Online Encounter of Weird or Strange Person (compiled)

[Guest Guest]

I kinda used to think that we gay guys are more caring, understanding and less judgmental beings since we are outcasts but...

You sound pretty naive. Are you new to this circle? It is one of the bitchiest circle on Earth.

[Guest Guest]

If you don't mind me asking guys, where else can I look for people in the gay circle? Other websites, apps, anything? I don't want to have anything to do with casual fun and stuff like that. I just want connect with someone.

Gay websites or apps without fun? Sorry but I don't think you will find any gays there.

[yoyo74]

 

Thanks guys for sharing your views on this and giving me your words of encouragement. I feel a lot better reading most of your replies. Yeah I know I gotta move on but when this thing keep happening to me constantly, I start running low on hope. I kinda used to think that we gay guys are more caring, understanding and less judgmental beings since we are outcasts but it's true, we are just gay, everyting else is variable(as what above guest replied). I think I'll just use this forum moslty for disscussions from now on. As what MeowPrince said, I might share more encounters in this thread in the future if I still come across any. 

 

If you don't mind me asking guys, where else can I look for people in the gay circle? Other websites, apps, anything? I don't want to have anything to do with casual fun and stuff like that. I just want connect with someone.

 

If you dont want casual fun and only want friends you should join those big interest groups that accepts all race, all age and all size people. If you try to date one by one others will think you are trying to look for fun or seek LTR. There are also events in Oogachaga you can join where any gays is accepted.

[Guest Guest]

 

Thanks guys for sharing your views on this and giving me your words of encouragement. I feel a lot better reading most of your replies. Yeah I know I gotta move on but when this thing keep happening to me constantly, I start running low on hope. I kinda used to think that we gay guys are more caring, understanding and less judgmental beings since we are outcasts but it's true, we are just gay, everyting else is variable(as what above guest replied). I think I'll just use this forum moslty for disscussions from now on. As what MeowPrince said, I might share more encounters in this thread in the future if I still come across any. 

 

If you don't mind me asking guys, where else can I look for people in the gay circle? Other websites, apps, anything? I don't want to have anything to do with casual fun and stuff like that. I just want connect with someone.

 

 

Airing your thoughts and life desires like this is not a bad start too. Am sure you will get PMs from people who are moved by you, the person, as opposed to you, the guy with a pic and your circle of friends will grow a bit more. Who knows, from that circle of friends might come a relationship that you are longing for?

 

But watch out, sometimes longing for something overmuch might in itself contribute to it not happening e.g. if you are overanxious about a relationship, you might fret or perceive things that are not there.

[lonely57]

I've gotten a few times.. I just say that I'm Malay and they totally delete the chat.. Hahaha. But those who do meet me are usually shocked cuz I look Chinese.. Lolll.

[Guest Guest]

I've gotten a few times.. I just say that I'm Malay and they totally delete the chat.. Hahaha. But those who do meet me are usually shocked cuz I look Chinese.. Lolll.

I seriously do not understand why some people avoid other minority races. Some of the guys of these minority races are very hot!

[Cube3]

Move on dude

too many scams and craps around nowadays

 

Agreed.

[cutejack]

Normal la.most gays dont prefer mix marriage.lolx

some dont prefer same colour.tat is y the word mutual exist.

[lonely57]

Normal la.most gays dont prefer mix marriage.lolx

some dont prefer same colour.tat is y the word mutual exist.

Marriage? Don't think most gays even think of marriage

[cutejack]

Marriage meaning get together in gay life la.

[Guest -Call me Cupid-]

Hmm.. dont know how to say this but I have this feeling that lonely57 and TS might make become good friends, if nothing else. You are sort of the same physical age and I think both of you are mentally aged more than that. In your own way, you are both old school romantics so yeah I think you guys will click. So, dont be shy - just start chatting and if you get along then maybe meet up for a drink or lunch...

[IkuTube]

Take it with a pinch of salt ---- It is never about the Forum but the forummers.

