Help! My Dick Is Not Hard Enough + Erectile Dysfunction (Compiled)

[Guest Guest]

I definitely have ED. I cannot hold an erection and no, it's not anxiety. Most of the time, it just goes limp after a while and it's hard to get it up again. If I continue to wank, I would still cum but the sensation is not intense. It's damn sad and I guess I have to turn to medical help but it's definitely good if there's a reliable gay friendly doctor to turn to.

[Guest Marad44]

About two years ago, my erection started acting up. I get semi hard now and that is not enough for penetration. I was diagnozed as diabetic and low in thyroxin. I go for regular checks and take medication both here and in the West. The erection has not got any better.

There are TV documentaries, discussion & commercials on treatment but I don't have the dare to try them, for fear of complications.

Has anyone been in this predicament and tried a remedy?

On a less important point, if you had been a 'top' have you considered reversing the role and how difficult was the transition?

Edited October 5, 2011 by Marad44

[Guest passingthru]

What hasn't become mainstream is the fact that the efficacy of hormones is highly if not solely dependent on how sensitive the body is to them. If somehow the body's hormone receptors are not receptive enough, then:

- no increase in the necessary hormones will produce the desired result,

- no decrease in/blockage of debilitating hormones will be helpful,

- no methods to produce free/unbound hormones( eg, testosterone ) in circulation will have any meaningful improvement.

Needless to say, other methods like clean living and eating will not help either.

I'm yet to find out if there are methods to improve hormonal sensitivity or is it merely congenital.

[happy.99]

if cannot get full erection means something wrong with the body.

[Plain Water]

Any good recommendation of TCM practitioner for treatment of erectile dysfunction.

[northernboi]

i only will get super hard when someone HOT is doing things together with me...

if not will get soft... :X i still got this problem ma?

[Guest Butted]

I heard of accupucture cure by inserting the needle into prostrate to excite it.

But my problem is that i've screw-top....ie..my erection spiral like a screw and i am top...sort of like drilling..

[Guest Guest]

For a start, exercise is very important whatever your age is. Good blood flow is essential for good erection. Ever since I restart my 5 km jog routine, my performane on bed has rejuvenated. This is your first step and you must motivate yourself. Dont just relied on medication.

[casey30]

There are various causes of ED:

1. Psychological Cause

2. Biological Cause (e.g. Heart Disease, Diabetes and etc)

3. Medication/ Drugs

4. Prostate Disease

5. Injuries

 

The most common treatment for ED is (1) taking pills but it is not permanent.

 

Besides that one can opt for other treatments like,

(2) Injection

(3) Implants 

 

There are other non-invasive treatment such as

(4) Pumps

(5) Electro Shock Wave Treatment. 

 

 

 

 

Edited June 1, 2021 by casey30

[Guest Guest]

For a start, exercise is very important whatever your age is. Good blood flow is essential for good erection. Ever since I restart my 5 km jog routine, my performane on bed has rejuvenated. This is your first step and you must motivate yourself. Dont just relied on medication.

You are not kidding me?

[MotherCat]

no proper sexual stimulation is actually a big factor. u may not be turned on by the things u think u r turned on in the past.

tastes may be changing...or u just need a variety of fantasy or experience.

[Guest wozzit]

The most common treatment for ED is (1) taking pills but it is not permanent.

 

There can be all sorts of reasons for ED n until recently there were all sorts of taboos about seeking help. There may indeed b medical problems to b attended to, or u r simply too tired from work n other daily chores. Whatever, its important to check with ur doctor. Dont be embarrassed about it. Drs see patients with this problem all the time.

 

If chat rooms like this r to b believed, taking pills to correct ED seems to b Increasingly popular even in younger guys in their 30s n 40s. The most common seem to be viagra, cialis n levitra. But u hv to know that taking these does not result in sexual arousal. Thats the job of the brain which needs to b stimulated first. But once sexually aroused, the pills stimulate blood flow to the penis. The makers of cialis claim the effect will last for about 36 hours.

 

In many countries these pills hv to b prescribed by doctors coz if u r taking other medication there can b side effects, especially on blood pressure. They r also not cheap. But if ur doctor gives u the OK, u can also order from on-line pharmacies at a fraction of the cost - one tenth the price or less. These may b generic drugs made by drug companies in countries like India but perfectly reliable n they r delivered in plain brown envelopes. The only problem in Singapore might b customs when the parcel arrives. Not sure if the import of such generics is actually permitted.

