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anybody can suggest what to do during these few days, life sucks

 

Be Charitable and help someone who is of lesser life circumstances than you. You can help be a volunteer at an old fols home, go cheer up the poor , lonely and destitute.

 

Buy a group of Bangladeshi worker halal Nasi Briyani during that CNY holidays.

 

Join a group of PInoy when they have their gatherings in our Parks and just talk to them and ask them how they feel about working in Singapore. Maybe you will learn something like being grateful to your parents for having giving birth to you without any major physical defects .

 

I should put this words into practice myself.

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Never had any problem spending cny on my own. Just that hawker all closed and have to depend on home delivery for food. Tomorrow is my last work day and im looking forward to the long break Alone, but

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As my mom passed away last October, my family decided not to celebrate CNY this year. Almost everyone took the opportunity to go overseas, Bangkok, Taipei and even, Tokyo.   So as a sort of reunion di

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like advise on what are good things to do during this CNY holiday Gay Sauna Checked with Diamond, they are close on new year eve and new year d

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anybody can suggest what to do during these few days, life sucks

There is certainly something wrong with you.

 

Negativity is something you might want to look into.

 

Internalizing about what makes you miserable, unhappy, etc. will help you gets into the root of your problem/s.

 

You will be able to find happiness albeit temporary but that don't solved your problem/s.

 

You might want to call up Oogachaga counselors for help.

 

Hopefully they can help you so that you can start living as a truly happy person and don't have to look for temporary fix for happiness during the holidays.

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Just curious if anyone is in the same shoes. I come from broken home. No immediate family now. Friends have their own families.

 

So i didn't have reunion dinner for many years. Alone on CNY eve, quiet dinner, watch TV, then sleep. 

 

Anyone with same experience?

 

Can share how you cope with being alone on CNY eve all these years? Maybe we can come together for reunion dinner.

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Just curious if anyone is in the same shoes. I come from broken home. No immediate family now. Friends have their own families.

 

So i didn't have reunion dinner for many years. Alone on CNY eve, quiet dinner, watch TV, then sleep. 

 

Anyone with same experience?

 

Can share how you cope with being alone on CNY eve all these years? Maybe we can come together for reunion dinner.

Let's put it this way.  You are lucky.  Take it as rest day, super long rest day.  Many china workers in Singapore hardly get the chance to return and still required to slog under employers instruction. Think the chinese cleaner at coffee shop,  the china bus drivers still ferrying passenger, chinese waiters/waitresses waiting at restaurant table...they are not celebrating.   I have seen couple not having reunion due to family conflicts, they ate in Mcdonald instead.  For those having big family reunion, you will be pried by noisy relatives asking "when are you going to get married".

 

Yup, you are so much better being alone, doing simple things and "Ta Bao" your dinner while watching your favourite porn movies.  This privacy should be treasured.

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Do up your room or home nicely with cny festive decor, prepare nice cny snacks bought from chinatown cny fair, snuggle in your couch or bed with some nice movies or watch cable tv channels with cny programs. Surf blowing wind for people who are spending it alone, meet up for a movie or supper in gardens by the bay satay club. Or visit thomson nurseries to enjoy the cny blooms, buy some plants or fresh flowers to liven up your home. cny can also be spent productively alone, learning how to enjoy festive times spent with yourself. Afterall, one needs to learn how to live with oneself before he coild live with another, isn't it? Some gays spend cny with families may have to dodge all the marriage bullets, and wished they were spending it alone or overseas instead, so count yourself lucky you don't have to deal with nosey families And friends?

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Dear Rabbit and Guest,

Finding ways to get away from reunion dinner and avoid getting irritated by noisy and nosey relatives is totally different from having absolutely no family or relative to have reunion dinner with.

The former has a choice, but the latter doesn't.

It is like telling an orphan since birth that parents are irritating, better not to have.

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Just curious if anyone is in the same shoes. I come from broken home. No immediate family now. Friends have their own families.

