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I'm in my late 30s, fit and good looking, but single. I'm very deep into the closet, because my family and organisation is extremely religious and I stand to lose everything if word gets out about my orientation.

 

Just want to know what others in my position do for relief? People who want to keep their status private, but just need physical release.

 

Please don't ask me to accept myself and come out. Too many people are riding on me to be a good example, but I'm not perfect, yet I must be a good public role model. So that is not an option.

 

Thanks!

 

 

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I thought role models are those who are honest about who they are.

 

If it is about maintaining a public image, would it not make religious role models seem like liars?

 

Is this what God wants from you?

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10 minutes ago, Guest Farce said:

In singapore, a role public model is someone who obeys our government, no more no less.

 

No wonder we now have a public relations crisis.

 

Sounds like role model is just nice label for a mindless sheep rather than a shepard then.

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2 hours ago, Guest LDK said:

I'm in my late 30s, fit and good looking, but single. I'm very deep into the closet, because my family and organisation is extremely religious and I stand to lose everything if word gets out about my orientation.

 

Just want to know what others in my position do for relief? People who want to keep their status private, but just need physical release.

 

Please don't ask me to accept myself and come out. Too many people are riding on me to be a good example, but I'm not perfect, yet I must be a good public role model. So that is not an option.

 

Thanks!

 

 

Baby bird will someday have to fly or learn to fly, regardless how colorful it looks. It can never forever stay in the same tree waiting for mother bird instruction.  You are in your late 30s?  How pitiful,  some people already started to explore in their early 20s or during NS day.   I also believed some people remain in the closet until 60s, 70 or never came out in this lifetime.  If they feel happy about it, so be it, no question asked.  The fact that you ask, show that you knew you are missing a lot in life, so either you come out or stay out. No 3rd option to choose.

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Since you are already so deep in the closet, and coming out is not an option, I think your options is to find it overseas where nobody knows you. Or if your closet is large enough, lure another person in to provide you with relief. 

 

You do realise that being gay is more than just sex, "need physical release." You have emotional needs as well. Despite what you think you will lose by coming out, by staying in the closet, you are losing yourself. What kind of role model will you be if you cannot accept yourself? What kind of role model will you be if you always have to hide and lie about who you are?

Love. 

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1 hour ago, doncoin said:

Since you are already so deep in the closet, and coming out is not an option, I think your options is to find it overseas where nobody knows you. Or if your closet is large enough, lure another person in to provide you with relief. 

 

You do realise that being gay is more than just sex, "need physical release." You have emotional needs as well. Despite what you think you will lose by coming out, by staying in the closet, you are losing yourself. What kind of role model will you be if you cannot accept yourself? What kind of role model will you be if you always have to hide and lie about who you are?

I have to agree on the "emotional needs"....

Ever since i meet this random guy by chances during one of my cruise n exchange contact number. He is completely different from the other guy i've meet. Lets just say we had only 2-3 session of "physical release" on the course of 3-4 month of knowing each other. His been giving me the emotional needs that i've never had it before...

Even now after he have say that he is not looking to have any serious relationship w me, but he will be still doing it for me as a big brother.

Note: because of him, i have cut down on my cruising activities...

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I went to a home based masseur last week. He was kinda cute and not too old or out of shape.

 

Thought I could be a regular.

 

But then he started boasting about all the TV Celebrities, religious leaders and public servants he'd been "servicing".

 

I felt so awful for them.

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Having a discreet regular is still not completely safe unless this person is of the same status as you. There is no fool proof way. You cannot assure if your partner or even yourself will one day share your secret to another discreet guy. Perhaps overseas is better option but still a little risk of being seen.

 

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6 hours ago, Guest LDK said:

Just want to know what others in my position do for relief?

 

Thanks!

 

 

 

Use your own hands. Celibacy is a virtue n i don't mean to be sarcastic. And its STDs free too.

 

U r welcome.

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9 hours ago, Guest LDK said:

I'm in my late 30s, fit and good looking, but single. I'm very deep into the closet, because my family and organisation is extremely religious and I stand to lose everything if word gets out about my orientation.

 

Just want to know what others in my position do for relief? People who want to keep their status private, but just need physical release.

 

Please don't ask me to accept myself and come out. Too many people are riding on me to be a good example, but I'm not perfect, yet I must be a good public role model. So that is not an option.

 

Thanks!

 

 

Huh.  Have sex lor..

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9 hours ago, Guest LDK said:

I'm in my late 30s, fit and good looking, but single. I'm very deep into the closet, because my family and organisation is extremely religious and I stand to lose everything if word gets out about my orientation.

 

Just want to know what others in my position do for relief? People who want to keep their status private, but just need physical release.

 

Please don't ask me to accept myself and come out. Too many people are riding on me to be a good example, but I'm not perfect, yet I must be a good public role model. So that is not an option.

 

Thanks!

