Guest Asking Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Read quite a bit about gay man being married here in BW. I wonder if there anyone gay or bi married, and wife knows about him and accepts him ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 I know of someone like that. For the sake of their children, they remain married but have separate bedrooms etc. He spends a few nights away and she actually is pretty supportive. Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Ask yourself first,can a husband accepts wife being lesbian n she go outside foo around with other lesbian.U get the answer now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suckling_pig Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 It does happen, but takes an open minded woman.I know a certain person who is married and has kids. His wife has known for many years now, and has accepted. He is disciplined and spends a certain amount of time with the family, though the kids are all grown up. He will attend social events etc with her and they appear like an everday couple.I suppose when a woman is clear about what she wants, and the gay/bi husband gives her something acceptable she can accept it:Provides for the family - financial and emotional supportRespectability - attends social events etc, so that she doesn't have to be ashamed in front of friends and relativesDiscreet - he can do his own thing, but don't overdo it so she loses faceIt can and does exist.SP We see things not as they are, but as WE are - The TalmudWhen the student is ready, the teacher will appear - The Buddha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 If your wife accept and know tht hern husband is a gay/bi, does it mean tht she also "accept" tht her husband might "sleep ard" with guys to fufill his gayness?Until now i still dun understand how cld a gay married and have kids? How does the guy has sex with a woman? 对自己好是一种幸福, 对别人好是一种积福。 Spend time counting your blessings, not airing your complaints. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freedom711 Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Ask yourself first,can a husband accepts wife being lesbian n she go outside foo around with other lesbian. U get the answer now.Why not make it this way. Will you accept ur bf to have gfs and screw them behind ur back after screwing you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 I wonder if a wife rather her husband commits adultery with a man or another woman?anyway, i do know of a guy who keeps his Msian bf in the same house as his family. I am not sure if the wife knows. Shoo and Bpfjar 2 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 I have asked my female friends b4, all of them cannot accept their husband commits adultery, esp if the person is a guy! 对自己好是一种幸福, 对别人好是一种积福。 Spend time counting your blessings, not airing your complaints. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 unless husband is RICH and HANDSOME, as a materialistic woman, i dont mind keep quiet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaded Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 And there are those who enter a contractual marriage without love. Husband flings with whoever he wants. Wife too. Pretty common in Hollywood couples, if you have read some of the actresses' memoirs (like "Prime Time" by Joan Collins). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcospanos Posted September 6, 2011 Report Share Posted September 6, 2011 thats right, if the love has never existed or has eroded over time then its easier to accept and carry on like nothing ever happened especially if kids are involved. Its also about saving face, husband wont want the ridicule from friends and family and wife doesnt want the shame and embarresment so they continue like normal couple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derryfawne Posted September 6, 2011 Report Share Posted September 6, 2011 If your wife accept and know tht hern husband is a gay/bi, does it mean tht she also "accept" tht her husband might "sleep ard" with guys to fufill his gayness?Until now i still dun understand how cld a gay married and have kids? How does the guy has sex with a woman?Indeed. I think that to some women, marriage also means fidelity.I agree with the second part of your post also. But then again, I think it's just societal pressure that pushes the man into a marriage he'd want no part in. That doesn't make him any less irresponsible, but yeah... can be expected. “Do not take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” — Elbert Hubbard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted September 6, 2011 Report Share Posted September 6, 2011 Indeed. I think that to some women, marriage also means fidelity.To some gays, attachment and 'marriage' also means fidelity. http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suckling_pig Posted September 6, 2011 Report Share Posted September 6, 2011 Ask yourself first,can a husband accepts wife being lesbian n she go outside foo around with other lesbian.U get the answer now.Actually lots of straight men are turned on by the idea. We see things not as they are, but as WE are - The TalmudWhen the student is ready, the teacher will appear - The Buddha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien Posted September 6, 2011 Report Share Posted September 6, 2011 Indeed. I think that to some women, marriage also means fidelity. I agree with the second part of your post also. But then again, I think it's just societal pressure that pushes the man into a marriage he'd want no part in. That doesn't make him any less irresponsible, but yeah... can be expected.Even sociaetal pressure but dun think i can force to have sex with a woman? Maybe married still ok but not sex. 对自己好是一种幸福, 对别人好是一种积福。 Spend time counting your blessings, not airing your complaints. