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Written by a specialist gay therapist, this is a personal and professional insight into the unique challenges faced by gay men battling depression. Discover the causes, warning signs, and practical strategies to manage and overcome this often silent struggle. This article offers support, understanding, and practical advice for those affected.

Being gay and depressed is a real issue for many gay men.

If you are a gay man battling depression, I want you to know you are not alone. Help is available, and there are ways for you to manage and overcome your depression.

 

How do I know this?

 

As a gay counselor, I have extensive experience helping clients manage and overcome their depression.

 

I also struggled with depression for many years. Sometimes, it felt like an endless cycle of sadness and hopelessness. As a result, I often isolated myself and felt like I couldn't talk to anyone about my feelings.

 

But as I learned more about the condition and sought professional help, I realized I wasn't alone in my struggles. Many gay men battle depression, and it's important to know that resources and support are available.

 

In this article, I will share some common causes of depression in gay men. I also offer some tips and strategies for managing your symptoms and finding the support you need to thrive.

 

Let’s get into it…

Understanding the causes of depression in gay men

The answer to this question is not one size fits all since depression can be caused and triggered by various factors.

Clinically, the most referenced cause of depression is attributed to imbalances of neurotransmitters in the brain, such as dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine. More recent research suggests that GABA, acetylcholine, and glutamate also play a role.

 

Generics also play a role in clinical depression, with more than 80 variants studied. This means that if a parent has depression, the risk of the child experiencing depression is increased, particularly in adolescence and adulthood.

However, some everyday experiences and challenges also contribute to depression in gay men. This is because trauma and stressful life events affect brain chemistry. Specifically, cortisol secretion (the “stress hormone) increases, affecting serotonin and mood regulation.

 

Here are a few examples of these everyday stressors that many gay men experience:

  • A lack of acceptance and understanding from family and friends

  • Bullying

  • Internalized homophobia

  • A lack of access to gay-friendly mental health services

  • Difficulty finding acceptance in the broader LGBTQ community

  • Economic, racial, or gender-based discrimination

 

One key factor I see in my practice is the stress of not being accepted or discriminated against within society. This can leave many gay men feeling isolated and helpless.

 

In addition, this negative stigma causes many of my clients to experience deep-seated feelings of low self-worth, leading to social anxiety, low mood, difficulty sleeping, and alcohol or drug abuse.

 

Some gay men also see me because they struggle with internal battles over coming out, navigating relationships, engaging in risky behavior, and finding acceptance within their families or peers.

 

These fears can lead to unending loneliness, resulting in an inability to cope with life's pressures, eventually leading to depression.

 

Not having a system prioritizing mental health support for gay men or positive role models also plays a vital role in this mental illness for many individuals.

 

Whether your depression is triggered by any of these issues or a blend of multiple causes, seeking help from a counselor experienced in working with the gay community is critical to addressing and managing your depression.

Recognizing the warning signs of gay depression

Depression can present itself in different ways for different people. Below is a list of common depression symptoms. If you experience any of these signs and symptoms, schedule an appointment with your doctor or get help from a mental health specialist.

  • Persistent sadness and difficulty in experiencing joy

  • Apathy or feeling numb

  • Feeling worthless or having a severely negative self-image

  • Regularly feeling incapable of handling routine tasks or minor challenges.

  • Changing sleep patterns - sleeping too much or too little

  • Increased or decreased appetite, including disordered eating

  • Ruminating on negative experiences or thoughts

  • Frequent feelings of irritability, frustration, or crankiness, including anger outbursts

  • Difficulty concentrating and focusing on anything other than negative thoughts

  • Anhedonia, or the reduced interest or pleasure in previously enjoyed activities

  • Isolation and withdrawal from social activities you used to engage in

  • Self-medicating with drugs, alcohol, or other substances as a way to cope with sleeplessness, sadness, or fatigue

  • Physical symptoms, such as headaches or digestive problems

  • Suicidal thoughts are a severe symptom of depression.

Treatment options for depression in gay men

There are many effective treatments available to manage and even relieve depression.

Depending on the severity of your symptoms, these usually involve a combination of psychiatric medication and talk therapy sessions, according to the Mayo Clinic.

Consistency is key, and don't lose focus on mood-boosting lifestyle strategies.

