BDSM Sex - Bondage, Disciple, Sadism & Masochism - Role Playing / Sex Games (compiled)

[reflection]

Bondage and discipline may actually make men happier, according to the first national survey of Australians' fetish habits.

The new sex study has revealed that 2 percent of Australian men and 1.4 percent of women admit to enjoying dominance, submission and sadomasochism-type sex in the past year.

But researchers involved in the phone survey of 20,000 people say they expect many more Australians to be engaging in the practice but unwilling to label it BDSM (bondage, discipline, domination and submission).

[GachiMuchi]

I think in some ways, dom & sub is being played out in most sex play when a top (dom / man) and a btm (sub / woman) comes together.

In most case, the btm would hv to submit to his top and let his partner take charge while the top will have to 'manipulate' the btm to get optimum oomph.

Then I have heard cases where the btm will dominate the top and he does not wants the top to do anything except lying there and for him (btm) to do anything with.

[Guest Guest]

Yes there is something freeing about being helplessly tied up and played with

[reflection]

Yes there is something freeing about being helplessly tied up and played with

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[Guest Byebyevanilla?]

Hi, i need counseling please.

Im in my late 20s. I accidentally, or probably can say "deliberately" got involved in the world of BDSM recently. And i realized im starting to liking it more than i can imagine. I fantasized abt it every moment, like getting punish and torture and stuff.

The problem is the last two time i have sex with “normal“ sex partners, i can't perform. I can get it hard at the beginning but as the session continue, i have trouble maintaining the hard on and hardly can cum at the end. I dont understand cos i quite like the guy. This never happen b4. It doesnt help either that the whole session is more like a one man show, u know the partner just lying there while i do all the works. Then i wish he would spank me or something like that.

Is it me? Am i starting to lose interest on normal vanilla suck and fxxk sex? Bcos im thinking abt BDSM all the time recently? Or it that theres not enough foreplay on my part for the past 2 vanilla session? Oh no what am i gonna do? theres not much ppl in BDSM in Spore i think!

[GachiMuchi]

Reading your post, it seems you have already made your choice on BDSM. Even your nick already indicated your choice.

So what counseling are you looking for?

As to your 'problems' with the 2 guys, they may not be 'sexually' compatible with you, even thought you quite like them.

It is good that before sex, you should talk to your partner about the roles and fantasies you want to play to make sex more exciting and at the same time take away lots of guess work.

As you are young, do take your time to explore possibilities and you will eventually settle down on the role you are comfortable with.

[eric6363]

Hi byebyevanilla, I can definitely tell you that,

once you tasted blood, you can't go back to drinking water.

Yes - you will forever want to be spanked, tied up, oiled, tortured, whipped,

have your nipples licked, chewed, sucked, bitten, while you are being jacked off ...slowly...

Vanilla pxxn will never turn you on again, only videos of muscular men tied up and

whipped mercilessly will turn you on.

Trust me on this - I am telling you from experience.

Edited August 27, 2008 by eric6363

[TopChinese]

You are a slave.

You will submit to the will of your master.

You will not tell your master what to do to your body.

You will surrender your body to him. Every part of your body. Your cock. Your ass. Your nipples.

You will listen to him and his every command.

You will be used for his purpose and his purpose alone.

You will endure the punishment he gives you because you are a dirty, filthy slave.

You will make him happy.

You live for his pleasure.

(until you give the secret preagreed release code)

[Guest byebyevanilla]

Thanks all for the kind responses although theres only 3. See what i mean by stating earlier that not a lot of guys in Spore is heavily into BDSM? Thanks anyway.

I had sex with a guy i adore last weekend. Its vanilla as ever. but turn out, i really enjoy it and he turn me on so much, i almost cum twice. So the conclusion is, Gachi muchi you are right, the last two session that made me wondering was bcos the partner not sexually compatible with me. Gosh they are just so lazy. Dont u know fore play before anal is important. Can u at least move and not just lying there like a mannequin.

