Guest ILMY Posted November 27, 2017 Report Share Posted November 27, 2017 I noticed in Singapore most gay relationships last longer (quite a good number of locals) compared to other countries. Here Locals being in a relationship for 5 to 10 years or more is common while in other country this is a rare case. Is Singaporean really good in handling relationship compared to others? There are few countries that i know that being in relationship (gay) for quite long time is like rare and being promiscuous is common. Can you guys share your insight? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted November 27, 2017 Report Share Posted November 27, 2017 Must be the Asian ValueTM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bla89 Posted November 27, 2017 Report Share Posted November 27, 2017 I wish too...hmmm..hardly get someone who will b truly or faithful.guess tat y of playing maybe excited Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted November 27, 2017 Report Share Posted November 27, 2017 Not really. A few years ago I visited a friend's dad who lived in a retired gay community and he and his partner have been together for over 30 years. They have other couple friends who were together just as long, if not longer. So, it comes down to the couple wanting to make it work, Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ctglobal Posted December 16, 2017 Report Share Posted December 16, 2017 Locals? Not so good in my experience... reasons I have discovered: 1) many dominated by family life or parental influence (closeted or not, mommy and daddy still calling the shots.. where is the room for a partner?), 2) careerism to the enth degree, 3) immaturity from not being able to become a mature adult and therefore difficult to handle proper relationship, 4) never. know. what. they. really. want. or say they do, then change their mind, 5) trade-up-man-ship (always someone better just one scroll of insta, tumblr, jackd away....), 6) bad at communicating how they feel/desire/want/need in a mature and assertive fashion (how to maintain an adult relationship then?) auscent 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silverguy Posted December 16, 2017 Report Share Posted December 16, 2017 Difficult to gauge the numbers since most couples who are together for a long time are no longer in the scene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trumpeter Posted December 16, 2017 Report Share Posted December 16, 2017 Think they are simple dont need to be soul mate just companion or just hanging on they dont want to be single again ... I got seen couple together for 10 years but not talking not doing anything together but just live together Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted December 16, 2017 Report Share Posted December 16, 2017 2 hours ago, trumpeter said: Think they are simple dont need to be soul mate just companion or just hanging on they dont want to be single again ... I got seen couple together for 10 years but not talking not doing anything together but just live together thats kinda sad isnt it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LTRpossibleforGay Posted July 22, 2018 Report Share Posted July 22, 2018 I recently hooked up with an attached gay who work as a teacher. He told me as long he don't fuck other guy, it's not considered unfaithful. He brought different guys to his house frequently. I really pity his bf but he commented his bf maybe playing behind his back too. Oh well, this is how sick and distrust gay circle is, despite I thought teacher should have a sense of integrity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyglobe Posted July 22, 2018 Report Share Posted July 22, 2018 On 11/26/2017 at 9:29 PM, Guest ILMY said: I noticed in Singapore most gay relationships last longer (quite a good number of locals) compared to other countries. Here Locals being in a relationship for 5 to 10 years or more is common while in other country this is a rare case. Is Singaporean really good in handling relationship compared to others? There are few countries that i know that being in relationship (gay) for quite long time is like rare and being promiscuous is common. Can you guys share your insight? is that a typing error? u mean 5 to 10 years or 5 to 10 months? I believe the later will be even more common Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted July 23, 2018 Report Share Posted July 23, 2018 Actually as far as I can see, many of the long term relationships are usually one Singaporean and a foreigner. Hardly both are Singaporeans. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted July 23, 2018 Report Share Posted July 23, 2018 On 12/17/2017 at 1:09 AM, mate69 said: thats kinda sad isnt it But to them its a good thing. To me whats the point? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted July 23, 2018 Report Share Posted July 23, 2018 1 hour ago, auscent said: But to them its a good thing. To me whats the point? Yeah I suppose to each his own Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deceptiveeyes.deceivingminds Posted July 23, 2018 Report Share Posted July 23, 2018 It's not one's nationality that determines whether a relationship lasts, makes or breaks. It's your personality, your beliefs and your needs and meeting the right person and making it works and lasts through mutual efforts, patience, tolerance and lots and lots of learning together and giving and taking. How and what a relationship is or defined only works for you as you defines it only for yourself and what you want and no one else, so it is of no relevance to you if someone's happily living an open relationship while you don't subscribe to the practice. There is no basis for anyone to build their relationship on how others or society see it. Live your life how you want it and fully and learn not to judge others. What they do is none of your concern and what you do is none of anyone's concern. Be happy, be yourself. riverrobles, mate69 and Randybluesg 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted October 26, 2018 Report Share Posted October 26, 2018 Is this how u manage it? it looks so gd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiloKilo Posted October 26, 2018 Report Share Posted October 26, 2018 I see a lot of LTR are open rs. Guess monogamous don't really exist in the gay community. Ps, I still believe in being faithful to one relationship ;p fab 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyglobe Posted October 26, 2018 Report Share Posted October 26, 2018 On 12/16/2017 at 10:23 PM, trumpeter said: Think they are simple dont need to be soul mate just companion or just hanging on they dont want to be single again ... I got seen couple together