Medication

Antidepressant medications can reduce depression symptoms by altering levels of certain brain chemicals that regulate mood.

The most widely prescribed medications for depression are selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), such as Prozac and Lexapro, and serotonin and norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs), such as Pristiq and Effexor.

These drugs prevent serotonin and norepinephrine from being reabsorbed by nerve cells, thus increasing the amount and quality of these neurotransmitters in the brain. This improves mood and reduces the anxiety and agitation associated with depression.

Other common forms of medication include atypical antidepressants (including Remeron and Wellbutrin) and monoamine oxidase inhibitors (such as Marplan and Parnate).

Like most prescriptions, medication has downsides and may not be appropriate for everyone. Also, trial and error are sometimes needed to find the right medication since everyone responds differently. Your psychiatrist will determine if medication is necessary and how best to minimize side effects while increasing depressive symptom relief.

Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy is effective in treating depression. It helps you understand what caused those feelings and what you can do about them.

Affirmative therapy

  • A review published in February 2023 in Current Psychiatry Reports found that not all mental health care services are affirming.

  • Finding affirming care boosts your odds of keeping up with treatment and, therefore, better managing your depression.

  • Seeing a gay therapist can help you if you have experienced discrimination and prejudice in your life or if your sexual orientation contributes to your depression.

  • A gay therapist can also help you understand your feelings, learn coping mechanisms, and provide support as you work through your difficulties.

Therapy approaches

Various therapeutic treatment approaches are scientifically proven to treat depression effectively.

The approaches I use most often in therapy include the following:

  • Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) teaches you how to identify and change negative thought patterns that may contribute to your feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and related behaviors.

  • Reward processing and behavioural activation can help If your symptoms include anhedonia. The treatment underscores emphasizing practical steps you can take to regain enjoyment in life, as well as redirecting attention toward both your positive and negative experiences.

  • Interpersonal therapy focuses on interpersonal relationships, which may impact your emotional health and encourages you to build healthier connections with others.

  • Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) can help you develop mindfulness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance skills essential for managing depressive symptoms.

  • Psychodynamic therapy examines your past to understand and heal the present. It helps to bring subconscious or repressed events, feelings, and emotions into consciousness so that you can resolve them in the present.

Transcranial magnetic stimulation

Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) or Repetitive TMS (rTMS) is a noninvasive form of brain stimulation that induces an electric current in specific brain areas through electromagnetic induction.

Some key aspects of TMS include:

  • Technique: TMS stimulates nerve cells by applying short pulses of magnetic energy to areas of the brain linked to major depression.

  • Mechanism: A magnetic coil is placed against the scalp, generating a magnetic field that influences the brain's natural electrical activity.

  • Applications: TMS is primarily used to treat depression, particularly in cases where antidepressant medications and psychotherapy are ineffective (treatment-resistant depression). It has also shown potential for treating other disorders like anxiety and Parkinson's.

  • Procedure: During a TMS session, the clinician places an electromagnetic coil against the patient's scalp near the forehead. Magnetic pulses are delivered painlessly to stimulate nerve cells in the brain regions involved in mood control and depression.

Lifestyle changes

Changing your day-to-day routines and habits can help improve your mental health.

Here's how you can make some of these positive lifestyle changes:

  • Lack of sleep can worsen your symptoms of depression. Make sure you get enough sleep. Limit the use of electronic devices before bedtime, and avoid caffeine at 2 pm.

  • Unhealthy eating habits can increase your risk of depression and other mental illnesses. Talk to your doctor about taking omega-3 fatty acids, vitamins B and D.

  • Exercise can help ease your symptoms of depression. Regular physical activity improves sleep or boosts overall mood.

  • Give yourself time to participate in social events or indulge in your favorite hobby while remaining active.

  • Avoid alcohol. Drinking can worsen your symptoms of depression. It can also interfere with any medication you may be taking.

Tips for managing your depression

While depression can sometimes feel overwhelming, you can use various strategies to manage your symptoms and improve your overall well-being.

 

For starters, here are some tips:

  • Reach out for support: It's important to remember that you don't have to face depression alone. Instead, contact a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional for support.

  • Taking care of yourself is a critical way to manage depression. This can include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in regular exercise or physical activity.

  • Consider therapy: Therapy can be a beneficial tool for managing depression. A therapist can help you identify the root causes of your depression, develop coping strategies, and provide a safe and supportive environment to work through your feelings.

