How Old When You Had First Gay Sex + First Sexual Experience (Jo, Oral, Anal) + Whom Did You Lose Your Virginity To? (Compiled)

[Den Yuan]

I had oral sex with a man at Buona Vista Swimming Complex when I was in Sec 1. We sucked each other.

[Guest Swords]

My first exp was very conflicting and in dilemma. 

It was a cold night as we're cruising around. Can't help to notice each other's attractive physique.

 

Chatted a while and he understood me as one whom will not just get fucked and forgotten.

I wasn't even sure if I were top or bottom.

 

We went into a dark room. He lighted up the room with cosy feeling, switching the light off softly.

Haven't I realised anything, we were already kissing and glorifying each other's cxcks.

 

As we went on and on, he started to squeeze the lube and start rubbing it onto my glory hole.

Bit by bit, I could feel that erotic and moisturising sensation, my breathing sped, back to normal and off the chart like I can't grasp an air while he rimmed me with his tongue.

 

As though, my arse was tickled by jelly-ish touch. He's a real pro rimmer.

He then paused and prepared his stiff cock, covered with condom.

 

I got the hint that he's about to pound me. My mind flashed with worrying questions!

With my both palms, i stopped his approaching thighs as we were positioned with my bod lying down while both legs carried up in the air.

 

I told him it's my first encounter and I'm afraid. He smiled gently and massaged my nipples with open palms. His assurance touches were fitting and comforting.

 

He started to lead his penis head into my well-rimmed hole. He started shallow. I could see his eyes were closed and slowly inserting his unstoppable thumb drive into my new-tight port.

 

Naturally, i synchronised with his motion and breathing speed thus allowing my hole to open up wider. He sought the chance pound me deeper. At this moment, I could feel his half trunk throbbing in gently and slowly till I could feel his scrotum brushes my skin.

 

That was an undescribeable but pleasurable insert! He paced my rhythm so closely and I started to realise he's already banging me as I could hear our bodies slapping each other, every inch of his cock was deeply penetrated into me.

 

He increased his speed, the pounding got more melodically aggressive. The heat was in and high up. We both could feel both our worlds were connected; as though I have understood this person for a long time.

 

Erotic bromance... He stroked my hardened stick while fucking me hard. Soon, we each got the butterfly moment where we could sense our loads are exploding from a cave like lava. My cum shot high up to his face considering the position that we're in. And he withdrew his dick, slipped the condom off and laser shoot me with his 37 degree, warm sticky milk on my body. 

 

That was satisfying for both of us and we felt like on top of the world.

 

That night was unforgettable as my last birthday?!

 

We showered in hugs and chatted after we're clothed on. 

 

Sad to say, we're now not in contact anymore as he went on with more guys like a prostitute. Sometimes, he signaled as thought he wanted another eromantic session.

 

BUT I learnt to REJECT for his slut preying habits. What lasted was the moment when I had my first virgin layer broken by him.

 

Regretted it was him. Also Happy for it was him. Complicated dilemma and self-conflicting. If time was to turn back again, would I be able to resist his temptation?

 

heartfelt truth from a beginner back then.

[MotherCat]

great erotica

i liked the 'melodically aggressive' part... Im sure u were thinking of a coldplay-like repetition and build up eh?

[hydro90]

My first time was in my age 16. And now still a bottom always. I do like sucking too. Prefer a small dick hehe

[Guest newtothings]

So other than porn,internet stuff and masturbating,Ive never tried anything myself before, I have a question. Seeing as Singapore and Malaysia are still quite "close minded" how did you guys start your sex life and stuff? Some of us knew we were gay but how did you start getting around it? Its not like theres a detailed guide to starting things. What's your story?

[Guest 72%dark]

Well you can't really have a "sex life" without other people, so it's likely that most people have their first homoerotic experiences in school (e.g. when i was in primary 6 some of the boys in my class had started going through puberty, and the cheekier ones liked to engage in 'horseplay' with their dicks - pre-masturbation basically; most of them have probably turned out straight so it was just exploration of their developing sexuality).