[cloz8dude]

Well it used to bug me that race has to be their main pick. But now, it doesn't bother me that much. I've grown to realize that we all have a picture of how we want our soulmates to look like and be like. Thus, I respect everyone's preferences for finding a relationship. But having a preference for friendship or maybe someone to talk to, that totally wild to me.
And it totally grinds my gear when guys just randomly approach me, but flee/ignore once I show them my face pic or reveal my race(after thinking of giving it a chance). Sometimes, they be asking for casual fun even when I told them. I mean, why can't they just ask for my race, or that they are looking for a clean-cut dudes then tell me off? Moreover, those are the guys who have been sobbing all over for not being able to find a friend, being alone.. You guys get where I'm coming from?

Anyway, I believe not everyone is like them here and overall in the community. Can tell most of you guys aren't:)
Lastly, I guess I was indeed being naive for looking at the our community through rose-coloured glasses.

Take it with a pinch of salt ---- It is never about the Forum but the forummers.

I wholeheartedly concur. I'm not trying to bash this forum or anything. I admire this forum a lot. It is the only place to be for a gay guy in singapore like me. It is really helpful and knowladgable for someone as confused as me in the gay scene. I can discuss burning questions which I am not able to do it with my straight friends or anywhere. It's an amazing platform for us. Just trying to imply that some people(forummers) are misusing it in many levels that I cannot fathom..

I've gotten a few times.. I just say that I'm Malay and they totally delete the chat.. Hahaha. But those who do meet me are usually shocked cuz I look Chinese.. Lolll.

Haha, I can relate. I'm been seen as Malay, Filipino, Indian even Maxican Bahaha! Totally insane man.

Yes some of them do, since the length they have to go is not that great, just a few hand movements and your face pic will be stored in their gadgets.

Yes you should be worried since you appear to be discreet by not displaying your face as the DP.

Yes I try to be as discrete as possible as I don't want anyone to know I'm gay(since this is a public forum), so I'm having a bad feeling about people capturing my photo..


To @sadforyou, I couldn't agree more and thanks for your kind words. Indeed minority race feels tiny in this small community. And adding physical appearance, shapes, sizes, interests etc to the list feels like a drop in the ocean(when it comes to friendship). Well, I've kinda experienced far worse racism in my real life that involved physical attack and bullying, so wouldn't really think the gay circle is any worse. Well I wouldn't know anyway since I barely meet them. But yeah, it is so much easier to befriend straight people of other races in real life. I have a friend circle of all different races. Not that it it was purposely planned(as some of you might think), it just happened, like we were fated to, believe it or not. Our friendship(5 of us) has been going on for 6 years now. We never saw the differences based on our race. We just made friends based on out interests, our personality, humor, view on life and so on. Wish it happened the same in our community.
I understand your concern but I was just doing myself a favor by letting him know so that I don't waste my time as it happened to me like million times, can even predict it now. Only thing I can't predict is, if the person is willing to be my friend. Always fall for their trick.

Hmm.. dont know how to say this but I have this feeling that lonely57 and TS might make become good friends, if nothing else. You are sort of the same physical age and I think both of you are mentally aged more than that. In your own way, you are both old school romantics so yeah I think you guys will click. So, dont be shy - just start chatting and if you get along then maybe meet up for a drink or lunch...

Lol, cupid? This is new haha! Impressive how you see us like that. Well I can try, but I guess it will be awkward. And not even sure if he's currently looking for a friend or not lol. Edited December 23, 2015 by Glyph
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[Guest Glyph]

Ya know, there's this thing about multi-posting and the overlooking of the edit post button that I really dislike, so I took the liberty of merging your posts, for you.

 

By the way, being on the internet is like walking on the streets. You meet all sorts of peeps and there's really no helping it... until at least it gets blown out of proportion, then that's what I'm here for. Peace out.

