How Many Of You Have White Boyfriend Before? + Angmo With Asian Boyfriend (compiled）

[sohorny]

And how are they compared to Asian boyfriend?

Which one do you prefer?

[Guest Guest]

i had one GWM bf many years back... tall and manly with good physique although he was in his early fifties, he is very caring and understanding... a great lover in bed, knows how to make me happy and high :clap:

[Guest Lesson learned]

Few years ago while cruising in city hall, this Ang Mo tried to cruise me. He is quite muscular and handsome and he looks almost like Bruce Willis. I regretted not letting him have me. He probably stayed in the hotel upstairs. I was young then and sell myself too high. Looking back, I missed a lot of opportunities.

[Mandrake]

i had.....very charming but different value system fm us asians

and unlikely to last

This is inline with my personal experience. I am not a potato fan nor a sarong party member... it just so happened. I had a Pinoy Bf for a year or so, who is of Spanish decent. He looks like a European guy on the outside. I am not sure if this account is considered relevant to the topic... but I'll share anyway.

In the beginning of our relationship, the difference in cultures and experiences were a fresh appeal. There were so much he would like to know about my Chinese culture... and I too, of his Spanish Culture and how/why his family decided to settle in the Philippines and how their cultures blended.

However... as we got familiar with each other, I found that many things that were close to my heart, were quite difficult to share or sometimes even sacrificed. Things like listening to Chinese Songs and watching Chinese movies, sharing of foods(ones with acquired taste), interest in certain religions and philosophy. Unless we forsake parts of our old selves, which might be things we held dearly and begin a new life creating new bonds and shared values... our inherent values (eg:likes and dislikes) can be quite different. Well, this might be a substantial obstacle in the beginning... but if perhaps we can really become someone new for someone and be rewarded in return with the same "rebirth" of him, we might become stronger then people who paired typically.

[ixmog]

I never had white bf and I don't think I intend to. I don't think I want to sacrifice my chinese culture to adapt a western one. I had flings with white men before. Their major attraction of course are their big thick cock. And yes not all are big. But the greatest turn off for white men are their body odour and hairy chest which I don't really like. Conclusion, white men are for fun and not meant for a bf.

I will like to have a chinese or japanese bf. They smell better.

But not expecting...

[Guest gay singaporean]

Had a Hong Kong boyfriend in my teens for 2 years.

When in my early 20s, lived with a white Australian(30s)in Sydney for 3 years.

Seven years relationship in Paris with French man, we were both in our late 20s.

Spent 5 years on a Greek island with a Greek man(early 20s) when I was in my 30s.

Then 2 years in London with a yound British(20 years old) when I was in my 40s.

Finally now in a relationship with a 24 years old mainland Chinese in GuangZhou!

And in addition, various casual affairs with Japanese, Thai, German, Indonesian, African, Arabs and Italian...

With my experience, I can say that everyone whether white, yellow, black or whatever colours, are all as different as their cultures.

Sex? Really depend on the individuals... same as the size of their privates!

My personal observations are...

Generally the whites are more romantic.

The Asian are definately cleaner and smell better!!!

The French and the Japanese are the most kinky as far as sex is concerned!

And the Italian, Greeks, French, Arabs and African are always horny!!! Must be the climate around the Mediterranean Sea!

[castaway]

White guys are more open and "direct" than Asians, us. But our shyness is one of our charmings and mystery which other races always find attractive

Not ALL white guys are stink but in my opinion, Italian and French are most stink compared to other countries.

I used to live with Italian family and I never saw the husband taking shower (winter or summer) but many times, he was standing in the dining room, next to table, used the towel to clean his armpit in front of everybody and I could say just by looking at it, I already wanted to vomit :twisted:

So many white people say French are stink already, both men and women ... it is true

Same as in Asian, Indian are smelly compared to other Asians, but it is just due to their food.

Japanese is said have no smell because they often eat fish

For kinky, I voted for Italian, Japanese and Singapore :whistle: . I experienced 3 Italian men sucking my feet , is it considered kinky ? :oops:

It said that having sex with Swiss is very boring

[suckling_pig]

An Ang Moh once told me that Chinese have a "tea" smell. I really don't know if he is right. As a Chinese maybe I can't smell other Chinese, but other races can smell us.

