I feel so Stressed! I want to enjoy good life but I don't want to give my parents $500 per month

[Guest Guest]

I worked for  few years now and I am so stressed at work and after work. Its always about money money and money.

 

My parents demand money from me every month. I feel they are taking adventage of me. Every month they will constantly demand $500 from me. 

 

I explaines to them that ny salary is only so little, after deducting my daily expenses:

 

1-transport to work and home $30

2-lunch and dinne4 $30

3-misc $20

 

Those alone work out to at least $2400 a month

 

Monthly expenses:

1-monile/wifi-$200

2-grooming -$60

3-entertainment(movies/clubs/dinners)-$800

4-travel fund-$300

5-clothing fund-$200

6-laundry-$100

7-transport-$200

8-misc-$400

 

Above come out to at least $1800.

 

So my monthly expenses comes out to above $4000! And I have yet to enjoy myself! I have no money for expensive things.

 

I feel so stressed out at the constant raising expenses of staying in Singapore as everything is so expensive! 

 

I tried to explain this to my parents but they do not care and demand $500 from me. I feel this is too much. I told them the government supressed salaries by bringing in so many FTs that our singaporean salaries is suppressed. I do not have a car or an expensive watch. I only can afford to travel 2 times a year. What kind of life are we singaporeans living and yet our parents are adding this extra stressed on us. Why are parents like this! I told them that do not be so money faced but they scold me! I cannot believe it! They took my money thats why I do not have extra money to move out! 

 

Any other guys with such u reasonable parents? How did you overcome such unreasonable behaviour? No wonder I am gay as it made me turned off by woman! So money faced.

 

 

[Guest Guest]

If you don't earn any big income, don't try living a high life. I earn much more than that but my expenditure is far lower than yours. What is this with lunch & dinner at $30/day?? clothing fund $200/month? Transport to/from work at $30/day and another counting of $200/moth?

[upshot]

21 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

I worked for  few years now and I am so stressed at work and after work. Its always about money money and money.

 

My parents demand money from me every month. I feel they are taking adventage of me. Every month they will constantly demand $500 from me. 

 

I explaines to them that ny salary is only so little, after deducting my daily expenses:

 

1-transport to work and home $30

2-lunch and dinne4 $30

3-misc $20

 

Those alone work out to at least $2400 a month

 

Monthly expenses:

1-monile/wifi-$200

2-grooming -$60

3-entertainment(movies/clubs/dinners)-$800

4-travel fund-$300

5-clothing fund-$200

6-laundry-$100

7-transport-$200

8-misc-$400

 

Above come out to at least $1800.

 

So my monthly expenses comes out to above $4000! And I have yet to enjoy myself! I have no money for expensive things.

 

I feel so stressed out at the constant raising expenses of staying in Singapore as everything is so expensive! 

 

I tried to explain this to my parents but they do not care and demand $500 from me. I feel this is too much. I told them the government supressed salaries by bringing in so many FTs that our singaporean salaries is suppressed. I do not have a car or an expensive watch. I only can afford to travel 2 times a year. What kind of life are we singaporeans living and yet our parents are adding this extra stressed on us. Why are parents like this! I told them that do not be so money faced but they scold me! I cannot believe it! They took my money thats why I do not have extra money to move out! 

Any other guys with such u reasonable parents? How did you overcome such unreasonable behavior? No wonder I am gay as it made me turned off by woman! So money faced.

 

 

 

With due respect.

Your money spent is something majority of people never dare to even dream of ...at half the amount you claim your spend. And you think you are poor and stressed out? Are you for real in a bind or are you masking this all as a poke at others by saying you earn above most average earner here indirectly ?

 

Dutifully contributing some of your earning to your parents is a Asian Culture of responsibility and respect for someone who brought you into this world. Even if you don't like your parents. It's a duty. Unless your parents has the means and told you there is no need for it.

Beside I find your break down confusing like you are trying to expand on them to make the figures bigger.

 

Edited May 14, 2017 by upshot

[Guest Gem stone]

Yes I agreed with above. I hardly spend $10 for both lunch and dinner, with mrt and bus only max $4 per day.  Your parents have been providing you since born. Shame of you to complain now and calling them taking advantage on you.  Reflect and grow up!

[Guest Guest]

15 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

If you don't earn any big income, don't try living a high life. I earn much more than that but my expenditure is far lower than yours. What is this with lunch & dinner at $30/day?? clothing fund $200/month? Transport to/from work at $30/day and another counting of $200/moth?

