Break up on Xmas night ....

[bryanta1098]

I met up a guy a few months ago. He is 25yo and I am 33yo this year.

Starting, i found that he is just an ordinary guy and we explored many things together as we both are pretty curious and new to this.

Sometimes, I felt that he is much more experience than me and always show some care to me, and made me fall into him.

After a month been so close together, i am starting trust and like him, and be closer from time to time. 

We have many conflicts and arguments during the times, as we are trying to find a way out. 

We became closer after an argument, and he said i shouldn't initiate breakup anymore.

 

Yesterday, we suppose to have our Xmas dinner, and we planned to meet afternoon after church.

After waited for whole afternoon, he said he wont be coming to see me anymore, as Pastor asked him to stop this rs. 

 

he always become temperamental when tired, and always pick an argument and told me. 

I thought his old disease is back again, and just followed his way. 

However I just realized it, seems real this time as he is blocking me. 

and he REALLY did it. 

it is very sad though. and it is even worst to be dumped on Xmas night. 

 

SIGH....

  

 

[TwoChnBTMs]

Past is over...tomorrow is a bright new day....放下。。。。

[geizershow]

Breaking up and moving on really isnt easy man.. I hate the feeling of hoping and hoping that this is just a dream and later one msg will come from the person saying hi.. or that they missed us

[tterrynick]

Get over it. Move on.

Broke up because of what Pastor said??? That means this relationship will not get anywhere, anyway.

[Guest Pagoda Lei]

This sounds like fairy tales 白蛇传。

You = 白素贞

Him = 许仙

Pastor = 法海

Church = 金山寺

You have any best friend to be 小青？

不入虎穴 焉得虎子。就来个“水漫金山寺”呗……把你夫君要回来。

[bryanta1098]

11 minutes ago, Guest Pagoda Lei said:

This sounds like fairy tales 白蛇传。

You = 白素贞

Him = 许仙

Pastor = 法海

Church = 金山寺

You have any best friend to be 小青？

不入虎穴 焉得虎子。就来个“水漫金山寺”呗……把你夫君要回来。

This is so funny haha.. thanks for that. I dun have 小青 lol.

By the way, I am Christian too, but not that religious type.

Since he is choosing Pastor, let him have a good time with them then.

We already had many conflict whenever back from church. Kinda of tiring for me. 

[Cernunnos]

Love that is easily faltered is not really love. He is probably not for you because his love for you is unstable and easily shaken.

[snowball]

落花有意，流水无情

Edited December 26, 2017 by snowball

[bigdanbeam]

Aiya. He simply found someone better / got sick of you. Simple as that

[Traveller789]

Next better one is coming for u, so is time for he to go.

[cutejack]

2 hours ago, bryanta1098 said:

I met up a guy a few months ago. He is 25yo and I am 33yo this year.

Starting, i found that he is just an ordinary guy and we explored many things together as we both are pretty curious and new to this.

Sometimes, I felt that he is much more experience than me and always show some care to me, and made me fall into him.

After a month been so close together, i am starting trust and like him, and be closer from time to time. 

We have many conflicts and arguments during the times, as we are trying to find a way out. 

We became closer after an argument, and he said i shouldn't initiate breakup anymore.

 

Yesterday, we suppose to have our Xmas dinner, and we planned to meet afternoon after church.

After waited for whole afternoon, he said he wont be coming to see me anymore, as Pastor asked him to stop this rs. 

 

he always become temperamental when tired, and always pick an argument and told me. 

I thought his old disease is back again, and just followed his way. 

However I just realized it, seems real this time as he is blocking me. 

and he REALLY did it. 

it is very sad though. and it is even worst to be dumped on Xmas night. 

 

SIGH....

  

 

Oredi pre plan la. No pastor will agree to this r/s. Move on. Many here who u can consider.  Love is everywhere. New year is coming dude.Woohooo..