Eric and TopChinese, i found your writting on BDSM very erotic. Thats the reason why im interested in BDSM at the first place. Anyway, as much as i beginning to like BDSM, i still like normal sex as much as before. Cant expect to do BDSM all the time right because it very different direction and involve a lots of acting, props, stamina, roleplay and other things as well.

[davecub]

SM sex seems to be getting popular nowadays. I am wondering how many of us here has SM experience.

Anyone cares to share? What do guys do in a SM session?

I am a bit rough (e.g. bang hard & fast) when having sex, does that mean I am into SM sex?

Edited October 5, 2009 by davecub

[Guest polska]

I love SM...it is fxxking fantastic!

[unitight]

SM normally is only a part of what commonly known as BDSM (Bondage, Disciple, Sadism & Masochism) Sex.

The nature of SM itself is having a sexual pleasure by inflicting pain, degradation or humiliation on another person (according to Wikipedia) and that can include electro stimulation on submissive's dick, nipples etc., whipping/flogging, wax, and countless of toys/devices, such as: handcuffs, chains, bars, etc.

As far as I know not many locals do like the intense pain of SM, most guys only do mild BD such as bondage (with ropes), being gagged and blindfolded. It can be as far as nipple play and cock teaser. Some guys that are into BD do not even like normal/vanilla sex such as anal (being fxxked) or oral (BJ). Quite a number of straight and bisexual guys as well

I myself am also into mild BD - only being the dominant part.

Hope this helps.

Cheers,

DJ

SM sex seems to be getting popular nowadays. I am wondering how many of us here has SM experience.

Anyone cares to share? What do guys do in a SM session?

I am a bit rough (e.g. bang hard & fast) when having sex, does that mean I am into SM sex?

Edited October 5, 2009 by unitight

[GachiMuchi]

SM sex seems to be getting popular nowadays. I am wondering how many of us here has SM experience.

Anyone cares to share? What do guys do in a SM session?

I am a bit rough (e.g. bang hard & fast) when having sex, does that mean I am into SM sex?

What you mentioned is only rough sex. Rough sex is not the same as SM Sex, but SM sex may include rough sex.

[irus1966]

hey DJ,

VERY well explained. mild BD is all i need... most important is to have full faith n trust in the hands of the dominator. wat do u specialise?.... can i try?

[unitight]

Thanks Irus .. I'm mainly into bondage, ie. japanese bondage as I'm not just wanting to restrain my subs but also eager to learn the art and technique of japanese bondage, I do find that it has the aesthetics that is incomparable with basic bondage.

Also looking for regular guys to try and master new techniques. They must be willing and patient, average to muscular bod.

hey DJ,

VERY well explained. mild BD is all i need... most important is to have full faith n trust in the hands of the dominator. wat do u specialise?.... can i try?

[stockbeef]

SM is always a bonus and sexual enhancer! Being helpless under the hands of a dominant master.. hahaha.. most people prefers vaniall to BDSM, sometimes too much vanilla becomes a mundane, anyway to each its own so long both parties enjoy!

[saint80]

SM is always a bonus and sexual enhancer! Being helpless under the hands of a dominant master.. hahaha.. most people prefers vaniall to BDSM, sometimes too much vanilla becomes a mundane, anyway to each its own so long both parties enjoy!

BDSM is a more kinly aspect of play. i admit as a DOM, i am turn on by bdsm and bdsm sex. though i am btm in vanilla, in bdsm, i can turn top unless my sub is damm hot and he is a pure top, i will made my sub fxxk me in bondage

[Baloo]

did i post something like "those interested can contact me" earlier? and now deleted?

[davecub]

did i post something like "those interested can contact me" earlier? and now deleted?

It has been moved to "Personal" under the topic "Looking for SM Sex" (I think).

[Guest Kenzo]

Anyone into SM or have ideas where to look for online?

[Eddy]

That depends on what you are looking for.

Any particular fetish?

There are lots of SM sites out there.