Edited January 12, 2015 by wozzit

[Guest Neh Neh]

My Malay friends told me he uses Minyak Landak or Leech Oil to apply regularly on his dicky. That makes it big and strong

[Guest desparate]

My Malay friends told me he uses Minyak Landak or Leech Oil to apply regularly on his dicky. That makes it big and strong

Anyone can share more news on this Leech Oil? Does it really help the situation better? Thanks.

[Guest Neh Neh]

Sorry mistake made. It should be Minyak Lintah or Leech Oil.

[Guest guest]

I hooked up with this cute sporty SMU guy thru Jack'd.  I brought him to my place and planned for him to give me a good penetration. After stripping him nude, I saw a 3" soft dick and I wanted to arouse him by kissing him and playing with his nipples.  He moaned loudly, but his dick showed no reaction.  Then I sucked him for 15 minutes to try to make him hard.  But his dick just lengthend and thickened a little but did not get hard.  He was a bit embarassed but i did not want to make him feel bad. So I just kissed and hugged him.  After a while, I turned him over and lick his hole.  He moaned loudly again but his dick remained small and soft.  I decided to stroked his dick with my hand while I fingered his ass.  After about 10 minutes, he mumbled that he was cumming, and some sperm dripped out of his soft dick. He actually managed to cum without getting hard.  Then I decided to enter him since his hole was all wet and tempting.  However, I'm a bottom most of the time and I did not do a good durable job of penetrating him.  I shot my load less than 15 minutes.  We then kissed and hugged to sleep.  I think it is possible to have good fun with a guy even if his dick cannot get hard.

[dsd]

Having a limp dick may have saved my life a few times.

Happened before, I met this cuddly Lao ah Pek, so chubby and smooth, his wet hole waiting for me to mount him.

But at the last minute, I got all soft.

Could penetrate his hole at all.

I cannot understand it.

When I next meet up with my darling pastor, I got all hard again.

I farked him real good that day.

I think it's just my body telling me some hole cannot fark.

Must stay clear. Who knows got HIV or not?

The hole that I feel perfectly safe with like my pastor's hole, I have raging hard on.

Edited January 14, 2015 by dsd

[justinys]

I used to have soft dick issues too. Staying away from online porn, regular exercise, healthy dieting and enough sleep helps to restore libido. And of course, sticking to only sex with my lovely bf keeps me hard =))

[p-2122]

I am taking men's multi vitamins and minerals from blackmore. That aid a lot.

[Guest 25yoerection]

Im 25 yo chinese guy but i already hv ED.

even though i Do sports a lot.

I took viagra to fuck my bf.

Im not sure am i the only one here.

I nvr have erection problem till nowadays. Just that it didnt last long enough. Was so worry to hv sex. Im a person who love sex n prefer to be top.

But my erection cant stay long. About 1-2 mins only

Is it because i watched too much porn n masturbate too much? I get to experience sex quite late of my life ard 23 yo. When my 1st time being top, i realise the ass not as good as my hand. Dont really feel as good. Mayb my dick not that huge so i dont feel as good like those ppl in porn. What should i do?

Im worry it will effect my new relationship. N my pills are running low now. I try to control my urge to wank. I think im addicted to porn. Any advise?

[max001]

maybe consult a doctor?!

[wintersnow]

Im 25 yo chinese guy but i already hv ED.

even though i Do sports a lot.

I took viagra to fuck my bf.

Im not sure am i the only one here.

I nvr have erection problem till nowadays. Just that it didnt last long enough. Was so worry to hv sex. Im a person who love sex n prefer to be top.

But my erection cant stay long. About 1-2 mins only

Is it because i watched too much porn n masturbate too much? I get to experience sex quite late of my life ard 23 yo. When my 1st time being top, i realise the ass not as good as my hand. Dont really feel as good. Mayb my dick not that huge so i dont feel as good like those ppl in porn. What should i do?

Im worry it will effect my new relationship. N my pills are running low now. I try to control my urge to wank. I think im addicted to porn. Any advise?

you are just too used to the forceful grip of ur hands

[jermey30]

On 12 September 2015 at 2:13 AM, wintersnow said:

you are just too used to the forceful grip of ur hands

[Guest Power Tongue]

Day by day I notice that my libido is decreasing and seldom had an erection. Am I having ED?

[Guest friend]

On 09/13/2015 at 1:02 AM, Guest 25yoerection said:

Im 25 yo chinese guy but i already hv ED.

even though i Do sports a lot.

I took viagra to fuck my bf.

Im not sure am i the only one here.

I nvr have erection problem till nowadays. Just that it didnt last long enough. Was so worry to hv sex. Im a person who love sex n prefer to be top.

