Sylph Boy Posted October 15, 2017 Report Share Posted October 15, 2017 (edited) I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... I know I can be shameless but I have learnt my lesson and i am changing for him... : ( I am a Singaporean currently residing in the US Edited October 15, 2017 by Sylph Boy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted October 15, 2017 Report Share Posted October 15, 2017 who ask you so young but yet no shame work as a money boy? also, what is a prostate massage model?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted October 15, 2017 Report Share Posted October 15, 2017 45 minutes ago, Sylph Boy said: I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... I know I can be shameless but I have learnt my lesson and i am changing for him... : ( I am a Singaporean currently residing in the US Everyone has a past. If he minds your past then it is best you leave him, otherwise every time you guys quarrel and he will bring up your past. Go and find someone who is able to accept for who you are now. always_in_transit and JoeLchub 2 http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lesson time Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 8 hours ago, Sylph Boy said: I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... I know I can be shameless but I have learnt my lesson and i am changing for him... : ( I am a Singaporean currently residing in the US Some secret is best remain a secret. I hope you learn another lesson. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdanbeam Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 There goes your fat wallet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 1 hour ago, bigdanbeam said: There goes your fat wallet. bigdan, this is so direct! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CKW Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 10 hours ago, Sylph Boy said: I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... Chances are, he is acting all self-righteous and holier-than-thou. At 50+, it is very likely that his past is even more colourful than yours! It may be painful but you are better off without such an arrogant man. Take care & good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdanbeam Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 44 minutes ago, -Ignored- said: bigdan, this is so direct! No need to beat about the bush with flowery excuses la Facts are facts. Just whether you accept it or not Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Counting Stars Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 10 hours ago, Sylph Boy said: I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... I know I can be shameless but I have learnt my lesson and i am changing for him... : ( I am a Singaporean currently residing in the US Is your boyfriend a Westerner? If so he should be more open than a traditional Asian Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 This serves a very good lesson for those who want to prostitue themselves for quick easy cash. Don't live to regret. 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 1 hour ago, bigdanbeam said: No need to beat about the bush with flowery excuses la Facts are facts. Just whether you accept it or not lol! truth hurts, I agree Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 15 hours ago, Sylph Boy said: I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... I know I can be shameless but I have learnt my lesson and i am changing for him... : ( I am a Singaporean currently residing in the US Well. Just love yrself more from now on. Life has to go on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 is your current bf rich? if he mind your past, then find someone richer than him, think you have no problem doing that rght? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 11 minutes ago, snowball said: is your current bf rich? if he mind your past, then find someone richer than him, think you have no problem doing that rght? But he got problem keeping secret Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 Sometimes u don't 've a second chance to repent all your mistakes. Suck it up. 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rice60640 Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 10 hours ago, -Ignored- said: bigdan, this is so direct! It’s not just direct. It’s rude. ProMouth 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sappora Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 19 hours ago, GachiMuchi said: Everyone has a past. If he minds your past then it is best you leave him, otherwise every time you guys quarrel and he will bring up your past. Go and find someone who is able to accept for who you are now. agree, go find someone who is open heart & open mind enough to accept everything about you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koolkai Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 19 hours ago, Sylph Boy said: I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... I know I can be shameless but I have learnt my lesson and i am changing for him... : ( I am a Singaporean currently residing in the US Don't worry! I suggest you work hard in the US and not dependent on him. Financially independent is very important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rice60640 Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 (edited) We don’t know your life and we don’t know the circumstances that led you to do the things you do to make a living. In any case, I consider having a job doing whatever it may be, at least, classified as honest living; instead of stealing, cheating or robbing. I applaud you for being honest. It takes courage. You cannot control how he or others will react. But I think it takes courage to live your life honestly especially about your past. I would encourage you to continue to live honestly. Because when we lie, our pass will catch up with us; i.e, you run into a John who is your BF’s friends or whatever. It hurts now but time will pass and it will hurt less. Edited November 8, 2017 by Rice60640 yhtang and ProMouth 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 56 minutes ago, Rice60640 said: It’s not just direct. It’s rude. lol, sometimes, it is the way we typed, in real life, we are all very friendly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genitif Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 I