes, I guess need to be discipline while going through this time. I hope this feeling will pass eventually.

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1 hour ago, MasterFitMalaySG4U said:

Maybe just a lust. He is str8 and deserved to married a str8 woman. What you can do is be his buddy or friend. If you can develop a trust etc he can be your bi buddy if he decided to explore....don't or never confess your feelings it will destroy your relationship. 

 

I encounter this before and I even ask him ask her out etc...be his buddy.. motivator...so he can trust you with anything. 

 

Never be selfish. He also deserved his life or exploration. So what if he is attached or dating or married a girl. Be a friend or buddy..etc..build kinship or etc...he will never forget you haha...

Hey thanks man

 

I think that it's a combination of sexual and non sexual feeling that I'm harbouring right now. We have known each other for quite a while but now I'm gradually developing additional/love feeling to him. It's possibly because he's been very nice to me as his gay friend and he checked almost all boxes of my ideal bf. Unfortunately he's straight or unlikely will reciprocate to me more than anything but just as friend. 

 

I guess you're right, I shouldn't be selfish but let him to explore his life. He's still single by the way. It would be easier if he's already dating someone. 

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2 hours ago, rayzzz said:

Hey thanks man

 

I think that it's a combination of sexual and non sexual feeling that I'm harbouring right now. We have known each other for quite a while but now I'm gradually developing additional/love feeling to him. It's possibly because he's been very nice to me as his gay friend and he checked almost all boxes of my ideal bf. Unfortunately he's straight or unlikely will reciprocate to me more than anything but just as friend. 

 

I guess you're right, I shouldn't be selfish but let him to explore his life. He's still single by the way. It would be easier if he's already dating someone. 

Maybe is good to reduce contact, I mean it is harder to get out of the feeling when u 2 keeps on go out tgt or texting. At least to me it is hard. 
 

surely find a new one will help u to get out of the feeling but not easy to find the right one.

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46 minutes ago, sg89ailikesi said:

Maybe is good to reduce contact, I mean it is harder to get out of the feeling when u 2 keeps on go out tgt or texting. At least to me it is hard. 
 

surely find a new one will help u to get out of the feeling but not easy to find the right one.

Hey there cheers for your response

 

We don't really meet up or text that much but when we do we sorta like really enjoy our time hanging out together, just as much other people possibly do with their buddies.

 

What I appreciate the most about him is he's very open and understanding of my life situation as a closeted gay, he never be much indifferent to me just because I'm a gay person..he does have friends which are straight and and those from lgbtq community, so he's kinda familiar with a lot of gay lingo...in a nutshell, he's not a homophobe or discriminative in nature..this is why I'm always happy to befriend since I came out to him at some stage in the past

 

Whereas in my personal experience dating a gay guy, it's always been bleak to me...I found it hard to find the right one... it's either I didn't get to live to the person expectations which was very high or the guy just never had any intention to be in a long term or serious relationship with me

 

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12 hours ago, rayzzz said:

Hi guys, 

The problem I'm having now is I'm starting to develop a romantic feeling to my straight friend. I believe there could be some of you whom might have experienced this situation. Can you guys please advice me how do I get rid of this feeling?  I just don't want to ruin our relationship as friends. I'm so afraid if at one point he found out that I like him more than just as a friend and things will get super ackward after that or he would no longer want to befriend me anymore. Btw he knows that I'm gay and he's okay with that.

 

--------------------------------------------

 

Besides the advice, I would appreciate if you could share your personal experience confessing to your friend, especially one who is straight or gay friend who's been treating you only as friend.

 

Thanks a million to those who have responded so far. 🥰

Every case is diff.  Esp u know what the consequences might be 

U manage yourself.  

 

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2 minutes ago, Guest Manage said:

Every case is diff.  Esp u know what the consequences might be 

U manage yourself.  