But my erection cant stay long. About 1-2 mins only

Is it because i watched too much porn n masturbate too much? I get to experience sex quite late of my life ard 23 yo. When my 1st time being top, i realise the ass not as good as my hand. Dont really feel as good. Mayb my dick not that huge so i dont feel as good like those ppl in porn. What should i do?

Im worry it will effect my new relationship. N my pills are running low now. I try to control my urge to wank. I think im addicted to porn. Any advise?

Exactly the same situation like me. I think we are used to the masturbation. When it comes to the real penetration, it turn soft or cannot stay hard for longer time. I will need to take medicine to keep the stamina.

[Guest Power Tongue]

On 28 August 2016 at 4:39 PM, Guest Power Tongue said:

Day by day I notice that my libido is decreasing and seldom had an erection. Am I having ED?

Power Tongue has been trolled again! My dick is firm! I wish whoever this is would grow up! #troll

[Guest Wonder]

I have similar situation since 32, I cannot hold an erection for Long most of the time, it just goes limp after a while and it's hard to get it up again. Now 36, my body is still toned from gym etc, maybe need to do more cardio which I'm doing swimming more regularly from this week. Wonder with this condition, anyone still care to be my bf...

[Guest Buona Vista guy]

On 9/2/2016 at 7:34 AM, Guest Wonder said:

I have similar situation since 32, I cannot hold an erection for Long most of the time, it just goes limp after a while and it's hard to get it up again. Now 36, my body is still toned from gym etc, maybe need to do more cardio which I'm doing swimming more regularly from this week. Wonder with this condition, anyone still care to be my bf...

 

Why not ? some relationship want more like a companionship

[Anderson]

On 9/2/2016 at 7:34 AM, Guest Wonder said:

I have similar situation since 32, I cannot hold an erection for Long most of the time, it just goes limp after a while and it's hard to get it up again. Now 36, my body is still toned from gym etc, maybe need to do more cardio which I'm doing swimming more regularly from this week. Wonder with this condition, anyone still care to be my bf...

Unfortunately, erectile dysfunction happen to very fit young men so there are many other causes for the condition which is best determined by a medical specialist.

Don't blindly guess or anyhow take medication.

Edited September 3, 2016 by Anderson

[Guest Neh Neh]

On 13 September 2015 at 1:02 AM, Guest 25yoerection said:

Im 25 yo chinese guy but i already hv ED.

even though i Do sports a lot.

I took viagra to fuck my bf.

Im not sure am i the only one here.

I nvr have erection problem till nowadays. Just that it didnt last long enough. Was so worry to hv sex. Im a person who love sex n prefer to be top.

But my erection cant stay long. About 1-2 mins only

Is it because i watched too much porn n masturbate too much? I get to experience sex quite late of my life ard 23 yo. When my 1st time being top, i realise the ass not as good as my hand. Dont really feel as good. Mayb my dick not that huge so i dont feel as good like those ppl in porn. What should i do?

Im worry it will effect my new relationship. N my pills are running low now. I try to control my urge to wank. I think im addicted to porn. Any advise?

My advice are:

1. Stop masturbation to build up libido. Do sex with your bf once per week, you will find higher sex performance.

2. Eat half boiled eggs and exercise daily.

3. If all not working, you may be bi. Try sex with girl and see the different.

[lovehandle]

anyone tried? the below methods

I cant stop masturbation no.1)
 

 

[Guest Wonder]

I do sports too, comprising only weights and yoga but I don't do much jogging/cardio for a few years already as I want to bulk up

 

Recently, I realise that jogging/running/sprinting regularly, raising your heart health and sweating to detox actually turns the libido on and back to its natural sexy healthy state again.

 

Thanks to one of the above posts too for the inspiration on jogging to rectify this issue.

[Guest Nega]

Has anybody ever edged with another guy, fucking him and getting sucked by him a bunch of different times, but always stopping yourself before cumming? But then, after making him cum, you can't get hard enough to fuck him again and finally make your own self cum? So frustrating.

[lovehandle]

On ‎14‎/‎1‎/‎2015 at 2:53 PM, dsd said:

Having a limp dick may have saved my life a few times.

Happened before, I met this cuddly Lao ah Pek, so chubby and smooth, his wet hole waiting for me to mount him.

But at the last minute, I got all soft.

Could penetrate his hole at all.

I cannot understand it.

When I next meet up with my darling pastor, I got all hard again.

I farked him real good that day.

I think it's just my body telling me some hole cannot fark.

Must stay clear. Who knows got HIV or not?

The hole that I feel perfectly safe with like my pastor's hole, I have raging hard on.

pastor?

[kimlo777]

On 1/14/2015 at 2:53 PM, dsd said:

Having a limp dick may have saved my life a few times.