[MeowPrince]

Friends, regardless of what orientation, take time to find, nurture and build into a circle.  If anyone (yes, I mean ANYONE) can think it is a snap-of-fingers overnight thing by starting a Line or whatsapp or Band or IG group, he/she is a fool.  And even then, it takes regular tending, talking with and face time (yes face-to-face time) to make it last.  And even then, idiots and nutjobs will still pop up, like weeds/acne.

 

I still have an account on a fetish site, and that pathetic stalker is still desperately begging for attention, create new account there, 20 minutes later PM with a "Hi, ....... will you play with me?"  I read, I already know what it is, and just to confirm, make him post a bit more. Same old fugly idiot (Chinese, blonde, thinks he is ang moh, die-hard into army lbv, rope and cum control) who now pretends to be a writer/editor.  Send out alert to friends within the same circle and that's it, he goes on the IGNORE/Block list.  Rinse, repeat a few months later.  You always have a choice what/how you want to deal with them.

 

Just to share about chat groups - well, I started my own photography interest groups in each of the forums/communities I visit, stemming from my love of photography.  In one of them, the guys lose interest once they marry, the girls once they get pregnant.  In another, I do not publicize my outings.  In BW, I only maintain ties with a few individuals.  Most of us are on a Line chat group that mostly shares foodporn posts, though there are regular, albeit less frequent pics of other genres.  And the best part is, most of us continue to meet up at least once a year.  Some still text me to arrange or go outings, for a cuppa, etc.  It certainly is better than the larger group that I left - too much sexual hints, tend toward clubbing/cruising and way too large.

Moral of this - you choose what you want, and you set the rules to create it.  I wanted a non-sexual non-clubbing circle and I got it.  I made sure I knew everyone in the group in person and we do not allow nutjobs in there.  So when I get PMs with "Hi, Chn/Mly/Ind/idiot, 179, 199, 99", that dodo is automatically barred from the group.  We set our rules that we each have to have met a candidate once and gone out shooting with him/her once before opening the doors.  The same goes for our private forum, which has a mere 31 members, but has close to 50K photos shared and 16+K posts on it.  And only 14 of us are on the chat group, and only 4 play for this team.  Of our forum circle, 1 is half-Indian, 1 is French, 1 is Viet, 2 are Malay, 1 is Pinoy and 3 are Indon.

 

So you set your own rules, create or join the circles you want.  But remember, nothing worthwhile comes easy.  It takes effort, and continuing effort to keep alive.

[lonely57]

Haha, I can relate. I'm been seen as Malay, Filipino, Indian even Maxican Bahaha! Totally insane man.

Lol, cupid? This is new haha! Impressive how you see us like that. Well I can try, but I guess it will be awkward. And not even sure if he's currently looking for a friend or not lol.

Lol why not? Im actually quite tired of looking for fun anyways. Its like so many I've just lost the feeling for it...

Oh and I've gotten Chinese Indonesian Arabic filipino Ang moh.. And a few more... Lol... But never Malay which I am... Lol

Edited December 23, 2015 by lonely57

[IkuTube]

 

I wholeheartedly concur. I'm not trying to bash this forum or anything. I admire this forum a lot. It is the only place to be for a gay guy in singapore like me. It is really helpful and knowladgable for someone as confused as me in the gay scene. I can discuss burning questions which I am not able to do it with my straight friends or anywhere. It's an amazing platform for us. Just trying to imply that some people(forummers) are misusing it in many levels that I cannot fathom..

 

 

I'm glad that you get my point.  After I wrote that, I was hoping it would be taken with the right perspective.

 

The one thing that I learned .. should we are too bothered with how others think of us, we will find little courage to move forward.  Just as in the wise saying, "When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere".  We should take every comments to reflect so we can learn but we must learn not to debase it and get  too personal.   Everything has a role, it is just a matter how we want to see it and, importantly, turn it to be a lesson to become better individuals.

 

Life is never limited.  It is the way we think that make it so.

[cloz8dude]

@ Glyph: I'm sorry about the multiposting, just wanted to divide each replies thinking it would be easier to refer to since it was long. Thanks for merging it for me:) And you are right about the that. But the thing is, most of the time I end up with the wrong bunch. 