[bryanta1098]

46 minutes ago, cutejack said:

Oredi pre plan la. No pastor will agree to this r/s. Move on. Many here who u can consider.  Love is everywhere. New year is coming dude.Woohooo..

Yes, maybe u r true. and there is no turning back already since i am blocked. i dun have any other contact of him. and that's it. 

it is just hurt by leading empty and lost feeling. 

[bryanta1098]

1 minute ago, Newbieee said:

I had sex with a pastor before,of course not in the church like scene in the porn,but he is really a married pastor...he feels sorry for his inherit sexual orientation,so he hooks up with guys secretly and does his best as a dad and husband at home and a pastor in church...yea,pastor can be wild on bed hahaha

Seriously? U meant pastor had fun with him? sigh..

Nowadays, religious leader hardly can be trusted as well.. My best friend also encountered a terrible situation as well in Australia. 

His wife is taken by a monk, and damage $200K AUD for divorcee fee.. I feel bad for him.

 

By the way, it is even saddening if it is true that he had fun with Pastor. 

I am still feeling okay if he is going for another man, would rather than a Pastor.

 

[bryanta1098]

well.. i just feel that it is not right for religious leader to have fun with this community. they should know behave well since it is well respected. 

How do u feel if your partner went for a pastor or a monk?

[cutejack]

Aiyah. pastors and all guys got cock with nerves running up n down la.wats new

 

[bryanta1098]

23 minutes ago, Newbieee said:

I myself already had sex with a pastor,so i think i'm no longer in a suitable position to oppose that the religious leaders shouldn't hook up...

I just can't reject guys that hold a respected status in the society

i am not referring to u, bro.. btw thanks for sharing. 

[Guest Guest]

This is one reason why I hate Christians. They prey on the gullibility and easily impressionable nature of youngsters, and abuse their positions as a supposed church "leader" to get the young ones do things according to THEIR own personal doctrines. This is just so wrong.....

[Cube3]

5 hours ago, bryanta1098 said:

This is so funny haha.. thanks for that. I dun have 小青 lol.

By the way, I am Christian too, but not that religious type.

Since he is choosing Pastor, let him have a good time with them then.

We already had many conflict whenever back from church. Kinda of tiring for me. 

 

Perhaps should try an LGBT-affirming church and date someone from there instead. Boycott non-inclusive churches!

[yhtang]

I feel that this relationship stemmed more out of curiosity in his part than his concern for you.

 

I think you deserve a better partner, and he was not the one for you. 

 

Love and honour yourself, let go of him because he is not deserving of your love and attention.  Seek someone else.

 

[benedict5856]

old no go, new no come.

But to be dumped on Xmas day..... the feelings confirmed damn sucks!

[bryanta1098]

4 minutes ago, benedict5856 said:

old no go, new no come.

But to be dumped on Xmas day..... the feelings confirmed damn sucks!

precisely, why dumped me on xmas night? as per plan, we should happily have steamboat dinner and laughing. i even want to go and fetch him. by looking my friends posted how happy for xmas dinner in fb, made me feel so sad. this year is the worst xmas i had .

[benedict5856]

Just now, bryanta1098 said:

precisely, why dumped me on xmas night? as per plan, we should happily have steamboat dinner and laughing. i even want to go and fetch him. by looking my friends posted how happy for xmas dinner in fb, made me feel so sad. this year is the worst xmas i had .

 

The feelings would not be that bad if u are the person who dump him yesterday.

Forget about this person, else Use yr friend hp, send him a long message, scolding him lor. Write 3-4 pages. Then find another man.

Basically he is childish. Block for what?! Else u go to his church and create havoc lor.

[bryanta1098]

4 minutes ago, benedict5856 said:

 

The feelings would not be that bad if u are the person who dump him yesterday.

Forget about this person, else Use yr friend hp, send him a long message, scolding him lor. Write 3-4 pages. Then find another man.