And there are some locals who like the kinky stuff, even if they don't admit it.

[Guest wassup]

Hi i'm just one of those people who are too fcking lazy to create an acc since I usually just browse and seldom chat.

Just wondering if any of you guys who are into it. I've never been in one but I find it a huge turn on.

I don't mean cane or those stuff that involves pain but rather breath play.

E.G

1. Waterboarding

2. Being held down under the pool by some people.

3. Choking.

4. Hanging.

No 1 sounds terrible from people who actually tried it. There was this guy who thinks it is nothing and decided to experience it in full view of television audience and he lasted only under a minute.

No.2 I've seen one video in on it that looks truely real... a JAV. Since I suppose you can't make up puffy face and white eye in a low cost pxxn movie. It shows an actress held under water more than above water. As a movie it can be edited of course but anyway after sometime, the actress kind of stop struggling and showed no resistance and at one point needed the guys to pump the water out of her in full view of video (propably not fake with this scene) anyway at the end her face was puffy and her hands was like shaking uncontrollably. 100% turn on for me. I imagined myself in that situation. Dunked for 30secs + 5 secs of breathing rinse and repeat.

3. Turn on when somebody strong do this without tying me up first. So it is like you have hands but you can't fight him off.

4. I did this several times before and enjoyed it but stopped because I see news of people dying and it actually cause permanent brain damage if done too frequently.

Yeah I know being IN it is different that fantasizing about it but wth...

[Eddy]

4. Hanging.

4. I did this several times before and enjoyed it but stopped because I see news of people dying and it actually cause permanent brain damage if done too frequently.

By the way. did you hear about how David Carradine ("Bill" in Kill Bill) died in Thailand?

[boylikesfun]

---Experience Three

I was invited to a guy's house who has emailed to me. He requested me to submit my body for his enjoyment because he saw my profile here. I attended the appointment as what I was ordered and bring my body over. Once I reached the place i was order to strip to my g-string and lay on top of a table which already set up in the middle of the big living room. Follow up with both legs and hands spreaded wide open and tied to the four legs of the table. i was totally helpless and fully display for all uses. He told me after tied 'Take it cool and easy boy, We are going to give you what you looking for and make sure you take it all as a MAN. i asked him 'why we? i am just for you right?' He shouted at me 'You fxxking slut boy, i am going to use your body for all men. They will be here in 5 minutes. Make sure you do your fxxking good job as what you mentioned in your profile. '. . . . . . . . . 10 minutes later door bell start ringing...one after another guy start arriving...6 guys in the end all standing right in front of me...laughing at me....scolding me 'Bitch and slut boy huh'.Why are you here? Let us show you what is real MAN and fxxk you good and hard. The host took out 3 boxes of condoms. One after another take turn to screw my ass.

would love to experience this kind of sex again. have a similar experience years ago... lol

Edited January 23, 2011 by boylikesfun

[joseph]

My REAL experiences.

---Experience one

i was submitted to a MASTER and played in a local SPA, He fxxked me with my hands tied behind in a display room with the glass window opened and lights on to the brightest. All in the SPA were croweded at the glass window watching how I get fxxked. He brought me out of the room to a open area right in front of the big glass window make me sucked his cock right in front of everyone.

After that I was brought back to another room. . . fxxked me on a sling until he cummed.

Where is SPA?

[doncoin]

SM sex seems to be getting popular nowadays. I am wondering how many of us here has SM experience.

Anyone cares to share? What do guys do in a SM session?

I am a bit rough (e.g. bang hard & fast) when having sex, does that mean I am into SM sex?

A BDSM session is all about a mind fxxk. I like my subs to be well-behaved, and yes, they enjoy being humiliated because they deserve it. My rules are simple. You show up, you strip to a black jockstrap or a thong and you listen to instructions. Some guys enjoy getting told that they are worthless piece of sh!t, they need to be treated as such and deserved to be spanked or flogged.

I admit sometimes I think the whole scenario is absurd but there are men who really get off on it.