 

 

From my experience attending private gay social parties in Bangkok and a few in Singapore, I have seen some well known closeted prominent figures at these parties.  They hook up with 'partners' who are of equal status and who are unlikely to tell on them.

Suck my tits and I'll lick your balls.

Lick my arse and I'll suck your cock.

All in sex is fair.

 

The only bad thing about sex is that it doesn't last long enough.

 

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12 hours ago, Guest Fuwar said:

I thought role models are those who are honest about who they are.

 

If it is about maintaining a public image, would it not make religious role models seem like liars?

 

Is this what God wants from you?

 

so, why are you hiding?

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On ‎18‎/‎1‎/‎2017 at 6:12 AM, Guest LDK said:

I'm in my late 30s, fit and good looking, but single. I'm very deep into the closet, because my family and organisation is extremely religious and I stand to lose everything if word gets out about my orientation.

 

Just want to know what others in my position do for relief? People who want to keep their status private, but just need physical release.

 

Please don't ask me to accept myself and come out. Too many people are riding on me to be a good example, but I'm not perfect, yet I must be a good public role model. So that is not an option.

 

Thanks!

 

 


Like you said, you aint perfect yet you need to be a good role model. Don't be the role model people expect you to be with you losing yourself. It not worth it.

I'm in similar situation where i'm in the closet and stand to lose people around me. but it doesn't stop me from knowing people from this circle, discreet or not.

for physical release, you can either 1) DIY or 2) NSA or 3) find a bf. <--- you do not have to announce your private matters to your family and organisation.

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From my personal observations, they either seek relief within their equal social status or get a kept boy based on individual (usually verbal) agreement.

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On 18/01/2017 at 8:03 PM, Guest Guest said:

 

so, why are you hiding?

 

What makes you think that people around me doesn't know I am gay? 

 

Anyway, I never aspire to be a role model too. I just find it fascinating when people proclaim themselves as role models yet behave like they are imprisoned by that very concept.

 

Atlas Star's advice is better phrased than mine. You can ignore mine and follow his instead.

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Many years ago, I had an acquaintance who was professional escort/companion to a .com millionaire who was closeted. Long story short, they came up to an agreeable arrangement, which was bounded by a NDA (non-disclosure agreement). Whenever the millionaire is in town, they spend time together and after 3 years, the arrangement ended, but my acquaintance had a nice settlement. He is one of the few people I know with a PhD and zero student debt. To this day, he never revealed the name of his "sugar daddy" but from what i gathered, he is pretty well-known, and the terms of the NDA forbade him from revealing the identity. 

 

So, for @Guest LDK, that may be a solution for you. Not so much the money part, but the NDA part, where by prior to getting relieved, you have the other person or persons sign an NDA. It is the best way to protect yourself, but not 100% fool proof. Just make sure the penalty is large enough to deter blackmail or any financial or reputation demands. A good lawyer should be able to draft it out, and go for the maximum number of years that you can to enforce the NDA since they do have an expiration date. It is the only way to keep yourself closeted and protected legally. 

Love. 

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On 1/18/2017 at 5:05 PM, Guest Social Heavyweight said:

Wow! Where do I sign up for these private gay social parties?

these parties are by invitation only.  so there is no way you can just sign up for them.  you have to rub shoulders with the right people.  In Singapore, I attended one organised by a local film producer and several TCS actors were guests.

Suck my tits and I'll lick your balls.

Lick my arse and I'll suck your cock.

All in sex is fair.

 

The only bad thing about sex is that it doesn't last long enough.

 

Read my blog - www.anasianjourney.blogspot.com

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I wonder where you could look up high class and discreet companions.

 

Dont mind compensating for their time, if they are smart, discreet and easy to look at.

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8 hours ago, hannibalism said:

 

anyhoo, as long as you're gonna meet someone, you run the risk of being outed. like the saying go: the only way three person can keep a secret is if two of them are dead.

 

So, stab them to death after fucking them?

 

3 hours ago, Guest Companionable said:

I wonder where you could look up high class and discreet companions.

 

Dont mind compensating for their time, if they are smart, discreet and easy to look at.

 

er, prostitutes?

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I have a friend. ex model and part time actor in malaysia who happen to be a secret lover of a prominent politician who are bisexual.

 

the rich daddy bought 2 units of terrace house on a gated properties in kl. the 2 units are back to back. but have a secret door that connect via the back.

 

my friend also hv agreement with the sugar daddy. they only meet when both at the property. strictly no contact or meet outside. upon the 5th years together my friend got to keep the house.

 

they are still together after more than 10 years. of course my friend now have more than 1 house la. he don't mind such arrangements cause he said he really love his sugar daddy.

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Wow. A 5 year contract?

 

I wonder what the deliverables are?

 

Otherwise, Good bye gym and hello cream puffs!

 

:)

 

BTW, that's a long time to be stuck with one guy if you're hot property.

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