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Just enjoy it while it lasts, but at the same time no need to go too deep into anything with your attached friend like expecting a relationship of sorts.

 

If you have a mentality that this friend/buddy of yours will always be with you... im afraid you will be disappointed when he decides to get married or move on. Sometimes straight or bicurious guys just are just looking for fun on the side and nothing more. You should also look for your own long term partner in the meantime like what other people have already said.

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19 hours ago, Ironrod said:

Keep the friendship but develop your own life.

 

Some gays doesn't know how to protect themselves and got hurt when their "buddy" starts to have family (including kids) and start to move on.

 

Most importantly, don't stop looking for your OWN PARTNER just becos you have this "BUDDY".

 

U don't want to realize it's too late when u are in your late 30s - 40s.

 

Despite all the negative post here, gay love do exist but learn to love yourself first.

 

This is the best comment so far, if you have decided to remain status quo. 

 

I have been through the same things, although not as physical as you two but we are extremely comfortable with each other.  As time went on, he got attached with a girl, I was the first to know, then they got engaged and married.  I was sad, but during the wedding day, as a brother, witnessing them exchanging vows and the happiness gleamed in his parents eyes as their only son entered a new life journey, I knew I did the right thing to remain status quo. 

 

Unfortunately, all my past relationships failed and none of them gave me the same level of comfort and trust as I had with him. And now, I'm getting older and it may be too late to find a soulmate.

 

 

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5yrs working together with him in the bank.

 

We are so extremely close that colleagues do make fun of us that we are a couple. 

 

We are best buddy. He can drove to my place with beer and we sat at my apartment pool side to chat till late.

 

We share secret and talk whatever to each other. To him I m his little brother. 

 

I couldn't control my love for him anymore and decided to tell him my love for him.

 

I did prepared the consequences and worst no more friendship. 

 

That night I told him I m already in love with him. He kept quiet for awhile and told me no way as I knew he is straight with girlfriend definitely no! We didn't talk much and left home. 

 

Next few days in office we didn't talk and we pretended to be busy to avoid colleagues suspicious. I took 10 days leaves after that. 

 

I finally received his text after 2 weeks.

 

He told me he can't go without me anymore. He told me I m already part of his life. 

 

He came to my apartment that night. He held onto my hands and later trying his best to kiss me on my cheek. We had sex after that. 

 

He felt really guilty after the sex and yes he told me. He told me he wanted to do it with me but he felt guilt after that and he don't know why. 

 

Our affair lasted until he got married last week. High class hotel, nice speech on stage but we both knew it was just a show. 

 

We knew very well our relation need to put a stop. It might be hard for me to let go but I still need to.

 

We are still best buddy, back to what we use to be or I consider bromance. I didn't regret starting this relationship, at least the one I love did leave something in my body. 

 

 

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I feel that when you romance a straight guy, you will always lose out in the end, because he will never feel about you the way you feel about him.

 

And when the day comes where he gets married, you will feel very desolate, bitter and shattered, because in your mind, you know that from now on, some woman is going to enjoy your man's warm body every night. And it will be worse when the kid comes along.

 

Also, society will not sympathise with a same-sex third party partner of a married man. So you can't go around telling people how hurt and depressed you feel.

 

My advice is to steer clear of straight men. It's not worth it.

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1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

5yrs working together with him in the bank.

 

We are so extremely close that colleagues do make fun of us that we are a couple. 

 

We are best buddy. He can drove to my place with beer and we sat at my apartment pool side to chat till late.

 

We share secret and talk whatever to each other. To him I m his little brother. 

 

I couldn't control my love for him anymore and decided to tell him my love for him.

 

I did prepared the consequences and worst no more friendship. 

 

That night I told him I m already in love with him. He kept quiet for awhile and told me no way as I knew he is straight with girlfriend definitely no! We didn't talk much and left home. 

 

Next few days in office we didn't talk and we pretended to be busy to avoid colleagues suspicious. I took 10 days leaves after that. 

 

I finally received his text after 2 weeks.

 

He told me he can't go without me anymore. He told me I m already part of his life. 

 

He came to my apartment that night. He held onto my hands and later trying his best to kiss me on my cheek. We had sex after that. 

 

He felt really guilty after the sex and yes he told me. He told me he wanted to do it with me but he felt guilt after that and he don't know why. 

 

Our affair lasted until he got married last week. High class hotel, nice speech on stage but we both knew it was just a show. 

 

We knew very well our relation need to put a stop. It might be hard for me to let go but I still need to.

 

We are still best buddy, back to what we use to be or I consider bromance. I didn't regret starting this relationship, at least the one I love did leave something in my body. 

 

 

Really ar?he left something IN u.raw? Lucky u n he.dont worry. His wife will get pregnant soon n he will look for u. Enjoy as long as u can but no sentimental or commitment. Ok.all the best ya

 

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On 7/28/2017 at 5:54 PM, Arcanine said:

I've known H for a few years. I've to admit he is really seriously good looking. What we do have in common is our 'sampatness' (meaning crazy in an adorable way). That's what brought us close, really close. 

 

Even though he has a girlfriend, he puts most of his attention towards me. Even she knew about it. But she seems not to be bothered. He likes to hug me so dearly & to the point he kisses me (not on the lips of course, but who knows?). Sometimes he does like to goof around with me, eg. while in the pool. Our friends do know about it and they refer to our relationship as 'bromance'.

 

Yes, I do enjoy our bromance & being around him. It brings so much joy. 