I work at Tanjong Pagar Center. There is no foodcourts and our lunch time is so short, we do not have the luxury to go out to eat.

 

Because of the reputation of our public transport being so unreliable with constant breakdowns and delays, i took uber instead. Unless they can fix the public transport issues, who will be responsible if I am late?

[EasleyLim]

4 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

I work at Tanjong Pagar Center. There is no foodcourts and our lunch time is so short, we do not have the luxury to go out to eat.

 

Because of the reputation of our public transport being so unreliable with constant breakdowns and delays, i took uber instead. Unless they can fix the public transport issues, who will be responsible if I am late?

 

 

It's not THAT unreliable. 

[EasleyLim]

Honestly, you have to be very blind to not see the unnecessary expenses and plenty of people here will point it out to you. But whatever, go ahead and whine.

[Guest Guest]

7 minutes ago, Guest Gem stone said:

Yes I agreed with above. I hardly spend $10 for both lunch and dinner, with mrt and bus only max $4 per day.  Your parents have been providing you since born. Shame of you to complain now and calling them taking advantage on you.  Reflect and grow up!

I did not ask to be born. You want to have sex? This is the result! Thats why I cannot stand straight people complaining about children, 1st, why must have 3/4 months leave after give birth? Not fair...their job responsibility is passes to others without extra pay and these women atill get paid for staying at home! The government is so u fair in this issue.

 

Now...since I did not ask to be given birthed too, why should they demand moneg from me? Must I suffer for their 5 mins of lust???

[EasleyLim]

Maybe you need to allocate some funds for IMH too.

[Guest Guest]

3 minutes ago, EasleyLim said:

Honestly, you have to be very blind to not see the unnecessary expenses and plenty of people here will point it out to you. But whatever, go ahead and whine.

Why is it unnecessary? What about people who drives? $30 a day is way cheaper than driving a car. So dont be a hypocrite. Car pricese are prices so high ti pay their million dollar salaries depriving us from owning a car..coupled with a half f up public transport system, $30 a day to be a responsible worker is a godsend.instead of praisinh me of my sa rifice yiu chose to attack ne. 

[greenroad]

go bang on something hard. Maybe you can give your brain a kickstart 

[Swisse]

seriously dude u need to take some responsibility for yourself... 
no time to eat? Pack your own lunch...
nobody force u to take the job that is so far from your residence...
why compare with people who drive when you're not even earning in that band... rollseyes...
 

Edited May 14, 2017 by Swisse

[Estarif]

42 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

I worked for  few years now and I am so stressed at work and after work. Its always about money money and money.

 

My parents demand money from me every month. I feel they are taking adventage of me. Every month they will constantly demand $500 from me. 

 

I explaines to them that ny salary is only so little, after deducting my daily expenses:

 

1-transport to work and home $30

2-lunch and dinne4 $30

3-misc $20

 

Those alone work out to at least $2400 a month

 

Monthly expenses:

1-monile/wifi-$200

2-grooming -$60

3-entertainment(movies/clubs/dinners)-$800

4-travel fund-$300

5-clothing fund-$200

6-laundry-$100

7-transport-$200

8-misc-$400

 

Above come out to at least $1800.

 

So my monthly expenses comes out to above $4000! And I have yet to enjoy myself! I have no money for expensive things.

 

I feel so stressed out at the constant raising expenses of staying in Singapore as everything is so expensive! 

 

I tried to explain this to my parents but they do not care and demand $500 from me. I feel this is too much. I told them the government supressed salaries by bringing in so many FTs that our singaporean salaries is suppressed. I do not have a car or an expensive watch. I only can afford to travel 2 times a year. What kind of life are we singaporeans living and yet our parents are adding this extra stressed on us. Why are parents like this! I told them that do not be so money faced but they scold me! I cannot believe it! They took my money thats why I do not have extra money to move out! 

 

Any other guys with such u reasonable parents? How did you overcome such unreasonable behaviour? No wonder I am gay as it made me turned off by woman! So money faced.

 

 

 

Daily expenses at $80? you seriously need to learn how to save money, who spends $15 per meal and $30 to travel daily? You also double counted transport on your daily and monthly expenses. Either you really suck at managing money, or you live luxurious, which obviously your parents will ask you for more money considering your lifestyle. So easily stressed, i wonder how you even live your life day in day out

 

Then again, this sounds like a troll post from anonymous guests again 

[doncoin]

Your Entertainment expense can also go down. $800 a month is high. 

Cut down eating at restaurants and clubs. 

 

You don't need to buy new clothes every month. 

