PLUs over 40 + What Do You Think A Gay Should Have By Age 40? (compiled)

[Guest 2012]

Hi all,

What are the tangible and non-tangible things that you feel you should have by forty?

[Guest MaterialBoy]

own house, car, boyfriend and harem.

[calvintantan]

House + Car + Money = Single at 40 

[Guest Guest]

HEALTH

[Guest Brain]

What u need is a good heart, knowledge and brain power.

House, car, condo, cash will come by. If u don't have brain like asking what u should own when u r 40..... Err .... U need the three things mentioned earlier.

I have all bought all that when I was 35 .....(by myself) including paid all my own education fees.

Work harder and stop depending on parent and dreaming.

[Guest Fox]

What u need is a good heart, knowledge and brain power.

House, car, condo, cash will come by. If u don't have brain like asking what u should own when u r 40..... Err .... U need the three things mentioned earlier.

I have all bought all that when I was 35 .....(by myself) including paid all my own education fees.

Work harder and stop depending on parent and dreaming.

Are you currently single or attached but available?

[Guest Brainless]

Brain has married to Brainless already ....:-)

[alien]

Seems like the measurement of a gay 'success' when he reached 40 year old is house, car & money?! But how much money he shld have then consider successful?

Edited April 5, 2012 by alien

[doncoin]

A close group of friends who will have your back and be there for you no matter what.

[Guest op]

what a joke! boring Q and silly answers. Is life really so boring and meaningless here ah?

[alien]

A close group of friends who will have your back and be there for you no matter what.

Friends or close friends are very impt when u grow old.

[Guest Guest]

Mobility,sanity, financially independent, own your bachelor pad

[Guest Guest]

Someone once told me you can try to imagine your own funeral when you just hit 40.

Observe the surrounding and imagine what the other people around you might say.

Is there anyone there? Enemies or friends?

Do they talk about your house or car or your beautiful lifestyle? Do they envy your property and stuff now that you are 6 feet under the ground?

Imagine them sharing a personal story about you of your failure and your success.

[Guest Guest]

Note down what they feel is your success and strength. That will be the things you want to achieve.

Note down the failures they see in you. That's what you want to change now.

[steelwings]

tangible: a defined career path

intangible: an open mind

[Guest guest]

a friend of mine is 42 , he claim why need so much money?as long got salary ,got 3 meals a day and maintain young look and can screw many cuties from grinder is contented.why stress with searching for more money? dun even need to travel overseas? all the same, still searching to screw while overseas , can do it over here from grinder.do u guys who is (40) agree?

[robin]

At 40, for the intangible:

- Confidence

- Planner (eg; financial planning)

- Wisdom & ability to see the big picture when making a judgement

- Not so calculative. I have seen frens who are above 40 and when go out for a drink with other frens (or younger guys), they would expect the other party to pay their share up to the last cent

- Higer EQ

- Courage to stand by his word despite of under pressure

Tangible:

- specialised skill set in his job industry

- Own house

I do not think car is necessary since spore transport system is good. Unless I am a multi-millionaire, I would rather use the money for other investment purposes.

[Guest Screw him]

a friend of mine is 42 , he claim why need so much money?as long got salary ,got 3 meals a day and maintain young look and can screw many cuties from grinder is contented.why stress with searching for more money? dun even need to travel overseas? all the same, still searching to screw while overseas , can do it over here from grinder.do u guys who is (40) agree?

Wish him luck and screw him. If u have such attitude and I really think or hope some of your good friend screw you (not physical) till u wake up. But with such attitude all this while, guessed u have few or even one good friend.

Anyway, as someone posted earlier, close friends, knowledge, attitude and financial stability should be established by now (40) hopefully. Otherwise, u should try to achieve it.

Post this question to you and your friend:

'if u r retrenched or fired by your coy, how long can u survive without loan? Do u have enough to last u for another 40 yrs?'

[Guest swimblue]

HEALTH

totally agree. Life goes on. Health is most important.

[Guest guest]

i am 40 plus reaching 50 , i have retired since age 35 ,i am comfortable stable and can go travel any time any where, i also look younger than my age due to no stress but not as good looking as others , but still can t find a soul mate.

[Guest Mr right]

i am 40 plus reaching 50 , i have retired since age 35 ,i am comfortable stable and can go travel any time any where, i also look younger than my age due to no stress but not as good looking as others , but still can t find a soul mate.

'but still can t find a soul mate' . Have u found or still single?

If u found already, what are trying to tell us?

If u haven't, u should join the member section and advertise. I'm sure a lot of potential candidates awaiting.

[Guest Guest]

'but still can t find a soul mate' . Have u found or still single?

If u found already, what are trying to tell us?

If u haven't, u should join the member section and advertise. I'm sure a lot of potential candidates awaiting.

Guest was honest enuff abt his looks. I know of quite a lot of PLUs who are in their 40s/50s,finaciallly stable but not attractive.They are still single & would want their partners to be educated, finacially stable & GOODLOOKING.

