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Nope. What the shoot you wanna for? His motive? What a red flag! Why need to give in everytime? If he dare to ask me that he gonna get f from me and NO SEX for a week or month haha you also have to test your relationship are you for kept? Or just for fun so that you have options he don't he knows who he is dealing with haha not my lost anyway. Haha

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If a prospective boyfriend casually asked me this kind of question, especially when were just getting to know each other, he would immediately cease to be my prospective boyfriend because I can't see myself being life partners with someone who thinks this is appropriate and decent behavior.

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I've always assumed that asking for the other person's penis size was something acceptable in the gay community.

When I was in my 20s, I befriended a older gay man, and one of the first things he asked me was my penis size, both in the flaccid and erect state.

At that time, I thought it was nothing wrong.

So I actually really went home to take a ruler to measure, and then masturbated for awhile, and measured again. Then I dutifully texted him the figures.

On my part, I never asked him for his size.

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Lol, I guess it depends on how much I want to have fun with the guy I guess. I mean, what's the big deal if we will be getting naked soon right

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19 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

I've always assumed that asking for the other person's penis size was something acceptable in the gay community.

When I was in my 20s, I befriended a older gay man, and one of the first things he asked me was my penis size, both in the flaccid and erect state.

At that time, I thought it was nothing wrong.

So I actually really went home to take a ruler to measure, and then masturbated for awhile, and measured again. Then I dutifully texted him the figures.

On my part, I never asked him for his size.

 

 

i think nothing wrong..esp after the 3rd or 4th meeting...its part and parcel of gay dating scene. I have done the same...people ask me and i have asked people too..

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7 hours ago, ERFAbangBear said:

Wait don't yall check the goods before buying? I mean... just say lah... at the end of the day also he's gonna go down on you and vice versa what. 😅

 

I think there is a difference if you are just looking for fun or looking into a relationship.

However, I don't find the topic or question very realistic due to various factors:

 

1) Most guys nowadays would not go into a relationship without having had tried some sex

2) Nobody is a prospective boyfriend who you just chat or meet the first time...

3) When it comes to relationships, if the dick size is the major point, then what to say, probably the relationship won't be lasting or the basis for the relationship is already wrong

4) Would you seriously reject a guy as a partner that fits to you most suitable by character and you have good feelings for him if the dick is too small or too big?

5) Somebody who would ask this question is probably not seriously looking for a relationship...

 

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I must honestly say that I am pleasantly surprised by the responses. Don't judge me, if he was already a potential bf, I've always made the assumption that many would have already starting f*king let alone need to ask for the size. 

 

I dunno, I have been told that I am too slow in the progression of relationship by my past dates. It usually takes me about 2 - 6 months prior to deciding that one is a potential bf. I frequently got comments by the ones that got away that cos we didnt have sex that i was not interested. Or friends who asked something like what another poster said - "You haven't tested the goods?"

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Guest Dick jealousy

I hate my small dick. Actually my dick is not that small but I feel its small compared to porn star. 

 

I can't accept my own insecurity. 

 

But I can accept my bf if he has small dick. But I cannot accept myself. 

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If you are potentially heading for an intimate relationship, and your dick is "unusual", then I think it is nice to let the other party know.

By unusual, that could mean extra small, extra huge, weird shape, phimosis, non-functional, etc

Much better than both parties having invested emotionally and then to have this deal breaker dick spring up

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47 minutes ago, Guest guo said:

on grindr when they said 6inch, turn out 5inch nia, 99% of the time, i wonder how people measure their dick? from balls? lol

 

usually from the dorsal side bone press from the pelvic bone. so if they say 6 inch, they really are from the pelvic bone. but fats pad might have buried a some of it.

 

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1 hour ago, bluerunner said:

I agree!! Never believe what you are told especially on Grindr/Jack'D (whatever gay apps). 

yeah.... fake photo, fake age, fake height, fake weight, fake size

just take the info as a reference point only, haha

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On 4/4/2023 at 11:19 AM, Steve5380 said:

If the guy is attractive and you like him,  just tell him: " Its for you to find out! "

Sounds very rude!!!  Those short statement, used to be very common in the old days, is enough to piss off many gays in the chat room and in the dating scene.  It was like saying to the other guys: ..."you don't stand a chance to know more than what I wanted you to know".

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On 4/4/2023 at 2:58 PM, Guest Dick jealousy said:

I hate my small dick. Actually my dick is not that small but I feel its small compared to porn star. 

 

I can't accept my own insecurity. 

 

But I can accept my bf if he has small dick. But I cannot accept myself. 

You must be a "TOP".  If so, you are not required to have a huge dick or even one at all......wahahahahaha

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I'm starting to wonder if this is a "gay" forum because this topic, among other issues, bored me to death.🥱   Doing the most gay thing is the most rational gay behavior.  If I or the other person displays interest development on our first or subsequent dates, I am "not so polite."  I will go all out to grab the guy's middle ground if he lets me touch his thigh affectionately; no measurement device, no stripping, no further questions necessary. Silence is all that is required, and it takes 99.9% of the time before you even start to feel anything......the guy already has HARD ON!!  Which is to be expected in my cases  😝

 

My story still a surprise to you?🙄

 

 

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On 4/7/2023 at 7:40 PM, Guest guo said:

on grindr when they said 6inch, turn out 5inch nia, 99% of the time, i wonder how people measure their dick? from balls? lol

 

 

I assume they measure from the ground... 😂

 

Better are those who reply "never measured" . to that is an indication much below average size...

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It's not the dick size la. 

Its the guy. 

 

I met a bottom before with small dick I think only 3.5 inch when hard. But thick. Because of his dick size, he workout to build his body. Got the amateur body build type. 