 

In your expense breakdown, I noticed that you did not list rent as one of the items. Where are you staying for free? If you are staying with parents, then I think it is fair they ask for $500 for rent. 

 

Edited May 14, 2017 by doncoin

[EasleyLim]

5 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Why is it unnecessary? What about people who drives? $30 a day is way cheaper than driving a car. So dont be a hypocrite. Car pricese are prices so high ti pay their million dollar salaries depriving us from owning a car..coupled with a half f up public transport system, $30 a day to be a responsible worker is a godsend.instead of praisinh me of my sa rifice yiu chose to attack ne. 

 

 

You said you can't afford a car so why are you comparing yourself to car owners lol. I highly recommend you start allocating part of your budget for IMH visits.

[Guest Regurgitator]

Gees wasn't there a similar thread a few months back? Similar complaints and similar replies, troll much?

[lovehandle]

53 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

I worked for  few years now and I am so stressed at work and after work. Its always about money money and money.

 

My parents demand money from me every month. I feel they are taking adventage of me. Every month they will constantly demand $500 from me. 

 

I explaines to them that ny salary is only so little, after deducting my daily expenses:

 

1-transport to work and home $30

2-lunch and dinne4 $30

3-misc $20

 

Those alone work out to at least $2400 a month

 

Monthly expenses:

1-monile/wifi-$200

2-grooming -$60

3-entertainment(movies/clubs/dinners)-$800

4-travel fund-$300

5-clothing fund-$200

6-laundry-$100

7-transport-$200

8-misc-$400

 

but why does mobile so expensive? u do big business (co. will pay anyway) ? or need to contact an interest group?

trpt is most ridiculous , good to cut by more than 120%!

while we should entertain friends at time, your dinner are already include the daily meal too, that entertainment has room for cut too

u don't do laundry at home? of cos u have to feed ur parents, if u don't even laundry, they learnt from u to laundry separately too, S$500 is nothing

 

I agree with some area has no cheaper food alternative, so S$15-20 per 2 meal is very affordable N reasonable facing current situation of sg

and I never believe that NTUC foodcourt is cheap too

 

while MOST r yeow kwee to travel nowadays , every now and then thinking of travelling, it is good to learn to set up a travel fund, not at the expense of cutting from your parents, your miscellenous is just enuf for their requests plus some cuts from elsewhere

 

All u care is your fun and NO1 else

 

b it you like it or NOT , it is YOU who choose to come to this family, u should be glad that u r not born to the family who are MUCH poorer or to face war time

 

I have many stinky ngeow friends who are stingy in meals and grooming, as well as wardrobe, however yours are way too extravagant! Feed your parents first before u start your childish showbiz please!

you are an adult but by crying here, doesn't solve the issue at all, go do your sums again 

Wearing a beautiful image of able to go for entertainment and club is one, living is another

I don't own a car too

 

u really don't know what is stress for those of the lower income

[Guest Guest]

3 minutes ago, Estarif said:

 

Daily expenses at $80? you seriously need to learn how to save money, who spends $15 per meal and $30 to travel daily? You also double counted transport on your daily and monthly expenses. Either you really suck at managing money, or you live luxurious, which obviously your parents will ask you for more money considering your lifestyle. So easily stressed, i wonder how you even live your life day in day out

 

Then again, this sounds like a troll post from anonymous guests again 

You think i like to spend $30 a day for lunch and dinner? I would also like to spend less. Have you worked in new projects in town? Tanjong Parger Center has no foodcourt. The greedy landlord rentes all spaces to cafes and restaurants. The nearesr hawker is some distance away and so crowded and if i eat there, i will smell bad because of the horrible ventilation and must fight for seats! The government did not cater to the huge influx of newer buildings when they build that hawker center...a lack of foresight..and now you blame me? Thats so rich.

 

I also did not double count on transport..dont i need to go back? Also to another person who asked why dont I pack food...my parents is already demanding $500 a month..packing food will only give them more ammo to profit from me. I wont be so foolish to fall into their trap.

 

Also when I was i  school, they only gave me $200 a month during secondary school. $300 durinh JC and $400 in university...do you know how embarassing in uni when you cannot join friends out clubing and socialising when they only gave me $400 a month? So why should they expect $500??? 

[upshot]

36 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

I work at Tanjong Pagar Center. There is no foodcourts and our lunch time is so short, we do not have the luxury to go out to eat.

 

Because of the reputation of our public transport being so unreliable with constant breakdowns and delays, i took uber instead. Unless they can fix the public transport issues, who will be responsible if I am late?

