leantonedboy Posted October 18, 2020 Report Share Posted October 18, 2020 I am caught in this situation. I have been hanging out with this guy for more than 6 months. So even though we are not officially together, what do you all think are the signs or gesture that tell you that he is treating you like more than a friend (i.e. boyfriend)? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manehiso Posted October 18, 2020 Report Share Posted October 18, 2020 Good morning and good night messages almost daily.. Takes pics and updates u on stuff.. Always initiates things with you.. When hanging out and talking with you, holds his gaze that one second or a few seconds longer than usual.. Or u can just ask him directly lah heypsily, LeGrad and leantonedboy 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dex7 Posted October 25, 2020 Report Share Posted October 25, 2020 I guess he will slowly lose interests in spending time with you (cold responses when it comes to texting) and there are no hints of excitement coming from him? I guess efforts count as well. If he didn’t show the same effort as you did, then it’s a red light. This is why I am scared when guys said to be “friends” first before anything else. What if after months later, the person loses interests in you and there’s no progress between both of us? Seems like the effort has been wasted, right? That’s my fear tbh when people said that but I guess not many understand the fear I am experiencing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VitaminA Posted October 25, 2020 Report Share Posted October 25, 2020 On 10/19/2020 at 12:29 AM, leantonedboy said: I am caught in this situation. I have been hanging out with this guy for more than 6 months. So even though we are not officially together, what do you all think are the signs or gesture that tell you that he is treating you like more than a friend (i.e. boyfriend)? I would not bet on any form of gesture or signs. You should just ask him directly. 6 months of dating is decently long enough. leantonedboy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5eparator Posted October 25, 2020 Report Share Posted October 25, 2020 1 hour ago, dex7 said: This is why I am scared when guys said to be “friends” first before anything else. Then do you prefer to hear 'sex first'? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dex7 Posted October 25, 2020 Report Share Posted October 25, 2020 56 minutes ago, 5eparator said: Then do you prefer to hear 'sex first'? That’s out of options. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted October 25, 2020 Report Share Posted October 25, 2020 He cant get enough of u, in every sense. leantonedboy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heypsily Posted October 26, 2020 Report Share Posted October 26, 2020 For me, I would be looking for signs of - Initiation (even if you're not in the mood, he is still "there" for you) - Attention to details (eg. buying your favourite food or selecting your favourite eatery even if you don't mind eating anything) - Physical (eg. he may try to have more physical contact with you such as hugs, leaning towards you, or even placing head on your shoulder) - Interest of sharing his daily life with you and knowing your day - Going out of his way to meet you leantonedboy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asiange Posted November 1, 2020 Report Share Posted November 1, 2020 (edited) 6 months is bit too long to tell if he is/is not treating you more than a friend? if he sends messages before/after work, during work commute, gd night/morning greetings, updates when with his friend(s), shares info of his life, family, work photos of meals, travels, social media, etc extended conversations can't seem to stop talking to each other, in person or phone even hold hands in car, hands on shoulder in public, etc ongoing few weeks both of you doing the same but short of saying the obvious to each other.... 🤔 what do you think? Edited November 1, 2020 by Asiange leantonedboy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted November 2, 2020 Report Share Posted November 2, 2020 He pretends to accidentally brush his palm on your leantonbutt. leantonedboy 1 Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The reverse Posted November 2, 2020 Report Share Posted November 2, 2020 If he don’t message you don’t want to meet you don’t want to talk to you don’t want to touch you don’t want to have sex with you don’t return your message or call don’t want to face you don’t want to be close distance with you it means he doesn’t like you. if he never do the above, it means you still got hope! I think we speak from experience! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leantonedboy Posted November 2, 2020 Author Report Share Posted November 2, 2020 15 hours ago, Asiange said: 6 months is bit too long to tell if he is/is not treating you more than a friend? if he sends messages before/after work, during work commute, gd night/morning greetings, updates when with his friend(s), shares info of his life, family, work photos of meals, travels, social media, etc extended conversations can't seem to stop talking to each other, in person or phone even hold hands in car, hands on shoulder in public, etc ongoing few weeks both of you doing the same but short of saying the obvious to each other.... 🤔 what do you think? I didn’t realise it was that long. I guess we both were really enjoying each other’s company that we lost track of time. Hehe Anyways thanks for the list of things. In fact he is doing all those things that you listed. ☺️☺️☺️ Making me shy now to myself. Thinking about it, i’m seeing it now. Thanks so much! I will do what is necessary 👍🏻 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leantonedboy Posted November 2, 2020 Author Report Share Posted November 2, 2020 45 minutes ago, Guest The reverse said: If he don’t message you don’t want to meet you don’t want to talk to you don’t want to touch you don’t want to have sex with you don’t return your message or call don’t want to face you don’t want to be close distance with you it means he doesn’t like you. if he never do the above, it means you still got hope! I think we speak from experience! Hahah omg you’re right, think I still got hope! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
groupFunKL92 Posted November 9, 2020 Report Share Posted November 9, 2020 for me, it will be the good morning & goodnight & hope you have/had a good lunch. it is also being able to engage in intellectual conversations while being playful & witty. and the occasional selfies & pics of what he likes (coffees, cakes, books, places, bags) it is also listening to you when you tell him stuffs and he remembers details about you it is also the persistent effort to cheer you up when you are down & pushing him away it is also the occasional dropping by to your place to bring foods when you are too bogged down with studies and works (i study and work at the same time) it is also remembering what you like and hate (e.g. bringing you a jacket when he wants to surprise you with a movie cuz u hate the cold) it is also actively figuring things out for you when you have a problem it is also how you feel safe and cared when you are with him of course this doesnt apply to everyone. merely sharing my own personal experience Neh Neh and sebastian1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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