Guest Lawrence Posted September 22, 2022 Report Share Posted September 22, 2022 Why there are people like that? When pocket dries up, they leave. Did they just use me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted September 22, 2022 Report Share Posted September 22, 2022 The world is full of people who use other people for money. But what is your situation? You were maintaining, paying for your friend, or did you share expenses and suddenly you did run out of money and he would have to maintain you? Were you a sugar daddy? There is nothing wrong with helping out your friend with money, usually it is the older who pays for the younger one. But if you want to be a sugar daddy, make sure that you never run out of money! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MasterFitMalaySG4U Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 That is TYPICAL Human... always watch your back and play their game too along the way....you definitely can TELL...same goes to those who judge by orientation...sorry you encounter that...time for you to find friends who treasure friendship then anything else which is so hard to find nowadays... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ffffffff Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 They are called fair weathered and/or good time friends. They come as easily as they go. Hard to find are those that stick by you through thick and thin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 4:36 AM, Guest Lawrence said: Why there are people like that? When pocket dries up, they leave. Did they just use me? They are not friends. They are leechers. mate69 and Ironrod 2 Quote 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest On Point Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 9:49 AM, fab said: They are not friends. They are leechers. Hahaha...so on point 👉 👍 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max Low Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 Answer: Cos you have no other redeemable value? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Derelict Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 Sometimes I run into 'old friends'. I know them very well. So they are bound to ask what I'm doing. I'll say umemployed. They will quickly make their excuses and leave. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Not Again Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 5:10 AM, Steve5380 said: usually it is the older who pays for the younger one. I wouldn't advocate for such a viewpoint. The younger generations today are wealthier because they are less stressed than the Baby Boomer generations, who made an effort to manage their finances. After school, I observed teenagers dining at upscale establishments, while some older people have to budget their money for necessities. Do you anticipate the older person to cover the younger person's expenditures everytime they meet? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Mask Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 8:45 PM, Guest Derelict said: Sometimes I run into 'old friends'. I know them very well. So they are bound to ask what I'm doing. I'll say umemployed. They will quickly make their excuses and leave. What better time to decide who is your genuine friend? When you are poor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ironrod Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 8:45 PM, Guest Derelict said: Sometimes I run into 'old friends'. I know them very well. So they are bound to ask what I'm doing. I'll say umemployed. They will quickly make their excuses and leave. What do u expect? Ask u go karaoke? Go movie? Everything in Singapore needs money, what else u expect your friends to say? Will u be happier if they take pity of you and ask you 101 questions why u jobless and not taking up even part-time? Unless guys are really close, i think they are just trying not to bother you. Unless you asked them out and they reject u perhaps you can make that statement. fab 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted September 23, 2022 Report Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 7:45 AM, Guest Derelict said: Sometimes I run into 'old friends'. I know them very well. So they are bound to ask what I'm doing. I'll say umemployed. They will quickly make their excuses and leave. LOL! If I am asked by a friend what I do, I also have to say unemployed. Because I have been retired for over 20 years. But they would not rush away. Instead they would ask " how can you be retired so long if you look so young? What is your secret? ". And I would have a wonderful time explaining them my "secret". If you are young, there is no reason friends leave if you are unemployed, unless you start asking them for money. But if they leave you ONLY because you have no money, rejoice, you are getting rid of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Money Posted September 24, 2022 Report Share Posted September 24, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 4:36 AM, Guest Lawrence said: Why there are people like that? When pocket dries up, they leave. Did they just use me? U should be happy that they stayed when u have money U might come a day , u have money still no friends Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Friend lor Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 Friends is a concept made up in school. Home schooled children have no friends. Adult have no friends. Adults friend have a purpose - to find that significant others. You ever noticed friends who have significant others suddenly don't have time for you anymore. You hear less from them etc. Then when they breakup, you'll be the first to hear about their problem. And they are back in the market for "friends". Friends also don't exists at work. People are just friendly and competitive. Either you are promoted or I am. Friends at work also just for the purpose of bitching about bosses or customers or other colleagues. Most adults also just rather go lunch alone. Having to be "friend" with lunch gang, when they quit. Or you quit, you'll find that you have to make "friends" again. Most adults just stopped trying. Same as older adults trying to "friend" young adults like just started working etc. Just want to guide them etc. Feel needed. Eventually we are all alone in this world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest I Blow Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 9:49 PM, Ironrod said: What do u expect? Ask u go karaoke? Go movie? Everything in Singapore needs money, what else u expect your friends to say? Will u be happier if they take pity of you and ask you 101 questions why u jobless and not taking up even part-time? You can tell them you took up volunteer job without getting paid. It is called giving back in in kind. That should count for something during unemployment? