Guest Clueless Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 I thought women had complex thinking and feeling but never do I expect a gay top has this problem. I met a top who is in his 40s at sauna. I wanted to develop our relationship further with him and he is quite ok with it and want to hang out together as sex buddy first which possibly can develop into ltr. he is strange or maybe uncomfortable in giving me his full details or even his real name etc. He don’t have WhatsApp, line etc. we only communicate via sms which I suspect he has a separate line. Usually he is very passive in messaging me. instead of msg me to ask and know more about me, he asked if I’m available for sex once in a blue moon. I met up with him but he don’t want to have sex, we just had chit chat session near his house. He is generous to pay for the coffee and food. Second time he msg me and we had sex together. He had a very long term relationship with his ex bf, but they had broken up because his ex bf was unfaithful. I suspect this had left a deep scar in his heart which he may not be too willing to accept a new guy in his heart. I’m frustrated because it seems he don’t care and bother to improve our relationship. Message him few times a day casually , either he don’t reply or reply with one liner. I seriously don’t know what he is thinking. I don’t know if he like me or not. If not, y does he willing to bj and top a guy whom he dislike? And his nonchalant reply and attitude really give me doubt in his commitment in having ltr with me. If Want to say he is using me as his sex partner, how come he can just change to meet me for meal or kopi despite we agreed to go hotel81? This is one top whom I don’t know what he wants but I do like him. How do I gain his trust? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anddomtake Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 He just looking for fun. Not a LTR. 12 minutes ago, Guest Clueless said: This is one top whom I don’t know what he wants but I do like him. How do I gain his trust? It not something you can do on your side. He just need to realise that he wants this to work out as much as you do. And if its taking a long time for him to realise that, just move on onto greener pastures. There are many fishes in the sea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Peanut Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 I think he is still in a relationship... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Peat Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 I think he is still in a relationship... which he is keeping u in the dark. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 He could be Married with a woman. Attached with a guy. In like or lust with u but not in love. U may Say goodbye Continue to use him for sex too but dont hope too much. 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 Its time to leave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azimuth Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 It always take two hands to clap. If one side is not responding, then it is time to move on. If you ain't happy with the way the relationship is moving, it's never gonna work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 Id wait a month at most to see if hes making initiatives. If not move on. A guy i once dated was exactly the same. Unresponsive. Outcome i left. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Check-out Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 Just don't unpack your luggage at the moment. You may need to move on with ease later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koolkai Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 He may not be totally interested in you, hence his non-enthusiastic behaviour. I think you have to move on if he continues to be as such Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyglobe Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 Most guys going sauna are only looking for sex and not relationship, is the wrong place to start with and most guys looking for sex in sauna only like to do it with you once and they would like to try someone new the next time, this is the reality of gay life and there is nothing much you can do except to accept it and move on with life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thorzguy Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am sorry to say - 90%: he wants you for sex only. The remaining 10% is meant for other stuff (like food and chat as you mentioned) Either you accept or move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest :-( Posted December 14, 2017 Report Share Posted December 14, 2017 You expect to form strong relationship foundation from a place like sauna? That's like men looking for gf in a brothel but failed to realize it's just a place to fuck around endlessly with a dark dick. An untamed top wants to screw unlimited holes rather than stuck with the same one, get it? This is not a monogamous relationship from other couples where they commit to each other Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimlo777 Posted December 14, 2017 Report Share Posted December 14, 2017 I'd focus my attention on someone else and lose him. Suck my tits and I'll lick your balls. Lick my arse and I'll suck your cock. All in sex is fair. The only bad thing about sex is that it doesn't last long enough. Read my blog - www.anasianjourney.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomcat Posted December 14, 2017 Report Share Posted December 14, 2017 seems like he is emotionally unavailable, which could mean he is attached or married. so he wants some action but somehow keep his reputation clean - yes, guys do that. esp those in sensitive jobs: pastors, teachers, etc. i don't buy the part about how he is scarred. guys may use that as an excuse and say things like, "my heart is closed", "i have been hurt badly" or even more drama: "i dont know how to love anymore, the pain is too great" but usually the moment they do see someone they like, they are suddenly willing to try. like eh, your pain suddenly disappear? can see this pattern alot with friends in your predicament who are being toyed, or are themselves toying with other guys. so my diagnosis (lol) is: 1. he is attache or married 2. he is just not that into you matric and Mastiff 1 1 🌑🌒🌓🌔🌕🌖🌗🌘🌑 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trumpeter Posted December 14, 2017 Report Share Posted December 14, 2017 Guess TS is just a fb period Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted December 14, 2017 Report Share Posted December 14, 2017 (edited) perhaps U are not his bf material, or he perfer to take thing slow Edited December 14, 2017 by snowball Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gc0805 Posted December 14, 2017 Report Share Posted December 14, 2017 bro, he's jus looking for sex. he's not interested in taking this any where cos he's attached! no bad thing if u can accept it. a good shag without all the emotional baggage. not bad at all! