What was the loneliest thing that you've ever done?

[Guest Lim78]

Eat alone for a year now

[Steve5380]

Eating alone is solitary,  but why is it lonely?   I have been eating alone for nearly five years now,  and this never makes me lonely.  I am too busy cooking and then eating and then cleaning the dishes.    It is a happy protocol because I like what I cook,  I enjoy eating in front of my big screen TV or my computer,  and washing dishes gives me an opportunity to think.  

[Sweetie Pie]

3 hours ago, Guest Lim78 said:

Eat alone for a year now

I don't know about you, but I find that eating alone myself makes my meal taste better and aids in better digestion.  In office, I was the one who ran off first, during lunch, because I don't have the habbit of lunching in group because you have to keep waiting for others to get ready and by then you have difficult finding seats in hawker center.  I see such people no up.

Edited May 6, 2023 by Sweetie Pie

[HavleLife]

Eat alone is so common now. Gym alone… etc

anyway I love to do things alone, I don’t really like to wait. Can speed up what I wanna complete on a daily basis.

[Fiacla]

Booked a soccer field and kicked the ball around alone... if you believe. HAHAHA

[Guest guest]

3 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

I don't know about you, but I find that eating alone myself makes my meal taste better and aids in better digestion.  In office, I was the one who ran off first, during lunch, because I don't have the habbit of lunching in group because you have to keep waiting for others to get ready and by then you have difficult finding seats in hawker center.  I see such people no up.

Not having lunch with colleagues and ran off first during lunch, you would be label as anti-social or unfriendly by your colleagues. People always say humans are made to interact in a group and not lone ranger whether you like it or not.

[Guest guest]

9 minutes ago, Fiacla said:

Booked a soccer field and kicked the ball around alone... if you believe. HAHAHA

I have booked a KTV room and sing karaoke all by myself for that 3 hours session.

[Guest guest]

Looks like many lone rangers here who like to do things alone and don't like to interact with people. Is this common with guys than gals? And it is common in current society now? I find being alone for all the times might not be good for your mental health in long run. People still need to interact with people, go out with friends and talk to people.

[ChubasaurusHex]

Went for a solo staycay when thought I had a partner for most days. End up I slept alone all way through

[yhtang]

2 hours ago, Guest guest said:

I have booked a KTV room and sing karaoke all by myself for that 3 hours session.

 

I think I need to do that to warm up my vocal cords because I have not sung for a while. 

I would not mind doing it just for the hell of it - I do not feel lonely, I just like doing things on my own. 

Perhaps embracing once's loneliness would make doing thing alone feel less "lonely".

[Guest lonely]

eat alone

watch movie alone

go theme park alone

see specialist alone

go overseas tour alone

 

[lonelyglobe]

5 minutes ago, Guest lonely said:

eat alone

watch movie alone

go theme park alone

see specialist alone

go overseas tour alone

 

Yeah,  go Disneyland alone,  don't need to queue,  when they left with one seat on the ride, u just cut queue. The only thing I have not done is to watch concert alone,  I think that will be the last thing to do. 

[Guest Guest]

This wasn't me, but during my BMT in the 1990s, one of my bunk mates had no visitors on the second Sunday of our BMT (this was the default Parents Visiting Day last time).

He told us that he's a bit estranged from his family. Hence, either he did not invite them, or they didn't want to come.

 

Luckily, he bonded quite well with another bunk mate's dad, and the two of them talked and laughed throughout the afternoon. So he wasn't completely left out of the family bonding time.

 

That was years ago, but until now, I still feel a bit sorry for him whenever I recall that day. He acted like he didn't care that nobody came to visit him during BMT, but I think he surely felt lonely at that time.

[Guest guest]

8 hours ago, lonelyglobe said:

Yeah,  go Disneyland alone,  don't need to queue,  when they left with one seat on the ride, u just cut queue. The only thing I have not done is to watch concert alone,  I think that will be the last thing to do. 