 

@MeaowPrince: spoken from the heart man, thanks! I'm planning to start a small line groups of my interests too. Like Tv shows/movies, music/singing etc. I've been getting too comfort in my solitude since I keep losing hope. But from all of your and others replies, I should get out of that comfort zone soon. 

 

@lonely57: Haha wow, ang mo. Yeah there so many into fun, but not much of human touch. I'll Pm you man, we can start there:)

 

@Ikutube and @starlioned, I couldn't agree more. Our thought plays an important role to make our life better or worse. My thoughts are mostly negetive since I've faced tons of shits in life, still facing them. But slowly learning to see the good side of life.

[Active1994]

 

Well it used to bug me that race has to be their main pick. But now, it doesn't bother me that much. I've grown to realize that we all have a picture of how we want our soulmates to look like and be like. Thus, I respect everyone's preferences for finding a relationship. But having a preference for friendship or maybe someone to talk to, that totally wild to me.

And it totally grinds my gear when guys just randomly approach me, but flee/ignore once I show them my face pic or reveal my race(after thinking of giving it a chance). Sometimes, they be asking for casual fun even when I told them. I mean, why can't they just ask for my race, or that they are looking for a clean-cut dudes then tell me off? Moreover, those are the guys who have been sobbing all over for not being able to find a friend, being alone.. You guys get where I'm coming from?

 

 

I was almost on the verge of creating a similar thread, but thought to myself to leave it out. Perhaps I’ll leave my thoughts here instead. Let me start by saying I totally understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes it totally baffles me as to just how self-aware some of these people are. The people who have preferences when it comes to ‘seeking friends’, are probably not exactly looking for a friendship, but more likely prospecting individuals to become future ‘fun-buddies’ and/or ‘relationships’; there’s always a motive behind the ‘friendship’ they seek. Whatever happened to getting to know one another and letting nature take its course with regards to friendship?

 

What I don’t quite understand is why some people feel the need to outright dismiss someone else simply after learning of their race, before allowing for the chance of anything else happening? This goes out to both friendship-seekers and fun-seekers (and relationships); one group of people are more into physical attributes (face, build, race) while the other probably prefers personality and character than what’s on the outside.

 

Regardless on which of the two one falls on, one could either get to the point of exchanging pictures (don’t be that ass who requests for a picture and not fulfil your end of the request when the other party has done so though) and see if there’s mutual interest to carry on further, or one could hold a conversation with another and determine if the other party shares similar interest or liking based on personality before deciding on taking it forward further. Instead, the moment certain people see that one word (race of another), they simply disregard the entire conversation and ignore the other party.

 

The best part – as you’ve mentioned it – is when these very people whine about not being able to find friends, when it is they themselves who limited their ‘search’ in the first place. More often than not I see people with statuses such as “Where are all the nice, sincere, loyal guys? Is there no one like that left anymore?”, and a quick search into some of these poster’s profiles you can find that they choose to interact with a select-type of people only, be it race or build. I wonder, has it ever occurred to them that perhaps the type of people they’re looking for are actually out there, in plain sight even, just not within their sight as they themselves are being selective in the people they interact with? (For those into the inside of a person than the out) Can’t someone be of your ideal personality/character, but of a different race, build? (And for those into the superficial looks, for fun or whatsoever) Unless for some reason you feel guys from a particular race are generally ugly, believe it or not there actually are some rather good looking Malays and Indians out there!

 

Don’t get me wrong, having a preference isn’t bad in itself; I certainly have preferences of my own too. What I feel however is we shouldn’t be strictly confining ourselves to the preferences we’ve set out for the type of person we’d want to know (be it for friendship or relationship) but open up to the other possibilities out there, and who knows perhaps in time to come your own personal preferences might change when you get to experience things (or people) you would have never previously thought of doing so. I mean, I believe most of us aren’t too picky in wanting the fittest dude with the best looking face and a personality akin to a fictional love interest ,but instead are pretty set out for someone decent-looking and relatively decent in personality too right? I stand to believe most of us fall under that category.