 

Yes, youth is on our side but is he going too far or should I just ignore it and just enjoy life with him?

 

Both of you are young & I envy your bromance.

 

Hope your bromance last forever :)

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2 hours ago, Blogger Adam said:

When I was in Sec 3, I grew very close to my classmate P, who is in the same uniformed group as I.

 

We're very close and he being a year older, takes it upon himself to take care of his buddy. Boys being boys, the rest of my platoon mates would tease us and say that we are lovers.

 

P would roar with laughter each time he hears it, and he would pull me close to him and say to our friends that "Yes, we're gay lovers".

 

Once, a friend's dad booked him a hotel room for his 16th birthday and we all went to the room.

 

Nothing sexual ensued but what happened there would forever be etched in my mind as one of my most fond memories.

 

We were about to go for dinner when P and I wanted to shower, so P very casually said "come lah, shower together faster".

 

I was of course very excited because I had by then, developed a crush - albeit a very secretive one - on P.

 

The hotel room had a bath tub so we both went in and soaked there for a good five minutes while P casually continued talking to me because, who would have thought that his buddy would be fantasising about him while sharing the same bath tub right?

 

My mind archived all the minor details of that day - from the temperature of the warm water and the way P took off his glasses before stepping into the bath tub with me, to his lanky and fair body and this relatively hairless uncut member.

 

To this day, I am proud of the fact that, while I really liked P a lot, I did not want to break the dynamics by doing something rash such as to touch him. In retrospect, I was afraid - but in a way, I'm glad I was overcome with cowardice or I might have done something I would regret for life.

 

Today, P is happily married with two children, and is no longer attractive. He's balding, sports a tummy, and always seems burdened with the juggling of his family and work.

 

But we're still in touch, and in my mind, no matter how P looks now, he'll always be that fair, lanky lad who innocently asked his buddy to jump into the shower with him.

 

 

 

that's so sweet. Sometimes true love no need to say out.

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i am in my Early 30s,

y'day i bumped into a Stranger, he had a small patch of hair on his head...that means visually...he is in his 50s.

 

He introduced himself as W, i introduced myself as Gay & seeking Friends/LTR. i was frank from the start, i pricked him by saying,"We are 18 years apart...U know?!?"

 

"You're Cute" , he said "We have got to be friends". Soon he sounded like a salesman, more words continued like, "Let's give love a chance".

 

Well the good news is...We chatted over Lunch for an hour & i did enjoy his presence, I did enjoy the connection we had intellectually, my eyes sparkled whenever he described his overseas works stints, i marveled at his stories of being gay from his 30s to his present 50s. The more he talked the more i felt drawn to him, & the more i was attracted to him. Now comes my part, initially it was difficult for me to share coz here is a Man "Who is much older & has more life experiences than me" so i thought to myself...What must i say to "Get into his Good books?"

Since me having boyish looks, & Japanese facial features, coupled with a face that may come across as Upper-Class-Wealthy, i used this opportunity during our meal to "Put the Bait on the Hook for him to Bite".

 

I shared stuff about myself growing up as a kid with no parental involvement, as a Teenager sexually attracted to my male classmate & (1) Suppressing my homosexual orientation while (2) repressing my anger of not being able to sleep with him, & (3) being oppressed from my ultra-religious parents.

WOW! my sharing knocked him off his chair! i must warn U that the above paragraph about my Life is not made up but 100% True so pls do not think that i am so shallow to make my life sound like a tragedy. So enough of talk, i saw a side of him which i liked, after my sharing he was more interested Back to the title of this Topic which reads: "BROMANCE OR MORE?"

i was blunt, i asked him "What U want from this?"
 

"I want to be your friend. I want you to be my "Friend with Benefit". I wanna caress your fucking hot ass & Rim you till you have an orgasm. I want both of us to ourselves physically & on a social level".

 

Amazingly, i was convinced with his pitch. to be honest, i had nothing to lose...except the constant reminder & flashing-red-light-in-the-Background saying:  "18 years my senior"... in my erotic mind, this was like me, a new executive making out with the CEO...or even worse...this was like me falling in love with (both are age 51yo) Li Nanxing or Adrian Pang...i told him, "Fuck it, Let's give it a try & Let Fate decide..." The chain of events that followed after Lunch confirmed that my decision to "Fuck It" & give it try WAS A STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION =)

Without "Letting the cat out of the bag"... I shall summarise what happened btw us(after Lunch)...in his posh & luxurious car...he gave me a farewell gift...a Hickey. thanks to him, now my neck has a love bite which even SK-II 's Cream cannot remove. if this were a Bromance, I would be thankful to have an older guy walk this journey with me, being my mentor but now things have become messier given he specifically wants: "Bromance & More".

 

Quite confused now...not sure do i wanna continue mtg up with him next week.

sometimes i think Life is making a fool out of me...giving me a hot desirable man in his early 50s & pairing him up with a guy like me in my early 30s.

 

Oh well, i'm mtg up with him today, & I'll let fate decide...

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9 hours ago, InBishan said:

How I wish I could have bromance too :-)

I think at your place in Bishan there are no lack of gay guys.  I thought it was a gay town always see so many gay guys moving around, some obvious, some not so obvious and especially in the park area. They always look at you when you jog.

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I would like to share my bromance story too.

