mid 30s... looks like what to you?

[Nipoet]

On 3/26/2017 at 2:14 AM, ctglobal said:

So 36 is a bit too early to be midlife, but noticing a lot of shifts/observations in the last 2 years or so, many of which caught me by surprise.

 

In no particular order:

1) straight friends/acquaintances disappear/vapourise/shapeshift into marriage, career, family, other countries .... and you see/hear less from them (if anything)

2) body suddenly discovers gravity 

3) food... nothing quite seems "right" all of a sudden (what you could eat before, you suddenly have trouble with; what you never thought you would eat, you find yourself seeking out)

4) somehow various supplements, creams, oils and such make it into regular usage when you never needed much of any of that before

5) would so happily trade something valuable for a good night sleep, or better still, a week of being comfortably comatose

6) patience for most things frivolous dwindles

7) patience for really stupid, banal, shallow, miserable, complaining, vain, vapid people dwindles even more

8) somehow all manner of life hacks, discounts, lifestyle tweaks, tips, cleverness seems amazingly appealing

9) you could cry yourself to sleep at night waiting to have just one good conversation that day that ACTUALLY stimulates you mentally

10) somehow you feel like you need a new grind/path/trajectory/interests --- but somehow the exact details as to WHAT that new direction is seem elusive

11) travelling becomes somewhat of a chore, but you somehow find you really want to do it just for escapism

12) the mobile phone in your hand is a poor substitute for real human interaction

13) the mobile phone in the hand of the person you are trying to have real human interaction with frustrates you still more

14) what once were the batshit crazy undertakings your superhuman 20-something self could conquer have now become this "OMG i am doing *WHAT*?!" sort of affair

15) just when you think you have seen the worst of humanity, well... donald trump....

16) you realise you know enough to know that the world is going to hell in a hand-basket, that you're stuck in it still, and still not entirely clever enough to know what to do about it in terms of self-preservation in the long term

17).... and wishing you know someone that was clever enough to tell you what to do

18) all those things you thought you would like/want to do/have done either somehow dont matter anymore, or you did them and you kinda think WTF was i thinking

19) ... yet you can't seem to think of anything better to do to replace them with?

20) sex becomes somehow intellectualised

21) the smell of a 20-something is intoxicating

22) you have absolutely zero. filter. on. your. thoughts.  and. verbalise.  AND others take notice and give you looks

23) the joke in your head didn't sound so amusing to everyone else in the room when you vocalised it

24) you kind of just want to sit back and watch social experiments play out rather than intervene, when you might have otherwise done so

25) dealing with poor management as either a noun or a verb leaves you with this slightly sickened feeling, and the dreadful sense that humanity is indeed devolving rapidly

26) your physique is neither here nor there

27) ...and life got so busy you kind of don't have time to make it more there if you wanted to

28) you would like to reconceptualise someone's selfie stick as the perfect weapon to affront their vanity

29) you would kind of like the idea of having a room full of people watch you perform some kind of sexual activity

30).... okay, not kind of like. very much like.

31) anything that has been in your life and remained there for a reasonable amount of time you start to see all sides of, and increasingly rapidly

32) ...which makes you see why many people get divorced, have meltdowns, run off to iceland, or otherwise lose their cookies

33) ...... and kind of makes you hope that's not in the cards for yourself

34) anything having to do with an onsen or a massage sounds pretty bloody good right now, and again tomorrow 

35) you have this craving to prune the unnecessary from life

36) .... and then you realise you are a stalk of bamboo already

37) dealing with family feels akin to a cross of cat herding, peacemaking, self-sacrifice, and at times an out-of-body experience

38) for god sake they made ghost in the shell into a movie with real actors.  didnt the anime come out like 2 years ago only... oh wait....

39) you roll your eyes so much they hurt, yet you still keep doing it

40) you appreciate that aircon is in many ways a double-edged sword, yet you somehow can live without it less and less

41) baking.  yes.  baking.