But it's kinda strange to ask about starting one's "sex life"... Unless you're starting later in life and have in mind purely physical sex (e.g. you identify as mainly heterosexual and are just curious about doing it with guys), i'd guess that most guys who grew up knowing they're gay think of it more as how they started their _love_ life. In other words, we started out having crushes on classmates/friends, yearning/fantasizing about having a bf, and so on, and sex was just one part of that. But of course the emotional aspect of it doesn't preclude experiencing purely physical encounters; some people experience that with schoolmates or people in their other social circles, other people by cruising or being cruised by strangers in public. Nowadays maybe youngsters use the internet as well.

In any case, whether you're looking for just sex or more, you're going to have to get in touch with people. If you don't already know anyone who's openly gay and can introduce you to other PLU, you can always use websites like this one (or dating sites, though i think those are waning in popularity with the advent of mobile apps) or dating apps like Grindr. You could meet PLU by going to clubs, or by joining special-interest groups. If you want NSA sex you can visit a sauna (or take your chances on the 'open market').

As for living in a conservative society, i can't speak for Malaysia, but in Singapore i don't think you have that much to worry about.

[Guest 72%dark]

As for a "detailed guide", if you want reading materials you could try the Pelangi Pride Center. They have a pretty good collection of LGBT related books, including non-fiction. The library used to be open on Saturday afternoons but do check for the latest updates.

[azimuth]

To all your questions, I think there is only one answer I can think of. It starts by meeting like minded people. Things flow from then on. :-)

[Guest newtothings]

Well you can't really have a "sex life" without other people, so it's likely that most people have their first homoerotic experiences in school (e.g. when i was in primary 6 some of the boys in my class had started going through puberty, and the cheekier ones liked to engage in 'horseplay' with their dicks - pre-masturbation basically; most of them have probably turned out straight so it was just exploration of their developing sexuality).

But it's kinda strange to ask about starting one's "sex life"... Unless you're starting later in life and have in mind purely physical sex (e.g. you identify as mainly heterosexual and are just curious about doing it with guys), i'd guess that most guys who grew up knowing they're gay think of it more as how they started their _love_ life. In other words, we started out having crushes on classmates/friends, yearning/fantasizing about having a bf, and so on, and sex was just one part of that. But of course the emotional aspect of it doesn't preclude experiencing purely physical encounters; some people experience that with schoolmates or people in their other social circles, other people by cruising or being cruised by strangers in public. Nowadays maybe youngsters use the internet as well.

In any case, whether you're looking for just sex or more, you're going to have to get in touch with people. If you don't already know anyone who's openly gay and can introduce you to other PLU, you can always use websites like this one (or dating sites, though i think those are waning in popularity with the advent of mobile apps) or dating apps like Grindr. You could meet PLU by going to clubs, or by joining special-interest groups. If you want NSA sex you can visit a sauna (or take your chances on the 'open market').

As for living in a conservative society, i can't speak for Malaysia, but in Singapore i don't think you have that much to worry about.

As for a "detailed guide", if you want reading materials you could try the Pelangi Pride Center. They have a pretty good collection of LGBT related books, including non-fiction. The library used to be open on Saturday afternoons but do check for the latest updates.

To all your questions, I think there is only one answer I can think of. It starts by meeting like minded people. Things flow from then on. :-)

 

i guess im just lacking of courage. im only 18 so i know its a little early to be thinking these stuff. like u said dark i guess im moree curious about starting love life. No one around me i know is openly gay, so it feels sorta lonely. Though there are people from the same place here and loads of PLUs on the internet but it just seems distant. Im not ashamed of my sexuality but i noe its not time to come out yet . But i do think about having a lover having someone to protect and being protected, i admired other guys before but never really a crush. im a little weird i guess.

 

in the Msia state im from there's only a few cruising places but its either shopping malls and stuff , seems way too public for me . I rather meet some1 in a sauna and take my chances but theres none so "haha". 

 

tats why im trying to see find out how those in similar situations as me are dealing with this... . its not much but at least its a start. =)

 

thnks dark and azi. 

[Kenda]

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Edited March 30, 2019 by Kenda

[Guest alexisss]

I started when i was 16.

it was on sgboy irc.

I was curious. Being a malay, im curious abt uncut dick. So i meet this chinese guy at a toilet in a community center.

