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are gay lonely? are gay afraid of ageing? is there such thing as ageless?even gay go holiday they tends to look for sauna first than touring the country. if only we can have a match mate agency for gay .

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Yet any stereotypically analysis of the gay lifestyle... No comment.

Brian, I reckon u meant to say no further comment as u commented already hehehehe :yuk:

TS, I am not sure we have a Match Mate service for gay men like in other countries charging a fee for that. Instead of looking at such issues negatively - there are already too many negative discussions - perhaps you might want to look into helping the gay community to be a healthy community in the areas you mentioned like ageing, loneliness, holiday, companionship through matchmaking. Good luck.

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善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no

right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind,

changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up."

― J'son M. Lee 

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LOL!

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善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no

right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind,

changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up."

― J'son M. Lee 

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i dont think all gay guys are lonely and on constant look out for saunas when they overseas... where did you even get that idea?

Yeah, I had my good friends take away my loneliness, and I haven't even got in a sauna yet.

Everyone has different perspectives anyway. If you feel such negative feelings, then

- perhaps you might want to looking into helping the gay community to be a healthy community in the areas you mentioned like ageing, loneliness, holiday, companionship through matchmaking. Good luck.

"Listen -- are you living just a little and calling it life?"

Mary Oliver

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are gay lonely? are gay afraid of ageing? is there such thing as ageless?even gay go holiday they tends to look for sauna first than touring the country. if only we can have a match mate agency for gay .
Are YOU lonely?

Are YOU afraid of ageing?

Do YOU go on a holiday and look for a sauna first than touring the country?

Cus we're not, and we don't.

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Are YOU lonely?

Are YOU afraid of ageing?

Do YOU go on a holiday and look for a sauna first than touring the country?

Cus we're not, and we don't.

I like the way u posted the question. It is like one of those TV ads:

Are YOU lonely?

Are YOU afraid of ageing?

Do YOU go on a holiday and look for a sauna first than touring the country?

Dial 1800-HAPPY-GAY and we will be happy to make you happy.

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善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no

right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind,

changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up."

― J'son M. Lee 

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I like the way u posted the question. It is like one of those TV ads:

Are YOU lonely?

Are YOU afraid of ageing?

Do YOU go on a holiday and look for a sauna first than touring the country?

Dial 1800-HAPPY-GAY and we will be happy to make you happy.

Hahahaha... I was thinking of this, too. lol

"Listen -- are you living just a little and calling it life?"

Mary Oliver

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Let me repeat this YET AGAIN.

When I'm troubled and lonely, it's not because I'm gay. It's because I have personal issues to deal with.

When I'm feeling like age is catching up to me, it's not because I'm gay, it's because I feel like I've not made much of my life.

When I go on trips but rather look for fun, it's not because I'm gay, it's because I'm a DUDE.

When I'm feeling all these and more, it's because IM GAY that gets me back up. Others can have a better more exciting life than me... But at the end of the day. I still get to sleep with men! What do the straights have?

We have no right to compare the different sexualities, it's because people in our communities still discriminate and label which makes it hard for heterosexuals and homosexuals to live peacefully homogeneously in one environment.

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i agree with EasleyLim . many also have the same thought.i saw this guy he everyday go singapore sauna.still not enough.he even can fly to Hk , taiwan , kL, viet even Sri Lanka to search for more sex or put it this way new meat.

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Hello everyone!

First time here to post and hope I could make friends with most of you.

Dear ThreadStarter, yes, sadness is in the state of mind. You choose to be happy...then you're happy. You choose to be sad...then you're sad.

I believe these perspectives gives us the opportunity to where we should direct our lives.

So be gay and live gay! ;-)

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so what if you have any "tom and Jerry" as bf?

you will fall in love with him as you are lonely

after the honeymoon period, you will question yourself why are you in the relationship with this guy,

then you will be unhappy as everything he does is (even if it's for you) not what you like

yet you do not want to breakup as you fear those lonely days

so this cycle goes on and you wonder why are you still not happy even when you are in a relationship.

then when someone right(so you feel) comes along, you will struggle/hesitate but still goes into infidelity

or maybe an open relationship, or ditch the current one immediately.(depending on how NICE you are)

through my past (2) relationships, and meeting up with people, i realised that at the end of the day, what really matter is the character, the attitude that suits your preferences (humble, humorous, responsible, feminine, manly, mature, intelligent, proud, rude, intelligent, youthful, caring, dominating, passive etc) ,

yes i am lonely, but that doesn't mean any tom dick or harry is ok.