guess we have to bear the consequences of our actions in the past. But if you are both financially independent, you should not need to be too affected by his change in attitude. At least you both can recognize the irreconcilable differences early and move on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Advisor Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 I don't know anything about Slyph Boy other than he seems to have acknowledged his sexuality at the age of 14 if not earlier, then worked at some point as a money boy and masseur, but is now studying overseas and trying to give himself a better tomorrow. People are more than our pasts. What matters now are the present and future. I imagine that Sylph Boy went through some unpleasant things as a teenager but is now trying to overcome those experiences. My recommendation is to forget that old guy, study hard, graduate land a good job, and enjoy a prosperous self-made life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted October 16, 2017 Report Share Posted October 16, 2017 Dalai Lama We cannot change the past, but we can reshape the future. Young people have the opportunity to create a happier, better future Rice60640 and ProMouth 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornbird Posted October 17, 2017 Report Share Posted October 17, 2017 Past is passed be wise - bringing up your past don’t always help the current or future / new relationship this holds true in BBR, BGR or GGR. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rice60640 Posted October 18, 2017 Report Share Posted October 18, 2017 On 10/16/2017 at 11:15 PM, -Ignored- said: lol, sometimes, it is the way we typed, in real life, we are all very friendly I guess. I guess I shouldn’t be making judgement but that one sentence assumed so much. padlock71 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abang Posted October 18, 2017 Report Share Posted October 18, 2017 Ts, Why did you "pecah-lobang" on your own will? Sometimes coming clean is NOT the best option. And in this case, why did you actually bring up this topic of your past endeavours? Really you should NEVER discuss this at all.. What happened to me in the past should have ZERO bearings to the future, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Tonychen Posted October 18, 2017 Report Share Posted October 18, 2017 Maybe enlighten us on how as A Singaporean you became a masseuse and prostrate masseuse and then became a money boy in Thailand and then found this elderly boyfriend and then moved to US. All these at a Very Young age. From your writing it seems like you are very proficient in English and have excellent grammar skills . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derryfawne Posted October 18, 2017 Report Share Posted October 18, 2017 (edited) I'm a firm believer that sometimes people react to things at a moment of notice though they don't mean it. I'd say let him digest for a while (maybe a day or two, but not much more than that). If he seriously mind your past even after you've reassured him, then maybe he's not the right person who can take you for who you are. Trust is important in a relationship. Edited October 18, 2017 by derryfawne “Do not take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” — Elbert Hubbard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylph Boy Posted October 23, 2017 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2017 (edited) i wish to thank all of you for the encouragement and support. Reason why i decided to post my story here was i needed to vent out and let things off my chest. i am ashamed to talk to anyone in person who is not gay about things that i had done i moved to the US when i was 10, did schools there. Three years ago, due to my promiscuity i frequented a prostate massage shop (sort of an underground place popular among gays) introduced to me by a friend. Business at the place was good and i was well liked by the shop owner, a woman in her 40s from thailand whom even has a cert for prostate massaging. She likes me because she strangely likes massaging men's prostates (probably a fetish) and i was the youngest patron there. A young boy's physique and hygiene is not as gross as older mens' and she liked serving me she said. One day, she asked me if i was willing to work for her as a prostate massage model. i was to be naked infront of everyone and have my prostate massage infront of everyone as a live demo. She told me this was a position she created and it might lead to increase customers as some "ang mors" have fetishes for asians especially twinks like me i accepted it as it was something i had never done before, it was thrilling, it was shameless, it was pure exhibitionism and i liked it. i even get paid for it so why not. i thought i could use the extra cash in colledge too. So as expected, business became even better after this and i had men trying to hook up with me, mainly asking me to be their pussyboy and trying to exploit me to be a sex slave and all sort of dirty stuff. admittedly, i did hook up with a few men some asking me to do porn which i dare not but one suggested me be a money boy as i can enjoy the sex and get paid for it. so thats how i got into "it". one day, i decided to stop. rough men, dangerous situations, fear of diseases...i had to stop. Although, it might also be shame catching up to me. So I did and finally i found my current guy. i know i am naive, stupid and shameless for telling all those to him but i wanted to have a relationship of honesty, to rid the past and move on but i do not blame him for not being able to accept things. Not alot out there can.. Edited October 23, 2017 by Sylph Boy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hmm Posted October 23, 2017 Report Share Posted October 23, 2017 On 18/10/2017 at 10:24 AM, abang said: Ts, Why did you "pecah-lobang" on your own will? Sometimes coming clean is NOT the best option. And in this case, why did you actually bring up this topic of your past endeavours? Really you should NEVER discuss this at all.. What happened to me in the past should have ZERO bearings to the future, right? You don't have to bring it up if you don't want to, but my opinion is that if the partner ASKS, you should be truthful , and explain everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted October 23, 2017 Report Share Posted October 23, 2017 (edited) I think the worse scenario is when the new bf finds out the inglorious past of ts through others eg. Friends who are clients of ts. Edited October 23, 2017 by fab 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted October 23, 2017 Report Share Posted October 23, 2017 This is my person take on the situation: You have done the deed, you just have to pay for the consequences, sooner or later. Honesty, in this case, is still the best policy: would you rather have him find out now, or later? Would you rather have him reveal his sentiments to you now, or later? If you think you did nothing wrong, but the other party thinks otherwise, would you rather work it out now, or later? Would you rather move on when you are still young now, or later? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eujiboo Posted October 23, 2017 Report Share Posted October 23, 2017 On 10/16/2017 at 2:17 AM, Sylph Boy said: I am young but my boyfriend is old, in his 50s+. I notice the change in his attitude towards me after I told him of my past experience working briefly as a money boy and a prostate massage model at a thai prostate massage parlour. i think he finds me dirty and promiscuous now... I know I can be shameless but I have learnt my lesson and i am changing for him... : ( I am a Singaporean currently residing in the US I don't see anything wrong with that you did in the past - as said, the past is already the past. If you've changed your ways then I see that you're going on the right path. Your partner however, if he minds your past, then he can jolly well find another boyfriend cause instead of supporting you, he's putting you down and that's not healthy in any relationship. On 10/16/2017 at 2:23 AM, Guest Guest said: who ask you so young but yet no shame work as a money boy? also, what is a prostate massage model?? Guest. Stay as a guest. We don't need someone so judgemental in this forum. "No shame work as money boy", what is so shameful about that. If you have nothing nice to say then zip it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enforcer Posted October 23, 2017 Report Share Posted October 23, 2017 There's no need for us to be held back by the past or how things have been so far. The important thing is what seeds we are sowing now for the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boyishfit22 Posted October 24, 2017 Report Share Posted October 24, 2017 If someone still holds you back for who are you in the past that person isnt worth your love.! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted October 24, 2017 Report Share Posted October 24, 2017 Not every Vivian Ward will meet Edward Lewis. 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest :-( Posted October 24, 2017 Report Share Posted October 24, 2017 I would mind too because my soul and body are pure, so my bf cannot be so dirty. He had one ex before who penetrated him but I am willing to accept since he's doing a lot to win my heart Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted October 24, 2017 Report Share Posted October 24, 2017 53 minutes ago, Guest :-( said: I would mind too because my soul and body are pure, so my bf cannot be so dirty. He had one ex before who penetrated him but I am willing to accept since he's doing a lot to win my heart Hehehe they way u described urself I LOLED.. "my soul and body is pure" Like some atas princess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eujiboo Posted October 24, 2017 Report Share Posted October 24, 2017 1 hour ago, Guest :-( said: I would mind too because my soul and body are pure, so my bf cannot be so dirty. He had one ex before who penetrated him but I am willing to accept since he's doing a lot to win my heart I would mind dating someone who thinks the way you do too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gfg Posted October 30, 2017 Report Share Posted October 30, 2017 On 10/24/2017 at 2:06 AM, Eujiboo said: I don't see anything wrong with that you did in the past - as said, the past is already the past. If you've changed your ways then I see that you're going on the right path. Your partner however, if he minds your past, then he can jolly well find another boyfriend cause instead of supporting you, he's putting you down and that's not healthy in any relationship. Guest. Stay as a guest. We don't need someone so judgemental in this forum. "No shame work as money boy", what is so shameful about that. If you have nothing nice to say then zip it. work as moneyboy still not wrong or shameful? cant you see? he is dirty and promiscuous and whorish. he might change now but for how long? a leopard cannot change its spot. it will not be long he will be exhibiting himself around and taking dicks in his ass like a champ again. i wouldnt want to patronize him with good words. this tread is a waste of time. i prefer somone who pure soul and body too haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rice60640 Posted October 30, 2017 Report Share Posted October 30, 2017 On 10/24/2017 at 11:05 PM, Guest :-( said: I would mind too because my soul and body are pure, so my bf cannot be so dirty. He had one ex before who penetrated him but I am willing to accept since he's doing a lot to win my heart I am waiting for the day when the role is reversed. You deserve all that Karma would throw at you and more! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted October 30, 2017 Report Share Posted October 30, 2017 Your past is the present ! Reap what you sow .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylph Boy Posted November 8, 2017 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2017 On 10/30/2017 at 2:40 PM, Guest Guest said: Your past is the present ! Reap what you sow .... i guess so... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 8, 2017 Report Share Posted November 8, 2017 Respect your courage. I disrespect whose who did wrong in the past. Hide in the tortoise shell and pretent nothing happened for the rest of their life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted November 8, 2017 Report Share Posted November 8, 2017 真正爱你的人，只会珍惜在乎你的现在，分享你的未来 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sorry Posted November 8, 2017 Report Share Posted November 8, 2017 The earlier you admit to your mistakes, the more time you would have to learn and grow from them. Edmond Mbiaka Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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