Basically he is childish. Block for what?! Else u go to his church and create havoc lor.

well, this is unorthodox method lol. i think gentleman dont do this sia, haha. 

 

[benedict5856]

Just now, bryanta1098 said:

well, this is unorthodox method lol. i think gentleman dont do this sia, haha. 

 

 

we not gentleman, we are ah gua. we are only gentle to man.

[bryanta1098]

3 minutes ago, benedict5856 said:

 

we not gentleman, we are ah gua. we are only gentle to man.

funny sia haha, so he is not a man?

[Guest Neh Neh]

13 hours ago, Guest Pagoda Lei said:

This sounds like fairy tales 白蛇传。

You = 白素贞

Him = 许仙

Pastor = 法海

Church = 金山寺

You have any best friend to be 小青？

不入虎穴 焉得虎子。就来个“水漫金山寺”呗……把你夫君要回来。

Yesterday out of sudden heavy rain pours, bryantan1098 you went to his church? 水漫金山寺？白蛇传 doesn’t have good ending. Forget and move on.

[bryanta1098]

Sigh, i cant forget him. this will be scar in my life i guess. 

[DrKartist]

1 hour ago, bryanta1098 said:

Sigh, i cant forget him. this will be scar in my life i guess. 

 

Learn to let go. You can't control someone else's actions. He has moved on. Cheer up. Look forward and be bold to meet up others. You might even get to know someone so much better. And, don't be too hard on yourself. Love yourself more. Cheers!

[Guest Sissyberutto]

I think you need the gospel choir to sing let it go,then mouth open big big to your ears,buried in the snow.

[bryanta1098]

5 hours ago, DrKartist said:

 

Learn to let go. You can't control someone else's actions. He has moved on. Cheer up. Look forward and be bold to meet up others. You might even get to know someone so much better. And, don't be too hard on yourself. Love yourself more. Cheers!

i saw there are a lot of common things in him. we share the same common interests, religion, sports and etc. even my neighbor said that we are alike, and everybody think he is my younger brother. 

so dun think can find someone like him.

i dun deny he is gentle and caring person. 

[LeanMature]

9 minutes ago, bryanta1098 said:

i saw there are a lot of common things in him. we share the same common interests, religion, sports and etc. even my neighbor said that we are alike, and everybody think he is my younger brother. 

so dun think can find someone like him.

i dun deny he is gentle and caring person. 

 

Both of you knew each other for a few months but already had many arguments. You would probably end up fighting or assault if this continue.  If you find it hard to breakup at this early stage, you might harbour thought of suicide of this continue. Thanks to your Lord. 

[GachiMuchi]

On ‎26‎/‎12‎/‎2017 at 10:42 AM, bryanta1098 said:

I met up a guy a few months ago. He is 25yo and I am 33yo this year.

Starting, i found that he is just an ordinary guy and we explored many things together as we both are pretty curious and new to this.

Sometimes, I felt that he is much more experience than me and always show some care to me, and made me fall into him.

After a month been so close together, i am starting trust and like him, and be closer from time to time. 

We have many conflicts and arguments during the times, as we are trying to find a way out. 

We became closer after an argument, and he said i shouldn't initiate breakup anymore.

 

Yesterday, we suppose to have our Xmas dinner, and we planned to meet afternoon after church.

After waited for whole afternoon, he said he wont be coming to see me anymore, as Pastor asked him to stop this rs. 

 

he always become temperamental when tired, and always pick an argument and told me. 

I thought his old disease is back again, and just followed his way. 

However I just realized it, seems real this time as he is blocking me. 

and he REALLY did it. 

it is very sad though. and it is even worst to be dumped on Xmas night. 

 

SIGH....

 

 

You are lucky he did not dump you on Valentines Day!
1. Young people can be fickle minded. They might not know what they want, but they certainly know what they don't want.

2. Get over it and move on. I am sure if you are well maintained, with good attitude, Not Emo, Not Sticky, etc. I am sure you will find one soon.