Unfortunately he circumcised his dick. I tot all non malay or muslim guys would have uncut dick. Apparently i was wrong..

For the 1st time i touch someone elses dick. Gosh. I was shock to see the amount of pubic hair he have. I wad still hairless till im 18; latebloomer.

He sucked my dick. Then for the 1st time i suck someones dick. Gosh. Felt dirty. Then we just jerked off each other. He came into the toilet bowl. Adults cum.

It was soo thick and white.

After that, we went swimming. I left him in the swimming pool alone and never talk to him again.

I feel disgusted by my action.

but being a teenager, raging hormones and curiousity, i meet another person.

This time i try to do anal. He try to fuck me but it was bloody fucking painful for me. Stopped him. And he let me fuck him.

There goes my virginity....

Since then on, all hell break loose. Im no longer a virgin. So im like f it lah! It doesnt matter. Just meet more and more guys.

[CamperBoy]

I knew I like guys when I was in Primary One when me and my cousin started to play "kissing" games and one thing led to another as we grow up lol

[Kenda]

 

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Edited March 30, 2019 by Kenda

[Guest heartmuscle]

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Edited May 3, 2015 by heartmuscle

[loneglobe]

My ex-boyfriend had a 7incher and he was my first time in everything. He loved making out while his hands roam my body. One day while his naughty hands and tongue were making me feel really good, he started rubbing my asshole with his fingers. Then he started fingering me. He made me lick his fingers and continued to finger my ass and eventually used two fingers. I was just writhing in ecstasy and groaning into his mouth cos we were kissing non-stop. Then he asked if he could fuck me.

I was scared because that cock was fat and long and uncut. But he was making me feel really good with his fingers and making me moan and he kept licking and nibbling on my nipples. So I relented.

He put on the condom. He lurbicated my ass and added lots of it on his hard cock. And he told me to exhale as he pushed it in. I thought it wasn't so bad cos my ex was very gentle and very slow. I told him, 'That is so big. I can't take anymore.' And then he said, 'Baby, that was just the head.' He kissed me hard and told me to hold on to my ankles. 'Baby, you're so tight and warm.' And he kissed me and next thing I knew he pushed the whole shaft in. I felt every inch inside of me. And when he managed to squeeze his big dick inside of me, I felt this fucking intense wave of pleasure. He hit the spot.

And then he started pumping in and out slow as I throw my arms around him saying 'Feels so good. You feel so good inside of me.' And then he fucked me hard to which I moaned out loud 'Yes Mmm yes baby. Don't stop. That feels so good.'

And when he was close, he pulled my head up by my neck and started fucking me really hard and deep. And that's when I realised I can never get enough of being a bottom and getting fucked. I felt him cum in a condom inside of me. Our sweaty bodies glued together. I could feel like body heat and his heaving chest on my chest. Then with his cock still inside me, he jerked me off. Fucking hot. After I came, he smeared my cum all over my chest and licked some of it, and then we kissed some more.

We went to shower after that... And he fucked me again. He had condoms hidden in the washroom and I was too horned up to care about my sore ass.

Please introduce your ex, thanks

[xsual]

i met a guy for a bj. hated myself for it.

 

two days later, went back on irc for more.

[Guest]

My ex-boyfriend had a 7incher and he was my first time in everything. He loved making out while his hands roam my body. One day while his naughty hands and tongue were making me feel really good, he started rubbing my asshole with his fingers. Then he started fingering me. He made me lick his fingers and continued to finger my ass and eventually used two fingers. I was just writhing in ecstasy and groaning into his mouth cos we were kissing non-stop. Then he asked if he could fuck me.

I was scared because that cock was fat and long and uncut. But he was making me feel really good with his fingers and making me moan and he kept licking and nibbling on my nipples. So I relented.

He put on the condom. He lurbicated my ass and added lots of it on his hard cock. And he told me to exhale as he pushed it in. I thought it wasn't so bad cos my ex was very gentle and very slow. I told him, 'That is so big. I can't take anymore.' And then he said, 'Baby, that was just the head.' He kissed me hard and told me to hold on to my ankles. 'Baby, you're so tight and warm.' And he kissed me and next thing I knew he pushed the whole shaft in. I felt every inch inside of me. And when he managed to squeeze his big dick inside of me, I felt this fucking intense wave of pleasure. He hit the spot.