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derryfawne Posted September 6, 2011 Report Share Posted September 6, 2011 To some gays, attachment and 'marriage' also means fidelity.Agree.My point was that women might not necessarily be accepting that her husband is gay/bi 'coz she'd have extra worries that her husband might be sleeping around with some other guys.On another note: I've also heard from some female friends, who are gay/bi-friendly, but nevertheless won't want to have sex with someone who has had anal sex with another guy. As much as they don't discriminate in gays/bis in daily lives, there's still some sense of disgust when it comes to bed.Even sociaetal pressure but dun think i can force to have sex with a woman? Maybe married still ok but not sex.That's what I think too.But dunno neh, I know one married gay who does sex regularly with his wife too. He doesn't quite enjoy it, but well, he's doing it to cover up his sexuality anyway. You probably won't enjoy it, but if it can buy you some artificial comfort, maybe you'll proceed since you have nothing to lose by having sex with a woman anyway. “Do not take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” — Elbert Hubbard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
btm_dude Posted September 7, 2011 Report Share Posted September 7, 2011 Ask yourself first,can a husband accepts wife being lesbian n she go outside foo around with other lesbian. U get the answer now.As a bi myself, i don't mind if my wife tell me that she's a lesbian-bi. I'll understand if she needs another 'type' of sex life... ivanl 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Phil Posted January 26, 2016 Report Share Posted January 26, 2016 Some may tolerate. Some are hopeful that will make their gay husbands straight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 26, 2016 Report Share Posted January 26, 2016 I won't even have sex with a man who have sex with a woman, even if he is bi and super hot, especially if the wife looks cheap, dirty, ugly or disgusting looking like an ah lian. I'll be sexually abusing myself if i were to have sex with a women. I'll not and would rather be psychologically, mentally or emotionally abused by society for being openly gay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom88s Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 all here re gay talk, I'm not gay, but I'm bi married 30 yrs, until my wife past away, we r both bi, she like to watch me fuck by a man, we use to run a bi swingers club in Bangkok. most of the couple can do it if both r bi sexual.not gay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 1 hour ago, tom88s said: all here re gay talk, I'm not gay, but I'm bi married 30 yrs, until my wife past away, we r both bi, she like to watch me fuck by a man, we use to run a bi swingers club in Bangkok. most of the couple can do it if both r bi sexual.not gay I speed read and thought you were saying you and your wife used to run biathalons in bangkok. For a moment i thought: wow must be an enviable straight couple with hot sex life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 On 2011年9月5日 at 5:58 PM, suckling_pig said: It does happen, but takes an open minded woman. I know a certain person who is married and has kids. His wife has known for many years now, and has accepted. He is disciplined and spends a certain amount of time with the family, though the kids are all grown up. He will attend social events etc with her and they appear like an everday couple. I suppose when a woman is clear about what she wants, and the gay/bi husband gives her something acceptable she can accept it: Provides for the family - financial and emotional support Respectability - attends social events etc, so that she doesn't have to be ashamed in front of friends and relatives Discreet - he can do his own thing, but don't overdo it so she loses face It can and does exist. SP These type of arrangement is only suitable for smart couple or in the entertainment scene, they will keep quiet till the day died , whereas most stupids will just speak ill of the other when things go wrong trying to harm the other's reputation . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 11 hours ago, Guest said: I won't even have sex with a man who have sex with a woman, even if he is bi and super hot, especially if the wife looks cheap, dirty, ugly or disgusting looking like an ah lian. I'll be sexually abusing myself if i were to have sex with a women. I'll not and would rather be psychologically, mentally or emotionally abused by society for being openly gay. Hence i feel for those gays (not bis) who "voluntarily" chose to sexually abuse themselves by having sex with women in order to avoid psychological, mental and emotional abuses from ugly and backwards societies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 TS' question misses the point - regardless of your sexual orientation, sex outside of marriage or a committed relationship is wrong. I'm not sure any wife/gf would tolerate a player easily either. If you make a commitment, stick to it. Many str8 guys also come to lose sexual interest in an aging wife/gf. Heck, even if the wife/gf is well kept, sexual desire may wane because of familiarity. A commitment is much more than sex, but if the original understanding requires fidelity, then stick to it. If both are open to exploration, power to them. The above is just as true for same-sex commitments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sir.Stokie Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 (edited) ... Edited May 26, 2017 by Sir.Stokie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oralb Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 there are 2 issues here whether the wife can accept - the sexual orientation of her husband - the husband can be infidel, regardless of the sex Like in any relationship, there is no right and wrong answer, as long as there are no physical and mental abuse. how a couple handled their relationship is pretty much their own cohesive decision. For example we have a contributor above written that his wife loved to see him get screwed by another guy. i know of a friend, whose wife knows of his bisexual way before marriage. Her reaction was no different from a lady who knows her BF has other sex partners, but the drawing line was once after marriage, he has to be faithful to her. ivanl 1 When I Think It, I Do It, I Win It! