JamesAdmas Posted February 5 Share Posted February 5 Just wondering what would you lie about, or have been lied about in a dating app profile? Anything apart from sometime very obvious like a very hot picture with no info ( i think a classic MB profile) or AI generated images Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Why? Posted February 5 Share Posted February 5 There is more incentive not to mention anything in your profile, if you plan not to disclose your "dark side", rather than to lie about it to gain attraction. Whatever your motives are, it is good to walk with guilt-free conscience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesAdmas Posted February 5 Author Share Posted February 5 My reasoning was because i saw someone in grindr that i know personally and they had lied explicitly about something that was very apparent. So was wondering what people lie about? Or they realise they were lied about? I too have admitedly not updated my age in some profiles for a couple of years ..... 🤪 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leckmich Posted February 5 Share Posted February 5 you seriously thought someone would openly confess it here? lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesAdmas Posted February 6 Author Share Posted February 6 Hehe this is main forum, guest guests are always open 🤣😂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted February 6 Share Posted February 6 Isn't it obvious... Being lied about is in chronological order of appearance: - dick size - age - kg - body shape - being in a relationship - being married - intention of engaging in penetrative sex (certain guys tell you they want to be bottomed but actually just want to suck dick or just jerk - intention to meet up (what I call dick pic collectors) just wanting to view your dick without any intention to meet (very prevalent in Singapore) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesAdmas Posted February 6 Author Share Posted February 6 4 hours ago, singalion said: Isn't it obvious... Being lied about is in chronological order of appearance: - dick size - age - kg - body shape - being in a relationship - being married - intention of engaging in penetrative sex (certain guys tell you they want to be bottomed but actually just want to suck dick or just jerk - intention to meet up (what I call dick pic collectors) just wanting to view your dick without any intention to meet (very prevalent in Singapore) Well i would like to add a few - height ( and i have seen big differences) - ethnicity (unfortunately, but yes some people cover that up, i guess because the "preferences" in SG are very strong) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted February 6 Share Posted February 6 I try to approach it with some empathy. A lot of people who lie or exaggerate on dating apps have already decided, consciously or not, that their real selves aren’t enough to attract attention. If you believe you’re not desirable as you are, it’s tempting to edit the profile into someone you think will succeed. The problem is that it tends to backfire. If someone shows genuine interest, there’s no easy way to follow through because the persona you created isn’t sustainable in real life. It becomes a form of self-sabotage: the very thing meant to increase your chances ends up preventing authentic connection. Of course, there are cases of deliberate catfishing done for entertainment or manipulation. But more often it reflects insecurity rather than malice, which is what makes it feel more sad than shocking. Of course we all have our insecurities, but learn to manage them or tame them. JamesAdmas 1 Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesAdmas Posted February 7 Author Share Posted February 7 True, i think a lot lie in little deltas like adding or subtracting a bit in age, weight, height , dick size. And if you can carry that it wont hurt the other person. But obvious differences, now that might be long term self sabotaging... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cbm Posted February 7 Share Posted February 7 Yes. All those items that have been shared above, I have encountered people not being truthful about those. And @doncoin highlights a very good point about why doing this would make it worse for the person instead of better. It's self sabotage. I find that being frank acts as a good filter to weed out those incompatible ones. It's less heartpain overall. Really. I want to ask you guys what about old photos of the person that may no longer accurately reflect how the person looks like now. Is this considered lying? It's not catfishing because it is really them, not a different person. But the old photos and current state are so different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesAdmas Posted February 7 Author Share Posted February 7 3 hours ago, cbm said: Yes. All those items that have been shared above, I have encountered people not being truthful about those. And @doncoin highlights a very good point about why doing this would make it worse for the person instead of better. It's self sabotage. I find that being frank acts as a good filter to weed out those incompatible ones. It's less heartpain overall. Really. I want to ask you guys what about old photos of the person that may no longer accurately reflect how the person looks like now. Is this considered lying? It's not catfishing because it is really them, not a different person. But the old photos and current state are so different. Well if someone is using old photos with "past time age" then it is a bit of catfishing. But if you put your current age there is a predicament that people might realise you are using an old photos. So not sure if there is a good answer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted February 7 Share Posted February 7 8 hours ago, JamesAdmas said: Well if someone is using old photos with "past time age" then it is a bit of catfishing. But if you put your current age there is a predicament that people might realise you are using an old photos. So not sure if there is a good answer. But many don't indicate any age and use old photos. I know guys on Grindr who for 15 years use same pictures. Hilarious! Once you meet, chances to get into the Sheets seem delusional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juicyass Posted February 8 Share Posted February 8 17 hours ago, singalion said: But many don't indicate any age and use old photos. I know guys on Grindr who for 15 years use same pictures. Hilarious! Once you meet, chances to get into the Sheets seem delusional. I would always lie about my job when they casually asked upon meeting up for sex for the sake of having casual chat. They don't have to know about me nor I know about them. Not that I am ashamed of what I work as, it just doesn't have the need to reveal. After all, once the deed is done, if it's bad, I won't meet him again or otherwise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted Monday at 09:42 AM Share Posted Monday at 09:42 AM On 2/8/2026 at 4:48 PM, juicyass said: I would always lie about my job when they casually asked upon meeting up for sex for the sake of having casual chat. They don't have to know about me nor I know about them. Not that I am ashamed of what I work as, it just doesn't have the need to reveal. After all, once the deed is done, if it's bad, I won't meet him again or otherwise. For any ONS I don't even know why guys on apps ask about your job... juicyass 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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