Even more interesting is that a vegeterian Chinese also told me that Chinese non-vegetarians had a "meat" smell.

Any vegetarians, non-Chinese here want to comment?

SP

[Guest gammie]

I don't think I want to sacrifice my chinese culture to adapt a western one....

why do we have to sacrifice our chinese culture to adapt a western one... can't it be other way round?

[Guest gast]

why do we have to sacrifice our chinese culture to adapt a western one... can't it be other way round?

You bring up an interesting viewpoint. Can I ask you and the readers here as to what exactly is meant when we say "our Chinese culture". I would say that the culture in Singapore/Malaysia/Indonesia is very unlike "Chinese culture". Do we mean food? People in China dont eat sambal belachan, they dont eat rojak, they dont eat nasi lemak. Is it worship of ancestors and being filial? Well, since communism, people in China, on the whole, do not ancestor worship and filial piety? I would suggest that the Thais and the Vietnamese are more filial - so are we talking about Asian culture or specific Chinese culture. And what Chinese culture? Kids eat burgers, dress in jeans and t-shirts, do hip hop, sms on the latest mobile phones, etc. The lines between cultures, with globalisation and intermarriage and cross nation dependancy are being cross and are fast blurring. I would further suggest that in a place like Singapore, there is less of a cultural identity as compared to a place like Korea and Japan, mainly cos in these two countries they use a language peculiar to the country.

So yes, would love to have your thoughts on the matter. Mods might want to split this into a different topic but I am adding this here to point out to people that when we talk about cultural differences, there really is not a lot of cultural difference, sometimes.

[castaway]

Édouard Herriot used to say " Culture is what remains when one has forgotten everything".

In my opinion, for example, America is young country and mixed of many nationalities, so compared to European countries, it has no culture. And actually, it is

Being together with other races who are your partner, you need to adjust yourself, etc ... but NOT give up or sacrifice your so called culture, otherwise, you will loose yourself before loosing your partner

Edited August 30, 2009 by castaway

[Guest confused]

anyone dated or in a r/s with gwm? wanna share their experiences here? currently facing some issues with my white bf as i feel they are not as commited and emotional attached as asians..would be great to hear experiences out there whether good or bad

[Guest neutralist]

anyone dated or in a r/s with gwm? wanna share their experiences here? currently facing some issues with my white bf as i feel they are not as commited and emotional attached as asians..would be great to hear experiences out there whether good or bad

i dont quite agree tho...i was in a r/ship with a white bf for 7 years and we were committed to each other very much during the period of our r/ship. Sadly, it all ended when he was diagnosed with cancer....sad ending which i dont wish to bring up. I miss him dearly every now and then

[PaterTenebrarum]

anyone dated or in a r/s with gwm? wanna share their experiences here? currently facing some issues with my white bf as i feel they are not as commited and emotional attached as asians..would be great to hear experiences out there whether good or bad

I have been in serious relationships with both asians and caucasians. Some good, some not so good.

The comment about white guys being not as committed and/or emotionally attached is unfounded. Im sure there are guys like that regardless of their ethnicity - Chinese, Malays, Indians, Zulu bushpeople (!!!)

Bastards and players come in all races and skin colour, Ditto for caring, committed partners.

So rather than just blaming yr domestic problems on yr partner's ethnicity, why dont you sit down as access fr yrself the problems with yr current relationship?

[benice]

anyone dated or in a r/s with gwm? wanna share their experiences here? currently facing some issues with my white bf as i feel they are not as commited and emotional attached as asians..would be great to hear experiences out there whether good or bad

what everyone's been saying ^.

i'm in a r/s with gwm, he's definitely the more committed and emotionally attached one in the r/s. we love each other dearly though

there are obvious cultural differences between us, so more work has to be put in to make the relationship work out. i think the difference maybe that there are traditions and norms on both ends we have to get used to, eg. closeness to extended family (more prominent in Asian cultures, cept of course if you're dating an Italian perhaps lol). nothing along the lines of r/s commitment though.

gl!! would say blaming it on race is probably the wrong direction to take though, as pointed about by the previous replies.

