Need some relationship advice

[just_random]

It’s probably just me being too overly attached and one sided. So……

I’ve met this guy from the G app and at around February, and has been texting. After which, he had to fly overseas for work hence we continued texting daily and had weekly video calls. I must say the the texts isn’t as fresh as before that one thing to note. But we did had plans to travel later this year and had booked air tickets.

Few weeks later, he had developed some dermatology medical issues and that’s where it started dying down as he said that he needs time to be alone and had no mood to text or communicate much as he is having anxiety and troubling with his issue. So we hardly texted.

Afterwards, as we initially planned to fly separately to the country as he and I are in long distance, he gave a heads up to me that the trip might have to be cancelled as he might be flying back home earlier from his overseas work due to his condition and not end of the year. But he’ll try to stay there longer and make the trip happen as my flight can’t be cancelled or refunded.

Recently, he gave me an update that he would be flying back home for a short trip due his condition and texted me that “we meet and talk more as well as discuss about the trip.”

So for the past few weeks till now, I’ve noticed from time to time from he posts ig stories and spending time with his friends. And I also noticed occasionally he was active on the G app.

I understand that he needs time alone and also needs his friends around him. But is it just me or I do feel I’m overly attached to him with all this things going on. And he probably had lesser attachment as compared to me.

Side note: he was the one that wanted daily texts, initiates weekly video calls as well as the trip. Till now he does occasionally react to my ig stories. And we aren’t exclusive. 

So I’m lost right now and I need some advices.

Edited May 28, 2025 by just_random

[cbm]

Here's what chatgpt says:

 

1. Mixed Signals & Changing Dynamics
It seems like the connection started strong, with consistent texting, calls, and even a planned trip—initiated largely by him. But after his medical issue, his engagement dropped significantly. That shift in behavior can be confusing, especially when it's not clearly communicated.

 

2. His Medical Condition and Avoidance
It’s possible his health issues are genuinely distressing, leading him to withdraw emotionally. People handle stress differently—some isolate, some seek comfort. However, if he’s well enough to socialize and use the G app, that signals he’s not completely withdrawing from everyone, just possibly from the OP.

 

3. The IG and G App Activity
This is understandably hurtful. It’s not wrong to want clarity or feel a disconnect between his words (“I need space”) and actions (social media activity). It doesn’t mean he’s lying, but it suggests that OP may not be his current priority, which is important to acknowledge without self-blame.

 

4. Emotional Investment & Imbalance
OP seems more emotionally invested than he is right now. That doesn't mean OP did anything wrong—attachment happens—but it’s important to protect your emotional well-being if someone is no longer showing the same care and commitment.

 

Advice for OP:

Don’t ignore your gut. The sense of being “overly attached” isn’t something to be ashamed of, but it’s a signal that you’re emotionally tied to someone who’s not meeting you where you are.

 

Have a gentle, honest check-in. When he’s back and you meet, talk openly: “I’ve been feeling unsure about where we stand, especially with how things have changed. I just want to understand where your head and heart are.”

 

Don’t wait in limbo. If his answers are vague or avoidant, take that as a cue to step back. You deserve clarity—not breadcrumb interactions or lingering hope.

 

Value your feelings. It’s not “just you.” Your longing for connection is real, and it’s okay to want more. But try not to chase someone who isn’t showing up for you consistently.
 

[doncoin]

Rather than sitting around and wait for him, just ask him directly and get clarity. There is no point moping around, especially with the trip. You still have time to ask a friend to join if things don't go the way you hoped. 

[tinkymale]

Just ask him be frank abiut what’s coming up between you two. Perhaps he just want a friendship and not a relationship. So don’t set expectations 

[wanton_mee]

Is all Your own expectation. how I felt from my own experience. 

[egal]

takes two to tnago

 

 

he seems no longer keen

[yhtang]

19 hours ago, just_random said:

It’s probably just me being too overly attached and one sided. So……

I’ve met this guy from the G app and at around February, and has been texting. After which, he had to fly overseas for work hence we continued texting daily and had weekly video calls. I must say the the texts isn’t as fresh as before that one thing to note. But we did had plans to travel later this year and had booked air tickets.

