Guest Halo Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 Does your biological straight bro or sis know? How are they taking it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest What Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 Know what? You aren't specific at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest What Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 But I assume you are asking if they know we are in the category of LGBT? Well for my case they don't know at all. I have no idea how to break it up to them. If you have any advice how, so let me know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Halo Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 My sis just hinted by saying a celebrity singer used to be so positive and sunny in his younger days, and then suddenly dunno y declare he's gay and whatever he did after that seems gloomy and sad.....with a intentional pause waiting for my response....And her expressions does not seems approving of lgbt, so I just din say anything about it....and I asked her, "So u don't want to get married yet?" She's straight btw. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest What Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 Hmmm for no reason she picked this topic. Is she a fan of that singer? If yes then you won't have to worry much, she's just expressing her views. If she's not a fan, that's when you know she's trying to convey some message behind. She might not approve lgbt might be becaue the amount of impact or damaged made to that singer all because he declare or come clean with such stuff? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Halo Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 Coz she suspected I am, I realise I gave her my ex laptop which I erased everything but forgot to erase yahoo search history, which I used later how come "hunks bathing" still in search history... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 (edited) My sis knows. Fairly positive about it; even met my bf. She was very interested in how anal sex works though, haha. Edited September 23, 2016 by EasleyLim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest What Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 Well, there are still chances that she might not have seen it. You can always come up with reasons to cover it up, like your friend used your laptop and etc. But even if she suspected, it might not be as bad as you think. Better than telling them up front and they might not be able to handle it. In our society, we are craving for acceptance. So if your sister is able to accept you for who you are, I think it will bring both you and your sister's relationship closer. My siblings are straight, sometimes they aren't polite with their words. They range from a wide selection of words, some are related to sexuality. Times I feel that they are testing me as well but in fact, deep inside of me; I know what they suspect is actually true. But I always brush it off. I really have no idea how to come clean to them. I'm worry that they might not accept it. Some of my friends also tried to test my sexuality, I would also normally brush it off by making fun of my own nationality Chinese Thai. Yeah Thai people, you won't know if that is actually a guy or girl. I really hope one day I'll be able to express myself well. Btw, I quite straight acting, attractive and well groomed. So I covered it well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 6 minutes ago, EasleyLim said: My sis knows. Fairly positive about it; even met my bf. She was very interested in how anal sex works though, haha. wow , so opened!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamziz Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 My youngest sister, my brother and his wife know. I have the feeling most of other siblings suspect but they just don't bring up the subject. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 善待对人。麻烦用英文来表达信息。不是每个人都会看的懂中文 。| “People need to learn the art of making an argument. Often there is no right or wrong. It's just your opinion vs someone else's opinion. How you deliver that opinion could make the difference between opening a mind, changing an opinion or shutting the door. Sometimes folk just don't know when they've "argued" enough. Learn when to shut up." ― J'son M. Lee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 25 minutes ago, iamziz said: My youngest sister, my brother and his wife know. I have the feeling most of other siblings suspect but they just don't bring up the subject. Yr brother's wife knows , nevermind.dont let yr wife know.lolxxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 My whole family know. Being gay never seems to be an issue with them. adeledazeem 1 Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Kite Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 Nobody knows when I was younger and innocent. Those days they pestered me about marriage stuff. As I grew older and became more matured and womanly, they somehow knew. The good things about growing old they all have their own set of family issues to tackle and thus no time and couldn't bother how other people led their personal life. As a result, all those who pestered me for marriage have faced their own set of problems too - medical, financial, children...etc. They've stopped looking outward from their own life and became more focused on their own embarassing situations instead. Everybody began to adopt this NO-ASK-NO-TELL attitude and quietly, they envied those singles within the family members with no added problems to worry about. I don't see any reason to come out even if they knew. It is not like I am going to announce to the world that I am marrying to another man with big dinner celebrations and hoping for blessing from pastors? We are all grown up, and will eventually live alone. No need to report everything to the family. The greatest blessing in life, is to be able to live with someone you love in the last remaining journey. The topic, thus, is a non issue to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 Well said.clap clap clap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 once you reach around 30s and do not even bring or mention any gal friend(s), more or less they suspect or already know something not right, lucky for me they never ask anything, maybe they respect my pvt life, thanks for their understanding too mate69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Kite Posted September 23, 2016 Report Share Posted September 23, 2016 When you reached certain age, like 40+, your family members are unlikely to bother about how you choose to live your life. They see you as a matured person needing no telling of what to do. They've watched you grown up, and probably already seen all your life journey. I believed, they will still give you all their blessings regardless, that you have being taken care of by someone (male or female partners) when they are gone. Most parents have that intinctive love in them to see their children living a happy old age life. mate69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest CKW Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 Hi Halo, Nice to see you again! My brother doesn't know, and he somehow thinks I'm straight 'cos he misinterpreted some remarks I made about some girls in the newspaper (forgot what it was as it was a long time ago). But as you know from the other Brothers thread, I am not close to my brother, so I will never let him find out, especially since he is quite an anti-gay person. On his part, he looks at pornographic images of women non-stop, so if he ever thinks that he's on a higher moral ground just because he's not gay, then he's only fooling himself. Also, whether I am gay or not is none of his business. I envy those families that can accept their gay sons, but mine is not like that. So it's a secret I'll take with me to the grave. chubby79 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teatree Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 Sometimes, your family know but they just don't say. What's the point of asking? A guy doesn't get married or have a date by age 40 is already writing on the wall. barocco80 and mate69 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Halo Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 Halo CKW, good to see u around again. Mine pretty conservative, also doesn't know haha, think my mum will be sad and disappointed, so better cut out all the unnecessary dramas, anyway it doesn't bother me whether my family know or not, it's my life, so it's ok. I somehow think if the family is open-minded and accepting, family time can be pretty fun and open in communications, world without limits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Salt&Pepper Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 My sister's position on this topic. mate69 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snapplejacked Posted September 24, 2016 Report Share Posted September 24, 2016 (edited) i think my sibling's reaction would be more of amusement as opposed to . None have a warped moral compass. Fortunately for me to be pretty chill but I don't think I can just up and say it. Parents on the other hand is a far different category of "wouldn't touch that with a 10 foot pole". Edited September 24, 2016 by Snapplejacked Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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