[abang]

Lest I boast of having many experiences with GWMs, I have to say they make very interesting bf/lovers, in and out of bed. Maybe it is their different upbringing that attracts me, I do appreciate their diverse interests.

Quite unlike the local boys (from my limited encounters), they are willing to do things that does not revolve around clubbing and shopping.

Despite the fact that those I have encountered were mainly expatriates with better income than the locals, they and I were always on equal terms, especially in financial matters. Afterall, many gay men like me, As in the case of my last bf, we never discussed about money much because we trusted each other. I may get the air tickets and he, the accomodation. Expenses on the trip was always split down the middle.. unless he buys a painting...

So I reckon the onus depends on the individual - fidelity, passion, honesty has nothing to do with race or nationality...

[Guest Non Sequitur]

Zulu bushpeople (!!!)

Sorry, this is not meant as a jibe or slide - and it's a total non-sequitur - but the Zulus aren't bush people (or referred to as); they had a developed civilisation even in the pre-colonial era. The bush people commonly referee to the !Kung people (part of the Khoisan linguistic groups). same general region (southern Africa) nut distinct racially, linguistically and ethnically. FYI, that's all. :-)

[PaterTenebrarum]

Sorry, this is not meant as a jibe or slide - and it's a total non-sequitur - but the Zulus aren't bush people (or referred to as); they had a developed civilisation even in the pre-colonial era. The bush people commonly referee to the !Kung people (part of the Khoisan linguistic groups). same general region (southern Africa) nut distinct racially, linguistically and ethnically. FYI, that's all. :-)

Tx! We learn something new every day, eh?

[Guest DUTCHLOVE]

i met a dutch guy last september while he was on exchange here as a student.. i was a student as well..

we both were extremely straight acting and i offered to show him around as a friend..

as we became friends, he started to share with me about his experiences in NL and how he had some experiences with guys and asked if i ever did..

one thing led to another, we ended up making out at my house, and eventually we were making out almost every other day, with some heavy petting..

i soon grew fond of him, and he started falling in love with me..

After 3 months, he had to leave back to NL and we constantly stayed in touch via phone, but slowly we started to drift apart, or at least he started putting in less effort. After a few months, he told me he started liking other guys in NL and it made me so sad.

What a heart breaker

[fitcubsg]

You cannot generalize gwms, I think which ever color we are, everyone is unique and perculiar. I spent 6 years in USA and because of that I have to admit that I am pretty much partial to gwms because my coming of age was shared with one particular person and havent since settling back into Singapore, I don't honestly share any common ground with locals. I guess its best to talk to him, dont pressurize him about the emotional icyness, I believe that in time, he will come around. Just specifically from my point of view, they do come around to talk about but in their own time. They are as committed as we are, just listen to yourself. Just wanted to point out that I have had my share of bad experiences but I dont compare the past with the present. We as humans like to make sweeping statements, I tend to as well but I keep a rule of thumb to treat new friends on new playing ground.

[cliff90]

May I ask what is GWM?

[Guest Guest]

May I ask what is GWM?

May I ask what is GWM?

Good-looking Western Male

[cliff90]

Oooh.. Thank you LOLX..

[iamziz]

Good-looking Western Male

LOL!

Nice touch to the G.

[Guest GWM defined]

GWM: Gay Western Male; &

GAM: Gay Asian Male

[Guest Annabel]

Wah, SPGs forum here ah?

Love GWM. They tua LJ and big fat generous wallets. Dating them outside feel shiok cause make me feel high class.

Marry them can migrate to the western paradise, leaving this little red dot. Shiok.

[abang]

Excuse me.. not all potato queens choose GWM for the endowment and wallet.

Some of them may be having the same earning power as us.

And it is definitely a myth to say the physical thingie...

Not everyone wants to leave Singapore..

I like them because they are willing to listen and advise only when they have something to add.