for 10 years but not talking not doing anything together but just live together Save cost perhaps? On 7/23/2018 at 12:12 AM, Guest LTRpossibleforGay said: I recently hooked up with an attached gay who work as a teacher. He told me as long he don't fuck other guy, it's not considered unfaithful. He brought different guys to his house frequently. I really pity his bf but he commented his bf maybe playing behind his back too. Oh well, this is how sick and distrust gay circle is, despite I thought teacher should have a sense of integrity. Unfortunately times have changed, nowadays there are so many teachers involve in sex scandal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted October 26, 2018 Report Share Posted October 26, 2018 On 11/26/2017 at 11:29 PM, Guest ILMY said: I noticed in Singapore most gay relationships last longer (quite a good number of locals) compared to other countries. Here Locals being in a relationship for 5 to 10 years or more is common while in other country this is a rare case. Is Singaporean really good in handling relationship compared to others? There are few countries that i know that being in relationship (gay) for quite long time is like rare and being promiscuous is common. Can you guys share your insight? I think that with the same credibility you could as well write: "I noticed in Singapore most gay relationships last shorter (quite a good number of locals) compared to other countries. Here Locals being in a relationship for 5 to 10 years or more is rare.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted October 26, 2018 Report Share Posted October 26, 2018 On 7/22/2018 at 11:12 AM, Guest LTRpossibleforGay said: I recently hooked up with an attached gay who work as a teacher. He told me as long he don't fuck other guy, it's not considered unfaithful. He brought different guys to his house frequently. I really pity his bf but he commented his bf maybe playing behind his back too. Oh well, this is how sick and distrust gay circle is, despite I thought teacher should have a sense of integrity. They are not to be pitied but you may deserve pity for not knowing enough about open relationships. I see it as sick and distrusting the idea that gay relationships should be "faithful", otherwise they last "integrity"... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auri Posted October 26, 2018 Report Share Posted October 26, 2018 9 hours ago, kiloKilo said: I see a lot of LTR are open rs. Guess monogamous don't really exist in the gay community. Ps, I still believe in being faithful to one relationship ;p I'm guessing you have not been in a long-term relationship? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest statistics Posted October 27, 2018 Report Share Posted October 27, 2018 On 11/27/2017 at 1:29 PM, Guest ILMY said: I noticed in Singapore most gay relationships last longer (quite a good number of locals) compared to other countries. Here Locals being in a relationship for 5 to 10 years or more is common while in other country this is a rare case. Is Singaporean really good in handling relationship compared to others? There are few countries that i know that being in relationship (gay) for quite long time is like rare and being promiscuous is common. Can you guys share your insight? personal assumption and facts based on statistical data is something different... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Yolo Posted October 27, 2018 Report Share Posted October 27, 2018 On 11/27/2017 at 1:29 PM, Guest ILMY said: I noticed in Singapore most gay relationships last longer (quite a good number of locals) compared to other countries. There are few countries that i know that being in relationship (gay) for quite long time is like rare and being promiscuous is common. In fact , the opposite is true that Singapore is one of those few countries where promiscuity is common among the gay community, particularly among the younger group of guys (18 to 25) On the other hand , gay relationships in Singapore, while the good ones still exist , it numbers in only a few in a largely conservative Singapore . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightsmith32 Posted October 27, 2018 Report Share Posted October 27, 2018 On 11/27/2017 at 2:45 PM, EasleyLim said: Must be the Asian ValueTM HAHAHAH. Nice one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kennethchung Posted May 27, 2019 Report Share Posted May 27, 2019 dont think so. they just block or ignore when not interested Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest disgusted Posted May 31, 2020 Report Share Posted May 31, 2020 SG gays are very shallow and apathetic. Even during covid, SG gays attend support sessions online just to find bf or just to look at guys (talk about being stalkerish). Nothing else matters. Some of them don't even talk sense when at speed dating. Some of them also turn racist/xenophobic/whatsoever when you look Chinese but can't speak Mandarin. Can hardly believe that SG guys are good in handling relationships. Yes, maybe a certain percentage of them, but these are those who don't fit the typical SG guy character. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted December 20, 2021 Report Share Posted December 20, 2021 On 10/26/2018 at 5:46 PM, lovehandle said: Is this how u manage it? it looks so gd Lol. Yeah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lyra Posted December 21, 2021 Report Share Posted December 21, 2021 Singaporean here. From my dating experience, comparing locals to those I had dated overseas or non-locals, I find Singaporeans are generally less mature - they'd sooner end the relationship rather than find ways to work through any issues they encounter. Non-locals or guys overseas tend to be more calm and patient in the presence of problems, and attempt to iron out their issues rather than finding ways out of the relationship. Perhaps gay guys with attractive pics are aplenty SG, combined with FOMO. This is what I think - The main factor I derive that guys living with their families (myself included) are less mature in relationships, is that they typically don't have their own place to have intimate or difficult conversations, so they get used to not talking about them, and dismissing those issues as impossible or unnecessary to-resolve. I once had a friend who said he would not have sex with his bf of 5 years. When I asked him why, he said that they had become so close, it began to feel gross, like incest with a family member. I never had a relationship last that long, but I'm curious to know if this is a common sentiment that develops among other gay couples. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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