  • Join a support group: Being part of a support group of other gay men struggling with depression can be incredibly beneficial. You can find a sense of community and shared experiences and learn from others who have faced similar challenges.

Preventing depression

  • Learn to manage your stress: High-stress levels can exacerbate depression. It's impossible to avoid some stress, but there are ways to manage it. These include meditation, yoga, breathing exercises, physical exercise, journaling or writing, and talking to friends, support groups, or counselors.

  • Eat a healthy diet. Researchers have found that diet impacts mental health. Eating more of some foods and fewer of others may help prevent depression. Fresh fruits and vegetables, omega-3-rich foods, and fermented foods can benefit mental health.

  • Regular exercise: Staying physically active is one of the best ways to improve your brain and body. Exercise improves sleep, reduces stress, and releases feel-good chemicals. Find something you enjoy and do it regularly, whether it's yoga, cycling, swimming, or weightlifting.

  • Get help: The best thing you can do if you're already experiencing mental health issues or want to prevent them is to seek help from a doctor or counselor. If you suffer from depression or anxiety symptoms, a professional can diagnose and treat you. In addition, they can provide suggestions and tools to enhance and preserve your health if you're well.

My personal and professional experience with depression

As a gay man who has experienced depression, I understand our community's unique challenges and struggles. I discovered the importance of therapy and a supportive network through my journey. One of the reasons I became a psychotherapist was to use my experience to help others and provide them with the support I received.

 

I've also seen how therapy has helped change the lives of my clients, helping them find happiness and build resilience.

Many of my clients come to me because they struggle with depression, often caused by years of trauma and internalized homophobia. Therapy helps understand and process trauma. Gradually, my clients learn to develop effective ways to cope with negative thoughts and emotions. This, in turn, helps to improve their mental well-being significantly.

 

One of my greatest satisfactions is helping other gay men grow and live happier and more confident lives.

 

 

 

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How to have maintain good mental health to prevent depression?

 

Maintaining good mental health is essential for preventing depression and promoting overall well-being. While everyone's experience with mental health is unique, there are several evidence-based strategies that can help you build resilience, manage stress, and foster a positive mindset. Here are some key practices:

 

1. Prioritize Self-Care

  • Sleep Well: Aim for 7–9 hours of quality sleep each night. Poor sleep is strongly linked to mood disturbances and depression.
  • Eat a Balanced Diet: Focus on nutrient-rich foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats. Omega-3 fatty acids (found in fish) and magnesium (found in nuts and leafy greens) may support brain health.
  • Exercise Regularly: Physical activity releases endorphins, which improve mood. Even 20–30 minutes of walking, yoga, or dancing can make a difference.
 

2. Build Strong Social Connections

  • Stay Connected: Spend time with family, friends, or supportive communities. Loneliness and isolation can increase the risk of depression.
  • Seek Support: Share your feelings with trusted people. Talking about your emotions can help you process them and feel less burdened.
  • Join Groups or Activities: Engage in hobbies, volunteer work, or clubs to meet like-minded individuals and expand your social circle.
 

3. Practice Mindfulness and Stress Management

  • Meditation and Deep Breathing: Mindfulness meditation and breathing exercises can reduce stress and improve emotional regulation.
  • Journaling: Writing about your thoughts and feelings can help you process emotions and identify patterns.
  • Set Boundaries: Learn to say "no" when necessary and avoid overcommitting yourself. Protect your time and energy.
 

4. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

  • Practice Gratitude: Keep a gratitude journal or take a moment each day to reflect on things you're thankful for. This shifts focus away from negativity.
  • Challenge Negative Thoughts: Use cognitive-behavioral techniques to reframe unhelpful or distorted thinking patterns.
  • Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and appreciate your achievements, no matter how small.
 

5. Manage Stress Effectively

  • Time Management: Break tasks into smaller steps and prioritize them to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
  • Relaxation Techniques: Try progressive muscle relaxation, guided imagery, or listening to calming music.
  • Limit Stressors: Identify sources of stress in your life and take steps to minimize or eliminate them.
 

6. Limit Unhealthy Habits

  • Avoid Excessive Alcohol and Drugs: These substances can worsen mood and interfere with mental health.
  • Reduce Screen Time: Limit exposure to social media and news that may trigger anxiety or comparison.
  • Quit Smoking: Nicotine can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression.
 