 

You're right, every case is different but I'm seeking advice from those who are willing to help. I can imagine some of the consequences but I'll like to consider as many advices possible. I believe that when in doubt it's better for me to consult other gay people who might have been in the same situation as me. If I could manage everything myself I won't waste my time asking question in this forum. Thank you for your comment btw. 😊

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13 hours ago, rayzzz said:

Hi guys, 

The problem I'm having now is I'm starting to develop a romantic feeling to my straight friend. I believe there could be some of you whom might have experienced this situation. Can you guys please advice me how do I get rid of this feeling?  I just don't want to ruin our relationship as friends. I'm so afraid if at one point he found out that I like him more than just as a friend and things will get super ackward after that or he would no longer want to befriend me anymore. Btw he knows that I'm gay and he's okay with that.

 

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Besides the advice, I would appreciate if you could share your personal experience confessing to your friend, especially one who is straight or gay friend who's been treating you only as friend.

 

Thanks a million to those who have responded so far. 🥰

I guess it depends on what you want actually. If you treasure him as a friend only, then do not confess. Once you confessed, it will put him in an awkward position as he wouldn’t know how to be around you(since you mentioned that he is straight as fuck). Even if he pretends that nothing happened, believe me, he will start to keep a distance from you.

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2 minutes ago, kinkienips said:

I guess it depends on what you want actually. If you treasure him as a friend only, then do not confess. Once you confessed, it will put him in an awkward position as he wouldn’t know how to be around you(since you mentioned that he is straight as fuck). Even if he pretends that nothing happened, believe me, he will start to keep a distance from you.

Hi there, thank you for your reply. 

 

Yes, I do treasure the friendship and most likely would never confessed to him. 

 

This crush feeling is real and it's so hard to suppress it. 🥺

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Just now, rayzzz said:

Hi there, thank you for your reply. 

 

Yes, I do treasure the friendship and most likely would never confessed to him. 

 

This crush feeling is real and it's so hard to suppress it. 🥺

I know how it feels but you have to keep it to yourself for now unless you are ready to bear for the consequences.

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3 minutes ago, kinkienips said:

I know how it feels but you have to keep it to yourself for now unless you are ready to bear for the consequences.

Yes, I'd try my best to keep it to myself, as I would never be able to bear the consequences. 

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21 hours ago, rayzzz said:

Hi guys, 

The problem I'm having now is I'm starting to develop a romantic feeling to my straight friend. I believe there could be some of you whom might have experienced this situation. Can you guys please advice me how do I get rid of this feeling?  I just don't want to ruin our relationship as friends. I'm so afraid if at one point he found out that I like him more than just as a friend and things will get super ackward after that or he would no longer want to befriend me anymore. Btw he knows that I'm gay and he's okay with that.

 

--------------------------------------------

 

Besides the advice, I would appreciate if you could share your personal experience confessing to your friend, especially one who is straight or gay friend who's been treating you only as friend.

 

Thanks a million to those who have responded so far. 🥰


Oh dang, this is something that is annoyingly painful to experience. I had that one really good friend who stayed close to me back then so we head to school together and hang out together to work on projects and he is a really nice guy. I was legit that close to confessing to him but I didn’t have the courage as well. 
 

eventually I felt really shit about the situation and decided that I gotta keep my distance a little and consciously put the effort to be busy with other stuff. Was sorta a bad period of my life. After him I would never let myself fall for another str8 guy again.

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15 minutes ago, DiDing said:


Oh dang, this is something that is annoyingly painful to experience. I had that one really good friend who stayed close to me back then so we head to school together and hang out together to work on projects and he is a really nice guy. I was legit that close to confessing to him but I didn’t have the courage as well. 
 

eventually I felt really shit about the situation and decided that I gotta keep my distance a little and consciously put the effort to be busy with other stuff. Was sorta a bad period of my life. After him I would never let myself fall for another str8 guy again.

I know right~ that pain of not being able to confess because he would never love you more than just as a good friend, and while you secretly admiring him... 😫

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