 

Bromance = Brotherly Romance

 

I have known this friend of mine for more than 10 years, since we will in our 20s. Started off as 2 young punks going into the same company at the same time, so we kinda become company buddies always do things together like attend training together, go lunch together and this slowly evolves to after office hours. We would go chilled out after work and soon we are like Siamese twins to our colleagues and some of his friends.

 

As we earned more money, our nightlife becomes more adventurous. Like any horny young men, we start going to explore night life sex scene of Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, China, etc. We even came to an extent where we have sex with our own girls (not orgy) in the same room, we will comfortable in revealing our naked bodies to one other.

 

Of course like any bromance story, I developed a infatuation with him. During all our same room sex, I would look at him having sex and to my stupidity I did not do it discreetly or I thought I had.

 

I guessed he has his suspicion and it was kinda confirmed when one day he discover from my computer I was downloading gay porn. I tried to explain to him even though I do not know how to, but he said he respect me as a bi and that we are still friends.

 

Yes, friends as in still drinking and sharing of problems, but the “sex part” it stopped. At times I jokingly tried to suggest we do it again but he will give excuses. He used to comfortably peck on my lips in nightclub for fun, but now he wouldn’t do it. But we are still chill out and problem sharing friends. Even though now he has make new friends but I recalled when he knows I’m in trouble, he will always text me or call me to find out how I doing.

 

I’m satisfied already at least we are still bromance in sharing and at least we have our share of fun. 

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for me... I also really love a str8 guy whom is close to me... but as many had said ... i rather keep the relationship clean and enjoy the bromance... then push for sex and risk ending the relationship. 

 

well... to me in life... there is much more than just sex..... able to spend quality time with the person u like or love and do things together with in depth talking.... is much more impt to me...

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Just to share, my married colleague and I went for a work trip recently. He is really very lean and toned (at his age, he still get picked up by young ladies and men). To be honest, while i still had a crush on him, i would prefer to just maintain as friends/bros and i knew he was straight. Anyways, we were already very close even when in Singapore. During the work trip, i would hang out at his room and chit chat, and have dinner together. 

 

Anyway we went to a hot spring after work. During then, both of our cocks grew. And then i jokingly suggested to wank it off in my hotel room. On this, he surprisingly agreed and then when he reached my room, he simply laid on my bed naked and jerked off. He asked me to join him and wank off. I initially refused as i did not know what his intention was. Anyways, my cock was already erect and after he kept egging me on, i stripped and laid beside him. And then he said that we could help each other on this. We then did a mutual handjob and during the process, he would at times, get near me to compare the sizes of our dicks or help me apply lotion. I would also apply lotion on his chest or at his balls to arouse him. I also mustered the courage to ask if he had tried blowjob before, he coolly said that someone had done it for him before, but then he didnt reciprocate as it was "gross" for him and that he was straight but couldnt reject someone's offer. He also said that i was the second person who did a handjob for him. I was maintaining my cool around him and tried not to give him any signal that i was eyeing or wanting to blow him. After the first time, he admitted tt he felt awkward wanking in front of me but the second time, he seemed to be okay and we still went dinner or shop around after that.

 

I am now not sure as to whether he is testing me or is this really called "bromance". I know that he loved his family alot and he wouldnt do anything out of the line. Can someone advice on this? I just want to know what might come into his thoughts when he eventually agreed to a mutual handjob... 

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8 hours ago, Guest Guest A Little Confused said:

Just to share, my married colleague and I went for a work trip recently. He is really very lean and toned (at his age, he still get picked up by young ladies and men). To be honest, while i still had a crush on him, i would prefer to just maintain as friends/bros and i knew he was straight. Anyways, we were already very close even when in Singapore. During the work trip, i would hang out at his room and chit chat, and have dinner together. 

 

Anyway we went to a hot spring after work. During then, both of our cocks grew. And then i jokingly suggested to wank it off in my hotel room. On this, he surprisingly agreed and then when he reached my room, he simply laid on my bed naked and jerked off. He asked me to join him and wank off. I initially refused as i did not know what his intention was. Anyways, my cock was already erect and after he kept egging me on, i stripped and laid beside him. And then he said that we could help each other on this. We then did a mutual handjob and during the process, he would at times, get near me to compare the sizes of our dicks or help me apply lotion. I would also apply lotion on his chest or at his balls to arouse him. I also mustered the courage to ask if he had tried blowjob before, he coolly said that someone had done it for him before, but then he didnt reciprocate as it was "gross" for him and that he was straight but couldnt reject someone's offer. He also said that i was the second person who did a handjob for him. I was maintaining my cool around him and tried not to give him any signal that i was eyeing or wanting to blow him. After the first time, he admitted tt he felt awkward wanking in front of me but the second time, he seemed to be okay and we still went dinner or shop around after that.

 

I am now not sure as to whether he is testing me or is this really called "bromance". I know that he loved his family alot and he wouldnt do anything out of the line. Can someone advice on this? I just want to know what might come into his thoughts when he eventually agreed to a mutual handjob... 

 

I feel you should maintain status quo for now, and continue to observe after you have few more such "clean fun" session with him.

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On 24/10/2017 at 8:51 AM, Sincere90 said:

 

I feel you should maintain status quo for now, and continue to observe after you have few more such "clean fun" session with him.

