Guest anonymous123 Posted January 12, 2018 Report Share Posted January 12, 2018 I knew a guy for a year now. Ever since the first weekend we met, we have been texting each other on a daily basis. We will meet every weekend for meals and movies. I didn't know he was bisexual. He didn't know I am bicurious until a couple of months back when I confessed my feeling to him. He said he likes our interaction now and would like to keep it that way because he doesn't like me to the extend to date. He is attached all the while we are friends. Yesterday we had sex after a few drinks. He made it clear before having sex it's only biological needs and means nothing and I agreed to not hold it against him in the future. I like him a lot and wanted to be together badly. I tried cutting him off once but it was heart-breaking. I resume our relationship after one phone call from him. What should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted January 12, 2018 Report Share Posted January 12, 2018 Just fulfill yr biological needs la. What else u wanna do.or want? Better than nothing Who top who btw? Just curious bcoz im a curious guy. fourth 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fourth Posted January 12, 2018 Report Share Posted January 12, 2018 1 hour ago, Guest anonymous123 said: I knew a guy for a year now. Ever since the first weekend we met, we have been texting each other on a daily basis. We will meet every weekend for meals and movies. I didn't know he was bisexual. He didn't know I am bicurious until a couple of months back when I confessed my feeling to him. He said he likes our interaction now and would like to keep it that way because he doesn't like me to the extend to date. He is attached all the while we are friends. Yesterday we had sex after a few drinks. He made it clear before having sex it's only biological needs and means nothing and I agreed to not hold it against him in the future. I like him a lot and wanted to be together badly. I tried cutting him off once but it was heart-breaking. I resume our relationship after one phone call from him. What should I do? breaking away is probably the most difficult thing to do. looks like it's spiraling into an abyss and there's no way you can stop it :< apologies before hand first, cuz what you'll read next is basically a breakdown of what i think, which could be seen as judging. but whatever la, it's my 2 cents and i hope it'll be of help: 1. he likes you obviously. 2. he is in total control of the relationship. 3. he wants both his bf / gf and you at the same time, because he likes you (refer to point 1), a lot. 4. he probably likes you more than his bf / gf because: a. there's no baggage since he stated it clearly in the beginning and b. he finally bedded you. 5. reiteration of point 2: he is in TOTAL control of the relationship. this is downright cruel just because he knows he has control over you and that if it's anyone who would die for him, it's probably you. it MAY be because he doesn't want to hurt you hence he clarified that he only wishes to maintain as friends, but how i see it is, he doesn't want to lose his status quo wrt his existing relationship with his 正宫 and being greedy he doesn't want to lose you too. Well... it could also be because he likes you just that he's not saying it for fear of complications, and this is where both you and him are at RIGHT now, or rather, the beginning of it. what's going to happen is: 1. it'll end up him cutting off everything with you for the sake of keeping his main relationship and 2. you losing your sanity and with your heart in pieces. what i'm going to suggest is: 1. be brave, and see this wayward relationship through the end. get it over and done with, and it may be a few months to even years. heck, it took me 10 years. or, you could 2. learn mindfulness meditation. it will do you wonders, and it'll save you from massive heartache and disappointment. if you do and learn it right, it'll help you recover and move on faster. the above 2 are the only possible options. yes, you always have a choice, but i don't think breaking away helps. people come together regardless of reason and regardless if it's good or bad. if you are into the notion of past lives, it's probably not the first (nor the last) time you guys have met and something happened. it almost always is a continuation and hence that's why i think cold turkey isn't going to help. you just have to see to the finish of this. be brave! -1982- and nonsense 2 +65 9090 four four nine six (WA), fourthandthird (Line) Tiong Bahru market vicinity $80 / hr - tui na + minor fixing + bone setting (if necessary) $35 (approx 15 mins + -) - 抓根 Zhua Gen ($5 bundling discount applies when not done stand-alone) $50 flat rate - treatment of lower back / disc herniation issues. Add $10 for additional area. Gua sha - $15 $36 bonesetting-and-go (5 - 10 mins) Daily 10am to 10pm last appt but please text in advance. Special early / ultra late appts are possible, just book in advance. Please keep your mask on 😃 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted January 12, 2018 Report Share Posted January 12, 2018 Go sauna to fulfil your urge. Play safe ~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted January 12, 2018 Report Share Posted January 12, 2018 he already make it clear since the day both met, whoever cross the line is the loser, if you want to contiue this game, obey the rules Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted January 12, 2018 Report Share Posted January 12, 2018 Whats the difference between bisexual n bicurious? 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Duo Posted January 17, 2018 Report Share Posted January 17, 2018 On 1/13/2018 at 12:03 AM, fab said: Whats the difference between bisexual n bicurious? From so much on line, looks like bisexual is top, bicurious bottom. Guess it's just bad English. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-1982- Posted January 18, 2018 Report Share Posted January 18, 2018 Just my 2 cents to chip in: Just be careful with your heart. You know from the start what you're getting yourself into and the more you try to avoid it, the more you yearn for him. Go mingle with others in the community. Keep yourself occupied with whatever that interests you, apart from him that is. If you guys want it to be an 'FB' kinda way, it's entirely up to you... It will hurt if he says, 'That's it and goodbye' but make sure you're not gonna go all cray cray and think 'Life is not worth living'. Just be prepared like what member 'fourth' suggested and said ok love.. “We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.” -Virginia Satir Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest bonfire Posted January 19, 2018 Report Share Posted January 19, 2018 Don't give in to his needs. He can always find others to fulfill his "biological needs". Even if you do, he would get bored of you someday and find someone else. Worse still, he might be nice to you just to have fun with you. Just steer clear from him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gymfan32 Posted January 19, 2018 Report Share Posted January 19, 2018 It really depends on what you want. It's quite obvious that you want to be in a relationship but he just want fun. It may be better to leave him early before you find yourself too attached to him over the long term. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted January 19, 2018 Report Share Posted January 19, 2018 再踏前，或许，你将会跌入山崖，但如果你忍痛放下往回走， 也许你会意外的发现惊喜，背后原来是绿油油的草地和美景， 人生道路原本就是充满无数挑战期待的未知，如果一味钻入死胡同， 就注定了迷失的道路，不知所措时，不妨暂时停止毫无意义的游戏， 让心情放个假，思绪才会真正清楚地看到知道自己的坚持是否值得期待， 加油吧，明天的太阳依然会升起 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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