A bit of a novel idea and maybe thinking out of the box... how about trying to wake up EARLIER to start your trip to office. Get a pair of head phone use that extra time to listen to news, podcast..etc Get more done with the extra time PLUS BEING ON TIME FOR WORK. I believe 80% of people does that with a transportation system that is slower. It's not dead stop but just slower so.... adjust your time accordingly.

[Guest Guest]

5 minutes ago, -Ignored- said:

but why does mobile so expensive? u do big business (co. will pay anyway) ? or need to contact an interest group?

trpt is most ridiculous , good to cut by more than 120%!

while we should entertain friends at time, your dinner are already include the daily meal too, that entertainment has room for cut too

u don't do laundry at home? of cos u have to feed ur parents, if u don't even laundry, they learnt from u to laundry separately too, S$500 is nothing

 

I agree with some area has no cheaper food alternative, so S$15-20 per 2 meal is very affordable N reasonable facing current situation of sg

and I never believe that NTUC foodcourt is cheap too

 

while MOST r yeow kwee to travel nowadays , every now and then thinking of travelling, it is good to learn to set up a travel fund, not at the expense of cutting from your parents, your miscellenous is just enuf for their requests plus some cuts from elsewhere

 

All u care is your fun and NO1 else

 

b it you like it or NOT , it is YOU who choose to come to this family, u should be glad that u r not born to the family who are MUCH poorer or to face war time

 

I have many stinky ngeow friends who are stingy in meals and grooming, as well as wardrobe, however yours are way too extravagant! Feed your parents first before u start your childish showbiz please!

you are an adult but by crying here, doesn't solve the issue at all, go do your sums again 

Wearing a beautiful image of able to go for entertainment and club is one, living is another

I don't own a car too

 

u really don't know what is stress for those of the lower income

$800 a month for entertainment is not high. Do you k ow how expensive is it to dine out now? It cost about $100! I have about 2 appointments a week..and in this new generation, its also networking. We do not just go and eat..we need to network and fish for contacts.

 

Also at $500 a month, i expect my clothes to be washed and ironed  by them. Often they damaged my clothings and out of my good heart i did not ask them to compensate.just dont be so money faces.

[lovehandle]

5 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

 

Also when I was i  school, they only gave me $200 a month during secondary school. $300 durinh JC and $400 in university...do you know how embarassing in uni when you cannot join friends out clubing and socialising when they only gave me $400 a month? So why should they expect $500??? 

I know u will say this....those times are different and money value is diff then plus inflation now

 

and are they of similar position as u, they do not have a high pay to give u that much esp there are other siblings too

 

if the networking is for business reason, please learn to charge it to the business account

however I did say that your regular daily meal is quite reasonable

U have to do your balancing act then

 

 

 

[upshot]

9 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

You think i like to spend $30 a day for lunch and dinner? I would also like to spend less. Have you worked in new projects in town? Tanjong Parger Center has no foodcourt. The greedy landlord rentes all spaces to cafes and restaurants. The nearesr hawker is some distance away and so crowded and if i eat there, i will smell bad because of the horrible ventilation and must fight for seats! The government did not cater to the huge influx of newer buildings when they build that hawker center...a lack of foresight..and now you blame me? Thats so rich.

 

I also did not double count on transport..dont i need to go back? Also to another person who asked why dont I pack food...my parents is already demanding $500 a month..packing food will only give them more ammo to profit from me. I wont be so foolish to fall into their trap.

 

Also when I was i  school, they only gave me $200 a month during secondary school. $300 durinh JC and $400 in university...do you know how embarassing in uni when you cannot join friends out clubing and socialising when they only gave me $400 a month? So why should they expect $500??? 

 

This is out right trying to tell people you use to get big pocket money. First big salary and now childhood. What made this worst it does not tally up to your situation as to what your parents are doing. Anyone can see there is something wrong with your story. If they can give you that much and now make demands on you and for $500 it all does not make sense. But what make sense is you are using this to boast of what you make and your supposed lifestyle. Or you think everyone is that gullible? Getting harder and harder to believe your story.

[greenroad]

3 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

$800 a month for entertainment is not high. Do you k ow how expensive is it to dine out now? It cost about $100! I have about 2 appointments a week..and in this new generation, its also networking. We do not just go and eat..we need to network and fish for contacts.

 

Also at $500 a month, i expect my clothes to be washed and ironed  by them. Often they damaged my clothings and out of my good heart i did not ask them to compensate.just dont be so money faces.

tough being your parents.. Compensate? 500 need bao sua bao hai? you are really fucked up. 