And then he started pumping in and out slow as I throw my arms around him saying 'Feels so good. You feel so good inside of me.' And then he fucked me hard to which I moaned out loud 'Yes Mmm yes baby. Don't stop. That feels so good.'

And when he was close, he pulled my head up by my neck and started fucking me really hard and deep. And that's when I realised I can never get enough of being a bottom and getting fucked. I felt him cum in a condom inside of me. Our sweaty bodies glued together. I could feel like body heat and his heaving chest on my chest. Then with his cock still inside me, he jerked me off. Fucking hot. After I came, he smeared my cum all over my chest and licked some of it, and then we kissed some more.

We went to shower after that... And he fucked me again. He had condoms hidden in the washroom and I was too horned up to care about my sore ass.

wow, you really know how to appreciate being a btm...

 

lucky for your lover...or ex lover by now.

 

enjoy your contribution...keep it up.

[gliddder]

had my first date with a man at my 29,he is pinoy,and even not a sex date,i forgot what we did due to too nervous,then keep meeting him only in the following 6 months,and maybe after 3 months or more,finally tried anal,trying to be top first,but feel like cant control cum at all,so tried to be btm,my god,so damn painful,i am lucky found a small dick for my first anal,the pain in the ass last for 1 week then no more pain.

[hape]

My first oral was happened when I am 19,doing that with my friend in his 20, it happen when his parent went abroad and leave him alone in home, then he ask me to come to accompany, at first he do nothing, 2nd day he ask me to watch some porn and we both get high, and voila it happen, at first I feels weird, but then try not to think about it, my 1st anal with some random guys at my uni, happen when I'm 21, then start from that time I know that I'm gay, and I'm proud of my sexuality

[Guest watamee]

The 1st time i got fuck was with my fuck buddy.

Ive always fuck him. We would always do it in his family car or some quiet carpark. When he tried to fuck me, i cant take the pain.

Till one day i told him i need to be comfortablem so he sneaked me into his room. i told him to finger me 1st with loads of lube. And to at least use 3 finger coz his dick was pretty thick.

It was very uncomfortable. But kinda shiok. He fingeres me for sometime.

Then he ask if im ready.

Im like, what? Have u insert 3 finger?

he was like yah.

Didnt expect it. Coz it felt like only one finger and no pain at all.

then he put his thick dick at my hole and rubbed it around.

'Are u ready?'

'Yeah. But please go slow..'

When he enter, damnnn... my 1st time having a dick inside me. It was damnnn shiok!

His dick was thick. My tight vigrin ass was all filled. No pain at all.

i was in heaven.

he fucked me deep and hard. After we both came, i had problem walking. My legs were all wobbly and i felt a little dizzzy. A sign of me just getting a good fuck.

The next day he told me his bed broke.

[Guest jeff]

Aawww.wild fuck..lol

[Guest Mnjnxxxx]

I'm 18 and I'm still a virgin, is that normal? Sometimes I feel like just having sex with anyone and lose my virginity but just the thought of doing it makes me nervous. Should I keep my virginity and wait to have sex with someone I like a lot or is it not that big of a deal for guys? Do guys really prefer doing it with virgins or is sex all the same to them? And mind sharing your stories on how you guys lost your virginity and at what age?

[LickinGood]

Dont think too much...You are pretty normal.

 

I dont suggest you to find any random guy to satisfy your fantasy.

 

Save your 'sweet little hole' (assume u're a btm) till you find that someone which you wouldnt regret.

 

Alway keep this in mind never let your lust control you....Play Safe.

 

http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=25408&&page=20

Edited April 7, 2015 by LickinGood

[hairy springroll]

Remember always play safe

Dont be soft hearted

[Guest Lim Guan Eng]

In this funny world, no one is virgin. Once you tell people that you are virgin, people will laugh at you and don't believe that you are virgin. 18yo still a virgin is ok. I lost my virgin when I was 19. 18yo to me is the time to know more, experience and go for it.other wise you will feel regret when you reach 21. When you want to play with another virgin, it is not easy... it is better to play with virgin.learn from the experience. .....

Telling my virgin lost story.....haha. it was a long story.....