PS: that doesn't mean i have high standards, just that I have my own set of principles (which maybe high, maybe even nothing compared to yours)

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This is definitely true. You tend to bring yourself down because either you get rejected by the hot guys you like or just can't find any so you start to "settle"...

You probably feel lonely because you have nothing going on now? Maybe you just need to occupy your time, man I know how it feels... But most of my time now I've set on training...

Months ago I would get have sex and date almost any guy...

Self confidence? That's for me I guess.

Just find what is it about yourself you feel can be improved:) haha I'm sure you can occupy your time well.:: the rest will follow:)

Good luck man!

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I guess when one is desperate, this kinda things do happen.

Pull yourself together man! Try to look out for the better things in life and be optimistic whenever possible.

Or as Brian said, try to not think about it so much and keep yourself pre-occupied with other things.

Jiayou and all the best! ^^

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The topic title "Do You Feel So Lonely Sometime That Any Tom And Jerry Will Work For You?"

Tom and Jerry the cartoon cat and mouse? or were you trying to say, "Any Tom, Dick or Harry"?

I guess TS was watching 'Tom & Jerry' when he was posting this.

Or his present CMI bfs are called Tom & Jerry.

Might be a reference to height - one Giant bf(Tom) or one hobbit bf(Jerry)

If ang moh reading this , sure roflol.

So xia suay.

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These bastard hooligans are luring young gays out through internet chatting.  When met, they will humiliate, torture and even video the victims.  @#$%^&*  Sad thing is the police is doing nothing ! 

 

俄罗斯一个新纳粹组织最近用假身分,在俄国境内最热门的社交网站VK.com上,引诱有同志、双性恋和变性倾向的少年见面,先哄他们报上个人资料,再施酷刑虐待他们。所有过程都被录像之后在网站上公开,让受害的少年不堪舆论压力,走上绝路。

根据《哈芬顿邮报》最新披露的1则影片,1名15岁少年被该组织的成员在公园内围堵,坦承是要与1名男子见面发生性行为,获取金钱报酬。

组织成员在长达约20分钟的过程中,不断嘲讽和恐吓少年,最后还把尿浇在他的头上,对他拳打脚踢。

新纳粹组织的霸凌行为越来越常见,有许多家长和组织提出抗议,但俄国执法单位仍未采取任何制裁行动。

http://www.appledaily.com.tw/appledaily/article/international/20130729/35183850/俄幫派誘嫩同志虐打淋尿PO上網

 

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 Lots of straight cowards these days   who does not dare  to bash up those  rich cunning businessmen and women who abuses most of us  without any social responsibilty nowadays with low pay ,more contract terms,employing not enough man power for their own gains, giving  lots of bullshit excuses ,etc.....so worry about being sue by the rich and powerful,lots of  stupid straight losers in the world these days bashing  at those  wrong persons !!

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Guest Lonely Guy

I feel so lonely almost everyday. I have a family. But I feel so stressful at home. I have friends but they can't be there when I need them the most. But when they need me, I'm there. I have a best friend but she barely talks to me now. I never had a boyfriend. I don't know if I'll ever have one. I know I sound so unappreciative and there are people who have and been in worst situation than me like, being an orphan, starvation and other misfortune (I pray the best for them). But I wish that there is someone out there who is crazy in love with me, who will be there for me and listens to me. It gets tired you know?? Trying to get the people you have feelings for to notice you. I wish it's my turn to be loved. :(

Sorry for the long post. I don't have anywhere or anyone to go to.