42) tumblr replaced xtube... and you cant quite figure out if that's a good thing, or a bad thing

 

What does your experience look like so far?

 

I was 36 last year. But I really feel 26 only. 

 

1) Not much friends to being with. So don't feel the loss.

2) Have been going for RT/IPT these past years, coz still haven't ROD yet. Gravity has always been my running partner during my 2.4, dragging my feet and legs, always making me fail my 2.4. Curse you, Gravity! -shakes fists-

3) No change in food. Always hated my greens. Had started to eat a BIT about a decade ago, but I'm proud to say I have maintained that BIT. xD

4) Still didn't use much, if any, of supplements/creams/oil.s. Only used a bit when my SO insisted.

5) Maintained the habit of sleeping 7hrs every night after army. Some nights want to play games, so only managed to sleep 6, but mostly able to keep to my 7-hr rule nightly. Sleep is important!

6) Still patient. Be like me: pretend everyone else is a retard/stupid. If they do stupid things, can't blame them coz genes/born like that. xD

7) See Point No.6. I'm generally a patient person.

8) Too lazy to bother with life hacks/discounts/tips, etc. But after getting my Plus NTUC Visa card, I have been focusing my purchases mostly on it, to earn more Link-points. xD

9) Usually too tired at night to think about anything else other than to sleep. N.A. for me since I'm not particularly sociable. No conversation is a GOOD thing for me!

10) Knew exactly what I want and have planned on how to get there. No issue for me here.

11) No wanderlust. I am perfectly happy in my Ivory Tower. It already has all I wanted in it! Only reason for me to travel would be to see new/interesting things, but it has not caught my interest enough yet to make me renew my passport. xD

12) I LOVE playing with my handphone! I would choose it over any human interaction!

13) My SO is not that hooked up on his phone. So he still pays me alot of attention.

14) Haven't ventured anything adventurous in my 20's, so N.A for me.

15) I like to think of it the other way about Donald Trump. Everyone is dissing him about how bad he is as a president. I was of the opinion too, and still is. But now I also choose to acknowledge the fact that he is a real person, acting like what a real person is, and not some symbolic figure with a holier-than-thou attitude. He makes mistakes.

16) End of the World is imminent, but probably won't be while I'm still alive. So, I choose to not fret over a problem that's not my problem. Be that as it may, I try my best to not exacerbate its demise by doing what I can (recycle lah, save energy lah, etc etc).

17) Don't need people to tell me what to do. Small things which are within your abilities/powers are sometimes common-sensical; can find on the Internet one.

18) N.A. Not adventurous before. Not now either.

19) Games and Books are still my favourite.

20) Sex is abit strained coz my ass bleeds everytime my SO penetrates. But I was hoping for a longer dick to finally experience what it feels like to be "fully" fucked. Been thinking of buying a dildo for some time. Probably time to ask my SO about it. :x Maybe can get as a birthday present. xD

21) No, sorry. No fetish of that kind. My ICT still has to go Tekong. You CANNOT imagine what a tonner-load of NSF's smell like after their field camp. Well, you could, but that was when you were part of the smell. Now is different! -faints-

22) Still prudent with my words. If i'm not, it's probably coz I'm socially awkward and not good at social interactions. xD

23) I usually don't verbalize internal jokes. -chuckles to self-

24) N.A. I am the type that preferred to sit back and NOT intervene. No change there.

25) I'm blessed with good working colleagues. -halo- Or maybe I'm just too low-level to fully experience upper mgt's lousiness. :/

26) I'm STILL failing my IPPT. -cries- Oh wait, I passed it in 2015, when they changed to the new grading system! -cheer- Well, my running still sucks, that didn't change.

27) Still too lazy to maintain a healthy exercising lifestyle. Coz my PS4/PC constantly beckons me...

28) I have no idea what you mean about point 28. O.o

29) No thank you. I do not like being the centre of attention, nor am I an exhibitionist.

30) See point 29.