 

The more open you are to the various people out there, the better the chances of finding ‘The One’ no? More often than not friendships are the start to an intimate relationship, and these very friendships sometimes occur in the most bizarre, unexpected circumstances that we’d probably one day look back on and realize how everything came together in place, because you took that chance to get to know someone, because you were open to the possibilities out there.

 

But if you really must, and have a preference to the type of people you’d want to interact with, then at least be outright about it and state them. I’ve had personal experiences with members wanting to strike up a chat to get to know someone, some even add ‘looking to chat with  <insert personality> people’, making themselves look all friendly and non-superficial only to later completely disregard my message when they learn that I’m Indian. As for myself however, sometimes I do like to put it out there that I’m Indian (definitely not ashamed of being one), as a means to easily sieve out those whom I’d probably not want to get to know (whom in the first place aren’t interested in opening themselves up to ‘different people’ outside of their preferences anyway).

 

There are times however when I get to know someone more intimately (more often in real life), they’d eventually open up to me saying stuff like “Before I knew you, I’d never have thought you to be the type of person that you are as I do now” in a positive light such that they start to open themselves up to people of different races, knowing that they’ve got a friend of that same race whom gave them a ‘good vibe’. Why of course one could use that exact same example, turn it around and say that because of a bad experience they have chosen to disregard all others of the same race, but to that I ask; who’s actually on the losing end here?

 

I hope whoever reading this don’t feel like I’m being negative towards the entire community of gay men, I’ve had my fair share of negative experiences, as well as positive ones and in no way am I highlighting that all/majority of you guys are of people I’ve described above. But you know the saying, if the shoe fits, wear it.  

[Guest Guest]

Hi cloz8dude

I find the following resources from the nice folks at Oogachaga quite meaningful (and definitely relevant) with regards to finding the right person.

http://www.oogachaga.com/gaymendatingguide

http://www.oogachaga.com/congregaytion/news/detail/127/Where-to-Find-Your-Guys

Just ignore (or give a glance for the sake of being open-minded) parts (eg. platforms like hookup apps) which you don't feel are for you. Think as you reas and don't take in everything blindly - you're smart; didn't need me to tell you this.

All the best

[wintermage]

Speaking of strange experiences..... Posted this in the Grindr/Jackd thread in the IT forum, but thought I would share it here too since it's kind of hot lol.......

Had a pretty strange and unbelievable experience a few days ago. Spoke to this guy on Grindr who turned out to be a BDSM dom guy.

He had a pretty specific and weird fetish. He owns a sub boy and gets turned on by letting other guys use his boy. When we chatted, he said his boy was naked somewhere in public and asked me if I wanted to go over and meet him. Of course I didn't believe him since the bod pic of his boy that he showed me was too nice to be true, but then he asked me to add his boy on LINE and got the boy to do a video call with me which confirmed a) his body was fucking nice and b) he was really naked somewhere in public.

Since the spot was nearby my place, I thought no harm going to take a look. So I followed the guy's directions and wound up at the spot where his sub was actually there, butt naked, with a rock hard dick. It was really the sort of porno scenario. So I used the boy, fucked his mouth good, came on his face like his master asked me to, and then left. When I left the boy was still there, naked, with my load on his face. 

Super strange encounter but super hot.

[Guest 72%dark]

I haven't had anything I'd call a "strange encounter" with other BW users, either online or in real life. (Though admittedly I've chatted with only a few, and met even fewer in real life.) But from the substance of TS's post I guess the concern of this thread is really about the way people use this site and their conduct.

Speaking as someone who doesn't really use BW as a dating platform (anymore) but sees it primarily as a forum for discussion, support, exchange of information and so on, I guess my lament is that only a minority of its users seem to contribute constructively (with some regularity), with a desire to help those who pose their questions and concerns here. (Others indulge their meaner impulses and use it to take potshots at other people's expense, or mainly read but don't post much.)

To those regulars who do contribute—we all know who they/you are—I salute and thank you!