7. Stay Mentally Active

  • Learn New Skills: Engage in activities that challenge your mind, such as reading, puzzles, or learning a new language.
  • Pursue Hobbies: Creative outlets like painting, writing, or playing an instrument can be therapeutic.
  • Volunteer: Helping others can boost your sense of purpose and fulfillment.
 

8. Seek Professional Help When Needed

  • Therapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness-based therapy, or other forms of counseling can provide tools to manage emotions.
  • Medication: If prescribed by a healthcare provider, antidepressants or other medications may be helpful for some individuals.
  • Regular Check-Ins: Schedule routine visits with a therapist or counselor, even if you're not experiencing symptoms.
 

9. Build Resilience

  • Develop Coping Skills: Learn healthy ways to deal with setbacks, such as problem-solving or seeking support.
  • Focus on Strengths: Identify your personal strengths and use them to navigate challenges.
  • Adopt a Growth Mindset: View difficulties as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles.
 

10. Monitor Your Mental Health

  • Track Your Mood: Use apps or journals to monitor changes in your emotional state over time.
  • Recognize Warning Signs: Be aware of symptoms like persistent sadness, fatigue, irritability, or loss of interest in activities.
  • Act Early: If you notice signs of depression, seek help promptly to prevent it from worsening.
 

11. Embrace Nature and Fresh Air

  • Spend Time Outdoors: Exposure to sunlight boosts serotonin levels and vitamin D, which are important for mood regulation.
  • Engage in Ecotherapy: Activities like gardening, hiking, or simply sitting in a park can have calming effects.
 

12. Practice Self-Compassion

  • Be Kind to Yourself: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend.
  • Accept Imperfection: Recognize that setbacks and mistakes are part of being human.
  • Forgive Yourself: Let go of guilt or shame over past actions and focus on moving forward.
 

13. Set Realistic Goals

  • Break Tasks Into Steps: Large goals can feel overwhelming. Break them down into manageable pieces.
  • Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge your efforts and accomplishments along the way.
 

14. Stay Informed but Avoid Overwhelm

  • Educate Yourself: Learn about mental health to better understand your needs and options.
  • Limit Negative Input: Avoid excessive consumption of distressing news or toxic content.
 

15. Foster a Sense of Purpose

  • Find Meaning: Engage in activities that align with your values or contribute to something larger than yourself.
  • Set Intentions: Start each day with a clear purpose or goal, even if it's small.
 

When to Seek Help

If you experience persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or disinterest in life, or if you have thoughts of self-harm, reach out to a mental health professional immediately. Depression is treatable, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

 

By incorporating these practices into your daily life, you can build a strong foundation for mental health and reduce your risk of depression. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and taking small steps consistently can lead to significant improvements over time.

 

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3 hours ago, jolterxtreme said:

Im thinking when can we normalize gay in singapore. why cant we deserve to be happy and share equality.. I am so depressed and sad.

 

Look around the world,  and realize that the disgrace of being gay in Singapore,  that is,  having to live in a closet if necessary for family reasons and not being able to marry officially and adopt children...  pales in comparison with other disgraces!  Discriminations based on race and ethnicity elsewhere can be much, much worse!  

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On 2/23/2025 at 1:23 PM, GachiMuchi said:

How to have maintain good mental health to prevent depression?

 

Maintaining good mental health is essential for preventing depression and promoting overall well-being. While everyone's experience with mental health is unique, there are several evidence-based strategies that can help you build resilience, manage stress, and foster a positive mindset. Here are some key practices:

....

 

 

Here I want to add to your list.  And I am again "preaching?" like I do often.  But please don't delete my post.  I have experienced a good improvement in my mental health besides my physical health by following the recommendations of Dr. William Davis in his book "Super Gut" ,  of which I posted a lot in the thread "for gays who will be seniors one day".  The mega doses of Lactobacillus Reuteri bacteria have made me more empathetic, more friendly, more emotional and more accepting.  Loneliness, depression are practically nonexistent for me,  even in the last days after my beloved 86 year old sister passed away.  

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i think no matter what, there will always be an element of not being normal.