 

So i didn't have reunion dinner for many years. Alone on CNY eve, quiet dinner, watch TV, then sleep. 

 

Anyone with same experience?

 

Can share how you cope with being alone on CNY eve all these years? Maybe we can come together for reunion dinner.

 

You dont have friends who will invite you over for reunion dinner, they must have known you will be alone on CNY's eve leh.

 

Worse come to worse, why dont you break the spell and be charitable towards others this year instead of sulking alone at home on CNY's eve.

 

Go to your local community center and ask if you can be a volunteer and help some less fortunate Singaporeans, whether old folks who have no family, orphan children who have no family or those who are at their deathbed, cheer them up and wish them happy chinese new year, spend money on other people's happiness,

 

then maybe you will not feel os sad about your own situation.

 

Remeber there are Singaporeans who may not be full on CNY s eve, why dont you pay it forwards, and give someone a loving and fulfilling CNY 'e eve.

 

IF you are not ready this year, maybe you can make a one year plan that next 2016 CNY's eve , you will be a volunteer and help the less fortunate in Singapore be happy on CNY's eve,

 

rather than spend $12 - $15 --$22 dollars of money , and give it to the gay sauna operators, give that money away as an Ang POw to the less fortunate .you will make someone life happy and you will have done a good deed and you can sleep at night happy that you delayed gratification fo sexual urges and let it go to soemone who may need a little love and kindness from you

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Remeber there are Singaporeans who may not be full on CNY s eve...

rather than spend $12 - $15 --$22 dollars of money , and give it to the gay sauna operators, give that money away as an Ang POw to the less fortunate .you will make someone life happy and you will have done a good deed and you can sleep at night happy that you delayed gratification fo sexual urges and let it go to soemone who may need a little love and kindness from you

I think TS didnt't mention a single word about spending cny eve in a sauna leh. :)

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Hi Loner 

 

I will be alone too, in fact I just posted on Member's Lounge, asking if anyone wants to have dinner or catch a movie on CNY eve or first day.  

 

For me, it has been many years spending CNY alone.  My parents have passed away and I don't have any family.  Friends have stopped asking me to join

them for CNY because I have never agreed; I won't at ease.  I am quite fine with just resting at home, except this year I won't have a place to myself for these 2 days, so I think I'd rather just spend the day outside.  

 

So Loner if you want, we can maybe spend a couple of hours chit-chatting over dinner or catching a movie.  Let me know.  This invitation also goes out to anyone

who might want to join in.

 

As for the suggestion to do charity during that time, does anyone know any volunteering opportunities ?  Do let me know.  

 

Peace!

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Just curious if anyone is in the same shoes. I come from broken home. No immediate family now. Friends have their own families.

 

So i didn't have reunion dinner for many years. Alone on CNY eve, quiet dinner, watch TV, then sleep. 

 

Anyone with same experience?

 

Can share how you cope with being alone on CNY eve all these years? Maybe we can come together for reunion dinner.

Instead of looking at the negatives, why not count positively how lucky you are:

 

1. No family or relatives to nag at you every year; When you showing us your girlfriend, When you getting married, etc.

2. No worry about your family finding out that you are gay.

3. No coming out to family required.

4. No need to answer to anyone for your actions.

 

From broken or loved family, you will still have to live your life as an individual. Independent does not means you have to be lonely but if you keep brewing about how bad your past was, and not moving forward to built your own happiness, you will be forever hold back by your past.

 

Set yourself free from all these unnecessary baggage that you are carrying and hopefully you will find your happiness regardless whether you are single or attached.

 

Live you life with no regrets and not a life full of regrets!

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Everyone has their own difficulty and story to share. Look at it on a brighter side Loner, at least you're in one complete piece where you can still go out have dinner (or cook at home), watch some tv/movie, and go to sleep. Some other people living somewhere might be suffering without a proper home, or the ability to even eat, walk, or sleep.

 

So yea, be positive and think positive you'll survive :) hugs.