Anyway jus an update, we were chatting yesterday and i admitted that i was not straight. Then tt same evening, he asked me if i would be interested in him if he was single. I coolly said yes and that he was a good catch. And then he asked if i wanted to do anything with him. It seemed like i was caught red-handed and i was so embarrassed with it... however, i said that i would love to have a mutual bj but i know he wouldnt do it for me. Indeed he said that he wont do it for me but he wld let me do a bj for him. I asked him the reason for this deal, and he simply said that he was willing to help a close friend with his fantasy and he would need to get it out anyway. I was not convinced and he kept saying that we would still be close friends even after this incident and its all cool.

 

So i did a blowjob for him that lasted for a good 20min. My first bj and i am not sure whether i did a good job... turns out that this was his 2nd bj by another guy as well. 

 

I am kinda convinced that this would never happen again unless we two were sent on the same work trip. Guess shall just take this as a dream from now on.

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1 hour ago, Guest Guest A Little Confused said:

Anyway jus an update, we were chatting yesterday and i admitted that i was not straight. Then tt same evening, he asked me if i would be interested in him if he was single. I coolly said yes and that he was a good catch. And then he asked if i wanted to do anything with him. It seemed like i was caught red-handed and i was so embarrassed with it... however, i said that i would love to have a mutual bj but i know he wouldnt do it for me. Indeed he said that he wont do it for me but he wld let me do a bj for him. I asked him the reason for this deal, and he simply said that he was willing to help a close friend with his fantasy and he would need to get it out anyway. I was not convinced and he kept saying that we would still be close friends even after this incident and its all cool.

 

So i did a blowjob for him that lasted for a good 20min. My first bj and i am not sure whether i did a good job... turns out that this was his 2nd bj by another guy as well. 

 

I am kinda convinced that this would never happen again unless we two were sent on the same work trip. Guess shall just take this as a dream from now on.

 

Perhaps to him you are a very good friend, that's why he trust you to cross the line and let you bj him, and not just anyone else. As long as the friendship is genuine and strong, perhaps no harm having that additional benefit with him if you don't mind it.

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On 10/27/2017 at 7:50 AM, Sincere90 said:

 

Perhaps to him you are a very good friend, that's why he trust you to cross the line and let you bj him, and not just anyone else. As long as the friendship is genuine and strong, perhaps no harm having that additional benefit with him if you don't mind it.

Welcome back. I see you gotten over your guilt?

 

Haven't heard from you in quite a while...

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On 10/27/2017 at 7:50 AM, Sincere90 said:

 

Perhaps to him you are a very good friend, that's why he trust you to cross the line and let you bj him, and not just anyone else. As long as the friendship is genuine and strong, perhaps no harm having that additional benefit with him if you don't mind it.

It seems you have changed your opinions on this.... Previously I recalled you prefer not having lust "creep" inside a friendship, especially one where it did not started out as a sexually active one.

 

I still stand by my views that it's fine as long both parties are 100% aware and upfront about it.

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On 28/02/2016 at 11:29 PM, Guest CKW said:

 

I agree. If you're a gay guy who tries to have a relationship with your straight friend, you'll always be the one getting hurt. He will move on with his wife or girlfriend, and you'll be the one feeling devastated and desolate (been there before).

 

And generally, society is not sympathetic towards the gay third party in a straight relationship. (It's as if you're worse than a mistress.) So it'll be very, very hard to seek support during a time like that.

 

Be strong, and stay happy!

 

I definitely agree with this. It happened to me. Now my friend has his own family and two kids.

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I think my relationship with this secondary mate is more than a friendship. We were pretty close that after school we went over to his place for bj and mb but nothing anal. It happened for a few months and it stopped and we never talked about it after that. 

 

During poly we met up often too with our other friends but we never brought the topic up when it’s just the two of us hanging out. We didn’t really meet much during NS but randomly we chat here and there. Let’s not forget both of us have our other friends as well. 

 

Now that we are both working (different jobs) we surprising met often about once a month cos of the gaps in our free time. I stayed over his place after our meetup session and I couldn’t sleep while he knocked out. 

 

I like to play around with him again but idk if he is want to. Any idea what I can do to test it out. Idk what to do. 

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5 hours ago, walk around said:

Let's start this topic, stories and experience sharing, mine here; 

 

I'll never forget this, as it is when I found myself a gay (or Bi? I don't know, I have had a girlfriend before I bump into this guy). 

 

Back in 4/5 years ago... I've bumped into this guy during my first day of the university (the orientation programme).

 

We were very soon getting closer as we officially commenced the semester. In the classroom, we both have our seat side-by-side, always, we will 'automatic' look for each other's place and sit beside, the opposite party will also reserve the seat for another; it became a habit among us. One day, we went out on a short trip (or a camp? Can’t recall) with the rest of our classmates, and I've injured myself quite serious. I can recall he went to argued with the one who fails to save me from the incident, what a non-gentlemen doing - but I felt lovely! 

 

We were getting closer after the incident. Our ambiguous relationship remains until one day I could felt he was starting to maintain a distance with me and talk lesser to me, I never ask why because I'm not daring enough HAHA! Someone in the class, who was also quite close to us, came and told me how beautiful his girlfriend is, I got a shock as he never let me know that he was in a relationship. I never ask for an answer and I choose to let him go...

 

One day, he came to class and sat beside me, as always, and he seems different a little - as in emotional. Then, we went out from the class for lunch; dramatically, we bumped into his girlfriend and he tried hard to find a topic with me, that's when I know he broke up with his girlfriend. I then tried my best to cheer him up, and for the first time, he put down his so-called dignities, he gave me a long texts that express his feelings.