[davecub]

I used to have a buddy who enjoys being humiliated, spanked and slapped....and surprisingly it is a turn on for me to see him behaving this way.

A BDSM session is all about a mind fxxk. I like my subs to be well-behaved, and yes, they enjoy being humiliated because they deserve it. My rules are simple. You show up, you strip to a black jockstrap or a thong and you listen to instructions. Some guys enjoy getting told that they are worthless piece of sh!t, they need to be treated as such and deserved to be spanked or flogged.

I admit sometimes I think the whole scenario is absurd but there are men who really get off on it.

[Guest Slave / Master]

For my experience, I have done quite some session in my many years till now. But I am still in the mist of learning. Personally I m not a pain taker. Eventhough I have tried candle wax on my cock head, cock, balls, nipples and other parts of my body. It kinda turns me off in someway.

TT, which have my nipples clamp with those cloths peg or nipple clamp is good as long as the clip is not with teeth type which inflict too much pain. Mild is alrite.

CBT, have my cock and balls tied up to separate them is a big turn on for me, especially having some weights below hanging on my balls to pull them down. Parachute is 1 of the good toy.

Hole, of coz is not spare, big dildos, ass plug, cocks all taking turns to go in. Have tried rape scene, but is total turn off for me, too painful. But with the use of poppers, lub, wow, i can hit the roof. lol...

Humiliation is good also, was make to go on knees, smell a master sock fresh from removing the shoe, rubbing it on my face, sucking it, then use my mouth to take off my master sock. Likewise for the underwear, was made to beg to be allow to smell master dirty sock / underwear, suck master cock, get fxxk, whatever I want, have to beg for it, obeying master full orders.

Watersport (WS), have done that too, have to drink master fresh pee from the cock. With the use of poppers, I can drink more though. However, this have to be careful. Make sure you know the guy well that he is free from all kinds of disease.

Tied up, is nothing new, but not wrap up totally though. Hands have been tied to the back, with my legs tied to my hand at the back. Dildo was inserted into my hole while sucking a master cock.

Basically all this are very mild, 1st of all, not alot of pple are into such stuff, those who are interested, may not have much experience, those that have, may not have a place of their own. Is not easy to have it in the hotel as when a master give his commands, his voice may be over hear from the corridor. Privacy is very important. Also the trust in this person is very important, imagine u are being tied up, he can take video / pics of u, copy down your address from your ic and black mail you, rob you and whatever things he may do. So have to be very careful.

Also in this BDSM thing, so many master and slave claims that they can do this or that, but when you meet up with them, alot of them are not what they claims to be. Sigh! They failed to realise that in the world of fantasy, BDSM pxxn, and etc are totally different thing and feel as compare to real life. In real life you actually feel it.

[Guest Guest]

some people call me slut btm already so shy. BDSM is worse still got people do. Hahaha so eeeeeeeee

[doncoin]

I used to have a buddy who enjoys being humiliated, spanked and slapped....and surprisingly it is a turn on for me to see him behaving this way.

It can be an interesting experience and strangely arousing for some. I used to have this sub who comes to my place and I use him as footstool. He just crouches there, in a jock or thong, blind-folded... while I rest my feet on his back, sitting on the chair, flipping through a magazine. If he moves an inch, he gets spanked or kicked. It is not my cup of tea normally but I think the NS training helps in being authoritative.

[TheVisitors]

It can be an interesting experience and strangely arousing for some. I used to have this sub who comes to my place and I use him as footstool. He just crouches there, in a jock or thong, blind-folded... while I rest my feet on his back, sitting on the chair, flipping through a magazine. If he moves an inch, he gets spanked or kicked. It is not my cup of tea normally but I think the NS training helps in being authoritative.

Haha!! I had a good laugh after reading your post. One of my fxxk Buddy has being pestering me quite awhile to try bondage with him , but none of us had ever tried before. This evening he still did.

For him, at least his scout days in school , or my guard days in NS tieing survivor ropes could come in handy.