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 30 minutes ago, Sir.Stokie said: Women are emotional creatures. If u managed to find that rare one who says she dun mind now, who knows if she may change her mind a few years down the road. She will surely regret if you refuse to have sex with a man in front of her. She will feel so short-changed in this fake heterosexual marriage, she will change her mind regarding your infidelity so fast, you will surely be busted the next time you have sex with your boyfriend in your room right after your clothes are stripped and your dicks are stuffed into each others' mouths in your compromising 69 position, with her and her professional photographers, divorce lawyers, tabloid reporters and the men in black upholding 377a in tow ready to create your free sex tape for evidence in court for divorce and alimony proceedings together with a special feature in your local tabloids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 personally i think easier for a straight man to accept a bi wife than vv. 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bpfjar Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 On 05/09/2011 at 7:50 PM, fab said: I wonder if a wife rather her husband commits adultery with a man or another woman? anyway, i do know of a guy who keeps his Msian bf in the same house as his family. I am not sure if the wife knows. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bpfjar Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 Yes I know also a Malaysian friend where a Singaporean daddy sleep in a separate room with the wife. But it's kinda weird how the wife can take it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 Yeah... Lally knew abt Vincent being gay but still tried to change him. If Vincent had agreed to change I think Lally wld have accepted him back into the marriage. it was a true story based on the write's discussion with a few older married BW members here a few years ago Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hairy springroll Posted January 27, 2016 Report Share Posted January 27, 2016 Impossible to accept unless due to wealth or kids Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 28, 2016 Report Share Posted January 28, 2016 It is important to have a very honest and open relationship. I am male and bi, 31 this year. I've been with my gf for 5 years. I came out to her within the first 3 months of our relationship - I feel very blessed that she accepts me for who I am. If I want to do something with guys (because mentally there is a real difference between activities with guys and activities with girls), I ask her whether she's okay with it. If she's okay, then I can do (provided I tell her exactly what is going to happen la). If she says no, then I won't do. These things have been going on for 3 years liao at least, after she got used to the idea. I'm not rich. Actually my gf's family is richer than I am. and I don't have kids, and have decided with my gf that we will have kids together in the future. SO neither money or kids are factors. It just takes someone really special to accept that in you. Not every significant other (regardless of gender), can accept this. From a love point of view, it's not always easy to understand why you cannot satisfy your loved one / your loved one doesn't want you to satisfy him. But such people definitely exist. Butterworth 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 28, 2016 Report Share Posted January 28, 2016 12 minutes ago, Guest said: It is important to have a very honest and open relationship. I am male and bi, 31 this year. I've been with my gf for 5 years. I came out to her within the first 3 months of our relationship - I feel very blessed that she accepts me for who I am. If I want to do something with guys (because mentally there is a real difference between activities with guys and activities with girls), I ask her whether she's okay with it. If she's okay, then I can do (provided I tell her exactly what is going to happen la). If she says no, then I won't do. These things have been going on for 3 years liao at least, after she got used to the idea. I'm not rich. Actually my gf's family is richer than I am. and I don't have kids, and have decided with my gf that we will have kids together in the future. SO neither money or kids are factors. It just takes someone really special to accept that in you. Not every significant other (regardless of gender), can accept this. From a love point of view, it's not always easy to understand why you cannot satisfy your loved one / your loved one doesn't want you to satisfy him. But such people definitely exist. I genuinely wish you well for finding such an open minded gf. But so that not too many people are deluded into thinking this is a likely outcome, I have to say that most people aren't so fortunate to 享齐人之福. In fact, life is often not perfect and involves some kind of sacrifice. Marriage and commitment is about forsaking all others. It's true, some wants may not be satisfied, but the hope is that the commitment yields some other benefit that greatly makes up for the sacrifice. 