They dont shut us up completely when there is a communication barrier or disagreement.

Compromise is their key to better friendship.

[Allegro]

There are quite a few hot young Caucasian guys where I work, don't dare to approach though, most of them are quite tall and intimidating

[Phil]

Excuse me.. not all potato queens choose GWM for the endowment and wallet.

Some of them may be having the same earning power as us.

And it is definitely a myth to say the physical thingie...

Not everyone wants to leave Singapore..

I like them because they are willing to listen and advise only when they have something to add.

They dont shut us up completely when there is a communication barrier or disagreement.

Compromise is their key to better friendship.

Thanks , abang, for these words. We are not (only?) a c..k above a wallet...

[fitcubsg]

:-) I don't need a hand out either, I was lucky to be born into a family that provided me with everything I needed. Agreed with Abang, in fact I pay for their meals and make them happy too. Its a preference but not about the typical "Pinkerton" Syndrome or the colonial myth that we need a white chap to help us leave this miserable place. I guess for Ms Annabel, you love making sweeping statements with no or little fact. In life there are no free rides.

[Guest guest]

Hey guys, what comes to mind when you see an Angmo man (about 50 yrs old) and an Asian guy (about 33 yrs old) walking together?

 

Honest answers please?  Thank you very much!

 

  

[Guest Guest]

Ts,

You the angmo or asian?

[snowball]

I not those who are busy body like to gossip, I don't really think too much or care, they can be friends, colleague etc,

even couple also non of others business, as long you both behave in the public, why have to care how people see you both.

[Guest Guest]

I know you are trying to say they gave the impression of the older Caucasian keeping an Asian toy boy but the ang moh who looks 50s may actually be In his 40s while the gay Asian who looks 30s probably same age as the Ang moh.

[Guest Guest]

Hey guys, what comes to mind when you see an Angmo man (about 50 yrs old) and an Asian guy (about 33 yrs old) walking together?

 

Honest answers please?  Thank you very much!

Asian guy tourguide for Angmo lor

[Guest busshit]

Hey guys, what comes to mind when you see an Angmo man (about 50 yrs old) and an Asian guy (about 33 yrs old) walking together?

 

Honest answers please?  Thank you very much!

 

Money talks, bullshit walks. Just like you can also see a lot of young boys with old uncles. And young pretty women with balding old fat angmo or lau uncle (with gold chains). The world revolves around money. Don't tell me love ok, its all bullshit. Never hear no penny lau uncle (angmo or otherwise) go date with young hottie. Those no money ones go to even poorer places (vietnam, thailand you name it) to marry/fark even less money race LOL. 

[navyblue]

Male escort lor

[Guest Raiden Alpha]

Lol wakakaka.

Ok here is the answer.

If you are the 50 year old ang moh and still in relatively good shape. People will think that you are a charming successful gay that manage to get throphy toy boy at your age.

If you are the 33 year old Asian guy.People will think you are a whore and spineless thing sucking up to a dying su gar daddy.

It all depend on who is the one doing the asking here.

Life is unfair right.

[Guest Guest]

Love does sometimes transcend age, doesn't it?

 

I've met a few couples 20 years or more in age difference. and the older one is not necessarily the breadwinner. Some younger guys do like mature men. I'm one of them.

[Guest Guest]

Lol wakakaka.

Ok here is the answer.

If you are the 50 year old ang moh and still in relatively good shape. People will think that you are a charming successful gay that manage to get throphy toy boy at your age.

If you are the 33 year old Asian guy.People will think you are a whore and spineless thing sucking up to a dying su gar daddy.

It all depend on who is the one doing the asking here.

Life is unfair right.

 

THIS time RA , I have to agree with your social observation, you hit the nail on the head, right on.

 

Life is unfair, sure enough, no one ever questions why the angmoh lau kok kok can always pay and get the younger Asian guy or girl to go escorting and smile, and laugh to please the Angmoh, where as a Asian Lau kok kok have to look for third world asian like VN, TH and PRc to be money boy

[Guest Guest]

Smart guy ! Wait for him to die and get his money and property ....