Or the most practical approach is to buy a crab from the market, and see how it was tied.....

Both of us are pretty curious and cant decide who should be tied ( maybe we should lom chiam pass ) yet afraid..mixed feelings

Any advice ?

Edited January 25, 2011 by TheVisitors

[doncoin]

Haha!! I had a good laugh after reading your post. One of my fxxk Buddy has being pestering me quite awhile to try bondage with him , but none of us had ever tried before. This evening he still did.

For him, at least his scout days in school , or my guard days in NS tieing survivor ropes could come in handy.

Or the most practical approach is to buy a crab from the market, and see how it was tied.....

Both of us are pretty curious and cant decide who should be tied ( maybe we should lom chiam pass ) yet afraid..mixed feelings

Any advice ?

To have a good time for both of you, discuss what areas of BDSM you would like to explore first. What you are comfortable with, roles, etc.

On the day itself you need to prep yourself mentally into the role. If you are going to be the dom, be the dom. Be stern, authoritative, think NS Drill sergeants, mean coaches, etc. Be strict with your sub. If he wants to be treated like a dog, make sure he wears a collar and you have a leash on him. Train him to eat from a bowl, and sip from a bowl. If he makes a mess, discipline and train him.

Then set up a time to do it.

[TheVisitors]

To have a good time for both of you, discuss what areas of BDSM you would like to explore first. What you are comfortable with, roles, etc.

On the day itself you need to prep yourself mentally into the role. If you are going to be the dom, be the dom. Be stern, authoritative, think NS Drill sergeants, mean coaches, etc. Be strict with your sub. If he wants to be treated like a dog, make sure he wears a collar and you have a leash on him. Train him to eat from a bowl, and sip from a bowl. If he makes a mess, discipline and train him.

Then set up a time to do it.

Wow leow...thanks for your reviews and advise. Given the fact that both of us are strong headed domineering sort, both cant subject ourselves to perform servile tasks during sex, so we may relinquish the idea...

Unless it is modified to be something like this....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S5n3tw294u4

[Guest idea]

Wow leow...thanks for your reviews and advise. Given the fact that both of us are strong headed domineering sort, both cant subject ourselves to perform servile tasks during sex, so we may relinquish the idea...

Unless it is modified to be something like this....

perhaps both of you can play a stripping game. first to be naked becomes the slave

[Guest -guest]

surely there must be some tough young subs out there who enjoy receiving a real thrashing and can take it like a man !

[doncoin]

Wow leow...thanks for your reviews and advise. Given the fact that both of us are strong headed domineering sort, both cant subject ourselves to perform servile tasks during sex, so we may relinquish the idea...

Unless it is modified to be something like this....

That's pop BDSM I take the whole thing with a pinch of salt. It is meant to be fun at the end of it for both parties. At the end of it, you got to realise it is just a game. Being a sub does not mean you lose your masculinity etc. It just means acknowledging that the dom is superior to you, during that time and place, and trusting the dom to train you into becoming him some day.

Kind of like when you go into reservist. You may have a LCP who is CEO in the real world and a SGT who is a factory worker. But during the reservist period, the roles are reversed.

[armchair]

I park on IRC and glance at the screen once in a while. Consider the many hours I wasted on MIRC, I do not have much fun to show.

I am not alone on this time-wasting activity. Many guys park there without interacting.

There are many interesting personalities who regularly post requests and advertisments on the channel.

ArrowJay: He is a submissive guy with fetish for pain.

Every few month when he is in Singapore, you see him online looking for DOM

http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=yY1c4-G347-

http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=03Y2b-G247-

[ropehunk]

I went to 17 recently and notice there's a room designed with a opening abt knee height for people to peep into the room. Any dom top wanna tie me up there and dildo my ass while others peep?

[Guest Ironrod]

For those whom is learning abt BDSM I would like to give a few advice

1) If you were to do bondage for long hours make sure your master is experience because if not tied properly it affects the blood flow will cause death in serious cases.