 

things are getting better slowly, some countries we can get married. but even in those countries not 100% of society will accept, even from family, colleagues there will always be some who will be dead set against it. 

 

and even if 100% of society accepts us as equals, we cannot by nature give birth and have children, as a product of both parents (ie not the surrogate stuff).

 

this is just on the purely male/male, female/female spectrum of the LGBT rainbow. There are others in the middle, like trans or bi, who are in deeper and face even more diffficulties in getting accepted.

 

as a young teen/early 20s i remember reaching out to find sex once or twice a year when the urge became too great. after it was over i would  feel so much shame, try to get as far away from the top as soon as possible, and have a long shower. and for days after the sexual act i would feel like i have disgraced my family and my religion. my straight friends would pick up girls at clubs, ktvs, and talk about their deeds for days, like it was a badge of honour and everyone would see them as gods.

 

thus, the very fact that only a fraction of not straight folk are depressed is a miracle.

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On 5/8/2025 at 8:46 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

I have experienced a good improvement in my mental health besides my physical health by following the recommendations of Dr. William Davis in his book "Super Gut"   The mega doses of Lactobacillus Reuteri bacteria have made me more empathetic, more friendly, more emotional and more accepting.  Loneliness, depression are practically nonexistent for me,  even in the last days after my beloved 86 year old sister passed away.  

You bought in Dr William's preaching?   There are a fair number of buyers, in Amazon,  of "Super Gut" wrote rather discouraging and negative comments about Dr William's book.  With regard to your mental health, I don't believe it has anything to do with your gut's bacterias, but rather lifestyle choices, happiness, sleeping well....etc

 

On 5/8/2025 at 4:44 AM, jolterxtreme said:

Im thinking when can we normalize gay in singapore. why cant we deserve to be happy and share equality.. I am so depressed and sad.

Don't try to normalise gay into something else. Normalization is a mental state that should make us comfortable with what we already have: acceptance of our existence, freedom to engage in private sexual activity without hindrance or penalty, the ability to live in our own public housing, employment, and LGBT nightlife.  Comparatively speaking, Singapore remains a better place than other neighboring countries with more radicalized societies.  At least you don't get beaten up while you're out on your own in the street if you're homosexual or transgender.  Unless you deliberately cause public nuisance, gay or straight, nobody is going to report you to the authority or police.

On 2/24/2025 at 3:10 AM, GachiMuchi said:

Here are a few examples of these everyday stressors that many gay men experience:

  • A lack of acceptance and understanding from family and friends

  • Bullying

  • Internalized homophobia

  • A lack of access to gay-friendly mental health services

  • Difficulty finding acceptance in the broader LGBTQ community

  • Economic, racial, or gender-based discrimination

The concept of depression among homosexual men varies widely between cultures and geographical locations.   The following may apply to gay men living alone in Singapore in general.

 


1) Unable to find a long-term partner or companion.
2) Health issues
3) Having financial difficulties
4) Job loss
5) You were responsible for looking after family members.
6) Not knowing how to interact with others, be proactive, or ask for assistance
7) Coping with nearby insane and mentally impaired individuals
😎 Hallucination, which led to sentiments of powerlessness and fear.
9) Your presence in this world is nonexistent if your family is distant, you have no friends, and you are totally abandoned.
10) A lack of information and knowledge in a world that is always changing.
11) Continued to experience emotional and physical stress.

12) Can't let go of your past life.

13) The inability to prepare and make adjustments that make starting a new chapter seem unappealing.

14) Always feeling paranoid.

15) Too much depressing drama and stories were read and watched, and you attempted to transfer them onto yourself.

16) Sadness, rage, jealousy, and envy because you enjoy comparing other people's lives to make yours appear miserable.
17) You enjoy worrying about a lot of things that are out of your control and beyond your grasp.

18)  You feel inferior about your own physical image, look and body.

19)  Lack of confidence to confront challenging situations, alone.

 

 

Which of the above boxes have u ticked?

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6 hours ago, btmslut said:

i think no matter what, there will always be an element of not being normal.

...

and even if 100% of society accepts us as equals, we cannot by nature give birth and have children, as a product of both parents (ie not the surrogate stuff).

...