Few weeks later, he had developed some dermatology medical issues and that’s where it started dying down as he said that he needs time to be alone and had no mood to text or communicate much as he is having anxiety and troubling with his issue. So we hardly texted.

Afterwards, as we initially planned to fly separately to the country as he and I are in long distance, he gave a heads up to me that the trip might have to be cancelled as he might be flying back home earlier from his overseas work due to his condition and not end of the year. But he’ll try to stay there longer and make the trip happen as my flight can’t be cancelled or refunded.

Recently, he gave me an update that he would be flying back home for a short trip due his condition and texted me that “we meet and talk more as well as discuss about the trip.”

So for the past few weeks till now, I’ve noticed from time to time from he posts ig stories and spending time with his friends. And I also noticed occasionally he was active on the G app.

I understand that he needs time alone and also needs his friends around him. But is it just me or I do feel I’m overly attached to him with all this things going on. And he probably had lesser attachment as compared to me.

Side note: he was the one that wanted daily texts, initiates weekly video calls as well as the trip. Till now he does occasionally react to my ig stories.

So I’m lost right now and I need some advices.

 

I think the most annoying thing about relationships is the uncertainty factor.

 

You felt you had a relationship with him, and all seemed to be going well.  Suddenly, things do not seem to be what it was.  The reasons/excuses given can be anything, but the fact is that his subsequent actions and activities do not seem to collaborate his reasons/excuses for keeping his distance. 

 

I feel you have put in much effort into this relationship but it does not seem to have been reciprocated.  You now feel lost. 

 

But you feel lost because 

1)  you believed you had a relationship

2)  you expect the feelings to be reciprocated

3)  you find his activities incongruous with the reasons he gave to keep his distance from you

4)  you cannot accept that his investment in this relationship is not equal to your investment in this relationship.

 

In short, you cannot accept you have been dumped. 

 

I know it is easier said than done, but I think you deserve better, and it is time to let go.

 

I have been through similar, and in my case, it took a long time to forget.  But I could only start to forget when I learned to value myself more, and was willing to let go of (what I thought was a) relationship.  So it can be done, as many had before you did.  Try to let go and love yourself more. 

 

I hope all goes well for you. 

 

 

 

[wanton_mee]

1 hour ago, egal said:

takes two to tnago

 

 

he seems no longer keen

Machiam play squash ..but the wall is no longer there.. there goes the ball on the 😆runway. 

[egal]

squash u can play alone, lol

[wanton_mee]

1 minute ago, egal said:

squash u can play alone, lol

Need a wall but his wall has collapsed.

[egal]

if it was a wall, then he has not been very reactive at all, lol

[MasterFitMalaySG4U]

Obviously red flag haha why wait for someone childish? Not worth your time. 

 

That is why it is good to be direct if he is serious show it or prove it if not well play with your regulars haha 

 

Don't wait for someone who choose to let you hanging or drama or childish or insecure haha 

 

If u r that worthy he/she will do anything to maintain it haha 

[GachiMuchi]

On 5/27/2025 at 9:17 PM, just_random said:

It’s probably just me being too overly attached and one sided. So……

I’ve met this guy from the G app and at around February, and has been texting. After which, he had to fly overseas for work hence we continued texting daily and had weekly video calls. I must say the the texts isn’t as fresh as before that one thing to note. But we did had plans to travel later this year and had booked air tickets.

Few weeks later, he had developed some dermatology medical issues and that’s where it started dying down as he said that he needs time to be alone and had no mood to text or communicate much as he is having anxiety and troubling with his issue. So we hardly texted.

Afterwards, as we initially planned to fly separately to the country as he and I are in long distance, he gave a heads up to me that the trip might have to be cancelled as he might be flying back home earlier from his overseas work due to his condition and not end of the year. But he’ll try to stay there longer and make the trip happen as my flight can’t be cancelled or refunded.

Recently, he gave me an update that he would be flying back home for a short trip due his condition and texted me that “we meet and talk more as well as discuss about the trip.”

So for the past few weeks till now, I’ve noticed from time to time from he posts ig stories and spending time with his friends. And I also noticed occasionally he was active on the G app.