[snowball]

the hard reality is that you'll never fit in where you don't belong, you are trying too hard ...

[reflector85]

I seriously think that moderator should ban all the "bo liao' guests to prevent them coming in here to kbkp about all this nonsense.  BW is now becoming more and more like EDMW.  

 

ts,  u know what is stressful?  Living in a society of siao lang like you is called stressful.  

Edited May 14, 2017 by reflector85

[Guest Guest]

3 minutes ago, upshot said:

 

This is out right trying to tell people you use to get big pocket money. First big salary and now childhood. What made this worst it does not tally up to your situation as to what your parents are doing. Anyone can see there is something wrong with your story. If they can give you that much and now make demands on you and for $500 it all does not make sense. But what make sense is you are using this to boast of what you make and your supposed lifestyle. Or you think everyone is that gullible? Getting harder and harder to believe your story.

Why is it so hard to believe? My parents are  ot poor..neither are they very wealthy..they are certainly not poor! Both my parents drive luxury cars. And travel for holidays often. I have never said they are poor! 

 

I am also not boasting how rich I am as I am not rich. My annual salary is still below our national GDP.  

It is because my parents do not need tgat $500 that made me so mad at them for demanding $500 or $6000 a year from me! 

[Guest Guest]

4 minutes ago, reflector85 said:

I seriously think that moderator should ban all the "bo liao' guests to prevent them coming in here to kbkp about all this nonsense.  BW is now becoming more and more like EDMW.  

 

ts,  u know what is stressful?  Living in a society of siao lang like you is called stressful.  

Why must you call the mods to ban? Simpmy cannot stand people like you. On one forced you to read anything by Guests. You can always choose to skip. Musy everyone conform to your expectations? Dont like ask for a ban? So typical of people like the wear whites and the likes. You do not have to participate but you CHOSE to comment and post in a thread you claimed to have no interest in. 

[CKW]

1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

3-entertainment (movies/clubs/dinners)-$800

 

4-travel fund-$300

 

5-clothing fund-$200

 

6-laundry-$100

 

7-transport-$200

 

8-misc-$400

 

I think you need to look at your monthly expenses.

 

Do you really need to spend $800 a month on entertainment and dinners? That's actually a lot of money to spend for a single man.

 

Do you really need to buy $200 worth of clothes every month? Your shirts are either very expensive, or your cupboard must be overflowing  

 

What is the misc. $400 a month for? If it's toiletries, it should not be so much.

 

Also, you mentioned that you travel twice a year. There are very rich people who only travel once every two years, or once a year, at the most. Again, you may wish to rethink your annual travel plans.

 

I believe you are spending beyond your means, and not setting aside any money for charity and the less fortunate - it seems to be all on yourself, sorry to say.

 

If you cut back on the above, and set aside money for charity every month, I believe you can definitely afford more than $500 a month for your parents.

[Swisse]

5 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Why is it so hard to believe? My parents are  ot poor..neither are they very wealthy..they are certainly not poor! Both my parents drive luxury cars. And travel for holidays often. I have never said they are poor! 

 

I am also not boasting how rich I am as I am not rich. My annual salary is still below our national GDP.  

It is because my parents do not need tgat $500 that made me so mad at them for demanding $500 or $6000 a year from me! 

 

so you're boasting now that your annual salary is about $292.74 billion dollars (as at 2015?) or thereabouts?
whether your parents need the money or not is irrelevant...
pack lunch: who the f*** asked you to pack food that your parents paid? Are you such a child that you can't buy your own ingredients?

[abang]

Ts, are you still living in your parent's flat?

If yes, consider your $500 as RENT..not to mention, your usage of water and utilities.  Be thankful your parents have not kick you out!

 

With regards to transport, try waking up much earlier.  You know that exiting from the city stations is FREE before 7.45 am.  You can kick start your day by going for a jog, if you are not a member of any gyms in the vicinity.  If you are a gym member, you exercise for an hour, take a shower and be BRIGHT, SUNNY and READY for the day.  

 

Try to get a sandwich or salad from Subway or other eateries if you don't have time to eat out.  The damage is kept to a minimum and you are eating HEALTHY.  Drink plenty of water is good for you.

 

As for mobile phones, I discovered PREPAID plans last year. Most of us ready don't need so much INTERNET connection while we are moving. To cut down such unwanted usage, download only when there is wi-fi, at home or in the office.  Besides there is always FREE wi-fi around in shopping centres and fast food restaurants.  My expenses for home internet and mobile is about $65 monthly.  

