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i am at a local sauna. i pull one guy into a dark corner to fxxk. he later told me he was virgin.

after some rest, i went back for second round. got another guy. after fxxking and talking cock, he also said he was virgin.

either it was virgin nite or there is a trend that btm like to say they are virgin. need to say they were quite tight but one of them seem too familiar with fxxking position. i think he lie to me.

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i am at a local sauna. i pull one guy into a dark corner to fxxk. he later told me he was virgin.

after some rest, i went back for second round. got another guy. after fxxking and talking cock, he also said he was virgin.

either it was virgin nite or there is a trend that btm like to say they are virgin. need to say they were quite tight but one of them seem too familiar with fxxking position. i think he lie to me.

If they r tight then even if not virgin also almost virgin lah. People like us not virgin want to lie also cannot leh. Why we lie because most tops like to ask this type of embarrassing question after enjoying our hole.

If say virgin ( long time ago when still tight and pink), they say we bluff one.

If say not regular btm, they say we bluff one

If say we not virgin, they want to know how many men already entered like we keep count one

If hole loose( we also like a few men a night leh), the kana complained no feel ( no feel still can bang and bang meh?)

Be btm is shiok but very pai mia kia. Stranger also can use your hole for fun.

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LOL ... i always say i am reborn virgin or almost virgin. I know i can hear the jokes coming.

Be seriously i have been in 2 sexless relationships for almost 10 years continuos. Too long a story and complicated to go into details or why i am still in such a relationship or even if it is considered a relationship.

So is not that i have not been fxxked before, but it can be like once a year. So for a gay btm isnt that as good as an almost virgin?

Side track, there is a saying ... money is not everything, but without money is nothing.

I think sex in relationship is the same. Sex is not everything in a relationship, but relationship without sex?


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I live in a condo in the east. Yesterday, after a swim, I went to the changing room/shower. The sauna is also in there, and the lights were on (it usually is not in use). So I walked in, and there was a mature China man (50?) standing in the nude. I was surprised, said hi, and also took off my towel. We sat opposite one another in the small sauna, with cocks/balls in full view. He was about 3inches uncut, with low-hanging balls and lots of straight pubes. I was thinking "OK, if he makes the first move - like a 'come-here' smile - I would be brave and move closer to him and see what happens". But too bad, we just sat there with out legs wide open and nothing happened. He went out for a quick shower and came back in, but he never said a word.

Then he went out for good. I followed shortly to see him showering with the cubicle door open. And while I was showering (with the door open of course), he sat on the wooden bench naked while drying himself, all in full view of me. It may be nothing at all but it was such a torn-on to know two naked men were so comfortable with nudity. After he left, I actually JO in the shower.

Anyone has similar experience in your condo sauna?

Edited by chubachub9

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always wanted to have such encounters but with younger cuties... but my condo sauna seemed to be always empty... and the pool are always in use by mainly uncles or caucasians.. even during sch holidays period like this... i dun see any younger crowd... sad condo... im in the east as well

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I had such an experience before. I live in a condo in the west, it happened last year June holiday... I finish swimming and went into the sauna and saw a hot guys in his early 30 I suppose. I went to sit opposite to him and realise he only had a towel on his with no underwear/trunks... He had an erected dick about 14cm long. I was a bit scare that he will notice I am looking at his dick. Soon he went out and I went to the top and lie down. After a while, he came back in and sit 1 level lower then me both facing the same direction. Suddenly I felt something rubbing against my arm and I thought I was taking up too much space lol suddenly I felt something touching my nipple but it was just in a spilt second so I thought it was just my imagination. And out of nowhere.. He touch my hand... Being young at 18 and inexperience and still is now... I pull my hand out of his.... He said sorry and I replied "oh it's ok". Was hoping he would do that again and in no time... He grab my hand and rub against his hand... Without me rejecting him... He went on to stoke my dick from the outside of my White underwear and instant hardon. We were both filled with sweat but not stinky type... In my opinion, sweaty guys are the hottest. He then go ahead by sucking my nipple and slowly down to my underwear. He then pull my dick out of my underwear and started sucking it arh.... And slowly sucking my balls. I was a bit nervous then, he then take my hand and put it on his dick so I stoke it while he found out he was the first to suck me and is the only one up to today. He continue to suck my dick again but suddenly someone entered the toilet so I gave him a slight push he sit for awhile longer and left... I jerked off for a few days after that think of it