Happened before, I met this cuddly Lao ah Pek, so chubby and smooth, his wet hole waiting for me to mount him.

But at the last minute, I got all soft.

Could penetrate his hole at all.

I cannot understand it.

When I next meet up with my darling pastor, I got all hard again.

I farked him real good that day.

I think it's just my body telling me some hole cannot fark.

Must stay clear. Who knows got HIV or not?

The hole that I feel perfectly safe with like my pastor's hole, I have raging hard on.

wow who is your pastor?

[Guest ED Patient]

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Shock Wave Therapy for Erectile Dysfunction

[tinkero]

Try not jo-ing for 2 weeks? For me after that wind blow also hard 

 

My balls feel like exploding after that

[MadMan]

On 3/3/2017 at 6:22 PM, kimlo777 said:

wow who is your pastor?

 

Could be Lawrence Khong for all you know....

[kimlo777]

15 hours ago, MadMan said:

 

Could be Lawrence Khong for all you know....

or could it be Kong Hee for that matter!!!

[Ernestnana]

Recently i am having difficulty maintaining an erection. I am still in early 20s and its too early to erectile dysfunction, I suspect i am having anxiety. Will pills help or any other ways?

Edited April 19, 2017 by Ernestnana

[doncoin]

Wear a cockring or have sex with someone you are really into. 

[Guest Emman]

On 03/03/2017 at 6:22 PM, kimlo777 said:

wow who is your pastor?

 

Could be Mark Angel's pastor

[Guest Kunal]

You have to check with your doctor first. You might have a heart disease

[Guest Jon]

Maybe can try juagen (dick massage)
Need to go thailand find they help massage your cock hahaha

they press press here and there and dick really become harder but for limited time (1 - 2 months, need go for regular servicing) 
Singapore have some PRC and Thai massage ladies but need to know the ones that do real or the ones that just do handjobs
you search google can find one maya but never try before and seems very ex 

[Guest Numb cock]

I’ve got a slightly different problem - I can achieve erections, morning woodies are still very hard, but I seem to lack the sensory sensitivity I used to have as a tweenie (now 40), so it’s almost a challenge to get to orgasm. Other than morning woodies, the relative numbness means I don’t exactly get erect by touch as easily as by non-tactile stimulation. Sometimes this creates anxiety and getting or staying hard then becomes an issue with a partner. No problems when on my own though. Anyone else has similar experience and know of effective treatments?

[Steve5380]

You may get some interesting ideas here but in the end it is the medical profession (an urologist?) who can assist you the best.

[Guest Help!]

Has anyone managed to reverse their ED? Based on biological issues like diabetes or blood pressure or anything like that?

 

I just don't want to face the scenario of this being the rest of my life. I might as well learn to be single if that's the case.

[lovehandle]

On ‎5‎/‎3‎/‎2018 at 4:15 AM, Guest Numb cock said:

I’ve got a slightly different problem - I can achieve erections, morning woodies are still very hard, but I seem to lack the sensory sensitivity I used to have as a tweenie (now 40), so it’s almost a challenge to get to orgasm. Other than morning woodies, the relative numbness means I don’t exactly get erect by touch as easily as by non-tactile stimulation. Sometimes this creates anxiety and getting or staying hard then becomes an issue with a partner. No problems when on my own though. Anyone else has similar experience and know of effective treatments?

agree w Steve, if not, see a doc who focused on men's issues too (though I forsee they will ask u to take some light medication)

sometimes it is due to stress, like anxiety when u mentioned

Get your partner to do more involvement work firs...

 

I have heard that a minority in 30+ yo , no longer get woodies(I don't understand how or why), but I jokingly replied it is fine, they r btms anyway

they claimed eating some locally known Aphrodisiac remedies like beef or oysters work for them (if not https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/aphrodisiac-foods)
Did u try supplements for men at Pharmacies?

[blowmenow]

On 9/2/2016 at 7:34 AM, Guest Wonder said:

I have similar situation since 32, I cannot hold an erection for Long most of the time, it just goes limp after a while and it's hard to get it up again. Now 36, my body is still toned from gym etc, maybe need to do more cardio which I'm doing swimming more regularly from this week. Wonder with this condition, anyone still care to be my bf...

u can be a bottom. problem solved!

[blowmenow]

On 4/20/2017 at 1:06 AM, Ernestnana said:

Recently i am having difficulty maintaining an erection. I am still in early 20s and its too early to erectile dysfunction, I suspect i am having anxiety. Will pills help or any other ways?

very likely its anxiety

u hv such issue when meeting new guy or stranger rite?

but not with ur regulars