Guest guest Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 it have been many years leow, this morning receive a sms from my ex bf, asking how am I . after all his mis treat me the last time we broke off ,should i reply him or ignore ? he ever slam the door on my fingers, even ran away leaving me behind debts after paying for my first payment of my flat, even try to stop my car at the express way saying he want to drop off after some argument.till today i never forgive him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azorius Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 IGNOREEEEE HIM My amateur video links: http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=30971&p=618776 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 though u never forgive him but do u still have feeling for him? do u miss him and want to know how is he getting on? if u really want to draw a clear line with him, then u will know what to do, balance it, let your your heart do the decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mili Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 holding on to the past only serves to hurt you more. Learning from the past and moving on stronger will only serve to bring you happiness and opens more doors and windows of opportunity. Believe me, I am sure many of us have been hurt bad by 'ex'.If replying makes you happy do it. If its does not bring you any joy why bother then and move on. There is no right or wrong just life's little opportunities to help us learn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TPY1314 Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 Ignore him and you should have delete everything about him long ago. He knows your weakness that's why he texts you again. Do not repeat the mistake my dear. Love yrself. Guy who uses violent force in a relationship is a big NO Puffypuff 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KiwiBear Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 Ignore him, or u will get more hurt ~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IkuTube Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 It is easy for many of us to live everyday through the eyes of negativity. Forgiveness is a virtue. In your case, it does not mean that you are to forget the hurt that you had gone through. It is impossible for any of us to erase off memories but, the least we can do, is to forgive.Forgiveness does not mean that we condone the wrong doings nor it is re-living them. It is an act that will free us while we begin to understand our Being; the True You.Be in harmony with the choice that you make. Importantly, do it when you are ready and with a sincere heart. Click Here To Visit My Blog @ "The Blessed Life" *Let me live my life to be an instrument of 'Love', in how I speak and in how I see others* - May there be Love and Peace beyond all understanding - Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Truth Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 It is easy for many of us to live everyday through the eyes of negativity. Forgiveness is a virtue. In your case, it does not mean that you are to forget the hurt that you had gone through. It is impossible for any of us to erase off memories but, the least we can do, is to forgive. Forgiveness does not mean that we condone the wrong doings nor it is re-living them. It is an act that will free us while we begin to understand our Being; the True You. Be in harmony with the choice that you make. Importantly, do it when you are ready and with a sincere heart. Forgiveness is akin to releasing oneself. When we forgive, we're allowing our souls to soar without all the emotional baggage. I fully understand that forgiveness is imperative for anybody to be their true self and express their soul, for when you cannot forgive, you're holding in a cancerous, crystalised negative emotion, which only harms yourself. Forgiveness can never be overemphasized. Negative emotions like hatred can, over the years, cause ailments and physical disorders, such as tumors, heart attacks and cancer, whether you believe it or not. An eye for an eye and the world goes blind; in a world like ours, learning to forgive graciously is imperative for emotional health and happiness.However, I believe and know by firsthand experience that some wrongs cannot be forgiven, ever, not even after the end of time. The one bearing hatred suffers as though his entire being is ravaged by excruciating emotional hell fire; it is so painful, so horrible that it cannot be sustained for long; one will have to cool down to a more acceptable level of hatred and can only suffer "relapses" occasionally. Wouldn't anyone want to free himself of such a misery? He desperately wants to forgive, like a drowning man wants air, but is unable to do so. Sometimes when your heart and soul are torn asunder by somebody, crushed and mutilated, eternally scarred, trampled upon mercilessly, and your otherwise eternal and faithful love destroyed without remorse, there's no way out. Not even the most saintly, spiritually-minded, compassionate and loving being could forgive anymore, let alone a normal human being. I know it sounds melodramatic and painfully exaggerated, but I thought so too. I thought such things could only happen in Korean dramas; anybody in the right frame of mind would think so too, but no, situations in movies and dramas can happen in real life too, although one in a million perhaps. Then again, self righteous or new agey people would condescendingly frown upon such "emotional immaturity" or "insanity" and blabber away in the name of God or justice or whatever. One word to those people: blessed be, for I hope life would not teach you a lesson by forcing you to understand and sympathise with what you cannot yet; believe me, you don't wanna have to learn this lesson.So my point is we all need to have a balanced outlook in life and do as much as we can to grow and be better people, but never judge, because their views and experiences are as valid as yours and most of the time, as for behaviour that you simply cannot understand, you'd do exactly the same if you end up in same fate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samsara Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 No! Ignore him and be hard-hearted. You only have one life to live. So don't waste your precious life on a worthless shit. 안녕하세요. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marineboy Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 It's really up to you....after so many years you may not be that angry anymore but its the bitterness that stays.For all you know people do change for the better or worse. Its a gamble for you,It'll never be the same and it'll take a long time if ever for you to completely heal from that episode.You have a big heart to forgive him so easily and he has to earn it too. Be the first to walkout if the need be,You don't deserve to go thru that hell again.All the best Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 If u wish to give him a chance to hurt u again, go ahead. 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samsara Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 If u wish to give him a chance to hurt u again, go ahead.QFT. 안녕하세요. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 Forgiveness is akin to releasing oneself. When we forgive, we're allowing our souls to soar without all the emotional baggage. I fully understand that forgiveness is imperative for anybody to be their true self and express their soul, for when you cannot forgive, you're holding in a cancerous, crystalised negative emotion, which only harms yourself. Forgiveness can never be overemphasized. Negative emotions like hatred can, over the years, cause ailments and physical disorders, such as tumors, heart attacks and cancer, whether you believe it or not. An eye for an eye and the world goes blind; in a world like ours, learning to forgive graciously is imperative for emotional health and happiness.However, I believe and know by firsthand experience that some wrongs cannot be forgiven, ever, not even after the end of time. The one bearing hatred suffers as though his entire being is ravaged by excruciating emotional hell fire; it is so painful, so horrible that it cannot be sustained for long; one will have to cool down to a more acceptable level of hatred and can only suffer "relapses" occasionally. Wouldn't anyone want to free himself of such a misery? He desperately wants to forgive, like a drowning man wants air, but is unable to do so. Sometimes when your heart and soul are torn asunder by somebody, crushed and mutilated, eternally scarred, trampled upon mercilessly, and your otherwise eternal and faithful love destroyed without remorse, there's no way out. Not even the most saintly, spiritually-minded, compassionate and loving being could forgive anymore, let alone a normal human being. I know it sounds melodramatic and painfully exaggerated, but I thought so too. I thought such things could only happen in Korean dramas; anybody in the right frame of mind would think so too, but no, situations in movies and dramas can happen in real life too, although one in a million perhaps. Then again, self righteous or new agey people would condescendingly frown upon such "emotional immaturity" or "insanity" and blabber away in the name of God or justice or whatever. One word to those people: blessed be, for I hope life would not teach you a lesson by forcing you to understand and sympathise with what you cannot yet; believe me, you don't wanna have to learn this lesson.So my point is we all need to have a balanced outlook in life and do as much as we can to grow and be better people, but never judge, because their views and experiences are as valid as yours and most of the time, as for behaviour that you simply cannot understand, you'd do exactly the same if you end up in same fate.I have been reading some of your replies, and I have to say you're really different from the rest. Some of your posts are insightful. Some are simply the hard truth. And yet some make me think and open my mind to things that I would have disagreed with. Although this is slightly off topic. Kudos, Truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 This is a no-brainer. MOVE ON & CHANGE YOUR #.Or ask him to come back & SLAM HIS FINGERS LOR. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abang Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 If your ex mistreated you then, why should you subject yourself to another round of abuse?I believe that relationship was a terrible nightmare to you.You do have a choice - run away from him! samsara 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delon Posted March 20, 2012 Report Share Posted March 20, 2012 Like the saying goes, u 4give but u dun 4 get. U 4give because u dun want 2 harbour all the anger, frustration, negative energy inside u, wh is not good 4 ur health. It's better 2 keep the better memories n move on. But u dun 4get because a leopard can never change its spots. If he can hurt u badly in the past, he will likely do it again. He's texting u now because he wants something from u n ur warning bells should be ringing. I'm sure u already know the above n know wat 2 do but just wants some assurance from our bros here.Take care. samsara 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Truth Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 Like the saying goes, u 4give but u dun 4 get. U 4give because u dun want 2 harbour all the anger, frustration, negative energy inside u, wh is not good 4 ur health. It's better 2 keep the better memories n move on. But u dun 4get because a leopard can never change its spots. If he can hurt u badly in the past, he will likely do it again. He's texting u now because he wants something from u n ur warning bells should be ringing. I'm sure u already know the above n know wat 2 do but just wants some assurance from our bros here. Take care. Agreed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Truth Posted March 21, 2012 Report Share Posted March 21, 2012 I have been reading some of your replies, and I have to say you're really different from the rest. Some of your posts are insightful. Some are simply the hard truth. And yet some make me think and open my mind to things that I would have disagreed with. Although this is slightly off topic. Kudos, Truth. Thanks. Yeah it's a bit off topic. Just wanted to voice out what I was incredulous about but finally know to be true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chadvinz Posted March 22, 2012 Report Share Posted March 22, 2012 You should ignore him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charlie Posted March 24, 2012 Report Share Posted March 24, 2012 Yes, the relationship is dead already, no point replying to a message at might have an agenda. You know how he's like and you shouldn't go soft.Ignore him and don't reply. If you do, you're only feeding him.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Nyingo Posted December 9, 2015 Report Share Posted December 9, 2015 Past is past especially if relationship turned sour. Move on and find a better one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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