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I had such an experience before. I live in a condo in the west, it happened last year June holiday... I finish swimming and went into the sauna and saw a hot guys in his early 30 I suppose. I went to sit opposite to him and realise he only had a towel on his with no underwear/trunks... He had an erected dick about 14cm long. I was a bit scare that he will notice I am looking at his dick. Soon he went out and I went to the top and lie down. After a while, he came back in and sit 1 level lower then me both facing the same direction. Suddenly I felt something rubbing against my arm and I thought I was taking up too much space lol suddenly I felt something touching my nipple but it was just in a spilt second so I thought it was just my imagination. And out of nowhere.. He touch my hand... Being young at 18 and inexperience and still is now... I pull my hand out of his.... He said sorry and I replied "oh it's ok". Was hoping he would do that again and in no time... He grab my hand and rub against his hand... Without me rejecting him... He went on to stoke my dick from the outside of my White underwear and instant hardon. We were both filled with sweat but not stinky type... In my opinion, sweaty guys are the hottest. He then go ahead by sucking my nipple and slowly down to my underwear. He then pull my dick out of my underwear and started sucking it arh.... And slowly sucking my balls. I was a bit nervous then, he then take my hand and put it on his dick so I stoke it while he found out he was the first to suck me and is the only one up to today. He continue to suck my dick again but suddenly someone entered the toilet so I gave him a slight push he sit for awhile longer and left... I jerked off for a few days after that think of it

then you and he stay in the same condo. no chance meeting again?

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Several years back I stayed at a condo in the west and I often see Japanese neighbours naked in the sauna and steam room. Most of them were 100% straight and were just eye candies. And no, there is no truth to the myth that Japs are small!!!

But I had at least more than 2 encounters with neighbours who were into man2man action. I remember the Jap who was in his late 40s and the newly married Cantonese-speaking guy in his 20s from Hong Kong. In both cases, their wives were away and we had torrid sex at their apartments. Oh and there was this teenager who claimed to be bi-curious and let me sucked him each time we met in the changing room until the family moved out.

Of course, besides the naked men parading there were occasions where a few of them also sported semi or full erection but they were men who were proud of their family jewels and were not shy about flaunting them.


Suck my tits and I'll lick your balls.

Lick my arse and I'll suck your cock.

All in sex is fair.

 

The only bad thing about sex is that it doesn't last long enough.

 

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I saw hm yesterday at the nearby shopping centre buying food... Looking at him again... He look like he is almost 50.... Maybe the sweat and horniness the other time make him look younger XD

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please write more erotic encounters m i am getting wet reading the hot stories.

I have not had any hot encounters at the condo pool nor sauna where i live becos the lights are so damn bright, hopefully one or two of the lights will slowly dim through age then something hot might happen when the young horny expats come down for some steam, get it , steam.

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Does anyone like to share your personal experience with gay/straight Ah Beng/Ah Seng?

Let me start my first such encounter.

Last week, I stumbled upon a group (6 or 7) of Ah Bengs/Ah Sengs while doing my night jogging along Kallang river (near to Marina Mandarin). They were having a beer sessions and seems to be very intoxicated. As it was already 0030hrs, they seemed to be very curious of why someone who like to exercise at such a late hour. Knowing that if you were to meet eye with them, you sure kena trouble so I tried to avoid them. As I was doing my cooling down exercise, one of them shouted at me in Hokkien (the normal conversation to start a trouble) "Qua Si MI Lxx Chxx, Buay Song Ah, Kiam Pa Ka Si, Chxx Chxx Bxx ". My first instinct was not to confront them and giving them a smie and a nod, I tried to walk away. Suddenly, one of them runs towards me and I think surely die, Chinese evening paper sure comes out with news of me as a victim. I ran as fast as I could and distinctly I heard him chasing and asking me to stop as he wanted to apologise on behalf of his friends. Sounding sincere, I slow down for him to catch up but for safety sake, kept a distance. He laughed and with heavy panting claimed it's time for him exercise more. As his other friends did not follow him, I went up to him and sees what he had to say. Gosh, what a fine specimen he was. He did apologise and conversations started. I found out that his friends came to console and support him for losing his girlfriend and he do not want any trouble with me or the authorities. One thing leads to another or maybe he had many beer, we had oral and fxxk sex in the bush. It was a rare and beautiful experience. After he left, I was happy to go home when suddenly, a man jump out of the bush. He was the one that shouted vulgarities at me just now and he said that he saw everything. Before I can sprint off, he told me that he wanted to be blown. Wow, 2 birds with 1 stone. Being bitchy, I oblidged and the experience with him is a far cry from the first Ah Beng. Really, I cried, not because of such a splendid night encounter but of him kept beating my head (if I accidently using my teeth-you knows what I mean) while me sucking him and hearing he kept saying, "Song Boh, Wa Lan Chio Tau Ki Boh, Kum, Kum Song Song, Chao Ah Kwa". Eventually He came with a full load in my mouth and left me squatting on the ground trying to gain my composture. That night, I saw many twinkle twinkle litter stars flying round my head. (Never go doctor for head check-out but I think I am okay or I will not write in this post.)