 

Wow when he lift both legs up exposing the hole and let me fuck him, and his hard small dick looks so sexy as fuck sia... 

 

I never reject him because of dick size. In fact I find it cute haha. It suits him. He is also kinda short. Short and compact. Very huggable. Very fuck able. Very nice. 

 

But alas, he feel so insecure that everytime after sex he will feel depressed. I mean my dick is not even that big. Only 6".not like those eporn stR 9". But he feels so sad. 

 

Always ask me to abuse him

Call him faggot when I fuck him. 

Ask me to demean him. Make fun of his small cock. But I don't want... 

 

He can't get off and stopped meeting up with me. 

 

Some guys... Their whole identity revolves around their dick. Their ego match their dick size. 

 

Very sad. 

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A study of over 15,000 men found an average flaccid length of 3.6 inches and an average flaccid circumference (girth) of 3.7 inches (9.3cm). When erect, the penises had an average length of 5.1 inches and an average circumference of 4.5 inches (11.4cm).

 

Girths are circumference measures at standard anatomical sites around the body.

 

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4 hours ago, singalion said:

 

 

A study of over 15,000 men found an average flaccid length of 3.6 inches and an average flaccid circumference (girth) of 3.7 inches (9.3cm). When erect, the penises had an average length of 5.1 inches and an average circumference of 4.5 inches (11.4cm).

 

Girths are circumference measures at standard anatomical sites around the body.

 

let's not divert the topic too much, the discipline master might not be happy. perhaps many men measured wrongly. many men does not knows they are well endow until they visit a urologist for annual checks. therefore i believe there are a lot of very well endow men around us. many are growers.

no need to lie, just tell. after all they might not believe de lah.

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5 minutes ago, D.0284 said:

let's not divert the topic too much, the discipline master might not be happy. perhaps many men measured wrongly.

 

Sure, we don't want to drop into a discussion of BBC... 😂

 

While I searched for the average girth size of dicks, there were many health articles that cited the exaggeration of dick sizes by men... haha

 

More relevant would be the reasons, why guys don't intend to disclose their dick size to a potential bf?

 

Isn't it better to be honest from onset?

 

 

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12 minutes ago, singalion said:

 

Sure, we don't want to drop into a discussion of BBC... 😂

 

While I searched for the average girth size of dicks, there were many health articles that cited the exaggeration of dick sizes by men... haha

 

More relevant would be the reasons, why guys don't intend to disclose their dick size to a potential bf?

 

Isn't it better to be honest from onset?

 

 

we cannot change anything about the size.(unless surgery). most of us are of reasonable good size. why hide leh? why afraid potential BF would flee after knowing your size? if a potential BF runaway after knowing the size. then let him go, he is not worth. dun waste your time on someone like him.

ooh, if size is too big , then i believe you should really tell him (if he is bottom). at least he knows whats coming.

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On my first blind date, I send my date home. I asked him to pull down his pants, lie down on the bed. Raise both legs up and spread his ass. 

 

I want to see his hole. 

 

He kicked me out. 

Not bf quality. Haha. 

 

Gay like cock. Just go eat chicken rice. 

Gay like guy. Then can be bf play the love love thing

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2 hours ago, D.0284 said:

we cannot change anything about the size.(unless surgery). most of us are of reasonable good size. why hide leh? why afraid potential BF would flee after knowing your size? if a potential BF runaway after knowing the size. then let him go, he is not worth. dun waste your time on someone like him.

ooh, if size is too big , then i believe you should really tell him (if he is bottom). at least he knows whats coming.

 

I concur.

 

However, I think the issue won't crop up for 99.8% of potential bf situations, because both sides have already seen the other partner's dick.

And someone asking you - being bf material - is that already considered a relationship?

"Prospective bf", what is that?

I don't think people enter into relationships just after one non sexual meet up or a date after an app chat.

Sure, there might be guys who meet first for a cup of coffee after some app chat, ...

But I still think, most if they intend to get into a relationship would do some sex sooner or later...

 

Maybe 80 years ago there were people who had sex only after they married, but this never applied for gays at all.

 

I find that the question from TS refers to a totally out of date and unrealistic scenario.

 

 

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4 hours ago, whitefuck said:

My one and only ex bf did ask me about my cock size on our first meet up.  i replied him "i dun know.  For a precise measurements, you should use your 2 holes to measure."  He did and we had a great 6 years together, till i married my pussy.  

i must agree most dun reach the second.

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hang on a second didn't everyone here share photos of there bod prior to meeting up? oppps maybe just me, just my 50 cents worth, you would have checked the goods prior to engaging in the act :-). For the size department, am happy with what I have......dont need to measure it but been told that i am more then acceptable for an asian, none the less in this day and age, photos are 20% but the real time is best.

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On 4/12/2023 at 5:46 PM, fitcubsg said:

hang on a second didn't everyone here share photos of there bod prior to meeting up? oppps maybe just me, just my 50 cents worth, you would have checked the goods prior to engaging in the act :-). For the size department, am happy with what I have......dont need to measure it but been told that i am more then acceptable for an asian, none the less in this day and age, photos are 20% but the real time is best.

that's a good one, photo always adds 20% more to size

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The title of the thread is "Are you guys willing to share your dick size if your prospective bf casually ask you?"

Since we are talking about prospective boyfriends, this means is will be a long term relationship as opposed to a one night stand. 

 

If it is a long term relationship, I would truthfully declare my penis size.  If the prospect does not like that, I would bless my lucky starts because I would immediately know the other party is not suitable for me for a long term relationship.  It would have spared me a lot of wasted time and energy, and most probably a heartache. 

 

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Guest No point

If the guy is a TOP and I am a Bottom, it is not necessary for him to ask about my dick size since I am not allowed to use it on it.   Any TOP here wanted to verify my point?

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