[p-2122]

Hey I used to have an ang moh bf. He's a year older than me only.

[Guest Guest]

Hey I used to have an ang moh bf. He's a year older than me only.

Must be a poor ang mo guy , that leaves you with nothing ! Stupid , a waste of time ! How can people like you make our country and people rich ?'

[leon75]

It's very common to see angmo with an asian. I ever saw one such couple walking with holding hands along hdb passenger pathway in a broad day. I evny them for being so open relationship. Again at Serangoon North morning, i saw angmo and a cute hairy leg chinese. I don think they are just friend. My instinct telling me they are couple staying together too...

[Guest gaysingaporean]

Hey you guys!

How come nobody thinks the old caucasian is actually not that rich and the younger asian is the one with the cash?

I know of a friend here in Singapore who is in this situation.

Btw it fairly common in other asian countries like Japan, Hong Kong, Taiwan and in major cities of China.

White and wrnkle skin does not mean rich!!!

[Guest Guest]

Hey you guys!

How come nobody thinks the old caucasian is actually not that rich and the younger asian is the one with the cash?

I know of a friend here in Singapore who is in this situation.

Btw it fairly common in other asian countries like Japan, Hong Kong, Taiwan and in major cities of China.

White and wrnkle skin does not mean rich!!!

So it is great feeling feeding FT ? I would rather think otherwise ....Learn from the FT who got fed with bungalows instead !

[fab]

Lazy to start a new thread so just side track a little.

Has anyone ever seen a young (as in 20s) cute angmo dating an asian in asia? Personally i ve not seen any.

[Guest snowball]

Yes, he is tall too, his bf all malay or chinese, very rich too, went to his house often, treat him like brother but he ever said that he was horny for me, lol

[darkflame]

I think a 50 year old ang mo + 33 year old Asian is still in the 'grey zone' between a sugar daddy relatonship and an actual romance.

The game changes if the Asian happens to be in his early to mid twenties.

Or even maybe eighteen. 

 

The angmos in SG or even Southeast Asia have a different mentality from those who are in East Asia.

Unfortunately for me, I come from Southeast Asia so I'm automatically a slut (from Thailand or whatever) where I am hanging out now in East Asia.

 

Lazy to start a new thread so just side track a little.

Has anyone ever seen a young (as in 20s) cute angmo dating an asian in asia? Personally i ve not seen any.

 

I have one or two friends who are dating angmos their age.

The angmo bfs look pretty decent.

[wheeze]

Hey guys, what comes to mind when you see an Angmo man (about 50 yrs old) and an Asian guy (about 33 yrs old) walking together?

 

Honest answers please?  Thank you very much!

 

I recently saw a rather fat, balding, pasty-white and not-too-young Angmo with a fit, muscular, seemingly younger, tan Asian guy with a head full of wavy hair, both around same height, at a public swimming pool. Are you referring to them? HAHA. By the way, 33 years old is rather specific! Suspicious...

 

Ok, honestly, my first thought: the Asian is a male escort, or the Ang Mo is rich and the Asian is a gold digger. 

 

I did also once see a rather old lady (grandmother-type but still relatively fit and walking fine) with VERY heavy make-up and tight clothes, sitting in the MRT next to a young 20-something-year-old boy who could well be her grandson, except they seemed to be acting rather awkwardly. Similarly, my first thought: the boy's an escort.

 

Maybe it's "true love" against all odds and I'm being incredibly shallow, but this is my honest opinion. Such couples just seem worlds apart to me.

 

Now, had the Ang Mo been rather fit and handsome, even if old (think George Clooney), then I probably wouldn't have thought "escort" or "gold-digger" immediately. Same if the grandmother was a sexy GMILF (eww!).

 

So maybe for all I know, they went through many troubling times together. Maybe the Ang Mo rescued the Asian's favourite pet dog before and they fell in love. Maybe they were war buddies (American-Vietnamese love maybe)! Hardship can certainly bond people together.

 

But in modern peaceful Singapore's context...it's just....eh??? That's my honest answer.

Edited September 23, 2014 by wheeze