All of us bring a unique perspective, borne of different backgrounds and experiences. To those who've been more silent in the content threads thus far, would you consider sharing more of your own wisdom and insights with us? That would be my new year's wish for BW! :-)

[MeowPrince]

On 24/12/2015 at 4:59 PM, cloz8dude said:

@ Glyph: I'm sorry about the multiposting, just wanted to divide each replies thinking it would be easier to refer to since it was long. Thanks for merging it for me:) And you are right about the that. But the thing is, most of the time I end up with the wrong bunch. 

 

@MeaowPrince: spoken from the heart man, thanks! I'm planning to start a small line groups of my interests too. Like Tv shows/movies, music/singing etc. I've been getting too comfort in my solitude since I keep losing hope. But from all of your and others replies, I should get out of that comfort zone soon. 

 

@lonely57: Haha wow, ang mo. Yeah there so many into fun, but not much of human touch. I'll Pm you man, we can start there:)

 

@Ikutube and @starlioned, I couldn't agree more. Our thought plays an important role to make our life better or worse. My thoughts are mostly negetive since I've faced tons of shits in life, still facing them. But slowly learning to see the good side of life.

Please don't get me wrong - it is not in starting a group, but rather choosing what group and what limits you wish (or not).  Getting out of one's comfort zone is one thing, charging straight into a rubbish zone is something else altogether!  And like it or not, MANY groups tend to lean toward sexual gratification and superficial reasons to wank off (to thoughts of/seeing/meeting/touching some cute boy in the group) then clean, honest friendships.  As long as you are fully aware of this fact when joining the group or when letting people join, then you have some control over how you want things to turn out.  

 

As for negative thoughts on life - hey, LIFE SUCKS.  But you know what?  You do have a choice on whether it sucks bitter, sour, bland, or slightly sweeter.  There are and will always be, moments when its less pleasant and less happy.  And there are, and you can CHOOSE to see them (or not!), moments where little joys and sweetness come in.  I've had to go through crap in life, see countless jackasses day after day, see even more moronic shits online.  Every day.  Yet, there are always the little pluses there to perk me up, to perk every one of us perk.  Its whether you bother to give a glance at them, and then gather them around you.  The latter is what gives us the reason to live, to love and be loved.  

If you keep swirling and staring at the daily crap, you'll die in the stink.  And that's when you probably deserve it, for not bothering to look beyond the crap.

All the best man.

[Guest meowth]

I've chatted some from Craigslist and we had an encounter over a month ago. It just got weird when he said he started to fall in love with me at the first encounter. He wants also to meet regularly.

[Guest]

I have a strange encounter with someone from Grindr too. The person seem to mind my weight and when he asked for whatsapp, I requested for Wechat. Guess what?

He assumed that I am a Mainlander Chinese even though I have said . Can't believe there are still such stereotyping mentality in this modern age! Of course in the end he didn't gave me his whatsapp number and blocked me too! Thinking of it now, I have a little giggle too. Such a closed minded person.

[Guest]

I have a strange encounter with someone from Grindr too. The person seem to mind my weight and when he asked for whatsapp, I requested for Wechat. Guess what?

He assumed that I am a Mainlander Chinese even though I have said that I am a local. Can't believe there are still such stereotyping mentality in this modern age! Of course in the end he didn't gave me his whatsapp number and blocked me too! Thinking of it now, I have a little giggle too. Such a closed minded person. Chat on WeChat = Mainland Chinese people. LOL

[Jurong4567]

Guys, someone PM-ed me yesterday with his stats and arranged a meet up at a hotel nearby later tonight.  We chatted initially through BW, but he kept insisting on Line.  So I eventually obliged since it was more convenient.  Then he kept asking me to video call him so that he could recognise me during the meet up.  I thought it was okay at first cuz I'll also be able to see what he looked like.  But whenever I turn on video chat, his screen will be pitch black and I can't see him or hear him at all.  So I questioned him and he claimed that he didn't want to show his video cuz he was scared of his parents....