 

Unless you are sterile,  you can by nature procreate children, gay or not!  Don't you have a cock that can get hard, balls that produce semen?  I am gay and I have a son, a very good one.  You could like I did fall in love with a woman and have sex even if it is not the best,  or you could find a surrogate mother, maybe a lesbian who also would like to have a child, and... let her do all the work to turn you on.  

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3 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

You bought in Dr William's preaching?   There are a fair number of buyers, in Amazon,  of "Super Gut" wrote rather discouraging and negative comments about Dr William's book.  With regard to your mental health, I don't believe it has anything to do with your gut's bacterias, but rather lifestyle choices, happiness, sleeping well....etc

 

 

You need to look again at the ratings of "Super Gut".   It is 4.5 out of 5!  And 78% of reviewers give it five stars!  And you need to get updated in preventive medicine.  More findings confirm that mental health is dependent on metabolism, that is, what goes on in our digestive system influences our brain.  GOOD bacteria improve our mental health. And mental health influences our lifestyle choices, happiness, sleeping well... etc.

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On 5/8/2025 at 8:46 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

I have experienced a good improvement in my mental health besides my physical health by following the recommendations of Dr. William Davis in his book "Super Gut" ,  of which I posted a lot in the thread "for gays who will be seniors one day".  The mega doses of Lactobacillus Reuteri bacteria have made me more empathetic, more friendly, more emotiona....yada..yada...blah blah blah....

Although you may have the best interests of gay men in mind, there may be a risk you were unaware of.  While some friendly bacteria could be excellent for your stomach, too much of a good thing might be problematic for people who have autoimmune illnesses, sensitive guts, migraines all the time, etc.   The best course of action is to speak with your doctor, completely comprehend your body's needs, identify any sensitive places in your system, find out what triggers discomfort in your life, etc.   .  Then and only then, equipped with your own facts and knowledge, you may choose who to listen to and what equipment to purchase before embarking on Dr. YouTuber's adventures.  The usual saying goes:  a tonic to some may be  toxic to others and many happy gay men didn't want that to happen and then felt depressed as a result of taking wrong advices.

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On 5/8/2025 at 1:57 PM, btmslut said:

and even if 100% of society accepts us as equals, we cannot by nature give birth and have children,

 

Let me rephrase it for you.   Except in the unlikely event that a woman happens to find your donated sperm in a sperm bank and you end up with offsprings you never knew, you are not naturally inclined to get a woman pregnant.    

On 5/8/2025 at 8:46 AM, Steve5380 said:

Loneliness, depression are practically nonexistent for me,  even in the last days after my beloved 86 year old sister passed away.  

I'm sorry to hear of your sister's passing.   Did you fulfill your pledge to take her on vacation to your homeland in Argentina?

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2 hours ago, Why? said:

Let me rephrase it for you.   Except in the unlikely event that a woman happens to find your donated sperm in a sperm bank and you end up with offsprings you never knew, you are not naturally inclined to get a woman pregnant.    

I'm sorry to hear of your sister's passing.   Did you fulfill your pledge to take her on vacation to your homeland in Argentina?

 

Thanks.  Our trip to Argentina was planned for the future.  And about what we are "not naturally inclined"?   The list of items we are not "naturally inclined" is nearly endless... What matters is what we can do or not do.  And WE CAN make babies. :thumb:

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4 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Although you may have the best interests of gay men in mind, there may be a risk you were unaware of.  While some friendly bacteria could be excellent for your stomach, too much of a good thing might be problematic for people who have autoimmune illnesses, sensitive guts, migraines all the time, etc.   The best course of action is to speak with your doctor, completely comprehend your body's needs, identify any sensitive places in your system, find out what triggers discomfort in your life, etc.   .  Then and only then, equipped with your own facts and knowledge, you may choose who to listen to and what equipment to purchase before embarking on Dr. YouTuber's adventures.  The usual saying goes:  a tonic to some may be  toxic to others and many happy gay men didn't want that to happen and then felt depressed as a result of taking wrong advices.

 

Your comment must be the result of your spirit of contradiction.  No one challenges the advice of exercising for good health, yet you could come up with a million cases of people for whom exercising is problematic.   But to ingest friendly bacteria IS A GOOD ADVICE, and not only for gays.  It is not different than the advice to eat avocados, eggs, blueberries for good health.  Would you "speak with your doctor" before eating them? Not everyone needs to "speak with their doctors", there are not enough doctors in the world!

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