　

[bryanta1098]

well, both of us don't fighting physically or assault. Sometime we just have an argument after back from church. Maybe because we are confused and lost. 

That's why i don't really like to go church because it will make me more confused.

Btw i always like him and treat as my best buddy/partner although it has gone. 

Just sad to learn that he chose Pastor over me, and forget me over a night. 

Still in process to accept this. Thanks for the advise though.

[GachiMuchi]

28 minutes ago, bryanta1098 said:

well, both of us don't fighting physically or assault. Sometime we just have an argument after back from church. Maybe because we are confused and lost. 

That's why i don't really like to go church because it will make me more confused.

Btw i always like him and treat as my best buddy/partner although it has gone. 

Just sad to learn that he chose Pastor over me, and forget me over a night. 

Still in process to accept this. Thanks for the advise though.

 

You might want to find out why you are confuse after you come back from church. Confuse about what? Your sexuality or your faith or believe?

He chose the pastor? as in he have relationship with the pastor or with the church?

Are you trying to say that its a fight between your sexual orientation and religion or with another person; the pastor?

[bryanta1098]

Not sure, btw the thing just happened and I cant ask more thing also as I am being blocked. 

On top of that, i dun think it will change anything also now since he has determined to block me. 

So just learn to accept and get this over, and i am doing it now, and it is very pain.

I just sad to let this go as it is hard to find someone that has same interest, looks and similar build. 

And dunno why cant sustain even we have so much similarity. 

 

Btw everything is over now, and let this be a good times or a scare in my past.

 

 

[Guest Good]

Christmas is a gd day!jesus is gd.

[Ironrod]

Take this as a life lesson....like my friend always said "Younger guys are only good for fucks......"

 

I always thought my friend is just an asshole but I learned to understand his position.

 

Breaking up with you on X'mas only shows he put himself more important then you and your heart. Your feelings were never his consideration.

 

Remember this and move on, just be more careful whom you give your heart to in future.

[LeanMature]

19 hours ago, bryanta1098 said:

Not sure, btw the thing just happened and I cant ask more thing also as I am being blocked. 

On top of that, i dun think it will change anything also now since he has determined to block me. 

So just learn to accept and get this over, and i am doing it now, and it is very pain.

I just sad to let this go as it is hard to find someone that has same interest, looks and similar build. 

And dunno why cant sustain even we have so much similarity. 

 

Btw everything is over now, and let this be a good times or a scare in my past.

 

 

 

You are right. Everything was over.  Good times or bad times, don't harp on the past.  The best one is yet to come. 

 

[Xiaobai]

Anyone gg later

[Guest 72%dark]

TS, like the other commenters I feel bad for you and certainly agree that breaking up so suddenly (on Xmas day on top of it) and blocking you like that wasn’t a nice thing to do.

 

But what puzzles me about so many of the replies on this thread is, why are y’all so quick to crucify and condemn the other guy (no joke intended) and impute the worst possible motives and character? It’s as though y’all see only the worst in people and fail to consider the other side of the story as well. Without hearing from the other guy we will never really know what internal struggles he might be dealing with as well, what difficulties he might face.

 

I’m not saying that to excuse his behavior. Only that, even as we console TS and wish him the best in moving on from this encounter, we don’t have to go overboard and do so by painting the other guy as an absolute villain. We don’t need such a bleak view of humanity to heal and move on.

[bryanta1098]

9 hours ago, 72%dark said:

TS, like the other commenters I feel bad for you and certainly agree that breaking up so suddenly (on Xmas day on top of it) and blocking you like that wasn’t a nice thing to do.

 

But what puzzles me about so many of the replies on this thread is, why are y’all so quick to crucify and condemn the other guy (no joke intended) and impute the worst possible motives and character? It’s as though y’all see only the worst in people and fail to consider the other side of the story as well. Without hearing from the other guy we will never really know what internal struggles he might be dealing with as well, what difficulties he might face.