 

Do you guys think I should meet up with him?  He claims that he is 21/nsf...could he be underage? Could he be a scammer/blackmailer asking for money?  Or if I do decide to meet up, what steps of caution should I take?  I'm new to all this so please help me out guys!!

[KENZ]

1 hour ago, Jurong4567 said:

Guys, someone PM-ed me yesterday with his stats and arranged a meet up at a hotel nearby later tonight.  We chatted initially through BW, but he kept insisting on Line.  So I eventually obliged since it was more convenient.  Then he kept asking me to video call him so that he could recognise me during the meet up.  I thought it was okay at first cuz I'll also be able to see what he looked like.  But whenever I turn on video chat, his screen will be pitch black and I can't see him or hear him at all.  So I questioned him and he claimed that he didn't want to show his video cuz he was scared of his parents....

 

Do you guys think I should meet up with him?  He claims that he is 21/nsf...could he be underage? Could he be a scammer/blackmailer asking for money?  Or if I do decide to meet up, what steps of caution should I take?  I'm new to all this so please help me out guys!!

 

Be very careful when you meet such people, go with your gut feelings. If you don't feel comfy don't go and meet him. If you still want to meet him, do it in a public area first (e.g kopi shop, or place with more people). Stay safe and don't keep your hopes too high, sometimes they don't dare to show face because they know *ahem* you will turn them down if you see them. Learn to protect yourself buddy and don't any how accept drinks ( you never know if he spike the drinks) 

[lonely57]

1 hour ago, KENZ said:

 

Be very careful when you meet such people, go with your gut feelings. If you don't feel comfy don't go and meet him. If you still want to meet him, do it in a public area first (e.g kopi shop, or place with more people). Stay safe and don't keep your hopes too high, sometimes they don't dare to show face because they know *ahem* you will turn them down if you see them. Learn to protect yourself buddy and don't any how accept drinks ( you never know if he spike the drinks) 

 

"Turn them down when we see them"? More like they are online shopping here anonymously. Don't meet him. He has the nerve to ask for a video call and yet hide his face. What does this show about his character ? Do u want to meet that kind of person? 

[abang]

If you do meet him eventually, meet in a neutral place like a shopping mall or a fast-food restaurant.

This way, you have the rights to turn him down if he seriously is CMI.

Don't ever give him the chance to get physical with you cos you are PRECIOUS too! 

[Blacque]

4 hours ago, Jurong4567 said:

Guys, someone PM-ed me yesterday with his stats and arranged a meet up at a hotel nearby later tonight.  We chatted initially through BW, but he kept insisting on Line.  So I eventually obliged since it was more convenient.  Then he kept asking me to video call him so that he could recognise me during the meet up.  I thought it was okay at first cuz I'll also be able to see what he looked like.  But whenever I turn on video chat, his screen will be pitch black and I can't see him or hear him at all.  So I questioned him and he claimed that he didn't want to show his video cuz he was scared of his parents....

 

Do you guys think I should meet up with him?  He claims that he is 21/nsf...could he be underage? Could he be a scammer/blackmailer asking for money?  Or if I do decide to meet up, what steps of caution should I take?  I'm new to all this so please help me out guys!!

 

If you guys are going to meet, please do so at a busy/crowded area, like at a shopping mall or something. 

[Guest guesser]

4 hours ago, Jurong4567 said:

Guys, someone PM-ed me yesterday with his stats and arranged a meet up at a hotel nearby later tonight.  We chatted initially through BW, but he kept insisting on Line.  So I eventually obliged since it was more convenient.  Then he kept asking me to video call him so that he could recognise me during the meet up.  I thought it was okay at first cuz I'll also be able to see what he looked like.  But whenever I turn on video chat, his screen will be pitch black and I can't see him or hear him at all.  So I questioned him and he claimed that he didn't want to show his video cuz he was scared of his parents....