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hmm Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 On 9/26/2022 at 10:25 AM, Guest Friend lor said: Friends is a concept made up in school. Home schooled children have no friends. Adult have no friends. Adults friend have a purpose - to find that significant others. You ever noticed friends who have significant others suddenly don't have time for you anymore. You hear less from them etc. Then when they breakup, you'll be the first to hear about their problem. And they are back in the market for "friends". Friends also don't exists at work. People are just friendly and competitive. Either you are promoted or I am. Friends at work also just for the purpose of bitching about bosses or customers or other colleagues. Most adults also just rather go lunch alone. Having to be "friend" with lunch gang, when they quit. Or you quit, you'll find that you have to make "friends" again. Most adults just stopped trying. Same as older adults trying to "friend" young adults like just started working etc. Just want to guide them etc. Feel needed. Eventually we are all alone in this world. Sorry to hear that this is your experience. I agree that as adults much focused on career or raising children , there seems to be no time for friends. And yes nowadays i prefer to lunch alone in the office (fastest, no need to stress over chit chatting or worse, sit at same table as supervisors). It was easier to make friends in my younger days in my previous workplace, and to this day we meet monthly to makan and share good times together. Is there anything mutually beneficial in our spending time together? Yes, someone to hear my problems and to share funny stories with. Are they career minded and competitive? Maybe they are, but they also chose to continue investing in this friendship. Even from a purely self serving standpoint, having long lasting friends is to maintain my mental wellbeing. I also choose to believe that I want to positively contribute to their mental wellbeing. Maybe in the most fundamental level I agree with you that everyone is alone cos our thoughts and experiences are unique to us. But if i use that as a reason to stop relating to people it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gayhoe Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 On 9/26/2022 at 10:25 AM, Guest Friend lor said: Friends is a concept made up in school. Home schooled children have no friends. Adult have no friends. Adults friend have a purpose - to find that significant others. You ever noticed friends who have significant others suddenly don't have time for you anymore. You hear less from them etc. Then when they breakup, you'll be the first to hear about their problem. And they are back in the market for "friends". Friends also don't exists at work. People are just friendly and competitive. Either you are promoted or I am. Friends at work also just for the purpose of bitching about bosses or customers or other colleagues. Most adults also just rather go lunch alone. Having to be "friend" with lunch gang, when they quit. Or you quit, you'll find that you have to make "friends" again. Most adults just stopped trying. Same as older adults trying to "friend" young adults like just started working etc. Just want to guide them etc. Feel needed. Eventually we are all alone in this world. yes all will die alone in the end. but at least knowing someone that can share some of your unique view, its a nice feeling, till we become dust. but then again dont put your hopes high. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest U Stoopid Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 9:49 PM, Ironrod said: What do u expect? Ask u go karaoke? Go movie? Everything in Singapore needs money, what else u expect your friends to say? Will u be happier if they take pity of you and ask you 101 questions why u jobless and not taking up even part-time? Unless guys are really close, i think they are just trying not to bother you. Unless you asked them out and they reject u perhaps you can make that statement. You are a sor hai. Whack you on the head with iron rod. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 280 Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 LOL not just frens. Relatives and even siblings too. When u are down and out, see how fast and how far they run away from you as if you are infected with monkey pox. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greenliv Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 Do you behave the same way as written in the topic? If you do not, then you probably know your answer. If you do, then there is no need to know the answer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fatty Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 On 9/23/2022 at 8:54 PM, Guest Not Again said: I wouldn't advocate for such a viewpoint. The younger generations today are wealthier because they are less stressed than the Baby Boomer generations, who made an effort to manage their finances. After school, I observed teenagers dining at upscale establishments, while some older people have to budget their money for necessities. Do you anticipate the older person to cover the younger person's expenditures everytime they meet? Yes if the young guy let the older guy fark him Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fatty Posted September 26, 2022 Report Share Posted September 26, 2022 On 9/26/2022 at 10:35 AM, Guest I Blow said: You can tell them you took up volunteer job without getting paid. It is called giving back in in kind. That should count for something during unemployment? They will call you kum gong Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest U Stoopid Posted September 27, 2022 Report Share Posted September 27, 2022 On 9/27/2022 at 7:29 AM, Guest Fatty said: They will call you kum gong or call you sor hai bui bui panthat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fetish72 Posted October 2, 2022 Report Share Posted October 2, 2022 Not only friends when you have money they around at times famillies members also the same. Now is hard to find friend will go thick and thin with you as now you need to opened your eyes wide and ears who are they really are. Are they being genuine towards you or being plastic fantastic like your credit cards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ranel97 Posted December 25, 2022 Report Share Posted December 25, 2022 Well that is the fact of life.if they can't get money from you, you're out of their lives Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted December 26, 2022 Report Share Posted December 26, 2022 U keep asking yr friend wanna go holiday yr friend keep dragging and u have waited for his reply for 10years.with no results But he want this and that from u .I started to dump all this friend . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 26, 2022 Report Share Posted December 26, 2022 A lot of people have agenda when making friends, if you have no more use to them, they will just stay away from you. This is hard truth of life. Not only apply to money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Err72 Posted December 27, 2022 Report Share Posted December 27, 2022 It happened to me also. We were coworker at first then became closer. He told me his dreams and also problems i got carrried away. He asked me to lent him money to buy car because it was his long time dream. I declined and relationship turned sour. He started ignoring me and workplace became awkward. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fetish72 Posted January 2, 2023 Report Share Posted January 2, 2023 On 12/27/2022 at 11:26 AM, Guest Err72 said: It happened to me also. We were coworker at first then became closer. He told me his dreams and also problems i got carrried away. He asked me to lent him money to buy car because it was his long time dream. I declined and relationship turned sour. He started ignoring me and workplace became awkward. I called those frens leeches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Papaya Posted January 2, 2023 Report Share Posted January 2, 2023 On 9/23/2022 at 4:36 AM, Guest Lawrence said: Why there are people like that? When pocket dries up, they leave. Did they just use me? Unless u always spent on them. I dont spend on friend, so my money dry or not not their concern Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted January 3, 2023 Report Share Posted January 3, 2023 In general, one can still be useful to them in other way even if one don't spend money on them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Money Posted January 4, 2023 Report Share Posted January 4, 2023 No money could avoid friends using you as contingency plan. Help you develop thriftiness, stop you from worrying too much about materialism, keep your mind free of worldly wants, and prevent scammers from accessing your bank account. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D.0284 Posted January 4, 2023 Report Share Posted January 4, 2023 everybody has different financial status, spending habits and lifestyle. there are people who chase after another over the different financial status , spending habit or lifestyle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted January 4, 2023 Report Share Posted January 4, 2023 These ppl should be called acquaintances, not friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Niko Posted April 2, 2023 Report Share Posted April 2, 2023 On 9/23/2022 at 4:36 AM, Guest Lawrence said: Why there are people like that? When pocket dries up, they leave. Did they just use me? It's unfortunate, but sometimes people can be motivated by material possessions or financial gain, and they may only maintain a friendship for as long as they see a benefit or advantage in doing so. These types of friendships are often shallow and may not have a strong foundation built on genuine care, trust, and mutual respect. It's important to remember that true friendships are built on shared values, common interests, and a genuine connection. They are not based on material possessions or financial status. If you feel like your friends are only interested in you for your money, it may be time to re-evaluate the nature of the friendship and consider whether it's healthy and fulfilling for you. It's also important to recognize that friendships, like all relationships, require effort and communication to maintain. If you feel like your friends are only interested in you for financial reasons, consider having an open and honest conversation with them about your concerns. It's possible that they may not even realize how their behavior is affecting you. Ultimately, the most important thing is to surround yourself with people who care about you for who you are, not what you have. Seek out friendships that are based on mutual respect, trust, and genuine connection, and don't be afraid to let go of friendships that are unhealthy or unfulfilling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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