 

At almost the end of our studies, we went out on an overseas trip to Indonesia; One day during the trip, I choose not to hang out with them as I wanted to stay by the beach with some (lot of) beer HAHA. At night, I decided to join the dinner and when I met them, he came to tell me what the group has done. Someone realized he turned to his happily-childish face and asked, why suddenly happy?  He immediately remains silence and continues eating. Then I found out he was not quite happy during the time when I wasn't around. 

 

I know he realized himself going over on me, and the next day he chose not to sit beside me in the coach. He since started to remain the 'brother gap' between us; about a month later, we’ve graduated and left the campus; we are still meeting as our offices are located quite a few steps away, I’m still looking for him to complain about what I’ve encountered from my bosses and so on..

 

Times flies, has been almost a half-decade since that happened in my life. Not sure if he is here; but I hope he did and I’d like to tell him that; 

 

To YOU, From ME;

Thank you for being there for me sometimes in the past,

I know you have the concerns and worries that you couldn't commit into a relationship with a guy, 

And I'm pleased to remind you that; I used to love you, I chose to remain silent and I hope not to mess up your life, I won’t and it’s not my intention to do so,

Anyways, I believe you'll stay well and happy with your loved one, as it should have... 

We are still Little-brother, right?

My best regards! 

 

 

 

So anti climax.

 

No explosion. no passion. no hot kisses, no juices flowing,  

 

no moans, no grunts, no unforfettable teeth gnashing, bedsheet grabbing,  nails clawing on the partners back and skin.

 

 

but just like two gigantic ships passing each other 1 km apart and signalling at each other to stay a safe distance from each other to avoid a collision of flesh and juices.

 

How clinical and so MIW.

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Thanks Leslie for your sharing, 

Yaa, I've been there too. I used to commit to a relationship with a girl; but today I would say, stay with a guy are more comfortable compared to a girl, for me..  

 

Dear all, 

The story is mine, you can check plagiarism online like what students did HAHA. And yaa, nothing juicy and no bed-rolling; but this is how I found myself being attracted by a guy...

Or I could say:  When I saw his heart-broken face when he left his relationship with that girl, I heartbeat fast... 

And I don't always believe a relationship between two guys should always be sex oriented, agree? 

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7 minutes ago, walk around said:

When I saw his heart-broken face when he left his relationship with that girl, I heartbeat fast... 

And I don't always believe a relationship between two guys should always be sex oriented, agree? 

 

That's a great story! 

Straight guys are often like that - they hang out with you cos it makes them feel good, but the moment their homophobia starts acting up, or if someome in the school/office passes a remark, they will start to keep a distance from you. That's when it gets very painful. 

 

Anyway, to answer your question: I started noticing that I liked guys from pri 2 onwards. It started not with any male classmates but funnily enough, with certain male cartoon characters. Then it progressed on to me liking certain male celebs on those Ch 8 dramas.

 

I always thought that one day I would outgrow it, or just wake up liking girls.

 

Never happened. 

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10 hours ago, Guest Try and see said:

 

That's a great story! 

Straight guys are often like that - they hang out with you cos it makes them feel good, but the moment their homophobia starts acting up, or if someome in the school/office passes a remark, they will start to keep a distance from you. That's when it gets very painful. 

 

Anyway, to answer your question: I started noticing that I liked guys from pri 2 onwards. It started not with any male classmates but funnily enough, with certain male cartoon characters. Then it progressed on to me liking certain male celebs on those Ch 8 dramas.

 

I always thought that one day I would outgrow it, or just wake up liking girls.

 

Never happened. 

 

it's tough right? especially if you know the guy really well, but he doesn't feel the same way about you. Imagine trusting each other so much but for instance if you came out to him and he rejects it, then how is the friendship gonna continue?

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11 hours ago, walk around said:

 

Dear all, 

The story is mine, you can check plagiarism online like what students did HAHA. And yaa, nothing juicy and no bed-rolling; but this is how I found myself being attracted by a guy...

Or I could say:  When I saw his heart-broken face when he left his relationship with that girl, I heartbeat fast... 

 

 

Oh, I believe you and your story.  I had a somewhat similar sad story:

 

When I started in secondary school one of my peers was a delicate boy, somewhat small and cute.  It didn't take long before he was my center of attention. I would not call it "love" at that age but I felt a strong attraction to him.  He was in a group of friends who were bigger, more manly,  none of my interest. My incredible shyness kept me at a distance from him during the six years of the technical high school, a distance so wide as my likeness for him.  After we graduated, I never heard from him again.

 

Stepping forwards more than 50 years.  A while ago I returned to my country and had a reunion with my former high school peers of over 50 years ago.  There I learned that my beloved boy had passed away,  and it was a sad story.   They told me that,  oh disgrace, he had turned out to be a homosexual (!!!), he went with these wrong people and one of his gay lovers murdered him!!  There with my peers I  lamented his disgrace of having been gay and the way he ended.   Back alone I cried a long time over him and the irony of life.

 

If society had been what it should be,  I would not have been so shy and he could have become my "sweetheart from high school".  He may be alive today, with me, two old gays together for more than half a century aging gracefully.  

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On 3/20/2019 at 10:30 AM, walk around said:

Let's start this topic, stories and experience sharing, mine here; 

 

I'll never forget this, as it is when I found myself a gay (or Bi? I don't know, I have had a girlfriend before I bump into this guy). 

 

Back in 4/5 years ago... I've bumped into this guy during my first day of the university (the orientation programme).