My response is 'You need to be realistic & find someone compatible with your attractiveness & stop being picky'

Life is very faiir - you win some, you lose some.

Dun be too sure you gonna have your job, savings forever. I had seen many rich men who used to stay in bungalows in Bkt Timah now staying in HDB, it just took 5 to 10 yrs to squander everything. I also known of many VP & EVP who used to make 16K a mth now staying at home, jobless. Some highflyer kenna stroke and is now 'half-a-man' - feeble & helpless.

An average man has at least 50 yrs of luck - 25 yrs good luck, 25 bad luck.

Depends on how u ration it out . Some may want to have '5 yrs good, 5 yrs' bad cycle.

Some may have very bad luck before 35 & then enjoy very good luck thereafter(e.g Drew Barrymore).

Others may have excellent fortune & died young & infamously(e.g Whitney Houston).

If you are 40, you need to know the meaning of your life & the lessons you need to learn on earth for your spiritual evolvement.

[Guest Guest]

'but still can t find a soul mate' . Have u found or still single?

If u found already, what are trying to tell us?

If u haven't, u should join the member section and advertise. I'm sure a lot of potential candidates awaiting.

Bcoz he already told you he's not goodlooking.

'a lot of potential candidates awaiting', like 'golddiggers, cheaters'?

Being rich means more option for you - 1st class travel, xpensive home, branded stuffs,etc.

But in the love dept, if guest is not as attractive, he needs to look for someone compatible & stop being picky.

I know of some rich plus who r not as goodlooking, It's okay to be friends but zero attraction to be lovers. Sorril

[Guest Guest]

'but still can t find a soul mate' . Have u found or still single?

If u found already, what are trying to tell us?

If u haven't, u should join the member section and advertise. I'm sure a lot of potential candidates awaiting.

Bcoz he already told you he's not goodlooking.

'a lot of potential candidates awaiting', like 'golddiggers, cheaters'?

Being rich means more option for you - 1st class travel, xpensive home, branded stuffs,etc.

But in the love dept, if guest is not as attractive, he needs to look for someone compatible & stop being picky.

I know of some rich plus who r not as goodlooking, It's okay to be friends but zero attraction to be lovers. Sorril

[Anderson]

You should have lots and lots to worry about if by 40 you still haven't got any clue to those questions

Edited April 6, 2012 by Anderson

[Guest Friday]

i go for :

few good friends

can buy stuff without much hesitation : eg budget $500

hdb house

no need car

no need bf to report where i go/share my financial budget.

no need to worry/bother what other think of me eg gay/rich/sucess....

[raind]

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Edited September 14, 2013 by raind

[Guest Blaidd_drwg]

What I think a gay man should have when he is 40?

I think all man and woman, regardless of sexual orientation, should know what they want and should have at any adult age. These are personal choices and I don't need to compare with others as though it is a golden standard.

And my question to you is: What do you think a lesbian should have when she is 200?

A rotting vajajay which smells like the gas chambers of the holocaust?

You ask redundant questions, you get redundant answers!

[Guest 2012]

I think there is an inherent misunderstanding that this question was meant for me to compare. It is meant as to get us to share our own take on this personal inquiry.

I also think that there is a sense of arrogance and ignorance of us to think that just because we are capable of introspection means that we are consciously working towards what we want in life.

If that is really true, why do so many people suffer from mid-life crisis? My take is that many think that they know what they want but after they got what they wanted, they start to realize that it is not making them feel actualised. So having such discussion opens us to the blind spots of our own ideals.

I like to think that at 40, I am able to live as an authentic person. Why in the first place do I work hard to attain financial wealth and my own place? It is so that I can be free to pursue a life where I can live as as honestly as a gay man. Nothing is sadder than to be living a double life to me. I wish I continue to have the physical and mental strength, and intellectual capacity and openess to live and adapt to the changing social and economic landscape, and to contribute to its discourse. For if I stop learning new things or to improve/question on what I am doing, I am just living to die.

[Guest Knowing]

1. House

2. Health

3 Money

Above in ranking. Most important need to have your own house, but today house is like a treasure and not many people can afford even though you may have some retirement savings. I find Singapore house is extremely on high-end now, pretty scary.

Than come health, if you have health problem you can't do many things even with money to enjoy. You need to recuperate, you need a place to rest well and take care of your well-beings.

Finance, if you have finance, you can eat well and play well and travel around. You can do many things you like including putting short investment and plan some regular income.

So if you have abot 3, that is fundamental already.

Edcuation, club members , credit card or bf is outdated once you reached 40. Priority takes the above form. Not too late to get it right even when you reached 45 yo. Many people I know plan to retire at 60yo given the current high cost of livings. So you have a decaded to do the right things even though you may not have noticed it while you were enjoying your lives all these years.

[Guest Guest]

HAPPINESS

Your definition? care to share? tks.

[Guest jalilsupane]

HEALTH AND GOING STRONG.

