mantin30 Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 How to totally transform from an introvert person to become a cheerful extrovert person? Is there any magical drug or spell out there that you heard before? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 Yes, it's call 'practice'. You might want to try it out sometime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heliumduck Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 14 minutes ago, mantin30 said: How to totally transform from an introvert person to become a cheerful extrovert person? Is there any magical drug or spell out there that you heard before? there alot of of seemingly extrovertedd people who on character test and psychological test wil turn out to be VERY EXTMREMELY introverted difference is that once they are done rubbing shoulders in the outside world they hibernate at night/after work/ personal time... etc so ya mantin30 and CKW 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CKW Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 13 minutes ago, mantin30 said: How to totally transform from an introvert person to become a cheerful extrovert person? Is there any magical drug or spell out there that you heard before? It's not impossible. Sometimes, it can be when you meet the right person, and he/she is a very sunny and outgoing and cheerful person, and your personality gets influenced accordingly. I was very introverted and shy during my teens but now in my 30s, I'm a lot more comfortable talking to whoever I want to. I still enjoy my own time to do my own things, but I'm no longer terrified of talking to strangers or anyone as before. Maybe it comes with age and maturity? Not sure. But I won't say that I'm 100% extroverted now. Just more open and less inhibited, that's all mantin30 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 27 minutes ago, mantin30 said: How to totally transform from an introvert person to become a cheerful extrovert person? Is there any magical drug or spell out there that you heard before? Being introverted is not at a disavantage neither is being an extrovert an advertage. The thing here is balance. When there is a need to have an alone moment be your introvert. When there is a need to step up and let the extrovertness comes out. Nothing can be forced or changed if that's not who you are. Change can happen but it takes time and effort, just like learning how to sing or dance. 江山易改，本性难移！ mantin30 1 http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Night became Day Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 41 minutes ago, mantin30 said: How to totally transform from an introvert person to become a cheerful extrovert person? Is there any magical drug or spell out there that you heard before? Can, when you found your soul-mate, The world suddently became sunny and nothing is impossible for you. You even want to hug your enemy when you found someone a nice person in your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 A glass of wine always helps. But again, it depends on how your body respond to alcohol. Some people become super depress while others become life of the party. Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
firefight Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 it is called success. to become extrovert, even by acting, you will need to bring yourself through challenges then trumpet these achievement to those who want to share your success. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sgmaven Posted March 28, 2017 Report Share Posted March 28, 2017 There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, it is just how you are. However, you can learn to manage the introversion. You will still remain an introvert, but be able to handle yourself in a large group, for example. If you are a reader, I would recommend the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain. It is rather enlightening. Слава Україні! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silverarrowdan Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 ExtrAversion is a preference. ExtrOversion is an ability. Introverts certainly have the ability to extrovert. It just comes with confidence and practice. Extroversion for extraverts is simply natural. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Bernie Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 Is there a therapy fir that? How much? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snapplejacked2 Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 I'm as introverted as they come. I cannot stand being around most people and would much prefer the solitude of my own company in my own room doing things how I want, when I want, where I want. That said however, nobody at work believes me when I tell them I'm pretty much a loner/hermit in my personal life. It takes a certain amount of practice (and a great deal of patience) to gel yourself accordingly to your surroundings. I am required to communicate/argue with colleagues and clients daily and being my quiet mopey self isn't going to help me get my job done any easier. On the other hand, are you really introverted? Or just shy? Maybe you've got self esteem issues? You also mentioned you want to be more cheerful but are you well on the inside? Just like confidence, if you have it, it will shine naturally. Forcing it is just going to make it awkward. mate69 and mantin30 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mantin30 Posted March 29, 2017 Author Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 if I don't have confidence and low self esteem, how to overcome it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 Explore. You will find something ure good at. Focus on it. Esteem will build up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 i was introvert when i was young. During army and working life...develop into extrovert. As i mature, i talk less and become introvert. but i will never return back to those young introvert