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I feel so lonely almost everyday. I have a family. But I feel so stressful at home. I have friends but they can't be there when I need them the most. But when they need me, I'm there. I have a best friend but she barely talks to me now. I never had a boyfriend. I don't know if I'll ever have one. I know I sound so unappreciative and there are people who have and been in worst situation than me like, being an orphan, starvation and other misfortune (I pray the best for them). But I wish that there is someone out there who is crazy in love with me, who will be there for me and listens to me. It gets tired you know?? Trying to get the people you have feelings for to notice you. I wish it's my turn to be loved. :(

Sorry for the long post. I don't have anywhere or anyone to go to.

 

 

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I feel so lonely almost everyday. I have a family. But I feel so stressful at home. I have friends but they can't be there when I need them the most. But when they need me, I'm there. I have a best friend but she barely talks to me now. I never had a boyfriend. I don't know if I'll ever have one. I know I sound so unappreciative and there are people who have and been in worst situation than me like, being an orphan, starvation and other misfortune (I pray the best for them). But I wish that there is someone out there who is crazy in love with me, who will be there for me and listens to me. It gets tired you know?? Trying to get the people you have feelings for to notice you. I wish it's my turn to be loved. :(

Sorry for the long post. I don't have anywhere or anyone to go to.

 

Hmmm almost in situation like you....but somehow I have seems to live with it. Being alone isnt that bad at times.....though sometimes it tends to be unbearable.

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Stop looking for love. It just hurts you more failing to find someone to love you. Meet people. Mingle. Socialise. Make new friends. 

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善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no

right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind,

changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up."

― J'son M. Lee 

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Quality time is all you need and it is not necessarily to be accompanied by another human.  Examples - Reading is quality; Walking around is quality; People-watching is quality; Sleeping is quality ..

 

When you can fill yourself with love, nothing else matters.

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Don't expect too much.. People do disappoint. That's a fact that you need to realise.. No matter who he/she is or what he/she is to you, they will disappoint you at one point of your life.. So, don't expect too much and do not rely on others.. The more you do, the more disappointed you will feel when things do not end up as you wish. 

 

Cheers!

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Hmmm almost in situation like you....but somehow I have seems to live with it. Being alone isnt that bad at times.....though sometimes it tends to be unbearable.

I can identify with the thread starter.

And I can identify with Freedom too.

And just in case Guest wants me to grow up, I wld like to let him know I am already above 40. :P

Many people wonder why a fine guy like me is still not attached. I am wondering too.

But being an independent introvert who loves seeking new excitement, I really cant see myself attached to someone.

So I will just embrace who and what I am, and be a happy lone ranger who has offered my shoulder to a number of friends who faced serious relationship problems, and consider myself blessed for not having to experience the problems myself. :P

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I can identify with the thread starter.

And I can identify with Freedom too.

And just in case Guest wants me to grow up, I wld like to let him know I am already above 40. :P

Many people wonder why a fine guy like me is still not attached. I am wondering too.

But being an independent introvert who loves seeking new excitement, I really cant see myself attached to someone.

So I will just embrace who and what I am, and be a happy lone ranger who has offered my shoulder to a number of friends who faced serious relationship problems, and consider myself blessed for not having to experience the problems myself. :P

 

I think the most important is you have to feel good in whatever status you are in. Not saying that I'm truly happy but at least  I'm enjoying singlehood and time being by myself...at least for now.

So to the thread starter, if you are really feeling unhappy with your situation, change it. If your current friends ain't free to be there for you, make more friends, know more people and you might stand better chance to make really good frens who will stand by you. 

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Don't expect too much.. People do disappoint. That's a fact that you need to realise.. No matter who he/she is or what he/she is to you, they will disappoint you at one point of your life.. So, don't expect too much and do not rely on others.. The more you do, the more disappointed you will feel when things do not end up as you wish. 

 

Cheers!

 

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.
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善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no

right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind,

changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up."

― J'son M. Lee 

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Hi, I am very lonely. I don't have gay friends and I really don't know how to handle this. I cannot resist any further, if I look at hot guys on the street I will get extremely turned on. I think I am a really a SLUT. Any hot guys I look at I get turned on and dream of f**king them, but of them are straight. Haix... I am so jealous of girls!!! :( I am 19 and I need a handsome boyfriend!!!

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