I understand that he needs time alone and also needs his friends around him. But is it just me or I do feel I’m overly attached to him with all this things going on. And he probably had lesser attachment as compared to me.

Side note: he was the one that wanted daily texts, initiates weekly video calls as well as the trip. Till now he does occasionally react to my ig stories. And we aren’t exclusive. 

So I’m lost right now and I need some advices.

 

If that person is a scammer, I am certain you will be scammed.

Also, I think that you should take it easy with him.

I won't be surprised that he might cancel the trip eventually due to some reason/s that crops up.

I thinik you can tell somewhat from what you had written and I am sorry to tell you that, it will happen just as you had thought.

I hope you can treat him just as causual friend and not someone that you want to considered as a partner. Then you won't feel so bad.

 

My 2 cents.

Edited May 30, 2025 by GachiMuchi

[Guest NVIDIA]

Sorry if I’m intruding. Let me know if I did. I needed someone advice regarding my current r/s of 15 years.

 

There is a 3rd party (XS) in our r/s lately it seems. I have a group of friends (including me 6 pax, 3 couples) whom we do yearly trip together. My partner, E, is a gd friend of R in the group. 
 

In Aug 2023 group trip, R brought XS to a dinner during the trip and introduced him to the group. There was no contact between him, E and myself after that dinner. In February this year, XS unexpectedly reached out to E via Instagram. Point to note, E’s instagram is private. E mentioned it briefly, and I didn’t think anything of it at the time.
Although we were a group of six, XS made friends with everyone except me. Recently, while on another group trip, I noticed E texting XS frequently, which made me suspicious. After we returned to Singapore, I checked E’s phone and discovered they had been flirting.

 

I also found out they met for dinner in March, and since the restaurant was near XS home, I suspect it’s more than just a dinner. E thanked him for a lovely evening while he texted me that he fell asleep on the cough. Subsequent messages also revealed that XS gave him a tour of his condo.

 

Some of the texts as follows 

 

Somehow u make me feel comfy enuf to do so

1 actually like a diff hand/stroke/ mouth than my own/regular/tenga

Feels diff

Can't really describe it well

Not sure if u get it

For eg if I use my left hand for a change, I can't get that feel

 

Actually as much as I look fwd to Mon, I'm also a bit worried where this might lead to... what if it real goes to the extreme...
 

 

Eg we enjoy the chat/dinner, n 1 thing lead to another n evnetually moving onto organic activity n then if we like that too, it may become an addiction and where this might lead us to eventually etc

Mabbe I'm over thking

 

Although I’m angry at E, but I’m still want this r/s. Should I just close an eye and pretend I dunno? I just felt this XS shd be punished. ChatGPT has advised me against it.

[cbm]

On 6/14/2026 at 7:44 AM, Guest NVIDIA said:

Sorry if I’m intruding. Let me know if I did. I needed someone advice regarding my current r/s of 15 years.

 

There is a 3rd party (XS) in our r/s lately it seems. I have a group of friends (including me 6 pax, 3 couples) whom we do yearly trip together. My partner, E, is a gd friend of R in the group. 
 

In Aug 2023 group trip, R brought XS to a dinner during the trip and introduced him to the group. There was no contact between him, E and myself after that dinner. In February this year, XS unexpectedly reached out to E via Instagram. Point to note, E’s instagram is private. E mentioned it briefly, and I didn’t think anything of it at the time.
Although we were a group of six, XS made friends with everyone except me. Recently, while on another group trip, I noticed E texting XS frequently, which made me suspicious. After we returned to Singapore, I checked E’s phone and discovered they had been flirting.

 

I also found out they met for dinner in March, and since the restaurant was near XS home, I suspect it’s more than just a dinner. E thanked him for a lovely evening while he texted me that he fell asleep on the cough. Subsequent messages also revealed that XS gave him a tour of his condo.

 

Some of the texts as follows 

 

Somehow u make me feel comfy enuf to do so

1 actually like a diff hand/stroke/ mouth than my own/regular/tenga

Feels diff

Can't really describe it well

Not sure if u get it

For eg if I use my left hand for a change, I can't get that feel

 

Actually as much as I look fwd to Mon, I'm also a bit worried where this might lead to... what if it real goes to the extreme...
 