2) Use safe word if you are new to this person. If unsure or feel risky at least tell a friend where you are going [need not tell him what u are doing if u don't feel comfortable]

3) If you use candles for first timer best to apply baby oil. If you use baby oil please avoid leather gear.

4) If u are new try no <<Don't Feed The Troll>>, no blood, no scar rule.

Lastly, getting gang-bang is not BDSM per se - It really depends on context.

BDSM is a lifestyle, a choice of life - in and out of bedrooms.

If it's just for role-playing then it's not BDSM.

[Guest bdsmlover]

ANybody of you have fetishes for Tied or Bdsm ? I like to be tied and to be scolded to f*ck. My boyfriend onced surprise while I was asleep. It was mind blowing shiok ahhh. :oops: Anybody had any expierience? Care to share?

[ice_cream1825]

How your bf surprise you?

[saint80]

How your bf surprise you?

sex in bondage is nice.... at times instead of the btm being tied up and being fxxk, its kinky to have the top tied up and fxxking the btm

[Oskar IsHere]

As a slave for a week,pains and insults there were,so were the pleasures.

What is to be worried:addicted,I may.

One month of the past it has been;of the past,the experience could not be.

Recurring desires,recurring,recurring,recurring,recurring,a loop,never-ending it seems.

Anything else,almost everything else that could be tried,had been tried.

BDSM dulls them all,effortlessly.

To my knowledge it was,from Wikipedia:this is a disorder,nothing more,nil less.

Its accuracy,I do question.

Hereby I ask,and be heard.

How bad is this disorder?

Bad enough to not feel the warmth of normal caresses for an eternity,

Or will the process be reversed to what be deemed not as abnormal,someday?

Regretted,not.

For probably the highest level of physical pleasure,it was.

To move on together with it,I will,if were it irreversible ",)

[Guest Guest]

Sniffing glue does not equate to bdsm

[EasleyLim]

Overtly dramatic.

[TheVisitors]

As a slave for a week,pains and insults there were,so were the pleasures.

What is to be worried:addicted,I may.

One month of the past it has been;of the past,the experience could not be.

Recurring desires,recurring,recurring,recurring,recurring,a loop,never-ending it seems.

Anything else,almost everything else that could be tried,had been tried.

BDSM dulls them all,effortlessly.

To my knowledge it was,from Wikipedia:this is a disorder,nothing more,nil less.

Its accuracy,I do question.

Hereby I ask,and be heard.

How bad is this disorder?

Bad enough to not feel the warmth of normal caresses for an eternity,

Or will the process be reversed to what be deemed not as abnormal,someday?

Regretted,not.

For probably the highest level of physical pleasure,it was.

To move on together with it,I will,if were it irreversible ",)

If you truly value yourself , you won't even allow yourself to be subjected under to all kinds of abuse, be it pleasurable, Because abuse and pleasure( here I stand for another human warmth and understanding) is a paradox

You are standing in between this paradox, because you cannot differentiate between what is "pleasure" and pain, thinking that this pain, is the source that contributes to your own self worth

The voice of a slave, reflects the voice of the master, who wants to control things strictly in his own terms,that is because, somewhere in his little secret inner shadowy past, he was once a little child who was once abused, belittled, that crushed his esteem thus lost control over his life

Rather than dealing with this issue, he unleashed it out to others by controlling them, subjecting them to the same abuse he once had, by putting on a facade

This is a false power he is giving himself and onto others.

Thus in a logical wheel of reasoning, what is false can never give you that sense of warmth and security you are truly longing for.

What is more eternal, is loving yourself and seeking your own self worth, by letting go of unworthy things behind, and move on to seek something which is more real in life somewhere ahead of you.

Good luck

[Guest Ironrod]

BDSM is still weak in SG but it has long history in UK and Aussie.

You can read a lot of examples like this Matt slave's blog is quite good http://lifeofaslave.org/personal/history.php

The only problem in SG is most so call dom has no idea how is slave should be treated, train and develop a proper r/s with the slave.

