Giving Advice to the younger generation

[Terry Teo]

Hello Ive been on this platform for q a while. I realised theres pple of all age here, some much older than others like myself. Would be great if the older generation or however old you are, to share some advice on the whole existence of being gay in singapore. Maybe yall cud share some stories as well to help. The main point is to write somethint u wud write to a YOUNGER u so that somewhere along the path for another young man, he will not make the same mistake as you

[Steve5380]

Many of us older generation already write about our experience and wisdom for the younger generation to take note. My experience is not much in Singapore, but this makes little difference. 

 

When I write this I also keep the younger me in mind, and so I know that the younger don't always follow the advice from the older.  But this does not matter, maybe thinking about while reading is sufficient to bring up some reflections that can be positive.

 

This being an anonymous forum takes away any motive or agenda for writing what we write.  It is usually the honest truth as we see it,  written for the honest desire to help others.

[Guest Well, well...]

What we experienced in our younger gay days, may not be relevant to today younger gay.   In our years without internet, without massive population explosion, without saunas, with no smart phone, with many gay-friendly cruising spots, dotted all over Singapore. it was an extremely adventurious endeavour.  Gay in those days, have stronger camaraderie among our own gay fellowship members during cruising in public places eg old Plaza Singapura, the Old City Hall, The Ford Road Forest, the Old Pearl Center,  The old River Valley Swimming pool,  the Ann Siang Hill...you name it, there we were..loitering and carrying only just a pager or a cheap nokia phone ready to exchange numbers.    Not only the above, there was no mega church, no fundamentlist interference and every stall owners, retail shop outlets were very tolerance and open to our cruising nearby their place of business.    Then....when internet came, there was no porn video,  we bought and exchange gay DVD with people we knew.  Email, makes communication and meeting easier, we flirted therein before we meet, and exchange gay vibes in Fridae or Sgman website where foreigners began to take notice of Singapore gay scenes thereafter......

 

 

 

Back to the modern day.  With everything at our finger tips and the conveniences of smart phone, free porn site, chatroom, saunas,  spy camera,  self-righteous religious freak and STOMP and our governement's using anti-gay as political agenda to please mega Churches.  Most of gay people became cautiously adventurous, watchful of spy and police report filed readily by public at the sight of our suspicious activities.   Newspaper were quick to report cases.  New leaders, new agenda to restrict airing of gay-themed movies, burning of gay-toned books,  gay-colored advertisements,  carrying paranoia about everything gay to the extreme and we have now cameras everywhere in the malls and the streets.  Then, massive population drowned out all our gay spots, leaving us nowhere we could safely and comfortably cruised without getting caught....and risked publicly shamed on internet or newspaper.......

 

Singapore was moving too fast, it changed within a span of 20 years and how will next 20 years look like for the younger gay?   The following are factors that may change the outlook of next generations of gay people:

 

1)  Who will be the new leader - Conservative, traditional or democratic?

2)  Will more laws be enacted or scrapped with regard to protecting or penalising gay people?

3)  How will the landscape of Singapore look like in future?

4)  Where is the technology heading?

5)  Is there going to be next round of pandemic of a different kind?

6)  Will there be a complete breakthrough in HIV drug?

7)  What is going to be the mindset of younger gay in the new education system and their family acceptance of gay people?

😎  Will Mega Church changes, will pinkdot still exist?

9)  Where will all the older gay be when the young gay faces new challenges?

 

One thing for sure,  each generation of experiences are going to be very different.  What is lost, lives only in memory.

 

As for me....I have already lived in the two generations above and I will probably not involved in the future generations of gay because they have to chart and fight for their own rights in the new environment. 

 

 

 

[auscent]

There are some excellent old posts to read about. They give good pointers.

 

Everyone deserves a fair chance to explore around without too many pointers though. Enjoy!

[Guest Guest]

 

[BudakFit]

To the young I know you yearn for love etc...but trust me it is pointless to do so...why? Coz' you are young....your hormones is raging...and when you like someone is just lust....so dont rush take your time to explore yourself..what you like in sex...what interest you...what make you hard...etc...have you reach your goals? Is your dream can be reality? Or just equally satisfied? 

 

Make fitness as part of your lifestyle. And hobbies to kill your boredom or make money or business. 

 

Don't trust anyone easily even those whom you think is trustworthy...you must come first. 

 

Enjoy life while you can....be wise...be safe....trust your instincts. Working part time is good...make you appreciate hard work. 

 

Lastly, be confidence! Love yourself more and don't be afraid to voice out. 

[Guest Jester]

Save early

[funky beaver]

I would say, to all, is to have mutual respect and understanding. Younger ones should respect the elders for the experience they have been through and like-wise, elders should also respect the younger ones due to the difference in mindset, culture, and upbringing. If can accept each other, then is fine; if cannot, not need to be a d*ck about it.

[Bobi]

As i grow older, i feel that, why procrastinate? 

Be daring to do things that you wanted. 

Be brave, bare your full body, wear a thong, do a nice hair cut, be lusty, slutty, all before you get old, before your skin sag, before you turn bald. 

[Steve5380]

7 hours ago, Bobi said:

As i grow older, i feel that, why procrastinate? 

Be daring to do things that you wanted. 

Be brave, bare your full body, wear a thong, do a nice hair cut, be lusty, slutty, all before you get old, before your skin sag, before you turn bald. 

 

I agree with you, Bobi,  if a person is facing a terminal illness that will end his life in short time.  This justifies the bravery, boldness to do the things he always wanted and he is running out of time to do.   I hope this is not your case.

 

But AGING is not a terminal disease.  Most individuals end their life not because of aging but because their lifestyles lead them to develop terminal illnesses.   As a senior I can give testimonial that your skin does not need to sag nor your head has to become bad at 80 yo.  However, sex urges most probably come to an end thereafter.

 

There is more to life than sex.  In fact, with advanced age the need for sex evaporates,  and this becomes a non-issue.  Isn't it nice to not have the addiction to drink or smoke or do drugs that could go out of control?  Well, in the same way it is nice to not have the addiction to sex and be perfectly fine without it.  There is OHHH so much! worthwhile in life!    If your goal is to maintain constantly a healthy lifestyle, with the best nutrition and sensible exercising,  you will age without even realizing it and without feeling that life is getting worse!  And when eventually life gets worse at an advanced age,  you may lose your good looks, lose your hair and have your skin wrinkle and sag,  but...  because you carried out a healthy lifestyle you are still functional and in acceptable health,  you can still think, walk around, read, speak, hear, and this will give plenty of satisfaction with no thoughts of having wasted your life and having missed out on much.