 

Eg we enjoy the chat/dinner, n 1 thing lead to another n evnetually moving onto organic activity n then if we like that too, it may become an addiction and where this might lead us to eventually etc

Mabbe I'm over thking

 

Although I’m angry at E, but I’m still want this r/s. Should I just close an eye and pretend I dunno? I just felt this XS shd be punished. ChatGPT has advised me against it.

 

Have a honest talk about your concerns to E. 

 

It's easy to blame the third party XS but he's not the one who's in a relationship with you. It's E.

[Guest NVIDIA]

Yeah.. I plan to have a talk with E. Wonder if this XS needs to be dealt with. He seems to come calculated 

[singalion]

On 6/14/2026 at 7:44 AM, Guest NVIDIA said:

Sorry if I’m intruding. Let me know if I did. I needed someone advice regarding my current r/s of 15 years.

 

There is a 3rd party (XS) in our r/s lately it seems. I have a group of friends (including me 6 pax, 3 couples) whom we do yearly trip together. My partner, E, is a gd friend of R in the group. 
 

In Aug 2023 group trip, R brought XS to a dinner during the trip and introduced him to the group. There was no contact between him, E and myself after that dinner. In February this year, XS unexpectedly reached out to E via Instagram. Point to note, E’s instagram is private. E mentioned it briefly, and I didn’t think anything of it at the time.
Although we were a group of six, XS made friends with everyone except me. Recently, while on another group trip, I noticed E texting XS frequently, which made me suspicious. After we returned to Singapore, I checked E’s phone and discovered they had been flirting.

 

I also found out they met for dinner in March, and since the restaurant was near XS home, I suspect it’s more than just a dinner. E thanked him for a lovely evening while he texted me that he fell asleep on the cough. Subsequent messages also revealed that XS gave him a tour of his condo.

 

Some of the texts as follows 

 

Somehow u make me feel comfy enuf to do so

1 actually like a diff hand/stroke/ mouth than my own/regular/tenga

Feels diff

Can't really describe it well

Not sure if u get it

For eg if I use my left hand for a change, I can't get that feel

 

Actually as much as I look fwd to Mon, I'm also a bit worried where this might lead to... what if it real goes to the extreme...
 

 

Eg we enjoy the chat/dinner, n 1 thing lead to another n evnetually moving onto organic activity n then if we like that too, it may become an addiction and where this might lead us to eventually etc

Mabbe I'm over thking

 

Although I’m angry at E, but I’m still want this r/s. Should I just close an eye and pretend I dunno? I just felt this XS shd be punished. ChatGPT has advised me against it.

 

15 years, congrats.

 

Yes, Routine in a relationship is a killer. Sex cooled down , every day is the same, weekends also....

 

The way XS avoiding you during the trip tells stories. 

 

My advice to you:

Surprise your Bf, be early home, create a romantic setting. See how he reacts.

 

Propose a Holiday Trip just the two of you.

 

Talk to your feelings about XS and  If you need to be worried in any Case.

 

If he confesses about a fling be shortly upset but not overly. 

 

Actually, if your bf still keeps with you, it might be just a fling. 

 

I advise against reading the Phone messages of your Bf. 

a) it won't make you Happy

b) your Bf might feel  too controlled.

 

 

 

[doncoin]

Well, just make it a throuple situation so you won't be left out. Make it clear to your bf, that if he wants to continue engaging with XS, you must be included. 

[Guest Jjj]

I am feeling really stuck and hurt with my boyfriend of 2 years. He almost never initiates physical with me.

 

The confusing part is that when he was single, he had a very active lifestyle and told me he had a high need. Since we got together, I noticed early on that he rarely starts anything, usually only when he’s hungover. He also has a history of stepping out in past relationships, which he claimed was because his exes withheld affection. He says he is happy and committed to me because my drive matches what he used to claim his was.

 

Right now, we are about "once a week", but it is always me starting it. If I didn't, it wouldn't happen. He ask for it maybe once a month. We live together, have separate rooms, but spend hours watching shows and cuddling in bed. He is generally affectionate, but that’s where it stops.