 

Spending money on apparels are an investment but do learn about mix-and-match.  Good quality shirts, pants and shoes cost a little more but they last and give good impression.  However after buying about 10 shirts and 5 pants, do you still need more?  A good designer bag (around SGD 700) will last you a decade.

 

Lastly why are you spending so much on entertainment?  Movies and karaoke don't cost that much.  Even drinks in bars are inexpensive during happy hours.  

 

Ts, you are seriously in need of financial planning and do learn to budget your expenditure.  Otherwise sooner or later, we will see your name in the Bankrupt notices on Friday's ST.

 

小朋友， 多付出点爱心给父母。。感谢他们的养育之恩。

你能有今天的成就， 全靠他们的艰辛的栽培。

 

 

 

[Guest Guest]

2 minutes ago, abang said:

Ts, are you still living in your parent's flat?

If yes, consider your $500 as RENT..not to mention, your usage of water and utilities.  Be thankful your parents have not kick you out!

 

With regards to transport, try waking up much earlier.  You know that exiting from the city stations is FREE before 7.45 am.  You can kick start your day by going for a jog, if you are not a member of any gyms in the vicinity.  If you are a gym member, you exercise for an hour, take a shower and be BRIGHT, SUNNY and READY for the day.  

 

Try to get a sandwich or salad from Subway or other eateries if you don't have time to eat out.  The damage is kept to a minimum and you are eating HEALTHY.  Drink plenty of water is good for you.

 

As for mobile phones, I discovered PREPAID plans last year. Most of us ready don't need so much INTERNET connection while we are moving. To cut down such unwanted usage, download only when there is wi-fi, at home or in the office.  Besides there is always FREE wi-fi around in shopping centres and fast food restaurants.  My expenses for home internet and mobile is about $65 monthly.  

 

Spending money on apparels are an investment but do learn about mix-and-match.  Good quality shirts, pants and shoes cost a little more but they last and give good impression.  However after buying about 10 shirts and 5 pants, do you still need more?  A good designer bag (around SGD 700) will last you a decade.

 

Lastly why are you spending so much on entertainment?  Movies and karaoke don't cost that much.  Even drinks in bars are inexpensive during happy hours.  

 

Ts, you are seriously in need of financial planning and do learn to budget your expenditure.  Otherwise sooner or later, we will see your name in the Bankrupt notices on Friday's ST.

 

小朋友， 多付出点爱心给父母。。感谢他们的养育之恩。

你能有今天的成就， 全靠他们的艰辛的栽培。

 

 

 

Thanks Abang..i will try to heed your advise. Unlike many who just mock and are not constructive.

[reflector85]

3 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Why must you call the mods to ban? Simpmy cannot stand people like you. On one forced you to read anything by Guests. You can always choose to skip. Musy everyone conform to your expectations? Dont like ask for a ban? So typical of people like the wear whites and the likes. You do not have to participate but you CHOSE to comment and post in a thread you claimed to have no interest in. 

Don't u see the point?  If I have no interest in the thread I would have skip. No one has to agree with me or live up to my expectation, and so does u.  no one owes u a living. Look at u - I believe you are a working adult yet u r wanking on this on that,  blame people this & that but urself.  I seriously think u don't know how to plan ur budget,  looking at the number of replies aiming at u already shows that u r a person who doesn't know how to control your finance.  Wake up your bloddy idea 

[reflector85]

8 minutes ago, abang said:

Ts, are you still living in your parent's flat?

If yes, consider your $500 as RENT..not to mention, your usage of water and utilities.  Be thankful your parents have not kick you out!

 

With regards to transport, try waking up much earlier.  You know that exiting from the city stations is FREE before 7.45 am.  You can kick start your day by going for a jog, if you are not a member of any gyms in the vicinity.  If you are a gym member, you exercise for an hour, take a shower and be BRIGHT, SUNNY and READY for the day.  

 

Try to get a sandwich or salad from Subway or other eateries if you don't have time to eat out.  The damage is kept to a minimum and you are eating HEALTHY.  Drink plenty of water is good for you.

 

As for mobile phones, I discovered PREPAID plans last year. Most of us ready don't need so much INTERNET connection while we are moving. To cut down such unwanted usage, download only when there is wi-fi, at home or in the office.  Besides there is always FREE wi-fi around in shopping centres and fast food restaurants.  My expenses for home internet and mobile is about $65 monthly.  

