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On 1/2/2023 at 9:37 PM, NeitherHereNorThere said:

Most BTM I played with in TMC dun get hard when I fuck them.. I kinda find it cute, will lube their cock and jerk them off while fucking their asses. 

I’m a flex T and sometimes when I do bottom, I don’t get hard too.

 

I noticed that when I’m in pain, even though a pleasurable pain, you won’t get hard. Not just when getting fucked. Like nip pinch/biting, along that line

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9 hours ago, Guest Captain obvious said:


er, yah, porn is fake. U didn’t know? 

 

45 minutes ago, Guest Hahaha said:

Duh.....of coz is fake lah !

So even the hard dick is fake? 😬

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I'm a pure btm. When I play with dick. Normally my will get softer and smaller which my hole will start to get wet. I feel very high like a lady. Only when top f me in my hole fast and deep. Mine will be hard but the size will remain same. I always feel I in heaven when my hole get more wet when top f me long

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16 hours ago, aelwaien said:

 Not necessarily, they do use viagra and trimix injections.

Yes, they use trimix injections. Once saw a documentary in US on how porn star get an erection during filming.

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From my past encounters, I observed that most tops do enjoy seeing their bottoms hard when pounding. It's a direct reflection of the bottom's level of enjoyment first of all, so it's very much a non verbal confirmation that the top is doing a great job. And it's somewhat an ego boost for the top, too 😊👍

 

However, I understand that with the usage of enhancements that some bottoms have, such as poppers, it tends to make their cocks soft instead. But they are very much enjoying the pounding still as the poppers would tend to increase their pleasure. 

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18 hours ago, Geekybutt said:

From my past encounters, I observed that most tops do enjoy seeing their bottoms hard when pounding. It's a direct reflection of the bottom's level of enjoyment first of all, so it's very much a non verbal confirmation that the top is doing a great job. And it's somewhat an ego boost for the top, too 😊👍

 

However, I understand that with the usage of enhancements that some bottoms have, such as poppers, it tends to make their cocks soft instead. But they are very much enjoying the pounding still as the poppers would tend to increase their pleasure. 

Thought when a btm get fuck, by right he should get hard since he should get excited and shiok from the fucking? But by left it does not happen for every btm. 😂

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45 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Means the btm watch too much porn that the btm is desensitized and needs greater stimulation (bigger cock, fisting, etc).  


the amount of shit being written in answers here is unreal.

 

some people get/stay hard all the time when getting fucked

some people get/stay hard none of the time when getting fucked

some people get/stay hard some of the time when getting fucked

 

and the reasons why will be infinitely different for each person in each situation. Why do people expect some kind of blanket rule or look to porn as a benchmark? Dumb.

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I think there's no right answer. It depends on the top/dom.

Some tops/doms just want to make their own cock feel great and shoot their load. They don't really bother how the bottom/sub feels.

 

But some tops/doms also want to make the bottom/sub get hard and cum. For such tops/doms, it's usually an ego boost to them if they can get their bottom/sub to be hard and make them cum. It means the bottom/sub is turned on and attracted to the top/dom, and it makes the top/dom feel like he has full control over the sub's/bottom's body.

Often, such tops/doms have an inferiority complex, usually because of their age, muscularity, appearance, physique, etc.

So to them, if they can succeed in making a younger and cuter guy get hard, and better yet, get him to cum, it means that they still have the x-factor.

 

When I was in NS, one of my sergeants (late 30s and very out of shape) performed oral sex on me while fingering my butthole during a weekend guard duty. I hated what he was doing to me, but I know that if I did not cum for him, he wouldn't stop his actions.

So I just emotionally detached myself from what was going on, closed my eyes, and mentally willed myself to cum for him. And true enough, after I had cummed, he stopped his actions and let me rest.

 

Another time when I was in my mid-20s and in a public pool changing room, a much older guy (he looked late 60s) came into my cubicle and locked the door. I didn't want to get him into trouble (since we are all gay guys), but I also didn't want him to do anything to me as I was not into him. So I tried to resist his advances.

Unfortunately, I was wearing only my tight speedo trunks at that time (he was fully clothed), so it was fairly easy for him to repeatedly grope, squeeze and rub my crotch while pushing me against the cubicle wall using his body weight. Also, he was a lot stronger than me.