[Lad2]

You are precious and dont lose your virginity for the sake of losing it. When you have sex,its not just a union of body.your soul and spirit is coming to union with the other person too.(you cant prevent this).so,you would not want to open up your spirit to a wicked person.

[youngpunk]

Nothing wrong, never do anything for the sake of doing. You'll know it when you're ready and when the person is right.

[Guest blacq]

No, you should practise sex every week from now, why wait? Later become uncle then regret? Cruising toilets to find preys?

[65x2]

you're still gonna get your heart broken by the one that takes your 'virginity' anyway. so yeah

[Guest Guest]

Absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. Nowadays it seems like people get laughed at for being a virgin, but when you think about it it's because most of these people who laugh first aren't virgins in the first place. People like to laugh and ridicule others to make themselves feel better. Get my drift?

Never lower your standards. Save yourself for your true partner.

[MadMan]

Don't do it just for the sake of losing it if you're not ready. But on the other hand don't wait for the right one to lose your V to bcos there is no such person in this world. And definitely don't wait till you're in your 30s bcos then you would miss out a lot which you might regret.

All the above are just individual BWers' opinions which you can choose not to heed. But the only one advice you must bear in mind is to always play safe.

[Guest Confused]

Whats the defination for male virginity? Front or back? Lol

[EasleyLim]

Your virginity should be your own decision and no one else's. Do as you deem fit and don't let other people pressure you to lose or keep it.

 

But in this day and age, i doubt people actually care about the status of your virginity. 

[Guest 72%dark]

No need to get hung up over the concept of "virginity" and its preservation or loss. Nothing magical happens when you lose your virginity; you don't suddenly "become a man" or an adult just because you did it with someone, you don't acquire miraculous new sexual abilities, or whatever... So don't feel like you have something to prove by losing it. Nor should you feel pressured to keep it at all costs either; only the most religious conservative is going to judge you for having lost it. The rest of us are unlikely to care much either way.

First times of many experiences in life can be simultaneously thrilling and intimidating; so unsurprisingly your first time having sex may be filled with both excitement and anxiety. Therefore, all things equal, one hopes that one's first sex partner will be someone who respects one enough to take things at a comfortable pace, to allay one's anxieties while delivering the sweetness of the experience. I think that's an argument in favor of waiting for the right person to come along rather than just rushing into bed with whomever. ;-) Best of luck!

[Guest Mnjnxxxx]

Whats the defination for male virginity? Front or back? Lol

both I guess? It just means I haven't had sex before. Including blowjobs handjobs etc

[Guest wozzit]

You are precious and dont lose your virginity for the sake of losing it. When you have sex,its not just a union of body.your soul and spirit is coming to union with the other person too.(you cant prevent this).so,you would not want to open up your spirit to a wicked person.

 

I agree with the sentiment expressed by Lad2. Yet I wonder what is it that those who regularly attend saunas find apart from merely the act of sex with another guy? It surely isnt a union of body, soul n spirit coming to union. Or is it?

 

I agree with the others who suggest the TS takes his time. Theres nothing epic abt losing ones virginity. It will eventually happen. I hope its with a great guy n u both hv a great time when it does.

[fab]

Give your virginity to a man whom when u look back many years later with no regrets.

[Dri]

Nothing wrong at all. Im 20 and still a virgin. To say, I would rather give it to someone I love or whom we have mutual love for

[Guest Guest]

both I guess? It just means I haven't had sex before. Including blowjobs handjobs etc

You mean you have not been with a guy or a girl before? Nothing wrong really at 18.

Losing a guy's virginity to me is when you fuck a girl for the first time and you cum inside her, or you fuck a guy's ass and cum inside his, or you got fucked and semen deposited inside your ass.

Doing HJ or BJ on someone or someone doing it for you is not losing one's virginity in my book......

If you haven't even done HJ or BJ with a guy, how do you know you don't like a pussy? Explore both before you decide which way to lead your sex life.

[iceman76]

I think the in-thing now is abstinence..lolx..

[Guest Mnjnxxxx]

You mean you have not been with a guy or a girl before? Nothing wrong really at 18.