好事多磨, believe in it. Too many of our younger generation no longer do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 31, 2016 Report Share Posted January 31, 2016 On 1/28/2016 at 11:43 PM, Guest said: It is important to have a very honest and open relationship. I am male and bi, 31 this year. I've been with my gf for 5 years. I came out to her within the first 3 months of our relationship - I feel very blessed that she accepts me for who I am. If I want to do something with guys (because mentally there is a real difference between activities with guys and activities with girls), I ask her whether she's okay with it. If she's okay, then I can do (provided I tell her exactly what is going to happen la). If she says no, then I won't do. These things have been going on for 3 years liao at least, after she got used to the idea. I'm not rich. Actually my gf's family is richer than I am. and I don't have kids, and have decided with my gf that we will have kids together in the future. SO neither money or kids are factors. It just takes someone really special to accept that in you. Not every significant other (regardless of gender), can accept this. From a love point of view, it's not always easy to understand why you cannot satisfy your loved one / your loved one doesn't want you to satisfy him. But such people definitely exist. I think i will strike TOTO first before meeting a girl like this... Since it's neither money nor kid, either you are drop dead gorgeous or she... (joking). Wish you have a happy ending. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Dong Posted February 10, 2016 Report Share Posted February 10, 2016 Very few i think would engage into this. That could be true love from the girl to marry a gay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wantonmee Posted February 10, 2016 Report Share Posted February 10, 2016 on the extreme, there is a dude on grindr that keeps asking for a 3s with his wife. so i guess there are some dudes with willing partners in a bi relationship. i mean, not just knowing the dude is bi, but willingly participating in his bi relationship. watever rocks your world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inamoto Posted February 10, 2016 Report Share Posted February 10, 2016 Yes there are couples who go for 3somes, exchange wife/husband with other married couples etc. All sort of things going on in the private lives, just depends on how open they are with their desires and how receptive / rich they are. Usually in the really rich families, the other half will just accept it. Butterworth 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xboyhunk Posted February 10, 2016 Report Share Posted February 10, 2016 On 1/27/2016 at 6:19 PM, Bpfjar said: Yes I know also a Malaysian friend where a Singaporean daddy sleep in a separate room with the wife. But it's kinda weird how the wife can take it. It's quite common as the wife cannot take it sleeping together. The daddy snores too loud. Many times, people get married for domestic partnership. Many things can be achieved through this partnership together and each spouse can have private separate lives too with mutual understanding. FASTR ANONYMOUS GROUP CHAT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 14, 2016 Report Share Posted February 14, 2016 Yes, especially if the guy is rich. She can hookup straight guys anyway or even have threesome with her husband Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fitonedude Posted February 14, 2016 Report Share Posted February 14, 2016 (edited) . Edited May 4, 2016 by fitonedude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 15, 2016 Report Share Posted February 15, 2016 Don't marry a girl if you are gay. Be true to yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 15, 2016 Report Share Posted February 15, 2016 15 hours ago, Guest said: Don't marry a girl if you are gay. Be true to yourself If there is a workaround, why not. For a bi like me, I would marry my gf someday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lost Posted October 18, 2016 Report Share Posted October 18, 2016 Yes. My wife and I are living together for more then ten years and we are getting married on December 25 this year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest EveryDayIsBeautiful Posted October 19, 2016 Report Share Posted October 19, 2016 3 hours ago, Guest Lost said: Yes. My wife and I are living together for more then ten years and we are getting married on December 25 this year. You have been posting your story in every thread and even start a new thread to seek ATTENTION. It's your life and you got to decide. No one pity you and, the sun still rises and sets every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Kuchikane Posted March 19, 2017 Report Share Posted March 19, 2017 I think this hapoens especially for arranged marriage that is widely practiced in India. I was so shocked when I stayed there for a while seeing the men are too affectionate with each other and they even hold hands in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom88s Posted March 20, 2017 Report Share Posted March 20, 2017 when I live in bkk ten yrs back, I use to run a bi swingers club, we hv more than 50 pair of member.the wife always join us for fun, n they r bi too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Simon Posted April 19, 2018 Report Share Posted April 19, 2018 On 05/09/2011 at 12:47 AM, Guest Asking said: Read quite a bit about gay man being married here in BW. I wonder if there anyone gay or bi married, and wife knows about him and accepts him ? I think most married gay to women are keeping its secret otherwise they are already divorced. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Repressed id Posted April 20, 2018 Report Share Posted April 20, 2018 On 20/03/2017 at 1:54 PM, tom88s said: when I live in bkk ten yrs back, I use to run a bi swingers club, we hv more than 50 pair of member.the wife always join us for fun, n they r bi too You open one in singapore and no one dares to join. You ask them go to bangkok suddenly all of them started to come out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeanMature Posted April 20, 2018 Report Share Posted April 20, 2018 8 hours ago, Guest Simon said: I think most married gay to women are keeping its secret otherwise they are already divorced. They are usually the self denial religious type who thought that they can be changed after getting married. Or maybe just a marriage of convenience with a Les. Don't read and response to guests' post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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