Yes, I did cried, not of pain, anger, hurt or being insulted but rather tears of Joy.

An experience I will like to encounter again without the knocking of my head with his knuckle.

Hey guys, any Ah Beng/Ah Seng experience you like to share. Sure like to know them better.

Tekongman

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You can see out of sudden many people running (or pretend to be) in that area starting this moment.

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Hi Shenderz, it is a story, right, but not fantasy. Never expect I can be rewarded by keeping healthy doing night jogging.

I think I am there at the right time and place. Count me lucky. :rolleyes: :whistle:

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B-grade Soft-pxxn HK-style Story. Wondering if the beng speaks cantonese or kek instead. I feel so LC after reading this :(

Moral of the story: Better learn to speak proper english so one could express himself during sex.

For example, lan chow toa ki = Big/Fat/Long Cock.

Song = Oh, that feels good or 'Kimochi' (in Jap)

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Can I have the name of this HK- style story? FYI, they speak Hokkien. To guest, please do not feel so LC (low class) reading this. It is my encounter with them. Is having sex and doing blowjob LC cos they speak in the language you do not comprehend?

Throw me few more Ah Bengs/Ah Sengs that express in cantonese, teochew, kek, malay, tamil, hindi, broken english etc etc and if they willing to have sex, why not?

There is no moral behind this story as you stated - Better learn to speak proper english so one could express himself during sex. Mind you, we are living in a multi-racial Singapore and do not impose your proper english, or i should say, your manner towards my post. Thank you.

Tekongman

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I asked tat cos in another thread, u talked abt being in a relationship with a married beng. I assume urs an open one?

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Dear shenderz, me open (if i did get your meaning right) , he- i do not know. But everytime he is with me, it creates a stir in my heart. I need to satisfy my needs too with no commitment.

Tekongman

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question... first u mentioned nobody follow him while he chasing u... next moment someone jump out from the bush?? how can u not hear there is people in the bush... no matter how discreet they move, you should be hearing it right???

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... the story has not ended. The two ah-beng started to fight and slash each other to win over him. The winner then carried him into the bush to xxxx him again. Then, suddenly more ah-bengs (one big gang) jumped out, after the gang xxxx, another Gang jumped out ~~~~~ not only he see stars, he see black hole. :whistle:

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Taking about ah beng/seng encounter, I must mention about the plumber who I have called recently to my house. When I opened my door, he was in his yellow polo and jeans plus carrying a tool box. I was wowed by his appeared. Can be considered good looking, tanned, meaty, messy hair and his killing smile (although stained tooth) .... When he was squatting down to repair the flushing system in my toilet, I was admiring his yellow (he likes yellow?) Byford underwear exposed from his low-cut jeans. On and off, I would go help him a bit and smell his body-odor .... he sprayed perfume! and he is a smoker! and also to catch some glimpses at his crotch. Well, too bad, he is as str8 as ruler.

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... the story has not ended. The two ah-beng started to fight and slash each other to win over him. The winner then carried him into the bush to xxxx him again. Then, suddenly more ah-bengs (one big gang) jumped out, after the gang xxxx, another Gang jumped out ~~~~~ not only he see stars, he see black hole. :whistle:

Wow that can be shot as xxx movie. The star is Tekongman and confirm he will be nominated best actor of Oscar. 

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Wow that can be shot as xxx movie. The star is Tekongman and confirm he will be nominated best actor of Oscar. 

Very funny  not best actor is best SLUT !!!!!!

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U the Tekongman?

U might as well be known as the Hong Kan Ah Lian.

I like it. Tekongman stop be a laughing crown. All your fantasy story like relationship with married man and encounter with ah beng posts have to put up a stop and wake up.

All readers please treat it as leisure to read it for killing time. These characters are frictional and does not exist in these story.