 

Spending money on apparels are an investment but do learn about mix-and-match.  Good quality shirts, pants and shoes cost a little more but they last and give good impression.  However after buying about 10 shirts and 5 pants, do you still need more?  A good designer bag (around SGD 700) will last you a decade.

 

Lastly why are you spending so much on entertainment?  Movies and karaoke don't cost that much.  Even drinks in bars are inexpensive during happy hours.  

 

Ts, you are seriously in need of financial planning and do learn to budget your expenditure.  Otherwise sooner or later, we will see your name in the Bankrupt notices on Friday's ST.

 

小朋友， 多付出点爱心给父母。。感谢他们的养育之恩。

你能有今天的成就， 全靠他们的艰辛的栽培。

 

 

 

All these are common sense ma.  Obviously ts is not using his head to think of other possible ways to change his lifestyle.  

[mantin30]

25 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Why is it so hard to believe? My parents are  ot poor..neither are they very wealthy..they are certainly not poor! Both my parents drive luxury cars. And travel for holidays often. I have never said they are poor! 

 

I am also not boasting how rich I am as I am not rich. My annual salary is still below our national GDP.  

It is because my parents do not need tgat $500 that made me so mad at them for demanding $500 or $6000 a year from me! 

Watched a nice youtuber's video about mother's love and sacrifice today. Maybe your mother is trying to save the money for you since they do not need the money and knowing you have a high expenses lifestyle. After they are gone, their money will be yours too...

Edited May 14, 2017 by mantin30

[Guest Guest]

Living in singapore will continue to be so stressfull amd living expenses will continue to shoot up. 

 

People will continue to want everyone to conform to the norm. There will be no space for alternative voices or lifestyles. Just look at the replies here..its all pressuring me to conform to social norms. 

 

 

[CKW]

46 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Also when I was i  school, they only gave me $200 a month during secondary school. $300 durinh JC and $400 in university...

 

Aiyah, when I was in sec sch, I only had $80 a month.

 

By university, I was given $160 a month.

 

(Of course, if I needed more money for a one-time purchase of school or personal items, they will always give more.)

 

Still managed to eat until quite full every recess (sec sch) and lunch (for uni). And managed to save quite a lot too - enough to buy music CDs and other personal (non-school) books. 

 

Probably it's your lifestyle and spending habits that need to be checked.  

[auscent]

Light (or at least try find) a candle in the dark. No point cursing te darkness.

 

We all have our difficulties. We just swallow n deal with it.

[CKW]

9 minutes ago, mantin30 said:

Watched a nice youtuber's video about mother's love and sacrifice today. Maybe your mother is trying to save the money for you since they do not need the money and knowing you have a high expenses lifestyle. After they are gone, their money will be yours too...

 

Very well-said!

 

I have an ex-colleague who grew up very poor. When he started working and was earning a lot, he gave his mum a considerable amount of money every month, wanting her to spend more on herself to make up for her years of hardship bringing him and his siblings up when they were very poor.

 

Many years later, before she passed away, the mother one day presented him with a huge sum of money as a "gift" to him, cos he was getting married.

 

And you guessed it: it was the money that he had been faithfully giving her every month for years. She did not use one cent at all, but kept it all for him. 

[Guest Guest]

2 minutes ago, CKW said:

 

Very well-said!

 

I have an ex-colleague who grew up very poor. When he started working and was earning a lot, he gave his mum a considerable amount of money every month, wanting her to spend more on herself to make up for her years of hardship bringing him and his siblings up when they were very poor.

 

Many years later, before she passed away, the mother one day presented him with a huge sum of money as a "gift" to him, cos he was getting married.

 

And you guessed it: it was the money that he had been faithfully giving her every month for years. She did not use one cent at all, but kept it all for him. 

What a good story...who wrote it? Elderly people are mostly money faced. You think my parents will save it for me??? Thats the biggest joke ever. They cannot wait to use my moeny for fancy meals and trips at my expense.

[mantin30]

Did you promise you will take of your mommy when you are young that times?

[doncoin]

1 minute ago, Guest Guest said:

What a good story...who wrote it? Elderly people are mostly money faced. You think my parents will save it for me??? Thats the biggest joke ever. They cannot wait to use my moeny for fancy meals and trips at my expense.

 

Sounds like you have a lot of animosity towards your parents. Consider having a conversation with them that you cannot afford to give them the $500 they demand, and negotiate an amount that will work for both parties, or not. Explain to your parents why it is so important that you are spending the amount you are spending. From what you are describing, I don't your parents are the enemy. It is your lack of budgeting. It is ok to overspend once in a while when you go out etc. however, try not to make it a lifestyle. 