 

Here is the real issue: I’ve noticed he watches content online a lot (it’s the top site on his browser history, probably 3–5 days a week). I told him I don't want to be with someone who prefers a screen over me. He denies it, downplays how much he watches, and says it’s just to help him sleep. I even caught him on a paid fan-subscription site once, which he knew crossed a line.

 

Whenever I try to talk about how this makes me feel unwanted, his answers change:

 

First, he claims he does initiate.

 

Then, he says it shouldn't matter who starts it.

 

Recently, he flipped it on me, saying he actually has a lower need than me and that me talking about it "ruins the mood" and makes it worse.

 

He refuses to schedule romantic time because he wants "spontaneity," but if I stay quiet and wait for that spontaneity, nothing happens. He just lets me go back to my room to sleep. If I dress up in front of him, he barely looks. Yet, when we share his laptop, his recent searches are constantly of celebrities.

 

I finally asked him directly if he just wasn't attracted to me anymore (I've gained a little weight, but am still very average). He admitted that "sometimes, but not often" he wants it but just not with me, though he claims he still finds me attractive overall.

 

He clearly has a high need, just apparently not for me. Has anyone dealt with a partner who chooses a screen over real-life connection? How do you address it when they just blame you for bringing it up?

[doncoin]

There are two ways to look at this: 

1. it could be a physical thing, i.e. age, low testosterone
2. or he is no longer into you. 
3. or he has an addiction to his devices. 

You are not growing together. You are growing apart. 

 

He is gaslighting you that he is initiating intimacy. You have the receipts to prove that he is not. Basically, he is making this your fault and he is in denial that there is a problem between the two of you. 

 

You cannot have a conversation with someone like your bf unless he is ready and open to have that conversation. Your attempts have been futile, and will continue to be so. 

 

At this point, your best option is to plan your exit. There is no point being in a relationship with someone who does not want to be in it with you. 

[kaze]

Could be numerous reasons. But whatever it is, one should love himself more than he loves the other person. Otherwise, it will just end in tragedy.

 

I think you should internalise what is happening now, think about what you want and chat with him. If you're unhappy, you should voice it out. Be factual, straight to the point and not make claims. If he makes excuses, tell him the actions doesn't align with what he says or current dynamics doesn't go in the manner that you wanted. Ask him what does he want and see if it aligns with what you want. 

 

I guess, the elephant here is if your relationship isn't going in the direction that you wanted, are you prepared to let it go? 

[Raveology]

if you feel that it is one-sided / he is not putting in effort for this ship, and it is affecting you mentally. best is to take a step back and draw a line.

 

if he need your support, he will find you. if not, he will find whatever reason to push you aside. 

 

dont let one person affect you, although it is hard to do so. but not worth.. i guess~

[singalion]

On 7/8/2026 at 5:42 AM, Guest Jjj said:

I am feeling really stuck and hurt with my boyfriend of 2 years. He almost never initiates physical with me.

 

The confusing part is that when he was single, he had a very active lifestyle and told me he had a high need. Since we got together, I noticed early on that he rarely starts anything, usually only when he’s hungover. He also has a history of stepping out in past relationships, which he claimed was because his exes withheld affection. He says he is happy and committed to me because my drive matches what he used to claim his was.

 

Right now, we are about "once a week", but it is always me starting it. If I didn't, it wouldn't happen. He ask for it maybe once a month. We live together, have separate rooms, but spend hours watching shows and cuddling in bed. He is generally affectionate, but that’s where it stops.

 

Here is the real issue: I’ve noticed he watches content online a lot (it’s the top site on his browser history, probably 3–5 days a week). I told him I don't want to be with someone who prefers a screen over me. He denies it, downplays how much he watches, and says it’s just to help him sleep. I even caught him on a paid fan-subscription site once, which he knew crossed a line.

 

Whenever I try to talk about how this makes me feel unwanted, his answers change:

 

First, he claims he does initiate.

 

Then, he says it shouldn't matter who starts it.

 

Recently, he flipped it on me, saying he actually has a lower need than me and that me talking about it "ruins the mood" and makes it worse.

