Guest Guest Guest Posted August 22, 2016 Report Share Posted August 22, 2016 U use to do regular things things together. Wat happen when when one have pass away suddenly . How do u overcome it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Socialise Posted August 22, 2016 Report Share Posted August 22, 2016 Socialise more and get a replacement if opportunity present itself. Life goes on till your own time is up. I am a practical person. bigdanbeam 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdanbeam Posted August 22, 2016 Report Share Posted August 22, 2016 It's ok to grief for a short period of time and need to move on after that After all, his life may have ended but not yours mate69 and bluerunner 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post iamziz Posted August 22, 2016 Popular Post Report Share Posted August 22, 2016 (edited) I was a Daddy's boy. My Dad passed on a day after his 93rd birthday 9 days ago. Some people take a longer time to grief. Some people take a shorter time. However the duration is, take your time. At the same time, keep yourself busy. The memories you made with the person will come and knock on you when you least expect them. Don't brush them away because they will come back from time to time. Embrace them. Smile. Cry if you need to. Nothing to be ashamed of tearing up. Remember the good things the person left behind. We continue living. They will always be tucked in our heart somewhere. For all of us living and still have loved ones, take every opportunity possible to make beautiful memories to smile when our loved ones gone or for them to smile when we are gone. Edited August 22, 2016 by iamziz cmlf, Coolbriz, Carpenter and 4 others 7 ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 。| “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind, changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up." ― J'son M. Lee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted August 22, 2016 Report Share Posted August 22, 2016 (edited) 如果他 " 永远 " 活在你的脑海里,活在你心中, 在某种意义,他未曾死去,除非你已把他给忘了,他才真正逝去。真正爱他,是在他活着的时候,珍惜疼爱他,而不是等他不存在时才留下了遗憾。 Edited August 22, 2016 by snowball KENZ and treebottom 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted August 22, 2016 Report Share Posted August 22, 2016 1 hour ago, iamziz said: I was a Daddy's boy. My Dad passed on a day after his 93rd birthday 9 days ago. Some people take a longer time to grief. Some people take a shorter time. However the duration is, take your time. At the same time, keep yourself busy. The memories you made with the person will come and knock on you when you least expect them. Don't brush them away because they will come back from time to time. Embrace them. Smile. Cry if you need to. Nothing to be ashamed of tearing up. Remember the good things the person left behind. We continue living. They will always be tucked in our heart somewhere. For all of us living and still have loved ones, take every opportunity possible to make beautiful memories to smile when our loved ones gone or for them to smile when we are gone. So sorry to hear abt yr dad ziz.u ever told me tat u came to visit him in cgh.everyone has to go one day.as long we dont do anything which hurts them when they around is important.b strong ziz. Side track.abot.Many daddy here GDont worry They r call sugar daddy.lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ener Posted August 23, 2016 Report Share Posted August 23, 2016 Hmmz... yeah I'll most probably cry myself a river cause my 2 precious are much older then I am.. I foresee myself to be a very lonely man in future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted August 23, 2016 Report Share Posted August 23, 2016 Ener..you mean your current two lovers ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted August 23, 2016 Report Share Posted August 23, 2016 yes 2 lovers but much older . Predicted older will die first ? How to cry and become river ?Arrange a Will first from yr 2 older lover maybe no need to cry . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ener Posted August 23, 2016 Report Share Posted August 23, 2016 (edited) 5 hours ago, Guest Guest said: Ener..you mean your current two lovers ? 3 hours ago, Guest Guest said: yes 2 lovers but much older . Predicted older will die first ? How to cry and become river ?Arrange a Will first from yr 2 older lover maybe no need to cry . Hahaha the internet trolls... don't you guys just love them. Hmmz... 2 precious does not have to be lover lah.. my secret and yours to imagine. Edited August 23, 2016 by Ener Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest What to do Posted August 23, 2016 Report Share Posted August 23, 2016 After all the fucking, cruising, biching and showing, a man will still be lonely. That is Gay's destiny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RJs Posted August 23, 2016 Report Share Posted August 23, 2016 12 minutes ago, Guest What to do said: After all the fucking, cruising, biching and showing, a man will still be lonely. That is Gay's destiny. That's very true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hollister88 Posted August 24, 2016 Report Share Posted August 24, 2016 On 22/08/2016 at 4:31 PM, Guest Socialise said: Socialise more and get a replacement if opportunity present itself. Life goes on till your own time is up. I am a practical person. As someone once told me, never get too attached. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mockingbird28 Posted September 3, 2017 Report Share Posted September 3, 2017 My bf passed away last year due to complications of aids. I am still feeling the sadness and i don't know how to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mique75ts Posted September 3, 2017 Report Share Posted September 3, 2017 11 minutes ago, Guest Mockingbird28 said: My bf passed away last year due to complications of aids. I am still feeling the sadness and i don't know how to move on. Keep yurself very occupied and busy with anything to keep yur mind off It does help. Another way is to jus talk and talk about it to someone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluefish20008 Posted September 3, 2017 Report Share Posted September 3, 2017 One cam4 broadcaster shared this song last night. His first love was gone almost a decade ago in a car accident. He had also cried before, but eventually life still has to go on. It's a tough (yet compulsory) lesson that all of us have to get through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blogger Adam Posted September 4, 2017 Report Share Posted September 4, 2017 On 9/3/2017 at 2:35 PM, Guest Mockingbird28 said: My bf passed away last year due to complications of aids. I am still feeling the sadness and i don't know how to move on. *Hugs http://adamandtheboys2.blogspot.sg/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2017 Report Share Posted September 4, 2017 I am reminded of this song. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted September 5, 2017 Report Share Posted September 5, 2017 (edited) On 9/3/2017 at 2:35 PM, Guest Mockingbird28 said: My bf passed away last year due to complications of aids. I am still feeling the sadness and i don't know how to move on. R u affected by the virus too? Edited September 5, 2017 by cutejack Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Zackling Posted September 5, 2017 Report Share Posted September 5, 2017 (edited) i used to know this girl.. say we were 5 yrs apart by physical age. she just entered secondary 1 education & i was abt to graduate. we met during schooling days & it wasn't ur typical heads over heels kinda of love.. she fainted when she entered the school grounds, and i just happened to be there.. contacted the ambulance, sent her to hospital, then saw her back in sch the next day.. it started with taunting & teasing between both of us.. till the day i found out she had stage 4 bone cancer, her parents were in the midst of a divorced. Piggy back her to class, send her home piggy back her with my own bag on as well, waited for her rain or shine at the sch main gates. till the day she pass away in my arms.. 22 nov 95 was a day i never forgot how she left me..walked out on my o levels that very day, went to attend her funeral and her parents told me that they found out abt our relationship based on her diary & she left me a necklace with a cross pendant with both our names carved on it. I never turned back to school & forsook my academic future .. went on to work and work and work and work till i landed in hospital for days.. worked till i forgotten date & time in order to numb my pain & anguish.. but ever since i recovered.. now married, i still visit her at Mount Vernon sanctuary every once a year to laid a rose or two together with my wife. never forgotten our songs: Led Zeppelin Stair way to Heaven & Novemember rain by Guns & Roses.. and our common interest: (After 8 - brand) chocolate mint. each time i played the songs on the day she left.. tons of memories will come flooding back into my heart & mind.. she could be felt as if she's still alive & next to me. Edited September 12, 2017 by Zackling cmlf 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmlf Posted September 5, 2017 Report Share Posted September 5, 2017 the love you had for a person as her in her cirsumstance says all! you're a blessing, bro. Zackling and Mique75ts 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmlf Posted September 5, 2017 Report Share Posted September 5, 2017 On 9/3/2017 at 2:35 PM, Guest Mockingbird28 said: My bf passed away last year due to complications of aids. I am still feeling the sadness and i don't know how to move on. hi, separation/breakup/divorce/infidility being already tough for most, the loss of life partner loved dearly can be an insurmountable challenge to move on as well. found this resource for you: http://www.thebody.com/content/art2486.html Gay Widowers: Grieving in Relation to Trauma and