 

We were very soon getting closer as we officially commenced the semester. In the classroom, we both have our seat side-by-side, always, we will 'automatic' look for each other's place and sit beside, the opposite party will also reserve the seat for another; it became a habit among us. One day, we went out on a short trip (or a camp? Can’t recall) with the rest of our classmates, and I've injured myself quite serious. I can recall he went to argued with the one who fails to save me from the incident, what a non-gentlemen doing - but I felt lovely! 

 

We were getting closer after the incident. Our ambiguous relationship remains until one day I could felt he was starting to maintain a distance with me and talk lesser to me, I never ask why because I'm not daring enough HAHA! Someone in the class, who was also quite close to us, came and told me how beautiful his girlfriend is, I got a shock as he never let me know that he was in a relationship. I never ask for an answer and I choose to let him go...

 

One day, he came to class and sat beside me, as always, and he seems different a little - as in emotional. Then, we went out from the class for lunch; dramatically, we bumped into his girlfriend and he tried hard to find a topic with me, that's when I know he broke up with his girlfriend. I then tried my best to cheer him up, and for the first time, he put down his so-called dignities, he gave me a long texts that express his feelings.

 

At almost the end of our studies, we went out on an overseas trip to Indonesia; One day during the trip, I choose not to hang out with them as I wanted to stay by the beach with some (lot of) beer HAHA. At night, I decided to join the dinner and when I met them, he came to tell me what the group has done. Someone realized he turned to his happily-childish face and asked, why suddenly happy?  He immediately remains silence and continues eating. Then I found out he was not quite happy during the time when I wasn't around. 

 

I know he realized himself going over on me, and the next day he chose not to sit beside me in the coach. He since started to remain the 'brother gap' between us; about a month later, we’ve graduated and left the campus; we are still meeting as our offices are located quite a few steps away, I’m still looking for him to complain about what I’ve encountered from my bosses and so on..

 

Times flies, has been almost a half-decade since that happened in my life. Not sure if he is here; but I hope he did and I’d like to tell him that; 

 

To YOU, From ME;

Thank you for being there for me sometimes in the past,

I know you have the concerns and worries that you couldn't commit into a relationship with a guy, 

And I'm pleased to remind you that; I used to love you, I chose to remain silent and I hope not to mess up your life, I won’t and it’s not my intention to do so,

Anyways, I believe you'll stay well and happy with your loved one, as it should have... 

We are still Little-brother, right?

My best regards! 

 

 

So touching ~:(

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11 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Oh, I believe you and your story.  I had a somewhat similar sad story:

 

When I started in secondary school one of my peers was a delicate boy, somewhat small and cute.  It didn't take long before he was my center of attention. I would not call it "love" at that age but I felt a strong attraction to him.  He was in a group of friends who were bigger, more manly,  none of my interest. My incredible shyness kept me at a distance from him during the six years of the technical high school, a distance so wide as my likeness for him.  After we graduated, I never heard from him again.

 

Stepping forwards more than 50 years.  A while ago I returned to my country and had a reunion with my former high school peers of over 50 years ago.  There I learned that my beloved boy had passed away,  and it was a sad story.   They told me that,  oh disgrace, he had turned out to be a homosexual (!!!), he went with these wrong people and one of his gay lovers murdered him!!  There with my peers I  lamented his disgrace of having been gay and the way he ended.   Back alone I cried a long time over him and the irony of life.

 

If society had been what it should be,  I would not have been so shy and he could have become my "sweetheart from high school".  He may be alive today, with me, two old gays together for more than half a century aging gracefully.  

.

Oh dear!! this is sad... I believe he is happy in the other world now~

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11 hours ago, xaviertanshin said:

 

it's tough right? especially if you know the guy really well, but he doesn't feel the same way about you. Imagine trusting each other so much but for instance if you came out to him and he rejects it, then how is the friendship gonna continue?

Perhaps straight always have those chemical substances which always attracting us gay, with doesn't realizing themselves...

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On 3/21/2019 at 10:47 PM, xaviertanshin said:

 

it's tough right? especially if you know the guy really well, but he doesn't feel the same way about you. Imagine trusting each other so much but for instance if you came out to him and he rejects it, then how is the friendship gonna continue?

 

I can understand what you mean. 

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I can understand what you mean. I am not so lucky to have a male-male relationship, as most of my male friends are straight. Back in my NS days, I have been quite intimate with my buddy. We got quite close that we could touch each other's body and felt OK about it. But we did not go anywhere beyond that point, because we had girlfriends back then. We also did not talk much about what all that mean. Such behaviours are still a taboo to talk about. Or perhaps we did not know how to approach this as we are afraid that it would destroy our friendship or our current relationship with our girlfriends (my girlfriend knew that I can be attracted to guys, I mean as she is attracted to some girls too). So till now, we are still hush hush about it. 

most of us have been there too... same to you, i'm not daring enough to express the feelings 

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On 3/20/2019 at 10:30 AM, walk around said:

Let's start this topic, stories and experience sharing, mine here; 

 

I'll never forget this, as it is when I found myself a gay (or Bi? I don't know, I have had a girlfriend before I bump into this guy). 

 

Back in 4/5 years ago... I've bumped into this guy during my first day of the university (the orientation programme).

 

We were very soon getting closer as we officially commenced the semester. In the classroom, we both have our seat side-by-side, always, we will 'automatic' look for each other's place and sit beside, the opposite party will also reserve the seat for another; it became a habit among us. One day, we went out on a short trip (or a camp? Can’t recall) with the rest of our classmates, and I've injured myself quite serious. I can recall he went to argued with the one who fails to save me from the incident, what a non-gentlemen doing - but I felt lovely! 