 

I repeatedly told myself that I must not give him the satisfaction of cumming for him, because at that time, that seemed to be his goal. But he succeeded in the end.

Basically, after a few minutes of him aggressively masturbating my genitals through my trunks, my knees buckled, and I leaned against the cubicle wall, quivering and covering my crotch in shame. He knew what that meant. He grabbed my trunks by the waistband with both hands and forcibly pulled my trunks down to check the stains, and finally turned around to leave the cubicle. I lost the mood to swim after that. I just put my clothes back on and left the swimming complex. For him, he did not cum in my presence at all, but seems more interested in making me cum for him.

 

So I guess it varies from person to person.

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21 hours ago, Guest Total shit said:


the amount of shit being written in answers here is unreal.

 

some people get/stay hard all the time when getting fucked

some people get/stay hard none of the time when getting fucked

some people get/stay hard some of the time when getting fucked

 

and the reasons why will be infinitely different for each person in each situation. Why do people expect some kind of blanket rule or look to porn as a benchmark? Dumb.

 

Same as how a lot of obese people think they are fat because of medical conditions and not diet / workout issues.  Btm have off days for sure.  But if the btm cannot get hard all the time, it is likely that more stimulation is required or the btm is just not interested in you.  

 

What is so bad about being desensitized and needing more stimulation?  Is it shameful?  Apparently some people are ashamed.

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1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

 

Same as how a lot of obese people think they are fat because of medical conditions and not diet / workout issues.  Btm have off days for sure.  But if the btm cannot get hard all the time, it is likely that more stimulation is required or the btm is just not interested in you.  

 

What is so bad about being desensitized and needing more stimulation?  Is it shameful?  Apparently some people are ashamed.


who said anything about shame? who said anything about any of the crap that you are dribbling out as a reply to my reply to you?

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48 minutes ago, Guest Total shit said:


who said anything about shame? who said anything about any of the crap that you are dribbling out as a reply to my reply to you?

 

Cat fight sia. 

Anyone feel like everyone is easily triggered lately... Is it because of social media? Covid-19? Injustice? Inflation? 

 

I also find myself easily triggered. But on days when I don't search Internet it read news, something bad happened and I'm like "it's okay" but on most day when I consume stuff online... I am easily irritated by the injustice in the world.. Or roll my eyes when I read some news about some influencer or grab driver or what not... 

 

Is there a way to disconnect? 

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From my experience it seems to be something natural for many bottom guys.

 

In that sense it must be a physical conditions that prevents the vast majority of bottoms not to stay hard.

 

There are some who can stay hard, but maybe they are flex tops?

 

Most bottoms get hard after the top finished his job and can come...

 

Probably it ends up as a bigger issue if the top turns soft or doesn't get hard at all... 😂

 

 

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On 1/8/2023 at 4:52 PM, Guest Try and see said:

But some tops/doms also want to make the bottom/sub get hard and cum. For such tops/doms, it's usually an ego boost to them if they can get their bottom/sub to be hard and make them cum. It means the bottom/sub is turned on and attracted to the top/dom, and it makes the top/dom feel like he has full control over the sub's/bottom's body.

Often, such tops/doms have an inferiority complex, usually because of their age, muscularity, appearance, physique, etc.

So to them, if they can succeed in making a younger and cuter guy get hard, and better yet, get him to cum, it means that they still have the x-factor.

im a dom top who loves seeing my bottom hard to the point of cumming hands free, and i definitely dont have an inferiority complex lol

 

the point on attraction and full control is spot on. im attractive to most bottoms (think 8 pack abs with big tool) so i have no problem getting my bot to stay erect for me. in fact when i notice my bot getting soft i will throw in a make out sesh or do things like make the bot lick my abs to get hard again. 

 

i LOVE seeing my bot's cock twitch non stop while im fucking him and twitch faster as i fuck harder, esp in missionary. such a turn on. even better if they lose control and spray their cum hands free everywhere.

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if hurt is the main feeling, it is almost impossible to maintain hard-on, except for those BDSM.

once used to ur dick size, it should get hard, but visually the size may not be as big as when the btm is jerking off. 

Let ur btm move himself, he'll be able to find the sweet spot/position which can keep him high

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