Why watch concert alone is the last thing to do?

[doncoin]

I enjoy going to the theatre and museums on my own. During the performance, you can't talk anyway. However, over the years, since I go alone quite often, I get to meet new people which can be fun.  

[Guest Loner]

20 hours ago, Guest guest said:

I have booked a KTV room and sing karaoke all by myself for that 3 hours session.

I also did that before, and it felt wierd. And quite troublesome as you need to intermittently stop and search for songs to insert. So i never will do that again. Anyway there are now phone app which allow you to sing karaoke at home and even play back the singing.

[Guest guest]

3 hours ago, Guest Loner said:

I also did that before, and it felt wierd. And quite troublesome as you need to intermittently stop and search for songs to insert. So i never will do that again. Anyway there are now phone app which allow you to sing karaoke at home and even play back the singing.

The sound system is better at karaoke than at home. 

[lonelyglobe]

13 hours ago, Guest guest said:

Why watch concert alone is the last thing to do?

I think that is the biggest challenge for a single to do, anyone who have done that can share your experience. 

4 hours ago, Guest Loner said:

I also did that before, and it felt wierd. And quite troublesome as you need to intermittently stop and search for songs to insert. So i never will do that again. Anyway there are now phone app which allow you to sing karaoke at home and even play back the singing.

U can just enter all the songs u wanted to sing then start your solo concert but really need to have good stamina to sing continuously for 2 to 3 hours. 

[Guest Guest]

1 hour ago, lonelyglobe said:

I think that [watch concert alone] is the biggest challenge for a single to do, anyone who have done that can share your experience. 

 

I've done that before. Not those type of rock concerts, but those symphony orchestra concerts.

It's no big deal. Did not feel "lonely" or weird.

I think a lot of S'poreans find being "alone" problematic because Asians tend to have a group mentality i.e. everything must be done as a group; the bigger the group, the better.

 

Not so in the west where it's common for people to do things alone e.g. go shopping alone; eat alone; watch movies alone; travel alone.

[Baredom]

I like doing things alone as I am in complete control of next steps and don’t have to consider what others want to do. Yeah, it can be seen as pretty selfish but it’s also very rewarding in achieving and accomplishing what’s important to you. I’m not a group kind of person. Introverted like that. But I live a somewhat extroverted life because of work requirements. Conflict. 

[singalion]

Sitting  6 hours in a flight as the only passenger in a 200 pax plane ... 

 

The flight captain came for a visit to say hello also and permitted me to take a look at the cockpit. 

 

Best was that the stewardess placed a cart in front of me and said: "Just serve yourself, if you don't mind". 

 

 

[yhtang]

1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

 

I've done that before. Not those type of rock concerts, but those symphony orchestra concerts.

It's no big deal. Did not feel "lonely" or weird.

I think a lot of S'poreans find being "alone" problematic because Asians tend to have a group mentality i.e. everything must be done as a group; the bigger the group, the better.

 

Not so in the west where it's common for people to do things alone e.g. go shopping alone; eat alone; watch movies alone; travel alone.

 

You have a point there.  I feel it is very often that Asians do things in a group, and to enjoy doing things alone is deemed odd to many people in Asia. 

I am not adverse to doing things alone - even travelling - but neither am I against doing things in a group.  It depends on my mood. 

 

The long and short of it is that I do not feel it is essential to be in a group and I do enjoy my own company.

 

 

[yhtang]

42 minutes ago, Baredom said:

I like doing things alone as I am in complete control of next steps and don’t have to consider what others want to do. Yeah, it can be seen as pretty selfish but it’s also very rewarding in achieving and accomplishing what’s important to you. I’m not a group kind of person. Introverted like that. But I live a somewhat extroverted life because of work requirements. Conflict. 

 

I feel exactly the same.  The freedom of making my decisions without the need to take into consideration the needs of others is quite liberating.  

Yes, I agree it can be seen to be a bit selfish.  I try to involve myself in some group activities every so often in case I forget group dynamics and forget the social graces. 