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Hi Loner 

 

I will be alone too, in fact I just posted on Member's Lounge, asking if anyone wants to have dinner or catch a movie on CNY eve or first day.  

 

For me, it has been many years spending CNY alone.  My parents have passed away and I don't have any family.  Friends have stopped asking me to join

them for CNY because I have never agreed; I won't at ease.  I am quite fine with just resting at home, except this year I won't have a place to myself for these 2 days, so I think I'd rather just spend the day outside.  

 

So Loner if you want, we can maybe spend a couple of hours chit-chatting over dinner or catching a movie.  Let me know.  This invitation also goes out to anyone

who might want to join in.

 

As for the suggestion to do charity during that time, does anyone know any volunteering opportunities ?  Do let me know.  

 

Peace!

 

""As for the suggestion to do charity during that time, does anyone know any volunteering opportunities ?  Do let me know.  

 

Peace!""

 

When some gays have matured and have had enough of the materialism of CNY , they may want to do volunteer work.

 

Hi , I was the one who suggested about about doing voluntary  work for the less fortunate during CNY eve and Ist and 2nd day.

 

Maybe if this year we cannot make it to do charitable work maybe plan for next year.

 

Check out the People's Association website, and also the voluntary

 

some websites ,

 

https://www.sgcares.org/public/other/SGCares_P_Home.aspx

 

http://www.clarkequaycentral.com.sg/home/index.aspx?key=directory-details&dirID=1057

National Volunteer & Philanthropy Centre (The Giving Place)

#04-88 The Central Mall

6550 9595

Opening Hours:

9am to 5.30pm

 

 

Give them a call , maybe can just observe them this year and plan to help next year.

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Though i understand we should always look at the bright side...but how can you possibly tell someone that its a bless not to have family regardless the annual nagging and coming out dilemma.  

 

 

Actually loner i am not able to celebrate this cny with my family too due to some last minute unexpected circumstances. Its a rough moment for me and my family.

Just to let loner know that you're not alone...there are ppl out there with similar situation :) Perhaps for your situation you can define your own cny, maybe just join your friend's family or do something that is meaningful to you. Its okay to feel remorse, after all the ppl around you seems to be having a great time but just don't let it bother you too much, just make use of this holiday to do something you really enjoy and make it special for yourself.

 

Doing charity works is a really nice idea though :)

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Just curious if anyone is in the same shoes. I come from broken home. No immediate family now. Friends have their own families.

So i didn't have reunion dinner for many years. Alone on CNY eve, quiet dinner, watch TV, then sleep.

Anyone with same experience?

Can share how you cope with being alone on CNY eve all these years? Maybe we can come together for reunion dinner.

Yes, I have similar experience too.

Ever since my mum passed away in mid-1996, I didn't have reunion dinner until now, which is the 19th year of being alone on CNY eve today. But don't know why, I just didn't feel lonely being alone during CNY eve all these years. Contrary, I actually felt kinda inner peace just being alone on CNY eve, away from people.

Nevertheless, wishing TS a peaceful and fulfilling 2015 CNY eve later today :)

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If really cld not meetup or join any friends on cny eve for dinner, then just stay hm and watch tv lah. There are many tv shows showing on cny eve. Or might want to go down chinatown to enjoy the crowds there. Sometimes being alone is not a bad thing, most importantly is u r healthy n fit enough to enjoy urself. Imagine if u r alone n yet sick or health got problem then sad.

对自己好是一种幸福，

对别人好是一种积福。

 

Spend time counting your blessings,

not airing your complaints.

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Sad to say, but it's a reality.  Most single gay men will become a loner one day when their parents passed away.  Unless your siblings are also singles, be mentally prepared to spend CNY Eve alone the years after your remaining parent left this world.  This is my first year being alone.  Suddenly, CNY has become another long weekend and will never be the same anymore.  :mellow:

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Sad to say, but it's a reality.  Most single gay men will become a loner one day when their parents passed away.  Unless your siblings are also singles, be mentally prepared to spend CNY Eve alone the years after your remaining parent left this world.  This is my first year being alone.  Suddenly, CNY has become another long weekend and will never be the same anymore.  :mellow:

 

You are right. Which is why I think friends are important too. :-)

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Wish all those who managed to survive tis cny eve until now, 恭喜发财，洋洋得意！

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对自己好是一种幸福，

对别人好是一种积福。

 

Spend time counting your blessings,

not airing your complaints.