 

I’m not saying that to excuse his behavior. Only that, even as we console TS and wish him the best in moving on from this encounter, we don’t have to go overboard and do so by painting the other guy as an absolute villain. We don’t need such a bleak view of humanity to heal and move on.

well, he has responded and we agreed to be brother instead. no more sex and just meet up as usual as friend. he is convinced by Pastor that try be a straight and finding girl. so he could not have fun with me anymore and he is also praying for me to find a gf.

I dunno what kind of nonsense is this? haha. however i respect and like him alot. so just follow his will.

btw pretty happy now and we will have our new year dinner tomorrow.

he is a good person, just easily being manipulated. maybe still young. lol

 

[Guest Marcus Chew]

After all these well written commenter trying to figure out your pain.It ended up that you are actually using Christmas Day as a topic to mark and gain your attention.Conincidence

[Guest Wei]

ya and you can sing last Christmas and wrote more for the next Christmas.sins

[bryanta1098]

5 hours ago, Guest Better than ur new bf said:

Haha... now that you are single again may be you can consider me as your new bf. After reading all the comments you write above I feel a connection with you. I promise I will be a better bf than that guy.... I am nit religious so no one is going to ask me to become straight!

want to try? 

I am 26 so older than him and more mature too. I am 178 cm and 65kg. Some say I look like the young chow yun Fatt but frankly I think I have a nicer smile.

if we can be an item together, may be we can celebrate NY together.

i am so excited!

hi chow yun fatt, u r asking, yet u dun have any acct. doesnt seems real lol. 

[Guest Topper]

U mentioned no more sex?

 

If you had fucked him before then u should be happy at least u ate him before he ditched u for god. 

 

Gay is gay he won't be straight, the most married n start cruising for boys at toilets and swimming pools.

[LeanMature]

8 hours ago, bryanta1098 said:

well, he has responded and we agreed to be brother instead. no more sex and just meet up as usual as friend. he is convinced by Pastor that try be a straight and finding girl. so he could not have fun with me anymore and he is also praying for me to find a gf.

I dunno what kind of nonsense is this? haha. however i respect and like him alot. so just follow his will.

btw pretty happy now and we will have our new year dinner tomorrow.

he is a good person, just easily being manipulated. maybe still young. lol

 

 

No romance, at least have bromance.  Not bad to start off 2018.   

[barocco80]

On 26/12/2017 at 11:04 AM, Guest Pagoda Lei said:

This sounds like fairy tales 白蛇传。

You = 白素贞

Him = 许仙

Pastor = 法海

Church = 金山寺

You have any best friend to be 小青？

不入虎穴 焉得虎子。就来个“水漫金山寺”呗……把你夫君要回来。

hahaha... watched White Snake Mama lately? LOL

[bryanta1098]

2 hours ago, LeanMature said:

 

No romance, at least have bromance.  Not bad to start off 2018.   

yea, thats what i thought too. let him decide the things since i like him. just cant afford to lose him haha. 

brother is not bad haha.

in fit of anger, i have stop funding 10% anymore. i gain nothing after given 10 years, sigh. time to save money. 

 

[bryanta1098]

after a new year dinner, we go our own way. i thought we can still continue as a brother, however i was wrong. just realise broken relationship couldnt be amended. 

this starting  year looks tough for me :(. 

i cant do anything much. As the more i did, it made me look more pathetic and shameless. i hope wont see him anymore in my life, as i dun wish to recall this nightmare and insult. -Amen

 

[bryanta1098]

I received some feedback from members here that I am still with him.

Actually I am no longer with him, and he has dumped for good. He has left with Pastor. 

For the last message that he is very angry about saying him with Pastor, and he said it was not true. 

So he said he will block me again since he is upset.

Do you think I really did wrong? 

I am so confused, and i just want to be with him as anything. why is it so hard?

He made me really confused, and I became lost..