31) This is slightly true. As you grow older, your perception grows. And you can finally see the same thing from other angles which you couldn't before. Or see the same thing from a holistic perspective, or top-down.

32) A little bit of psychology studies allowed me some insight into those, so N.A. for me.

33) N.A. Have taken steps to prevent those things don't happen to me. Well, TRIED.

34) Never gone before, too wuss to go. Probably would like to go once, just to experience it. But would definitely go with my SO, which would defeat the purpose of going, so... O.o

35) Not just recently; been doing it my whole life. No time for things that don't matter! Get them out ASAP!

36) N.A. See point 35.

37) Dealing with family takes more effort now, yes. But that's the good thing about not staying with them; I could always come up with an excuse not to go back for the reunions.

38) N.A. Don't know the movie nor the anime. NEXT!

39) N.A. My eyes are able to do 360 degree flips with the amount of rolling they did over the last 37 years. xD

40) Negative. Air-con remains a luxury for me. I can still sleep with a fan. It's just that I choose to indulge in this luxury every night (most nights. That week with the constant rain and plummeting temperatures [22-23 degrees!] I only turned on the fan for ventilation. Still snuggled underneath my blanket with my SO coz it's sooooo cold!).

41) Want to. Even bought an oven for it. But still too lazy. My SO said he would do it, but I have yet to see any products thus far. Hng.

42) Tumblr is my go-to now for porn. Real-life people are much preferable, and sexier, to jerk off to compared to scripted actors. Well, most of the time. xD

 

Andddddd, that's my pov. 

I'm turning 37 this year, but I honestly do not feel middle-aged nor 37. I still cannot accept the fact that my eldest brother is 40 this year!!! OMG. 40!!!! It really does seem surreal to me.

Maybe this is evidence that age is just a number. What is more important is how/what you feel inside.

Take care, guys!

[ctglobal]

7 hours ago, Nipoet said:

 

I was 36 last year. But I really feel 26 only. 

 

1) Not much friends to being with. So don't feel the loss.

2) Have been going for RT/IPT these past years, coz still haven't ROD yet. Gravity has always been my running partner during my 2.4, dragging my feet and legs, always making me fail my 2.4. Curse you, Gravity! -shakes fists-

3) No change in food. Always hated my greens. Had started to eat a BIT about a decade ago, but I'm proud to say I have maintained that BIT. xD

4) Still didn't use much, if any, of supplements/creams/oil.s. Only used a bit when my SO insisted.

5) Maintained the habit of sleeping 7hrs every night after army. Some nights want to play games, so only managed to sleep 6, but mostly able to keep to my 7-hr rule nightly. Sleep is important!

6) Still patient. Be like me: pretend everyone else is a retard/stupid. If they do stupid things, can't blame them coz genes/born like that. xD

7) See Point No.6. I'm generally a patient person.

8) Too lazy to bother with life hacks/discounts/tips, etc. But after getting my Plus NTUC Visa card, I have been focusing my purchases mostly on it, to earn more Link-points. xD

9) Usually too tired at night to think about anything else other than to sleep. N.A. for me since I'm not particularly sociable. No conversation is a GOOD thing for me!

10) Knew exactly what I want and have planned on how to get there. No issue for me here.

11) No wanderlust. I am perfectly happy in my Ivory Tower. It already has all I wanted in it! Only reason for me to travel would be to see new/interesting things, but it has not caught my interest enough yet to make me renew my passport. xD

12) I LOVE playing with my handphone! I would choose it over any human interaction!

13) My SO is not that hooked up on his phone. So he still pays me alot of attention.

14) Haven't ventured anything adventurous in my 20's, so N.A for me.

15) I like to think of it the other way about Donald Trump. Everyone is dissing him about how bad he is as a president. I was of the opinion too, and still is. But now I also choose to acknowledge the fact that he is a real person, acting like what a real person is, and not some symbolic figure with a holier-than-thou attitude. He makes mistakes.

