tiger55 Posted April 6, 2023 Report Share Posted April 6, 2023 I have worked in Singapore for a few months after relocating from other country in Asia. One thing I found out is that I really can't spot any gay/bi men at all in my office. All males either have girlfriend or already married with and without kid. Most men here are also very masculine. Is it because they serve NS? Are there a lot of discreet masculine gay men here? Are there a lot of bi? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted April 6, 2023 Report Share Posted April 6, 2023 Don't shit where you work! It will complicate your work. tiger55, calvt and yhtang 1 2 Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 6, 2023 Report Share Posted April 6, 2023 3 hours ago, tiger55 said: I have worked in Singapore for a few months after relocating from other country in Asia. One thing I found out is that I really can't spot any gay/bi men at all in my office. All males either have girlfriend or already married with and without kid. Most men here are also very masculine. Is it because they serve NS? Are there a lot of discreet masculine gay men here? Are there a lot of bi? Which industry? I work in a big bank and there are tons of gays and bi men here, some discreet, some not so discreet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiger55 Posted April 6, 2023 Author Report Share Posted April 6, 2023 1 hour ago, Guest Guest said: Which industry? I work in a big bank and there are tons of gays and bi men here, some discreet, some not so discreet. I also work in finance sector, but seems can’t find one hahaha. By the way, how can you know if one is bi? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Culture club Posted April 7, 2023 Report Share Posted April 7, 2023 Quite some time ago, I was at OCBC Orchard Central, there was a male staff wearing make up. I mean in a boy george way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted April 7, 2023 Report Share Posted April 7, 2023 17 hours ago, tiger55 said: I have worked in Singapore for a few months after relocating from other country in Asia. One thing I found out is that I really can't spot any gay/bi men at all in my office. All males either have girlfriend or already married with and without kid. Most men here are also very masculine. Is it because they serve NS? Are there a lot of discreet masculine gay men here? Are there a lot of bi? Depends on the industries and professions. But most office employees try to not come out as gay in the office. And I can understand them looking at the common bitching culture in local offices here. Are you serious that Most Singaporean men behave very masculine? Have you ever watched straight younger couples below 40s? Often the guy walks and behaves girlier than his wife or girlfriend. Go to Orchard Road on the weekend and watch them. My favourites are those guys who carry the handbags of their wives and girlfriends... Hilarious. Kimochi 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted April 7, 2023 Report Share Posted April 7, 2023 17 hours ago, tiger55 said: I have worked in Singapore for a few months after relocating from other country in Asia. One thing I found out is that I really can't spot any gay/bi men at all in my office. All males either have girlfriend or already married with and without kid. Most men here are also very masculine. Is it because they serve NS? Are there a lot of discreet masculine gay men here? Are there a lot of bi? You're most likely in the wrong industries. Ever consider switching careers to one in the arts and fashion to be closer to the gay? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Once O always O Posted April 7, 2023 Report Share Posted April 7, 2023 18 hours ago, tiger55 said: I have worked in Singapore for a few months after relocating from other country in Asia. One thing I found out is that I really can't spot any gay/bi men at all in my office. All males either have girlfriend or already married with and without kid. Most men here are also very masculine. Is it because they serve NS? Are there a lot of discreet masculine gay men here? Are there a lot of bi? Watch out for their employee badges which have a 🌈 stripe on them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shenalone Posted April 7, 2023 Report Share Posted April 7, 2023 From my POV they are more closet so the closer you get to know them maybe they will appear swimlife 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiger55 Posted April 7, 2023 Author Report Share Posted April 7, 2023 24 minutes ago, shenalone said: From my POV they are more closet so the closer you get to know them maybe they will appear How can they be closet when most are already have girlfriend or wift Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Worker Posted April 7, 2023 Report Share Posted April 7, 2023 While it's possible that everyone in your office is straight, it's also possible that some might be in the closet as their girlfriend might in reality actually be their boyfriend. As shenalone mentioned, the closer you to get some of your colleagues, maybe some will be open to you. Can I ask tiger55 if you are discreet or open? Maybe that's a factor as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2023 Report Share Posted April 8, 2023 Would prefer not for colleagues to be nosey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
And then Posted April 9, 2023 Report Share Posted April 9, 2023 On 4/7/2023 at 8:07 PM, tiger55 said: How can they be closet when most are already have girlfriend or wift huh? plenty of married men, fathers, etc come out to play out of sight from their wives and families some even sneak off to toilets while out shopping with their family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiger55 Posted April 9, 2023 Author Report Share Posted April 9, 2023 3 hours ago, And then said: huh? plenty of married men, fathers, etc come out to play out of sight from their wives and families some even sneak off to toilets while out shopping with their family! Oh wow. Is it very common here? Are they gay/bi, but cant come out due to society or they are just straight but want some funs? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Can't come out Posted April 9, 2023 Report Share Posted April 9, 2023 Problem is how to identify them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted April 9, 2023 Report Share Posted April 9, 2023 slowly bit by bit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
And then Posted April 10, 2023 Report Share Posted April 10, 2023 On 4/9/2023 at 5:30 PM, tiger55 said: Oh wow. Is it very common here? Are they gay/bi, but cant come out due to society or they are just straight but want some funs? Why would someone who is totally straight want to have fun with guys? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted April 16, 2023 Report Share Posted April 16, 2023 On 4/7/2023 at 1:58 AM, tiger55 said: I also work in finance sector, but seems can’t find one hahaha. By the way, how can you know if one is bi? Which part of Asia are you from? What kind of guys are you looking for? Gay/Bi are their sexual orientation but what types fits your bill? Don't tell me that as long as they are gay/bi and you will be able to have a go with them regardless their age, looks, size, type, etc.? That said, do keep your professional and personal lives separate. You can be a flamboyant gay in your office, your colleague might tolerate you for who you are but if you start getting fresh with the male colleagues, you might be charged with sexual harassment, if you don't conduct yourself well. On 4/7/2023 at 6:07 PM, tiger55 said: How can they be closet when most are already have girlfriend or wift Like some had mentioned, not all married or attached men are totally straight and don't for a moment thinks that they just because they might be bi, what makes you think that they would go after you and jeopardizing their work and family just to have a fling with a new colleague? I am sure, there are better place to hook up with people and certainly not in your office. Do try to be professional in your work because you are on permit working in Sg, any wrong moves will mean goodbye to your career and don't play with fire. And then 1 Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agoenk_pku Posted April 17, 2023 Report Share Posted April 17, 2023 It's depend on your company culture and how the team bond. If you're close enough with your team, you will able to notice who is bi and who is gay. In one of my ex-company, there is 1 HR guy openly announce that he is gay, and everyone still work with him professionally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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