But I believe there are people whom are or were in relationship with married men now or past. However, there isn't any ah beng/ah seng so easily having sex with PLU, otherwise why they do not address people as chao ah kwa. Please respect these ah beng/ah seng, they are upright in their personality. Salute.

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Done with the named calling & cursing? I m proud to be who I m.

I post this tread hoping someone has similar experience to share in this forum n never have the intention to arouse amy discomfort as well as admiration/jeolusy among Plus. Such unnecessary attack is uncalled for n I believe that some plus who are tempted to put up a tread will have second thought.

For those who make such remarks, please restraint yourself and make this forum a platform for us to enjoy. Lastly, have u ever heard a saying: If you have nothing nice to say, please keep your mouth shut. Thank you.

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How very true. Come on Tekong men,we ppl here are nt 3 yrs old kid.on my previous post on how u seduce a married ah beng, u really think I believe u.I was trying be nice, but really , u hve to gt out of ur fantasy. It remind of fren of mine,he go ard telling ppl tht his late Bf left him like 3 to 4 million dollar and he working as a office office boy for like $ 2000 a mths and he compain abt his work all time.sad tht there alot delusional ppl ard they can't gt out of their fantasy.

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Call them Ah Beng or Ah Seng but they are also human i have to say because last year i have one came crying at my door step.A x redhill gangster..His wife kick him out of the house and he had no where to go so he came to me.. We did drink in my room and talk that is all.. When you reason with this people i believe things can happen but it will take a long time to develop the friendship.

I am commenting on Ah Beng or Ah Seng nothing else. Everyone needs respect that is all.

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Done with the named calling & cursing? I m proud to be who I m.

I post this tread hoping someone has similar experience to share in this forum n never have the intention to arouse amy discomfort as well as admiration/jeolusy among Plus. Such unnecessary attack is uncalled for n I believe that some plus who are tempted to put up a tread will have second thought.

For those who make such remarks, please restraint yourself and make this forum a platform for us to enjoy. Lastly, have u ever heard a saying: If you have nothing nice to say, please keep your mouth shut. Thank you.

Chey, why must we keep our mouth shut like you father owns this forum?

You got the right to write what you want to write, we got the right to judge and observe as what we like.

Don't want to be judged then it is you who should just keep your big mouth shut.

Please hor, if you want to be some 3rd 4th 5th best inline so hard up for the affection of some married gay, this is how much you will get by lowering your own standards.

Absolutely no class Ah Lian.

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Sorry if I offended anyone. I could write n counter-attack inregards to your tread (Ah Beng) n spiral more names calling, personal abuse and fuel the whole situation from like-minded plus. I won't put myself for such situation n as

I had mentioned earlier, sorry my post brings out such condemination. Thank you.

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Backside itchy Tekongman. Really no class on your Posts. Stop creating your reasons and unrealistics story. Wasting our comments and advise to your Posts. Disgrace to our Plu.

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*sigh*

and i THOUGHT the thread heading sounded exciting. Seems to be a war of words going on here. :)

Anyway, here's my short story.

This was about 4 to 5 years back when Tiong Bahru Plaza was the in-place to be for toilet cruising. I was then at level 6 toilet washing my hands a the sink. Luck was low and there was not much of pple around. And in came a young looking golden haired 20-sumthing yr old guy. He was wearing a air-con company t-shirt n black jeans. Guess he was working on a aircon installation nearby. To cut the story short, i least expected him to return my 'power look' amd we ended up at the last squatting cubicle together. Wat followed on was a disastrous act of me trying my best to perform a bj on him and goodness, his cock stank!!!!!!!! It was such a put off for me, especially i was expecting a bj favour in return. Let me state for a fact that i do noe the wonderful sexciting cock smell and one which smells like a bad fish. That was my unlucky day. I stopped halfway, went out and ended up rinsing my mouth terribly. And that is my unforgettable encounter of a 'Beng' kind...

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*sigh* and i THOUGHT the thread heading sounded exciting. Seems to be a war of words going on here. :) Anyway, here's my short story. This was about 4 to 5 years back when Tiong Bahru Plaza was the in-place to be for toilet cruising. I was then at level 6 toilet washing my hands a the sink. Luck was low and there was not much of pple around. And in came a young looking golden haired 20-sumthing yr old guy. He was wearing a air-con company t-shirt n black jeans. Guess he was working on a aircon installation nearby. To cut the story short, i least expected him to return my 'power look' amd we ended up at the last squatting cubicle together. Wat followed on was a disastrous act of me trying my best to perform a bj on him and goodness, his cock stank!!!!!!!! It was such a put off for me, especially i was expecting a bj favour in return. Let me state for a fact that i do noe the wonderful sexciting cock smell and one which smells like a bad fish. That was my unlucky day. I stopped halfway, went out and ended up rinsing my mouth terribly. And that is my unforgettable encounter of a 'Beng' kind...

