A caring man is better than a handsome one

[Steve5380]

3 hours ago, GayNomad said:

....but your face/bod is just not my type.

 

...but your hobbies, your travel destinations, the food you like, your choice of friends, your preferred music, your homophobic family...is just not my type.

[auscent]

Actually q true. Once a guy chatted up with me in a club. To my surprise, he kindly paid a drink for me when I started coughing. I found out later, he wasnt that rich.

 

The fun stopped after a year. But we remained friends still meet up, after 10 years.

[kidster]

9 hours ago, auscent said:

Actually q true. Once a guy chatted up with me in a club. To my surprise, he kindly paid a drink for me when I started coughing. I found out later, he wasnt that rich.

 

The fun stopped after a year. But we remained friends still meet up, after 10 years.

Since you had fun with him, I presume he appealed to you sexually. And since he was so sweet to you, why didn't you go on a relationship with him? 

 

Just trying to relate to my experience. Not obligated to respond if you are not comfortable. 

[egal]

very valid question

 

the chap seems noce

[GayNomad]

People are just greedy. They want both.

[youdoyou]

The first thing you’re gonna see is the person’s face, not his character. Based on that alone, you’re likely to judge based on his looks. The personality comes after and what determines if you stick around or move on. 

[reece7700]

Nice (aka caring) guys finish last. 🙃 There's some truth to that. 

[Steve5380]

On 4/30/2025 at 6:23 PM, youdoyou said:

The first thing you’re gonna see is the person’s face, not his character. Based on that alone, you’re likely to judge based on his looks. The personality comes after and what determines if you stick around or move on. 

 

If his face is the first thing you see, experience can allow you to broadly recognize his character.   If the body you see first,  you only see the outside and not what is inside.

[youdoyou]

2 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

If his face is the first thing you see, experience can allow you to broadly recognize his character.

How so?

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, youdoyou said:

How so?

 

Because the older we are, the more our spirit is reflected in our face. 

[youdoyou]

1 hour ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Because the older we are, the more our spirit is reflected in our face. 

So younger people aren’t gonna be able to ascertain this

[Steve5380]

16 hours ago, youdoyou said:

So younger people aren’t gonna be able to ascertain this

 

Not necessarily.  Even a child can get a feeling of the spirit of a person.  But children and young people don't reveal it so much as older persons.