 

We were getting closer after the incident. Our ambiguous relationship remains until one day I could felt he was starting to maintain a distance with me and talk lesser to me, I never ask why because I'm not daring enough HAHA! Someone in the class, who was also quite close to us, came and told me how beautiful his girlfriend is, I got a shock as he never let me know that he was in a relationship. I never ask for an answer and I choose to let him go...

 

One day, he came to class and sat beside me, as always, and he seems different a little - as in emotional. Then, we went out from the class for lunch; dramatically, we bumped into his girlfriend and he tried hard to find a topic with me, that's when I know he broke up with his girlfriend. I then tried my best to cheer him up, and for the first time, he put down his so-called dignities, he gave me a long texts that express his feelings.

 

At almost the end of our studies, we went out on an overseas trip to Indonesia; One day during the trip, I choose not to hang out with them as I wanted to stay by the beach with some (lot of) beer HAHA. At night, I decided to join the dinner and when I met them, he came to tell me what the group has done. Someone realized he turned to his happily-childish face and asked, why suddenly happy?  He immediately remains silence and continues eating. Then I found out he was not quite happy during the time when I wasn't around. 

 

I know he realized himself going over on me, and the next day he chose not to sit beside me in the coach. He since started to remain the 'brother gap' between us; about a month later, we’ve graduated and left the campus; we are still meeting as our offices are located quite a few steps away, I’m still looking for him to complain about what I’ve encountered from my bosses and so on..

 

Times flies, has been almost a half-decade since that happened in my life. Not sure if he is here; but I hope he did and I’d like to tell him that; 

 

To YOU, From ME;

Thank you for being there for me sometimes in the past,

I know you have the concerns and worries that you couldn't commit into a relationship with a guy, 

And I'm pleased to remind you that; I used to love you, I chose to remain silent and I hope not to mess up your life, I won’t and it’s not my intention to do so,

Anyways, I believe you'll stay well and happy with your loved one, as it should have... 

We are still Little-brother, right?

My best regards! 

 

 

Awww... this kind of stories really make my day.

 

Hope that you will find the right one too!

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On 3/20/2019 at 10:30 AM, walk around said:

Let's start this topic, stories and experience sharing, mine here; 

 

I'll never forget this, as it is when I found myself a gay (or Bi? I don't know, I have had a girlfriend before I bump into this guy). 

 

Back in 4/5 years ago... I've bumped into this guy during my first day of the university (the orientation programme).

 

We were very soon getting closer as we officially commenced the semester. In the classroom, we both have our seat side-by-side, always, we will 'automatic' look for each other's place and sit beside, the opposite party will also reserve the seat for another; it became a habit among us. One day, we went out on a short trip (or a camp? Can’t recall) with the rest of our classmates, and I've injured myself quite serious. I can recall he went to argued with the one who fails to save me from the incident, what a non-gentlemen doing - but I felt lovely! 

 

We were getting closer after the incident. Our ambiguous relationship remains until one day I could felt he was starting to maintain a distance with me and talk lesser to me, I never ask why because I'm not daring enough HAHA! Someone in the class, who was also quite close to us, came and told me how beautiful his girlfriend is, I got a shock as he never let me know that he was in a relationship. I never ask for an answer and I choose to let him go...

 

One day, he came to class and sat beside me, as always, and he seems different a little - as in emotional. Then, we went out from the class for lunch; dramatically, we bumped into his girlfriend and he tried hard to find a topic with me, that's when I know he broke up with his girlfriend. I then tried my best to cheer him up, and for the first time, he put down his so-called dignities, he gave me a long texts that express his feelings.

 

At almost the end of our studies, we went out on an overseas trip to Indonesia; One day during the trip, I choose not to hang out with them as I wanted to stay by the beach with some (lot of) beer HAHA. At night, I decided to join the dinner and when I met them, he came to tell me what the group has done. Someone realized he turned to his happily-childish face and asked, why suddenly happy?  He immediately remains silence and continues eating. Then I found out he was not quite happy during the time when I wasn't around. 

 

I know he realized himself going over on me, and the next day he chose not to sit beside me in the coach. He since started to remain the 'brother gap' between us; about a month later, we’ve graduated and left the campus; we are still meeting as our offices are located quite a few steps away, I’m still looking for him to complain about what I’ve encountered from my bosses and so on..

 

Times flies, has been almost a half-decade since that happened in my life. Not sure if he is here; but I hope he did and I’d like to tell him that; 

 

To YOU, From ME;

Thank you for being there for me sometimes in the past,

I know you have the concerns and worries that you couldn't commit into a relationship with a guy, 

And I'm pleased to remind you that; I used to love you, I chose to remain silent and I hope not to mess up your life, I won’t and it’s not my intention to do so,

Anyways, I believe you'll stay well and happy with your loved one, as it should have... 

We are still Little-brother, right?

My best regards! 

 

 

What a sad yet beautiful story :(

Hope that someday you will get to meet him again and if you really do, do express yourself once and for all to him.

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So anti climax.

 

No explosion. no passion. no hot kisses, no juices flowing,  

 

no moans, no grunts, no unforfettable teeth gnashing, bedsheet grabbing,  nails clawing on the partners back and skin.

