Ok for straight/bi to compliment gay?

[tehckosong]

I am bisexual. I have always been attracted to both men and women, but as an Asian, I rarely talk openly about my attraction to people. It feels more natural for me to compliment women—for example, saying a woman is cute or attractive.

 

I am curious about how this would be perceived in a different context. If a straight (or straight-curious) or bisexual man were to tell a gay man that he finds him attractive—without any expectations or intentions, just stating it as a simple compliment—would that generally be socially acceptable? Or should I just keep my comments to myself?

 

Would it be okay to say something like that to a gay friend, especially if they don’t know that I’m also attracted to men? I’m also wondering whether there’s a risk they might feel uncomfortable, misinterpret it, or share it with others.

 

Interested to hear your perspectives or experiences on this.

[doncoin]

Compliments are always welcomed. 

 

 

[leckmich]

depends on the compliments

[EastSgDad]

Compliments ...

 

If genuine, always welcome and affirmative 😍

 

If fake, total piss off (upon realisation) and disgusted😡

[cbm]

Well it depends. For me, I do give out my honest opinions of their positive traits without any hidden intentions. How the compliment-receiver perceives it depends on the individual. 

 

Some reactions from receivers:

Accept it gracefully, returns a compliment 

Feels shy / blush / don't know what to say

Brush it off as sweet talk

Thinks that I'm hitting on him and doesn't like it (i'm not)

Takes his pants off

Smiles and feels happy, says thanks or along the lines of "no one has ever told me that before"

 

The sense I get is that people who you think would have gotten many compliments actually don't get many compliments. So go ahead and compliment them and make them feel good.

[HC-B]

Compliments are always welcome, especially to gay men! Just keep it sparse yet sincere and state it upfront there is no agenda in mind.
 

Most, discounting a few uninformed or delulu ones, know that a compliment is just verbal ego stroking, not an indication for taking things further. 
 

But that’ll be different when you’re cruising or action mode… 😏