[CKW]

Just now, Guest Guest said:

What a good story...who wrote it? Elderly people are mostly money faced. You think my parents will save it for me??? Thats the biggest joke ever. They cannot wait to use my moeny for fancy meals and trips at my expense.

 

It's my ex-colleague from Mindef.

It really happened. I attended his mum's funeral when she passed away cos we were colleagues the year she passed. 

 

 

Whether your parents will give it back to you (like in my ex-colleague's case) is one thing.

 

But maybe try to give them a small sum every month? It's not the amount; more as a token of filial piety and love.

 

But don't hate or resent them for asking - one day when they are no longer around, you will wish that they were still around to ask you. 

[snowball]

if your parents so rich they need your 500 for fuck, i give my parents near to 1k they also don't want and keep asking me to save for future plan. only you know your parents well and they know how their son like, to be honest, we  no right to judge, 家家有本难念的经。

[CKW]

11 minutes ago, mantin30 said:

Did you promise you will take of your mommy when you are young that times?

 

I had a lump in my throat watching this, and teared a bit.

 

I'm really such a lousy son to my mum.

 

Mum, you probably won't ever read this, but I love you, and I'm so sorry that I'm not a better son to you. 

[youngpunk]

2 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

3-entertainment(movies/clubs/dinners)-$800

 

2 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

4-travel fund-$300

 

2 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

So my monthly expenses comes out to above $4000! And I have yet to enjoy myself!

 

I'm not sure what you mean by you have yet to enjoy yourself when the "enjoyment" fund is already factored in as expenses...

 

I actually don't care how you spend your money, but at least argue with some internal consistency.

 

Also, the crux of the matter is really not how you spend your money, so stop whining and blaming it on FT, salary suppression, etc.

 

The 2 main issues are:

 

1. What's your monthly salary?  If your monthly salary is $10K, then your current expenditures are less than 50%.  Then $500 to your parents is really a non-issue, it's just how generous/stingy you are with your parents.  If your monthly salary is $5K, then obviously you won't be able to save much if you need to give your parents $500.  Need context.

 

BUT more importantly, the real issue here is

 

2. Discrepancy between yours and your parents' expectations when it comes to the allowance.  Since I doubt they hold a knife over your neck unless you pay up, it's really just a matter of choice how much you want to give. Even if you want to stick to that $500, I think the gist of the points the other members are making is that you can definitely save money from your current expenditures if you really want to.  You're just not willing to.  That makes a huge difference.  There are trade-offs in everything.  Whatever your choice is, deal with it.  Don't whine and bring in all irrelevant points.

 

 

 

[TickTockBang]

Dude, u probably earn more than i do. I gave my mum $600 a month, i pay the bills. I spent atleast $15 a day on meals. $60 on transport. I gave some to my younger siblings. U need to cut down  the entertainment. Do u really need $800!!? That is insane. Laundry, dont u have a washing machine at home? If u dont, best to get one and clean, iron ur clothes at home. Maybe ur parents asked u for $500 to pay off the bills?? Cuz i dont see that included in ur monthly expenses. U are spending on unneccessary stuff. Maybe when u learned to manage the needs and wants, u'll be fine. And maybe sometime, u should accompany ur mum to the market, and then u will know how much on a daily basis she needs to spend. 

 

I dont think they ever complained on how much they spent on u before u started working. So please be more responsible, less complaining and take charge of ur own life. Goodluck

[TheKaze]

Genuinely hope this is just another troll thread. It's worrying and saddening to see working adult like yourself with such poor money sense and financial control. Your vague accountability of how money is spent is really questionable. To be spending 800 on entertainment and 300 for Travelling, yet you are still able to claim "And I have yet to enjoy myself!" I envy the amount of time you have to be enjoying despite being a working adult, and maybe it's high time for you to reevaluate your luxurious lifestyle to find one that fit within your means. 

 

[mate69]

Troll lah, folks. Please don't continue to feed the effing troll.

[GachiMuchi]

If I know that my son will be so ungrateful when he grows up, I would have feed him to the fishes in the sea.

 

You only think about yourself, everything is me...myself and I.

 

I feel sorry for your parents.

 

Enough said

[Anderson]

45 minutes ago, GachiMuchi said:

If I know that my son will be so ungrateful when he grows up, I would have feed him to the fishes in the sea.

 

You only think about yourself, everything is me...myself and I.

 

I feel sorry for your parents.

 

Enough said

 

I agree with you, but I think he should be aborted actually so that there is one selfish idiot lesser in this world.