I remember there is a Dental Clinic on the 6th floor and also one across the street. You should also get your teeth cleansed by the dentist.

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U the Tekongman?

U might as well be known as the Hong Kan Ah Lian.

How abt Jin Choo Lian (the lotus of people 's park plus chinatown)?

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Wow that can be shot as xxx movie. The star is Tekongman and confirm he will be nominated best actor of Oscar. 

Dun like that lah, guys.U never know one day Tekongman may win oscar for best actress, u know?

I cunt wait to hear her thank you speech which goes like this:

"O, Kan ne sai! (3 times) I navel thin I can win this hor!

Okay, okay, I want to thank my ka kees - Chin Seng, Beng Tee, Hock Keng, Cheng Meng for fxxking me so realistic that I

had an out-of-body experience while being filmed.

Oh, oh and my dear sisters(not real) - GeoK Choo, Mei Lian, Ling Ling, Leng Leng for teaching me how to moan like a bitch.

U know I m goody, goody & this is the 1st slutty role in movie and 1st time being gang-banged by so many toa lan chow, which means 'BIG COCK'

.U know I have to go to A&E many times to stop the bleeding but now it's all worth it.

I also want to thank my stylist Rabbit Gun for making me so beautiful & sexy tonite.

U know, I grew up in a small ulu and obit island in Singapore and I never expect to stand here to accept this award and meet so many stars, like Bad Pit, Lady ChaCha, Jennifar Lobang,....... O, o sorril, SIOW AH .... I luv u, Gauchi Baby and

WAH LAN, SONG AH, TOK KONG!!!!!

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I like it. Tekongman stop be a laughing crown. All your fantasy story like relationship with married man and encounter with ah beng posts have to put up a stop and wake up.

All readers please treat it as leisure to read it for killing time. These characters are frictional and does not exist in these story.

But I believe there are people whom are or were in relationship with married men now or past. However, there isn't any ah beng/ah seng so easily having sex with PLU, otherwise why they do not address people as chao ah kwa. Please respect these ah beng/ah seng, they are upright in their personality. Salute.

I m a bit worried. I hope Tekongman is not writing this in his ward at IMH. The thing is a bit delusional & 'weird'.