Social Supports Michael Shernoff, MSWFrom PLENUM Publishing Corporation March, 1998 As published in the Journal of the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association, Vol. 2, No. 1, March, 1998 ©1998 PLENUM Publishing Corporation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmlf Posted September 5, 2017 Report Share Posted September 5, 2017 (edited) 3 hours ago, Zackling said: i used to know this girl.. say we were 5 yrs apart by physical age. we met during schooling days & it wasn't ur typical heads over heels kinda of love.. till the day i found out she had stage 4 bone cancer. Piggy back her to class, send her home piggy bag her with my own bag on as well, waited for her rain or shine at the sch main gates. till the day she pass away in my arms.. 22 nov 95 was a day i never forgot how she left me..walked out on my o levels. never turned back.. went on to work and work and work and work till i landed in hospital for days.. worked till i forgotten date & time.. but ever since i recovered.. now married, i still visit her at Mount Vernon sanctuary every once a year. never forgotten our songs: Led Zeppelin Stair way to Heaven & Novemember rain by Guns & Roses.. if fate has it, i would tell the world this chapter in your life, of how love sustains no matter what, in a true-life story movie in dedication to her, and, most of all, you. if you can, think about how it can and should bring about something else, for example, to support persons/families with loss or dealing with terminally ill love ones today. good to equip with some certification specialization and some of the many opportunities as follow: http://www.griefrecoverymethod.co.uk/train/ http://aihcp.net/american-academy-of-grief-counseling/ Edited September 5, 2017 by cmlf Zackling 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted September 6, 2017 Report Share Posted September 6, 2017 15 hours ago, Zackling said: i used to know this girl.. say we were 5 yrs apart by physical age. we met during schooling days & it wasn't ur typical heads over heels kinda of love.. till the day i found out she had stage 4 bone cancer. Piggy back her to class, send her home piggy bag her with my own bag on as well, waited for her rain or shine at the sch main gates. till the day she pass away in my arms.. 22 nov 95 was a day i never forgot how she left me..walked out on my o levels. never turned back.. went on to work and work and work and work till i landed in hospital for days.. worked till i forgotten date & time.. but ever since i recovered.. now married, i still visit her at Mount Vernon sanctuary every once a year. never forgotten our songs: Led Zeppelin Stair way to Heaven & Novemember rain by Guns & Roses.. I have a BW account but I decided not to login. Only moderators know who am I. I can understand your feelings. I have a girlfriend for 6-7 years. Before my NS, we were together. She waited for me after my NS completion. Lots of fond memories. She passed away in SGH more than 10 years ago. At that time, I wanted to commit suicide. I was very depressed, refused to talk to anybody. No medication, nothing. I went backpacking taking a bus from Singapore all the way to Beijing. I thought I can get over, but, when I returned home, I still think of her. So, I went again for long backpacking trip to Tibet. I cried and cried during the trip. The first 3-5years, it was very tough to get over. As I am typing now, my tears drop. 真的很痛苦。 Never been into relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2017 Report Share Posted September 6, 2017 my mentor inherit dementia and his family took away him from his lover...in a sudden mode. sold away his house, cut off his hp and whatever contact from the world - engage a maid and lock him into small hdb. i dun know how his lover tahan this seperation . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abang Posted September 6, 2017 Report Share Posted September 6, 2017 My relationship with my late mother could have been one of the most well-documented episode in this forum. She was wheelchair-bounded for more than 10 years and so her departure was more of a relief for the deceased and me. However, there is always that sentiments popping up once in a while. That moment of heartbreak..心痛的感覺 comes every now and then.. Sharing a haunting ballad, written by a then-early 20s. 邰肇玫 fell out of love and wrote this song in the bus on the way home. Its melancholic tune is still one of songs I turned to when my relationship fails. Here are two versions of the song..one made famous in 1985 by one of my favourites, Julie Su Rei and the other, a rock version by a male singer/actor, Vans who to some, is quite a good looking chap. ** Take away Aiqing 爱情(love between 2 unrelated people) and changed it to "Qinqing 亲情。。and they don't write such songs anymore.... Of course, Terry Lin did justice to this song too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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