personality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CKW Posted March 29, 2017 Report Share Posted March 29, 2017 2 hours ago, mantin30 said: if I don't have confidence and low self esteem, how to overcome it? You may like to see a counsellor or therapist to discover the causes of it, and learn techniques to slowly overcome it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mantin30 Posted January 27, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2018 On 29/3/2017 at 9:09 PM, CKW said: You may like to see a counsellor or therapist to discover the causes of it, and learn techniques to slowly overcome it. actually wanted to but also a bit uneasy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hello Posted January 27, 2018 Report Share Posted January 27, 2018 Being an introvert will always get bullied at work. those noisy people always bully us. we must always be louder than them in order to survive! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hello Posted January 27, 2018 Report Share Posted January 27, 2018 the more I am scared the more people will step on me. so why should I be scared? I will just fight on! turn anger into your power to change! after all, people at work are all like that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firday Posted January 28, 2018 Report Share Posted January 28, 2018 On 3/28/2017 at 9:52 PM, mantin30 said: How to totally transform from an introvert person to become a cheerful extrovert person? Is there any magical drug or spell out there that you heard before? i notice most happy extrovert also commit suicide due to depression. eg Jim carery, robbin william etc so i don not thing being introvert is bad - is just talk less on social more on self reflection to save energy. while extrovert is for the sale man , deal breaker , socialite to mingle with stranger. yes there are drug whereby make yourself high and non stop laughing on the pretext you are extrovert lor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firday Posted January 28, 2018 Report Share Posted January 28, 2018 On 3/29/2017 at 6:37 PM, mantin30 said: if I don't have confidence and low self esteem, how to overcome it? increase confidence by doing thing, task that you sure know able to sucess - practise it low self esteem - look into mirror to wear something that u feel good about yourself, bright lemon yellow, gold, nice hair cut to perk up your low esteem. practice with mirror then to your best friend buddy or family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firday Posted January 28, 2018 Report Share Posted January 28, 2018 On 3/28/2017 at 11:36 PM, doncoin said: A glass of wine always helps. But again, it depends on how your body respond to alcohol. Some people become super depress while others become life of the party. let have a bottle of wine - it do help....a glass just enough to warm up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zyjd Posted January 28, 2018 Report Share Posted January 28, 2018 I don't think being introverted or extroverted is a mutually exclusive trait. I'm in sales and can appear bubbly and energetic throughout the day, but once I reach home, all I want to do is lie on the sofa, cuddle with my dog, and not talk to anyone. Don't get me wrong though: I love my job to bits and there's nowhere else I'd rather be, but I think there's a need to recharge as well. When I'm not on the job people do comment I'm melancholic, maybe even to the point of being morose. On my days off I just go for long drives, listening to music in the car, read a book in bed, anything except talking to people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted January 28, 2018 Report Share Posted January 28, 2018 My boss once told me that the best sales went to some sales colleague of mine who is quiet and not outspoken .... we are doing technical sales btw .... quite encouraging because I am also quite an introverted guy .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Introverted Posted January 28, 2018 Report Share Posted January 28, 2018 I was introvert since my kindergarten days and today, I still am. Personally, I felt nothing wrong with it. Introvert kept my saint and safe and my world is nearly trouble-free. I ather trade away fun & noise for something quiet and peace. With the ever increasing population around the world cum with war, greeds and deception. Being out of the this world to be calm and spiritual has became a treasure in this era. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nipoet Posted January 28, 2018 Report Share Posted January 28, 2018 On 3/29/2017 at 9:14 PM, Diamond said: i was introvert when i was young. During army and working life...develop into extrovert. As i mature, i talk less and become introvert. but i will never return back to those young introvert personality. Same. Was quite quiet and introverted when I was young, mainly coz I'm gay and am not the overtly expressive type. That time, long ago, it was still quite taboo to be gu-niang when you're a dood. :/ Then comes army. Need to be a bit more, uhm, macho, because of my, uhm, rank... >.> So, learned and tried to be expressive, sociable, friendly, communicative, etc etc. But my character didn't change. I'd prefer talking to my Plastic Mashimaro ANYTIME compared to conversing with a human being! I'd rather stay at home, turn on the air-con, make some hot milo, and read a book, rather than go... OUTSIDE... -shudder- Currently on Royal Caribbean cruising due to work, and would be in my room playing my PC if that they didn't disable the HDMI inputs! >:o So, work/real life forced me to be abit extrovert. It's not impossible; all my experiences/behaviours were based on textbook answers. You just need to trial and error because your audiences will differ. And if you mess up, well, you didn't want to socialize in the first place anyway! So, while you can't use a magical spell to increase your Charm +5, or your Verbal / Social Skills to Max, you could still grind it the old-school style. Practice. Use often. And it may go up a notch or two. Cheers! (not in a sociable way, mind you!