 

He refuses to schedule romantic time because he wants "spontaneity," but if I stay quiet and wait for that spontaneity, nothing happens. He just lets me go back to my room to sleep. If I dress up in front of him, he barely looks. Yet, when we share his laptop, his recent searches are constantly of celebrities.

 

I finally asked him directly if he just wasn't attracted to me anymore (I've gained a little weight, but am still very average). He admitted that "sometimes, but not often" he wants it but just not with me, though he claims he still finds me attractive overall.

 

He clearly has a high need, just apparently not for me. Has anyone dealt with a partner who chooses a screen over real-life connection? How do you address it when they just blame you for bringing it up?

 

Hm, ...

 

You didn't mention ages, then it is always difficult to assess. 

It could really mean that he is falling into a lower testosterone phase and just having fewer mood for fun. 

Then the withdrawal reaction is a bit due to his personal embarrassment of confessing to you. 

 

I am surprised that you sleep in separate rooms. For early years in couples it shouldn't be. I understand some guys can be snoring like hell at night, but ...

 

It could hint, that he is intending to move out but just doesn't want to tell you now due to certain reasons. 

 

I would also not be overdemanding on sex or pushy, it can make the sex part to a routine and somehow just given in, to satisfy the other. In particular, if the other partner refrains from coming himself. That comes to an unwanted feeling and to a must, but will sooner or later cause the breakup, because the other doesn't enjoy the fun. 

 

My personal advice in such a situation would be: 

Do the surprise thing. Go home early, prepare a nice dinner, make the bedroom you usually play romantic. 

Further, try to change things out of the common sex play. Routine is the biggest relationship killer. 

Just start something new that might thrill him more. 

As we don't know your roles, but if you're the bottom put on some sexy tanga etc...

 

A common holiday to an island or something might also help. Get out of the daily routine. 

 

The thing with his starting screentime addiction I would tackle later... if it is porn, then it is another thing. In the latter it could mean that his sexual attraction to you has waned. 

 

And eventually, yes often people in love put on fat, do something about it and get in shape again... 

 

 

 

 

Edited July 11 by singalion

[Guest Huanxi]

I am dating who is a drop out. We have been together 2 years in a stable relationship. But we had our toxic on-and-off breakups for 2 years before ending it officially, then getting back together in a stable relationship (now). So that explains why my family is not having a really good impression of him. We have been dating secretly for 2 years now. Both our families know we are dating, just that they don't know its the same partner.

 

I have not introduced him to my family and I'm scared to do so cos idk how and what kind of response I'm gonna get. I honestly get stressed when I think about 'what if my family does not like him'? I don't know what I will do then, because I can't abandon my family but I really do not want to leave him.

 

Another problem that comes with this is that he is a drop out and has no intention to earn money for now. He is focusing on his dreams, and aspirations and I fully support that. But I can't help and wonder what happens if I marry him. What about our financial issues? I am going to graduate in about 1.5 years and my starting pay is low- in fact, this industry is known for being underpaid. So I can't depend on him to pay for housing, food, car etc. He said that if his dreams dont work in 10(?) years, he will start looking for a job. I am not sure how to feel about that- he does not have any working experience and does not even have a degree.

 

Idk how to feel about this whole situation, but I do know that I want to work it out with him. Hopefully anyone with similar experience can share?

[fetish69]

13 hours ago, Guest Huanxi said:

I am dating who is a drop out. We have been together 2 years in a stable relationship. But we had our toxic on-and-off breakups for 2 years before ending it officially, then getting back together in a stable relationship (now). So that explains why my family is not having a really good impression of him. We have been dating secretly for 2 years now. Both our families know we are dating, just that they don't know its the same partner.

 

I have not introduced him to my family and I'm scared to do so cos idk how and what kind of response I'm gonna get. I honestly get stressed when I think about 'what if my family does not like him'? I don't know what I will do then, because I can't abandon my family but I really do not want to leave him.