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As my mom passed away last October, my family decided not to celebrate CNY this year.

Almost everyone took the opportunity to go overseas, Bangkok, Taipei and even, Tokyo.

 

So as a sort of reunion dinner, I met with my siblings and nephews/nieces at a coffee shop.

We had gathered enough people for 2 tables and ate a 9-course dinner.

I paid because I am the eldest among the group and it was to thank them for turning up.

 

So now, I am alone in Taipei.

I plucked up enough courage to join a group of strangers at a gathering... most of them are out-of-town folks.

It was a memorable evening, chatting with new friends and listening to their amazing Ming-nan accented Mandarin.

Suddenly, it was so surreal ..just like living out a Taiwan drama serial.

 

Cheers ... to those who are alone..make an effort to whatsapp your friends, colleagues, associates etc...wish all of them a fantastic year ahead.

Built bridges and not burn them...

 

Ganbatte kudasai 加油朋友 

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... actually what I do is,

I go to local temple and praying.....

 

....just hope to feel some CNY festive atmosphere......

 

~quite great after all..

 

but in my heart i actually extremely lonely even surrounded by strong CNY atmosphere...

 

..i know afterall what i do need is a bf...

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..sometimes when i log in forum here...

Guess we all know that there must be at least some man who also single, who also trying to find a sincere bf...who also need a LTR relationship...

 

but why and why there still so many loner.....

 

frankly i've no idea why am i braveless to grap the happiness when i get to met type of man that i do love and want...

I think it must be conflict of culture, and conservative mindset...

 

If u are a Top man, at least above average look....older than age 28, single And sincere to build a faithful relationship.. Pls chat with me...lets start as soon as possible...

You will not disappointed if u fulfill the above criteria i wrote above.

 

No fat guy pls (no offend)

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30 minutes ago, Elson91 said:

... actually what I do is,

I go to local temple and praying.....

 

....just hope to feel some CNY festive atmosphere......

 

~quite great after all..

 

but in my heart i actually extremely lonely even surrounded by strong CNY atmosphere...

 

..i know afterall what i do need is a bf...

Perhaps after CNY, the loneliness feelings will diminish.

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I enjoyed the solitude during Xmas last year, and I feel the same this CNY. In fact I just came back from a drive around Singapore just now running some errands and checking out some places and visiting some temples.. Gosh, I wish the entire Singapore would have such smooth traffic all the time and I can have this one-man drive with nice music in my car everyday. . ..So nope, no bf for me at this moment of time unless I find someone gay whom I can fall head over heels with.  Right now, I'm actually happy with my singlehood status, even though the sex part will need more cruising work to be done.

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2 hours ago, Sport-coholic said:

Perhaps after CNY, the loneliness feelings will diminish.

I hope so, but i know i still need a faithful sincere man...

 

...if i get to meet one in future , i will ensure I brave enough and will never let my Mr.Right go away from me again.....

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On ‎2‎/‎8‎/‎2016 at 7:51 AM, Elson91 said:

I hope so, but i know i still need a faithful sincere man...

 

...if i get to meet one in future , i will ensure I brave enough and will never let my Mr.Right go away from me again.....

 

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On ‎2‎/‎8‎/‎2016 at 9:06 AM, bigdanbeam said:

I'm sure you can apply. but I guess only shortlisted candidates will be notified

 

 

 

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8 hours ago, Elson91 said:

I hope so, but i know i still need a faithful sincere man...

 

...if i get to meet one in future , i will ensure I brave enough and will never let my Mr.Right go away from me again.....

If the other party is intent on leaving, there's really nothing much you can do. Isn't it?

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