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derryfawne Posted January 30, 2018 Report Share Posted January 30, 2018 (edited) I think it's also a case of who you surround yourselves with. I think I'm a natural introvert. But there have been many occasions, both in friendships (when I surround myself with close friends or people I feel comfortable with) and in professional context (when I really know my stuff well), I can speak confidently and be all smiles and be friends with everybody and handle situations well. My two ex-companies actually did write that I "get along well with all colleagues and trusted by management" on their recommendation letters although I feel like there are times when I "flop" in social context. But on other occasions where I feel like I don't quite fit in or know my stuff, I shy away from everyone. Edited January 30, 2018 by derryfawne “Do not take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” — Elbert Hubbard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ben S Posted January 30, 2018 Report Share Posted January 30, 2018 http://carlkingdom.com/10-myths-about-introverts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Exynos Posted January 30, 2018 Report Share Posted January 30, 2018 you're an introvert, that's who you are, embrace it. unless you have a practical reason to "change" to an extrovert Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest I m who i m Posted January 31, 2018 Report Share Posted January 31, 2018 I like peace and quiet, anything wrong??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jellyfish hairy chest Posted February 8, 2018 Report Share Posted February 8, 2018 It is good to be introvert when you just want to be heard. Just like coming to bw is a place where introvert can actually vent out some distress. Give yourself some credit man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firday Posted February 8, 2018 Report Share Posted February 8, 2018 (edited) i m introvert since childhood but i never felt lonely at all - roam like a free bird without to tag along with cousin. In working world, boss remand me "introvert is an obstacle to net working in human relationship" - he quote NO MAN IS AN ISLAND. I learn to extrovert but i never never been happy ever even i laugh and smile until wrinkle on my mouth. extrovert can be learn but fake it !~ introvert cannot be skill - is in born and treasure it - you see the world in peace and less chaotic from those extrovert people whom almost drown with people and lost their path in moral conduct. one thing for sure being extrovert is you get thing done be it right or wrong instantly. as i grow older, i prefer to be introvert due to less energy to socialise, less faking smile or laugher and notmuch to accomplish to get thing done. Edited February 8, 2018 by Firday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Peaceful Posted February 8, 2018 Report Share Posted February 8, 2018 Being an introvert, I'm at peace with myself and the world. The extroverts always seem to have something to prove and show off. They have to keep up appearances for those show offs not to fall flat on their face. Hence they are constantly under their own self made pressures to succeed. It can be good if they know how to stop when necessary. But if it's too much, they could buckle under pressures. I'm always been challenged by these extroverts. Some of them think that quietness is weakness. I just smile and answered them calmly. I'm more sure of myself than them and they back off. They started calling me "Still water runs deep." It's true that some introverts are weak and avoid confrontation. The more they avoid, the worse it gets. They get bullied. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firday Posted February 8, 2018 Report Share Posted February 8, 2018 3 hours ago, Guest Peaceful said: Being an introvert, I'm at peace with myself and the world. The extroverts always seem to have something to prove and show off. They have to keep up appearances for those show offs not to fall flat on their face. Hence they are constantly under their own self made pressures to succeed. It can be good if they know how to stop when necessary. But if it's too much, they could buckle under pressures. I'm always been challenged by these extroverts. Some of them think that quietness is weakness. I just smile and answered them calmly. I'm more sure of myself than them and they back off. They started calling me "Still water runs deep." It's true that some introverts are weak and avoid confrontation. The more they avoid, the worse it gets. They get bullied. ps i dun think introvert are the easy target for bully due to they dun talk back , mostly opponent also dun know how t strike back when there no confrontation from them, as the old saying, when someone angry with u, the more u snap, the more they angry so just smile and keep numb. nobody ever bully me, even my boss whom try to ask me to be more extrovert - express more that all. well, there no right or wrong is just basis human alway seek for those unknown or something that they dun have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abang Posted February 8, 2018 Report Share Posted February 8, 2018 Call it occupational hazard but 我是卖声的。。 There are many ways to feel good about oneself - be it satisfied with whatever you have to aspire to have something. For example (as mentioned), buy some "happier" clothes of brighter colours. No one has to stick to the safe basics - at my ripe old age, I'm still pairing a black polo shirt with pink shorts and loafers. If you feel good in them, you will ooze positive vibes and people will like you. One other trick is to smile as it gives the message of warmth to others. Allow yourself to mingle with others slowly. Pic taken late last year in Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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