[yhtang]

3 minutes ago, singalion said:

Sitting  6 hours in a flight as the only passenger in a 200 pax plane ... 

 

The flight captain came for a visit to say hello also and permitted me to take a look at the cockpit. 

 

Best was that the stewardess placed a cart in front of me and said: "Just serve yourself, if you don't mind". 

 

 

 

I have never had this experience before.  It reminds me of a porn set-up.  🤣

[And then]

1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

 

I've done that before. Not those type of rock concerts, but those symphony orchestra concerts.

It's no big deal. Did not feel "lonely" or weird.

I think a lot of S'poreans find being "alone" problematic because Asians tend to have a group mentality i.e. everything must be done as a group; the bigger the group, the better.

 

but i think there is a very big difference between attending a symphony or an opera vs something like a Blackpink concert alone.

I have done several operas on my own, and that was perfectly fine.

 

But I just can't bring myself to do Songkran or Pride on my own. It will just seem so sad

 

[Guest nobody]

not talk to anybody for closed to 10 years now.

[L0NELYB0Y]

Doing things alone doesn't necessarily mean you're lonely. It just means you're by yourself at that time. But you can be surrounded by people you know and still feel lonely.

 

Ever heard of a ninth wheel? I once had dinner with four couples. And to make things more obvious that you're by yourself, they make you sit at the head of the table.

[Sgboy35]

10 hours ago, lonelyglobe said:

I think that is the biggest challenge for a single to do, anyone who have done that can share your experience. 

I went to a few concerts by myself like The Script and Taeyang. My friends don't share the same musical taste as me, so instead of missing out on the concerts, I went by myself

[Guest Loner]

14 hours ago, Guest guest said:

The sound system is better at karaoke than at home. 

Actually the phone app is quite good. Already sound like real karaoke with echo effect. Jus need to get better mic to pair with your phone.

[Guest Lone wolf]

Actually, being able to be alone and yet NOT lonely is a luxury that ancient people never had before.

 

Human society have evolved to be so tightly social as gangs to fight other gangs to get limited economic resources that individuals cannot survive on his own.

 

But now it's different. We don't have to fight for economic resources if we are born in a developed country. Get food is easy, get job earn money no problem, entertainment plenty, sex? A whole sauna full of naked men to drool over or a plane ride away for more exotic sex. 

Air con comfort, transport comfort, living comfort... Everything we need we have, what's there to complain about? Even kings of olden times don't have some of the comforts that we take for granted, like watching porn on a 75in TV haha

Most importantly, you must have the health to enjoy it all. Fuck care about being alone when given the chance to be free from social bondage.

 

This is the new millennium.

Live and enjoy is our motto.

[Guest guest]

On 5/7/2023 at 3:53 PM, Guest Guest said:

 

I've done that before. Not those type of rock concerts, but those symphony orchestra concerts.

It's no big deal. Did not feel "lonely" or weird.

I think a lot of S'poreans find being "alone" problematic because Asians tend to have a group mentality i.e. everything must be done as a group; the bigger the group, the better.

 

Not so in the west where it's common for people to do things alone e.g. go shopping alone; eat alone; watch movies alone; travel alone.

Too bad we are born in Asian and are asians. So if you tend not to have the group mentality and do things alone. People will see you as lone ranger, anti-social and unfriendly.

[Guest Guest]

22 hours ago, Guest nobody said:

not talk to anybody for closed to 10 years now.

You are still alive till now? 😦

[Guest Try and see]

4 minutes ago, Guest guest said:

Too bad we are born in Asian and are asians. So if you tend not to have the group mentality and do things alone. People will see you as lone ranger, anti-social and unfriendly.

 

I remember I got called "anti-social" many times by my CCA mates (in NUS) whenever I declined to eat with them after CCA, or when I basically did not want to join them in doing something as a group.

Even though I know they were only joking, it was still a bit hurtful and irritating.