 

Do you guys think I should meet up with him?  He claims that he is 21/nsf...could he be underage? Could he be a scammer/blackmailer asking for money?  Or if I do decide to meet up, what steps of caution should I take?  I'm new to all this so please help me out guys!!

 

He could be much older than you could imagine.  Not showing his face is a good sign.

[Jurong4567]

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the advice:)  How should I reject him though?  

[KENZ]

2 minutes ago, Jurong4567 said:

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the advice:)  How should I reject him though?  

 

Since you know him through blowing wind...by now he should have read the post liao ba....

[lonelyglobe]

16 hours ago, Jurong4567 said:

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the advice:)  How should I reject him though?  

Do you know how to pronounce a word "NO"?

There are just a lot of weird people around, they are nameless, faceless and shameless, not only in BW but everywhere, so u just got to be firm and say "NO", got it?

[Guest ;-(]

You can just say no

[Guest Glyf]

Hard to trust someone nowadays

[Guest Guest]

Guy 1 There is this guy he dont give hp number but only want to chat  and arrange to meet by jackd. How to make appt by jackd.  So this guy gave up friendship since i dont  want to communicate in jackd.Guy 2 this  guy is single but only want to cook at home .He dont like to eat outside.So  he gave up as friends as i stay alone i prefer to eat outside.Hard to find friends nowsday .

[mmysterio]

hahaha why dont invite yourself to his home and eat his homecooked food?

[sphere]

Hmm, how about you being the weird one?

 

For guy 1 - you "found" him through the app right?

There is no issue to arrange through the app if both parties are serious in making it work (without having the need to exchange numbers) yeah.

 

As for guy 2 - is eating outside healthier?

It would be good to know each other through a meal cooked by him?

 

Just a personal thought eh.

 

Edited July 19, 2019 by sphere

[Guest Guest]

He stay very far .And i prefer to try different food from different country.A

m paying the bill  anyway.Life is short  i want to be a world traveller and try different thing.

[mmysterio]

eh? what has this got to do with travelling the world? lol

[Guest Little Meow Meow]

18 minutes ago, mmysterio said:

hahaha why dont invite yourself to his home and eat his homecooked food?

Very risky to eat a stranger's food inside the stranger's house in the middle of nowhere.

[mmysterio]

HAHA. i agree. totally more risky than sleeping with a stranger in his home in the middle of nowhere.

[hahaha]

47 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Guy 1 There is this guy he dont give hp number but only want to chat  and arrange to meet by jackd. How to make appt by jackd.  So this guy gave up friendship since i dont  want to communicate in jackd.Guy 2 this  guy is single but only want to cook at home .He dont like to eat outside.So  he gave up as friends as i stay alone i prefer to eat outside.Hard to find friends nowsday .

 

For guy one, it's understandable people don't want to provide their phone number, but there's line and telegram!

 

For guy two, takeaway options are available! He can also cook himself and bring his food outside 

[Dan 28]

I always get to meet lots of weirdos in my life ....I wonder where to find people of sound mind these days 

Edited July 19, 2019 by Dan 28

[repressednerd]

On 4/8/2017 at 11:07 AM, Guest Glyf said:

Hard to trust someone nowadays

 

I met someone who couldn’t trust anyone. He does things alone all the time. Even down to his family, he would not engage anyone or something.

 

We met through a volunteer activity. Apparently he’s doing volunteer work on weekends not because of the purpose but because he has nothing better to do.

 

 

[Guest Guest]

1 hour ago, repressednerd said:

 

I met someone who couldn’t trust anyone. He does things alone all the time. Even down to his family, he would not engage anyone or something.

 

We met through a volunteer activity. Apparently he’s doing volunteer work on weekends not because of the purpose but because he has nothing better to do.

 

 

 

Why is that weird and what has that got to do with you? Even if he's doing volunteer work because he has nothing better to do, it's still better than not doing volunteer works at all, right? Is volunteerism subjected to discrimination now? If he doesn't trust you, I can already see very good reasons why.....

[Guest Terence]

One of the member here I blocked 5 times already then he just make new profile and will pm me again asking for dirty chat.