 

 

but just like two gigantic ships passing each other 1 km apart and signalling at each other to stay a safe distance from each other to avoid a collision of flesh and juices.

 

How clinical and so MIW.

 

That's because he is writing a true story, not a made up story to make readers horny!

 

@walk around hope your "bro"  replies you. I am not sure if he will be touched when he sees this. Or in his discreetness, secretly unhappy with you for posting this.

 

some memories are meant to be savoured, and to me that's good enough.

I really like your story.

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So anti climax.

 

No explosion. no passion. no hot kisses, no juices flowing,  

 

no moans, no grunts, no unforfettable teeth gnashing, bedsheet grabbing,  nails clawing on the partners back and skin.

 

 

but just like two gigantic ships passing each other 1 km apart and signalling at each other to stay a safe distance from each other to avoid a collision of flesh and juices.

 

How clinical and so MIW.

 

Too much xxx also boring. 

 

Sometimes R(A) also OK.

鍾意就好,理佢男定女

 

never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want.

 

结缘不结

不解缘

 

After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say.

 

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8 hours ago, Coolbriz said:

I got a short and sweet memory way back during junior college time. Had this classmate who started befriending me as I was rather shy back then and taking initiatives to know people around me seemed like a great challenge. So naturally, I was grateful that he took the lead . . . 

 

 . . . Deep inside me, I was happy for him as he has a complete life, having his family. I was grateful to him for taking care of me during our school time and giving me such a wonderful one-sided bromance :) 

 

Thanks for this wonderful and honest sharing! I feel that you definitely did the right thing, even though it was very painful for him, and also for yourself, to deny your feelings for him.

 

Now that it has been proven that he is straight (presumably  :P  ), he could and would not have taken things further beyond wanting to protect you and take care of you like a younger brother. So to repeat:  You did the right thing.

 

And I have to admit here that I have done similar things before i.e. moving away emotionally from straight guys that I was attracted to, in order to spare him and I any unnecessary anguish.

 

Someday, I hope that all these straight guys will understand why we did what we did.

 

For any straight guys reading this, know that not all of us gay guys are homewrecking, horny male sluts. Some of us do respect your heterosexuality, even if we hate it or cannot understand it. That's why we back off and act aloof, to cool off our growing attraction for you, so that you can lead your own life, and we, ours.

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We were very close and we did everything together.  One day I noticed that he was courting girl. I was jealous and sad.

It was painful for me to keep a distance from him thereafter but then i met my partner now. 塞翁失马焉知非福!

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痛了之后就剩苦。

 

:(

鍾意就好,理佢男定女

 

never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want.

 

结缘不结

不解缘

 

After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say.

 

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Same here. While serving NSF started out bromance with a manly buddy WCT (his initials) few yrs my senior (he was 23yo then) who had a fiancee, now his wife (I heard). He had sharp features, tanned and a very fit physique though not tall. He would wait for me to go for the 3 meals, breaks, even shower and book out together, was a considerate and sporty gentleman who played tennis. Was endeared to him because he never failed to look out for me during duties and field exercises. He would always buy supper for me when I was on duty. On weekends we never met or went out together as he would be with his fiancee. I wasn't sure of my sexuality at that time,  whether gay or str8, and didn't know much about bisexual orientation though had some experiences with both sexes by then.  I was happy to know a str8 and caring buddy.

However, everything turned upside down one late night. One night in the bunk of 6, I fell asleep on his bed while listening to his sharing on go go bars with topless gals in skimpy bikini bottoms in BKK. I was rudely awaken when I felt something prying my butthole. Realised that he had covered me with a blanket, was hugging me from behind as I was sleeping side ways due to the single bed, my PT shorts just below my butt, and he had his cockhead just half way into my butthole. I was little shocked and confused at the same time. Quite automatically I placed my right my hand on his butt area and realised he had pulled his shorts to his knees and I was holding his bare butt. Knowing that I was awaken he stopped moving but just held on to me. Over the next 15min he managed to inch fully into me raw with his saliva and by teasing my right ear and neck with his tongue. Wasn't even sure of my sexuality let alone my role at then. From that night onwards we had mutual jo and bj almost every night for the next 4 months.

 

Weeks past I began to feel that I missed him badly over the weekends even though we spent almost 24hrs together 5 days a week. I knew he liked me as his buddy and I too had a gf then whom I had sex with whenever we could. The feeling of missing him on weekends while with my gf was so strong and quite torturous actually. Then decided to avoid him as much as possible and cut off all bj sessions till I got posted out 2 months later. I knew he was hurt but little did he know it was terribly painful for me and I missed him much more than he ever could imagine. He probably thought I had gotten tired of him physically. He volunteered to send me to my new camp using camp vehicle. Upon arrival I alighted and just walked off to the admin office without turning back to say good bye. If you're here I just wanna say sori. Frankly, the first few weeks in new camp I missed him so much and found myself strangely tearing quietly in my own bunk alone at night thinking of him. Did I regret what I did?  Am still not sure till today. Do I still miss him each time I recalled the experience? Yup have to admit I do, for bromance (and maybe a little fun?). 

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25 minutes ago, yuquidam said:

Same here. While serving NSF started out bromance with a manly buddy WCT (his initials) . . . 

 

Oh man . . . Damn sad when I read this. It reminded me of that movie I saw: Call Me By Your Name.

 

But just to ask: were you both alone in the bunk the very first time he entered you? Cos I keep thinking like there were other people in the bunk with you.

 

 

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