 

Another problem that comes with this is that he is a drop out and has no intention to earn money for now. He is focusing on his dreams, and aspirations and I fully support that. But I can't help and wonder what happens if I marry him. What about our financial issues? I am going to graduate in about 1.5 years and my starting pay is low- in fact, this industry is known for being underpaid. So I can't depend on him to pay for housing, food, car etc. He said that if his dreams dont work in 10(?) years, he will start looking for a job. I am not sure how to feel about that- he does not have any working experience and does not even have a degree.

 

Idk how to feel about this whole situation, but I do know that I want to work it out with him. Hopefully anyone with similar experience can share?

He is living in fantasy if I were you give him another year if he doesn't change just moved on. Plus, now is hard to get someone is faithful to you even normal marriage falling apart. Go dating also need money don't say money not everything.

[AlifBttm]

On 5/27/2025 at 9:17 PM, just_random said:

It’s probably just me being too overly attached and one sided. So……

I’ve met this guy from the G app and at around February, and has been texting. After which, he had to fly overseas for work hence we continued texting daily and had weekly video calls. I must say the the texts isn’t as fresh as before that one thing to note. But we did had plans to travel later this year and had booked air tickets.

Few weeks later, he had developed some dermatology medical issues and that’s where it started dying down as he said that he needs time to be alone and had no mood to text or communicate much as he is having anxiety and troubling with his issue. So we hardly texted.

Afterwards, as we initially planned to fly separately to the country as he and I are in long distance, he gave a heads up to me that the trip might have to be cancelled as he might be flying back home earlier from his overseas work due to his condition and not end of the year. But he’ll try to stay there longer and make the trip happen as my flight can’t be cancelled or refunded.

Recently, he gave me an update that he would be flying back home for a short trip due his condition and texted me that “we meet and talk more as well as discuss about the trip.”

So for the past few weeks till now, I’ve noticed from time to time from he posts ig stories and spending time with his friends. And I also noticed occasionally he was active on the G app.

I understand that he needs time alone and also needs his friends around him. But is it just me or I do feel I’m overly attached to him with all this things going on. And he probably had lesser attachment as compared to me.

Side note: he was the one that wanted daily texts, initiates weekly video calls as well as the trip. Till now he does occasionally react to my ig stories. And we aren’t exclusive. 

So I’m lost right now and I need some advices.

Hi,

 

my advice, just move on with your life. Perhaps u should stop messaging him and see, when he gonna txt or call u. Just act you dont know whats going on but remember, dont put too much hope as nowadays, too much pple are not being faithful to one. this is just my 2cents advice.. decision is all urs.. but pls protect ur heart at all cost.. cheers buddy.

[doncoin]

I have to assume that given his lack of intention to earn money, someone else is funding his life. It's great to chase your dreams, but there has to be specific milestones to know if you are moving closer or further away from making them come true. Ask your bf what are specific steps he intends to take to make the dream come true, and make sure he is taking those steps. Otherwise, it is just talk. 

 

The truth is, unless you are ok with being in a relationship with a financial leech, you are better off single.  

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My boyfriend, who I’d been with for two years, had been acting strangely lately. He had just told me he was going on a weekend trip with his friends to Johor Bahru. He seemed excited, but I couldn’t help but feel a bit uneasy.

 

He did not have a habit of grooming his...

 

The tipping point for me was when I noticed he had shaved hair before the trip. This was something he had never done before, and it just seemed so out of character for him because he was pretty lazy with his grooming.

 

I had to know what was going on.

 

I confronted him about it and he got angry. He told me I was being ridiculous and that I was reading too much into it. He said I was being paranoid and that I was the one who was going to ruin the weekend for him.

 

He was so mad that he did not contact me and left for Johor Bahru without telling me that he has already left Singapore.

 

I let him go, but I was still suspicious. Turns out, my suspicion was right all along.

 

My boyfriend had not logged out of his Instagram from his computer and I decided to look it up because I was really suspicious.

 

While looking at the Insta stories on his profile, I saw a girl's story which showed that my boyfriend and her were clearly having a good time and looked to be very close.

 

Further stories even showed that she gave him a peck on his cheeks. My heart sank and I couldn’t believe it that he had been cheating on me for I don't know how long.

 

It broke my heart and I don't know how I can trust him ever again.

[wanton_mee]

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