16) End of the World is imminent, but probably won't be while I'm still alive. So, I choose to not fret over a problem that's not my problem. Be that as it may, I try my best to not exacerbate its demise by doing what I can (recycle lah, save energy lah, etc etc).

17) Don't need people to tell me what to do. Small things which are within your abilities/powers are sometimes common-sensical; can find on the Internet one.

18) N.A. Not adventurous before. Not now either.

19) Games and Books are still my favourite.

20) Sex is abit strained coz my ass bleeds everytime my SO penetrates. But I was hoping for a longer dick to finally experience what it feels like to be "fully" fucked. Been thinking of buying a dildo for some time. Probably time to ask my SO about it. :x Maybe can get as a birthday present. xD

21) No, sorry. No fetish of that kind. My ICT still has to go Tekong. You CANNOT imagine what a tonner-load of NSF's smell like after their field camp. Well, you could, but that was when you were part of the smell. Now is different! -faints-

22) Still prudent with my words. If i'm not, it's probably coz I'm socially awkward and not good at social interactions. xD

23) I usually don't verbalize internal jokes. -chuckles to self-

24) N.A. I am the type that preferred to sit back and NOT intervene. No change there.

25) I'm blessed with good working colleagues. -halo- Or maybe I'm just too low-level to fully experience upper mgt's lousiness. :/

26) I'm STILL failing my IPPT. -cries- Oh wait, I passed it in 2015, when they changed to the new grading system! -cheer- Well, my running still sucks, that didn't change.

27) Still too lazy to maintain a healthy exercising lifestyle. Coz my PS4/PC constantly beckons me...

28) I have no idea what you mean about point 28. O.o

29) No thank you. I do not like being the centre of attention, nor am I an exhibitionist.

30) See point 29.

31) This is slightly true. As you grow older, your perception grows. And you can finally see the same thing from other angles which you couldn't before. Or see the same thing from a holistic perspective, or top-down.

32) A little bit of psychology studies allowed me some insight into those, so N.A. for me.

33) N.A. Have taken steps to prevent those things don't happen to me. Well, TRIED.

34) Never gone before, too wuss to go. Probably would like to go once, just to experience it. But would definitely go with my SO, which would defeat the purpose of going, so... O.o

35) Not just recently; been doing it my whole life. No time for things that don't matter! Get them out ASAP!

36) N.A. See point 35.

37) Dealing with family takes more effort now, yes. But that's the good thing about not staying with them; I could always come up with an excuse not to go back for the reunions.

38) N.A. Don't know the movie nor the anime. NEXT!

39) N.A. My eyes are able to do 360 degree flips with the amount of rolling they did over the last 37 years. xD

40) Negative. Air-con remains a luxury for me. I can still sleep with a fan. It's just that I choose to indulge in this luxury every night (most nights. That week with the constant rain and plummeting temperatures [22-23 degrees!] I only turned on the fan for ventilation. Still snuggled underneath my blanket with my SO coz it's sooooo cold!).

41) Want to. Even bought an oven for it. But still too lazy. My SO said he would do it, but I have yet to see any products thus far. Hng.

42) Tumblr is my go-to now for porn. Real-life people are much preferable, and sexier, to jerk off to compared to scripted actors. Well, most of the time. xD

 

Andddddd, that's my pov. 

I'm turning 37 this year, but I honestly do not feel middle-aged nor 37. I still cannot accept the fact that my eldest brother is 40 this year!!! OMG. 40!!!! It really does seem surreal to me.

Maybe this is evidence that age is just a number. What is more important is how/what you feel inside.

Take care, guys!

love your #6 and #21 haha

 

re my #28: read -- maim someone with their selfie stick for being such a narcissist.

[Nipoet]

On 1/20/2018 at 8:18 PM, ctglobal said:

love your #6 and #21 haha

 

re my #28: read -- maim someone with their selfie stick for being such a narcissist.

 

 Soka! In that case:

 

28. See point #6. xD