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 You need to move on. All the red flags are there from the beginning based on your story. The evasiveness, the lack of respect for you, your time... unless of course you feel you deserved to be treated in this way then it is your call. Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Clueless Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 7 minutes ago, doncoin said: You need to move on. All the red flags are there from the beginning based on your story. The evasiveness, the lack of respect for you, your time... unless of course you feel you deserved to be treated in this way then it is your call. I was really hoping to move him with sincerity over time so that he can start a relationship with me. He do treat me, care for me well sometimes which is why I really confuse what he is thinking. I did love him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 1 hour ago, Guest Clueless said: I was really hoping to move him with sincerity over time so that he can start a relationship with me. He do treat me, care for me well sometimes which is why I really confuse what he is thinking. I did love him. The only thing you've moved was his loins. .Not his heart. I treat everyone nice, and care for the people around, but it doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. mate69 1 Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomcat Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 9 hours ago, Guest Clueless said: I waited at the coffee shop around his place since 9pm. He told me he was in town at 10pm. Around 10.30pm, he told me we should meet another day. he sealed his own fate with that one. people who treat others like trash are trash, they are selfish and reckless. out with the garbage, you can do so much better in 2018. 1 hour ago, Boydsg said: It's the classical scenario where one party assumed too much or wanted more than what it is. I don't think saying you miss someone and inviting them back, and then at the last minute, cancelling with not even an excuse is anything like the classic scenario of what you mentioned. it is however classic trademarks of a dirtbag. my guess is he is a player, and/or married, bi. discreet guys who fit this profile are very sketch, hot and cold and soo many secrets. mate69 1 🌑🌒🌓🌔🌕🌖🌗🌘🌑 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 He loves u. But he loves himself more. 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Evil Monkey Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 16 hours ago, Guest Clueless said: His name is ***** early *0s, 176cm, who lives around BLK *** ******* ******. He told me he works in ******** and was from ******** previously, converted to singaporean. I'm not even sure if he is lying all the while. I'm not here to expose him like Ashry but I just hope whoever is dating him with the mentioned profile should be aware. This time round, my heart is really dead. TS. Wow, vicious of you to give out all his info. Clearly he had his reservations and I think you just proved he was right to keep you at a distance. If anybody is to give out names, addresses or personal history on these forums, it should always be accompanied by the poster's own details. This is accountability. Please don't hide behind anonymity and abuse this platform for your personal vendatta. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abang Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 Honestly when a guy does not respond to your messages (SMS, line, whatsapp) for more than 2 weeks, it is time to move on. He simply signals to you that he has others on his list and you are not mentioned! Always remember, you are special and should not subject yourself to such torments. 下一个男人就在眼前啊。 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Clueless Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 My intention was not to shame him, but hopefully can bring awareness to whoever could be unknowingly deceived by him. It's already so difficult to find ltr in our gay society. The profile I provided is not specific whereby it could uniquely identify the person and I'm not sure if the profile is real in the first place. If any1 is offended, I hope mod could help to censor the profile.. 9 hours ago, Boydsg said: Read this and it raised so many questions / red flags... It's the classical scenario where one party assumed too much or wanted more than what it is. Clueless... What u done (posting name, add etc) is outright wrong. Probably that's why u posted anonymously to begin with. My sympathy to Shawn (hope it's fake) 2 wrongs x= 1 right. 10 hours ago, auscent said: We understand pain of rejection. But u cant force him. Nor shame him. Ure better than that. 2 hours ago, Guest Evil Monkey said: TS. Wow, vicious of you to give out all his info. Clearly he had his reservations and I think you just proved he was right to keep you at a distance. If anybody is to give out names, addresses or personal history on these forums, it should always be accompanied by the poster's own details. This is accountability. Please don't hide behind anonymity and abuse this platform for your personal vendatta. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G_M Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 Dear Idiot TS, We mods don't condone the exposing of people's name and other sensitive details. And we certainly don't edit a guest post upon your request. I empathise that you are not able to get your way with your top and I feel sorry for him that you had tried to exposed him in our forum. You did yourself in. This post will be locked and you can go sulk at home. http://www.facebook.com/gachimuchi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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