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      My partner loves Pink Dot. He’s much younger than me, and he goes every year. I go because he loves it so much, but I’ve been through all that, and I don’t need that kind of affirmation or public platform of support at my age. 
      But I’ve been very blessed, with the friends and family I have, and working in arts and entertainment all my life. The scene is so much more exposed and accepting. If I hadn’t, I shudder to think of what my life might have been like.
      Not all stories are happy ones. This message was received by the Pink Dot organising team in 2019. Translated, it reads: “My family is conservative, and my religion sees me as a sinner. On the surface I am happy, but for many decades I have been living in darkness, in an oppressed environment. I have never really dated in the community. I am now 50, and I don’t think there is any more hope, and I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel any more. But I still want to wish the best for all the lucky ones at Pink Dot.” Linus*,  a cisgender gay man in his early 60s
      I guess we all had inklings…you know, the dance of hormones, feelings you have as a teenager. So I went to the library in school and looked it up. 
      We had a great library. Lots of texts on sociology and bio, and there was a book called ‘Everything You Want To Know About Sex But Were Afraid To Ask’ (I think one of the very young teachers was heading up the library at the time). Once I identified what I was, internally, it was easy. I didn’t struggle with it, unlike some friends and classmates I knew.
      It was never an issue with my siblings. But my dad didn’t know—he passed away when I was in my 30s—and my mum doesn’t know. I don’t think she even knows what being gay is, and it wouldn’t be possible to explain to her now because she has dementia.
      I never thought of telling her when I was younger. My parents are so steeped in the older concept of what being gay is, she’d probably just assume that it’s someone who cross-dresses and wants to put on women’s clothes. It was never something I thought of attempting.
      When I got older, there were chats on the Internet, stuff that I guess would be the equivalent of Grindr or Tinder nowadays. There were saunas, where men went to have sex with other men. And there were bars and clubs like Inner Circle, Taboo, that you went to … but most of them don’t exist anymore. In any case, the club scene is very much geared towards young people. As you get older, it stops being so enticing. You look like a sad fish out of water.
      I think we were only conscious of the AIDS crisis because so much was happening in America. We read about it in the papers and in books, but I think we in Asia tended to think of HIV as a ‘Western’ disease. It was scary, but by the time we realised this was happening to us, there were already medical discoveries and organisations like Action for Aids (AFA), so there was greater awareness, and anyone sensible knew to take precautions.
      Still, I have some friends, some close ones, who’ve had it, or died from it. Sometimes you hear stories about someone succumbing to pneumonia, and they’re not that old, maybe in their 40s. And you think: could it have been HIV-related?
      It would be a nice victory if 377A was repealed, but I’m not holding my breath. The government will always say that the moral majority is conservative and not open to LGBTQ+ people. Personally, I don’t think there’s an ideal society; my friends and I never thought of going out there and demanding for solutions, because that’s not going to happen.
      In my opinion, what one should do is try and look for a way around things, find a personal solution, or you’ll just be hitting your head against the wall. I happen to know one of the couples who challenged 377A, and they told me that after two or three years of slugging it out in court, they looked at each other and asked if it was really worth it, because they ended up exactly where they started. Looking to the authorities for a solution is a tough sell.
      But I’m hopeful that things will change gradually. When I talk to generations that came after me, young couples in their 20s and 30s, everyone’s so comfortable with it; everyone’s got a token LGBTQ+ friend they’re so fond of. I’m optimistic that way.
      Edie Windsor (R) and her wife, Thea Spyer. Edie was the lead plaintiff in United States v Windsor, a seminal 2013 US case which granted same-sex married couples federal recognition for the first time. Cathy*, a cisgender lesbian woman in her 50s
      Work was lonely. I worked in the corporate world in my 20s and early 30s, and I never saw another gay person. You couldn’t talk about it. Stuff like what you did over the weekend, water-cooler chat … you can’t go into it, and I guess that’s why I always felt like a bit of an outsider. It was never hostile, but you just felt different, and conscious of having to hide in a way which other people didn’t.
      I began working in the charity sector and becoming involved in civil society in my 30s, and that was what changed things for me. Before that, for a long time, my plan was to migrate.
      When I was younger, I would imagine myself on a farm, enjoying the outdoors and seasons …  idealistic things like that. It was only after I got involved in civil society that I began to feel like I was making a difference, and everything changed; it was how I met my partner, too. But I honestly think I would’ve left if I hadn’t found that. 
      Civil society was an interesting place in the early ‘90s. The organisation I joined was a very accepting space. You felt comfortable bringing people and they would treat your partner as a friend, but no one asked about it, or spoke about it the way it is now, even there. You felt the acceptance, but you never introduced anyone as your partner. I didn’t do that until very late in life.
      Right now, I think it’s just a matter of time. I’ve bet with my friends that in 10 years’ time, we’ll be living in a very different society, and 377A will be history. I work with a lot of young people, and it gives me a lot of hope. We’re on the right side of time, and we’re moving towards acceptance. I don’t see how Singapore can keep still.
      Still, I’ve been incredibly lucky. Being a lesbian has been tough at points—perhaps not as much as for other people—but I think it compelled me to find my own way in the world, to make sense of my own life, because the tried-and-tested route just wasn’t available to me at all. Having kids, getting married … that’s never been on the cards. Even moving out, which I did at 22, was so radical at the time. 
      The other thing is the support of my family. My sisters and I are all gay, and we came out to our parents when we were in our early 20s. It was a journey they had to go through, and there were some very difficult years, but that was one of the privileges I’ve had: parents who really, really love me.
      Their friends still aren’t comfortable with it, and I guess that’s the difficulty with society as a whole not moving, even if [my parents] have as individuals. They had to give up some of their friendships, or not see their friends so often, because the comparisons their friends were making or asking about our lives … they just didn’t know how to deal with that, and it was very painful for them. They had to have smaller worlds so that we didn’t have to be in the closet.
      But a few weeks ago, around Mother’s Day, I had a Zoom call with my mum, and she said, this was my best decision. I was like, what was? 
      And she said, accepting all of you. That was the best decision I ever made in my life. It was the first time she’d said that.
       
       
       
       
       
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