[fab]

Health is probably something we start to lose at 40.

Intangible thing we should have by 40 is WISDOM, hopefully.

[Guest guest]

Do single gay really need to retire at age 60?got money eat hotel no money eat food court lar.single gay work so hard at the end of yr life yr cpf and money will go back to the gov.at 40 is the best time to retire.

[frederickgam]

but then they always say life begins at 40... 40 is too early an age to asses your achievements.

[orca888]

Hmm...can unker put in my 2 cents here? hahah

I have already past the 40 mark...

I think health is probably the most important to me - the only regret I have is not taking care of my knees when I was younger...otherwise, I think I am in quite okay shape (round is a shape too)

[Maquis]

By the time any man is 40 he should have finally figured out who he is, what he wants and be happy with it.

[Guest thaiboyz]

As aging will catch up with each of us, i believe we should enjoy every phase of our lives. When in early 20s, study and work hard, have an open mind to learn things along the way, be them work and personal related issues. When in 30s, we should be more aware of our spending power and live within our means, work hard towards acheiving the basic necessities such as our own roof, car ( optional ), some bank savings for raining days etc. Of cos, not forgetting Love and Health. Treasure friendship especially when the right one comes along. He/she might be the one who is willing to share many years of our lives together, both the happy and down times. When reached 40s, career wise should be stable and watch out for matters which can trigger health issues such as work stress, dieases etc and remember to exercise regular, develop hobbies which can keep us going during spare time.

Hmm....as for 50s and above, I guess health comes the first priority, the next important element would be that very special one who giving us support thru difficult times and enjoy the fond moments in life. Golden years should be planned well ahead so that loneliness wouldnt be set in by having friends whom able to share common hobbies, spending time chatting (gossipings? ) over cups of coffees or drinks (hmm...), Going home to that someone who is there waiting for my return .......

[raind]

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Edited September 14, 2013 by raind

[Mareshka]

An intact sanity

[fortiplus+]

financially-stability - able to fulfill basic needs n save for next 40yrs

health-consciousness - both body n soul

good frenz n hobbies - to keep u sane n alive

[Guest guest]

you sure with the sentence age gracefully?being a single gay i think look is very impt.

[alien]

Not easy to age gracefully, sometimes i wonder wht shld i do in order to be able to age gracefully?

[orca888]

Not easy to age gracefully, sometimes i wonder wht shld i do in order to be able to age gracefully?

By not being bitter? hahah

I think having a great sense of humor helps

[Manbane]

At age 40,

1) Humility

2)Realism

3) Contentment

4) Financial stability

5) Good health

[Phil]

By not being bitter? hahah

I think having a great sense of humor helps

You are right (I mean about humour... ).

I also vote for "health" on top of the list.

And don't you think that if we chose "happiness" (even if it is subjective), we cover all?

[Guest Crane]

If looks are a concern when one has aged, looking at the uncles at Chinatown, horse-racing centres in Singapore, once should think that Sporean men does not age gracefully. Many are idling their time away, talking loudly and behaving almost ungraciously (sittng at public areas with one leg on the chair).

From such scenes, I think education is very important. It makes one aging person possess sufficient wisdom to know how to conduct and behave in a respectable manner. I hope with education, more Singapore men will not go that route.

[orca888]

You are right (I mean about humour... ).

I also vote for "health" on top of the list.

And don't you think that if we chose "happiness" (even if it is subjective), we cover all?

LOL - of course, being too corny and punny all the time can get one killed

Well, happiness is subjective as you rightly put it - some people don't see health as part of happiness...hahah

In fact, I would put health in front of wealth

[applepie]

Many guys here mentioned that health is most important when you hit 40.

But what are you doing to achieve that?

While maintaining good health usually means watching your diet, excercise regularly and keeping your mind and soul in equilibrium, one should also go for regular thourough medical checkup.

Once you hit 40, like it or not, your whole body system is starting to "deteriote" and your general health beginning to decline.

A regular checkup helps you to know your body's condition not visible to naked eye like rising cholesterol and blood pressure, early diabetes symptoms etc.

A clean bill is great but once you discover to have any problems early, you can do all the positive things to prevent its worsening before its too late which is unfortunately is usually the case.

[orca888]

Many guys here mentioned that health is most important when you hit 40.

But what are you doing to achieve that?

While maintaining good health usually means watching your diet, excercise regularly and keeping your mind and soul in equilibrium, one should also go for regular thourough medical checkup.

Once you hit 40, like it or not, your whole body system is starting to "deteriote" and your general health beginning to decline.

A regular checkup helps you to know your body's condition not visible to naked eye like rising cholesterol and blood pressure, early diabetes symptoms etc.

A clean bill is great but once you discover to have any problems early, you can do all the positive things to prevent its worsening before its too late which is unfortunately is usually the case.

Eating right is the first step

Regular exercising is also good to get the heart working properly...

Yup, going for regular health screening is important too