Thus it's good if u want to be a sub to equip yourself with knowledge in this area b4 jumping into the culture.

Good luck.

[Compulsivexhibitionist]

I'm a pansexual switch. Which means I'm attracted to all kinds regardless of gender orientation and I'm an able dom and sub. There's actually an entire BDSM culture here in Singapore and I'm part of it.

My advice: try out being a sub first, then and only then will you be able to put yourself in a subs shoes if you decide to be a dom. I'm both a dom and a sub so I'm able to please a sub because I can put my own experiences and blend it with their preferences.

BDSM is amazing and a perfectly fine way to add more spice to sex. I've had collared slaves and long to be collared as well. It's all a lifestyle and people look at it as weird. What IS weird? It's just an intangible set of rules set by society. Well fxxk society I live for myself and do what I want. And you should to. If you enjoy BDSM then hit me up and I'll introduce you to the scene, as long as I don't think you're a fxxkin creep should be fine.

[TheVisitors]

I'm a pansexual switch. Which means I'm attracted to all kinds regardless of gender orientation and I'm an able dom and sub. There's actually an entire BDSM culture here in Singapore and I'm part of it.

My advice: try out being a sub first, then and only then will you be able to put yourself in a subs shoes if you decide to be a dom. I'm both a dom and a sub so I'm able to please a sub because I can put my own experiences and blend it with their preferences.

BDSM is amazing and a perfectly fine way to add more spice to sex. I've had collared slaves and long to be collared as well. It's all a lifestyle and people look at it as weird. What IS weird? It's just an intangible set of rules set by society. Well fxxk society I live for myself and do what I want. And you should to. If you enjoy BDSM then hit me up and I'll introduce you to the scene, as long as I don't think you're a fxxkin creep should be fine.

Heemm...the closest thing I did in BDSM was, when a bottom asked me to slap his face really hard several times , till it swell, then asked me to pee on his face to relieve the swelling , or rather, adds on to his pleasure.

Next request from another was to fxxk him really hard ( with condom) till he bleeds, because seeing blood oozing from his ass, turns him on.

Is any of the above considered as a BDSM act?

[Compulsivexhibitionist]

BDSM Covers a lot of things, I would say yes they are BDSM acts no matter how depraved you think of it.

BDSM is a huge umbrella term. There are different levels of BDSM from vanilla to extreme and they're all categorised as BDSM.

As long as you follow the 3 rules of BSDM. Safe Sane Consensual then it'll be fine.

Always make sure you know what you're doing and what the submissive likes. I had an ex-girlfriend who could handle tonnnes of pain and I gladly obliged. I could slap her until she cried and bruised. She'd have massive bruises and markings on her ass and thighs afterwards. We'd both be marked heavily. We were both into play fighting where I would forcibly make her submit through struggles,pain, choking, and humiliation. With such scenarios you MUST be certain of what you're doing. Especially when it comes to choking and blood play. I don't do blood play so don't ask me about it I don't know and I don't want to know. Before continuing with such acts you MUST be sure of your partners' limits and set a safe word for when it gets too much. However I look fondly at one memory where she scratched me so hard she drew blood and we laughed afterwards once we saw what we did to each other. (remember I am a submissive masochist so I enjoy pain myself[And I might add, I'm still scarred from that incident. Looks like I'll have a piece of her to remember her by for life eh.])

I was covered in bite marks and scratches she had swells and bruises all over. It looked like I just came out of world war 2 with a purple fxxking heart.

With that in mind, if you look at the dynamics of a BDSM scene, the submissive is the one with more control and he/she is the one that dictates when it stops and what can and cannot be done.

Pissing,blood,<<Don't Feed The Troll>>,disfigurement, and piercing can all be categorised in extreme BDSM, where they're more likely out of the norm, and more of a niche thing in the context of BDSM itself.

Edited November 1, 2012 by Compulsivexhibitionist