Losing a guy's virginity to me is when you fuck a girl for the first time and you cum inside her, or you fuck a guy's ass and cum inside his, or you got fucked and semen deposited inside your ass.

Doing HJ or BJ on someone or someone doing it for you is not losing one's virginity in my book......

If you haven't even done HJ or BJ with a guy, how do you know you don't like a pussy? Explore both before you decide which way to lead your sex life.

I'm bisexual and I haven't done it with both genders.

[Kenda]

ive lost mine when i was 16. now im almost 19 and that was my only experience. It happened suddenly for me, itll happen when it's time. 

And dun worry 99% of the people around our age are still virgins where im at. ( at least i hope so, if not wat have i been overlooking haha)

[Guest Guest]

both I guess? It just means I haven't had sex before. Including blowjobs handjobs etc

 

 

No need to get hung up over the concept of "virginity" and its preservation or loss. Nothing magical happens when you lose your virginity; you don't suddenly "become a man" or an adult just because you did it with someone, you don't acquire miraculous new sexual abilities, or whatever... So don't feel like you have something to prove by losing it. Nor should you feel pressured to keep it at all costs either; only the most religious conservative is going to judge you for having lost it. The rest of us are unlikely to care much either way.

First times of many experiences in life can be simultaneously thrilling and intimidating; so unsurprisingly your first time having sex may be filled with both excitement and anxiety. Therefore, all things equal, one hopes that one's first sex partner will be someone who respects one enough to take things at a comfortable pace, to allay one's anxieties while delivering the sweetness of the experience. I think that's an argument in favor of waiting for the right person to come along rather than just rushing into bed with whomever. ;-) Best of luck!

 

 

You mean you have not been with a guy or a girl before? Nothing wrong really at 18.

Losing a guy's virginity to me is when you fuck a girl for the first time and you cum inside her, or you fuck a guy's ass and cum inside his, or you got fucked and semen deposited inside your ass.

Doing HJ or BJ on someone or someone doing it for you is not losing one's virginity in my book......

If you haven't even done HJ or BJ with a guy, how do you know you don't like a pussy? Explore both before you decide which way to lead your sex life.

i lost mine at 27 and had no dates, no hj bj etc........... but lost all to my first bf

 

there are also ppl i know who are still virgin at 30 plus cos they want to reserve it for the right person so i dont think you should be concerned about it

[Guest literati]

Maybe you should ask yourself what you are trying to achieve in losing your virginity. Is it a necessary rite of passage, a way to understand yourself better, a way to please your partner, an experiment, what? Then you might be better able to decide if losing your virginity is the best or only way to achieve that goal.

Personally, I lost it "fully" quite late, and had been spending a long time just fantasising about it. When it happened, with some random guy, it was physically satisfying but emotionally empty.

[Yas1950]

I'm bisexual and I haven't done it with both genders.

Tell me if you are still a virgin, and you have not done it with either gender,

how can you tell that you're bisexual?     :oops: 

[Guest abc]

16 years ago when I was 16 years old , I met a guy aged early 30s via mirc and invited him to my home on Sunday afternoon. I sucked his cock until he cum and he masturbated for me only.

 

I reached 32 years old and have opportunity to work in Australia for short term. I mustered my courage to visit gay sauna. It was a quiet gay sauna with only me and him aged around 50+. We were relaxing in a jacuzzi. I offered him massage on his back and he kindly agreed. Slowly I moved my hand towards his cock and get him hard. He is a married guy with kids but has no love for his wife. We tried to penetrate each other but our cocks keep getting soft because we are too nervous as it's our first time. In the end, he swallowed every drip of my cum after I ejaculated. From then, I've been visiting sauna and started my first experience as a bottom, top.

[Guest CMI]

I'm 33 and still a virgin.
Is this normal?

[Guest Guest]

I'm 33 and still a virgin.

Is this normal?

what make you think that you are so different? Ever look the man in the mirror?

[hape]

First encounter around 18 it was oral, 1st anal at 21, but because I'm not an actively sexual person, so I just rarely doing casual sex with someone that I just meet, mostly sex with partner, and a bit random casual sex.... Maybe I'm too shy LoL

[Guest buke]

Curious to find out how did your first encounter go.Where/when was it and what made you take the plunge?Were you afraid?