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Be selective on the escort as well ... if they are not professional, then it can still be a bad experience  (and you have to pay for it)

 

if never had anything at all with a guy ... go for the massage with happy ending first, see from there.

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6 hours ago, Ben S said:

Be selective on the escort as well ... if they are not professional, then it can still be a bad experience  (and you have to pay for it)

 

if never had anything at all with a guy ... go for the massage with happy ending first, see from there.

Sorry for my ignorance but happy ending = ? (j/o?)

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Hi all, 

 

I am 22 year old this year and never have bf or gf before that why still a virgin too. I feel like I m a bit into bottom but still want a gf for simple relationships. But never try it before.

 

Mostly I was wanting about of cuddling and loving with a guy but rarely want sexual intimacy with a guy. Want bf who can comfort me. And then thinking about of giving my virginity to The one Who I really love and looking for the one who worth for it too. But I don't know it that right or not as my feelings was very confusing and dare not to involve in any relationship with same sex as my family and society are very conservative. So I have to be very discreet.

 

Sometimes I just want to have a simple relationship with opposite gender. So that can make feel secure about my future. And confusing with my sexual orientation.

Pls share your view and give some valuable advice to me as I take thing seriously.

 

Thx for ur valuable advice.

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6 minutes ago, -Ignored- said:

do we need to be explicit?

 

Is John K very young?

 

I realised that most younger gen need to be fed, everything has to be explicitly told to them

 

Yep 22 160 62

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Do you know what you want? Right now I think it's most important for you to go through some serious contemplation/self-thought. Who are you? Where are you at this stage of your life? Are you ready for a relationship? And what kind of relationship? What are you looking for in a partner? What are you looking to get out of a relationship? Once you have some basics/values settled, you will be ready to put yourself out there, with your values/beliefs guiding you in making your decisions. What you believe in may change, but there is nothing wrong with trying to be aware, informed, and prepared.

 

There will be many people who will try to influence/mould you into someone else but right now you need to have the strength to stay away and think about what really is best for you/what you truly need/want. You also need to be able to distinguish facts and attempts at lying to/using you. 

 

You're 22. not 52. Calm down. There are plenty of virgins aged 22, really. 

 

Once you know what you want, perhaps you can start meeting new people (eg.  volunteering, hobbies, etc.). But please be careful how you do it. Avoid apps like Grindr if you're looking for anything serious. They're used for hookups, really. To try to deny that would be disingenuous. 

 

You mentioned that you don't know if you're straight or gay. Or bi. Try finding out. Maybe hanging around with people might help. You also mentioned your conservative family. Ponder on what you're gonna do about that. Do you think a resolution be reached? Could your parents accept you one day? You need to realise that eventually, you are living for yourself (it's not as selfish as it sounds, what I mean is that at the end of the day, it's your life. But try not to be a jerk.) and you need to do what's best for yourself.

 

 

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11 minutes ago, Guest IT22 said:

Do you know what you want? Right now I think it's most important for you to go through some serious contemplation/self-thought. Who are you? Where are you at this stage of your life? Are you ready for a relationship? And what kind of relationship? What are you looking for in a partner? What are you looking to get out of a relationship? Once you have some basics/values settled, you will be ready to put yourself out there, with your values/beliefs guiding you in making your decisions. What you believe in may change, but there is nothing wrong with trying to be aware, informed, and prepared.

 

There will be many people who will try to influence/mould you into someone else but right now you need to have the strength to stay away and think about what really is best for you/what you truly need/want. You also need to be able to distinguish facts and attempts at lying to/using you. 

 

You're 22. not 52. Calm down. There are plenty of virgins aged 22, really. 

 

Once you know what you want, perhaps you can start meeting new people (eg.  volunteering, hobbies, etc.). But please be careful how you do it. Avoid apps like Grindr if you're looking for anything serious. They're used for hookups, really. To try to deny that would be disingenuous. 

 

You mentioned that you don't know if you're straight or gay. Or bi. Try finding out. Maybe hanging around with people might help. You also mentioned your conservative family. Ponder on what you're gonna do about that. Do you think a resolution be reached? Could your parents accept you one day? You need to realise that eventually, you are living for yourself (it's not as selfish as it sounds, what I mean is that at the end of the day, it's your life. But try not to be a jerk.) and you need to do what's best for yourself.

 

 

Really appreciate for ur insightful comments 

It make clear enough to think about.:D

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It's just sex... not rocket science

 

I love my boyfriend and both of us are not into anal sex, 3years and counting

 

Why are you complicating yourself?

How could you do that 

no sex within 3 yr ? Huh

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How could you do that no sex within 3 yr ? Huh

 

He didn't say no sex. He said no anal sex (ass fucking). I guess they only do hugging, kissing, and oral sex, and maybe cock between the legs but not inside the ass.

 

As for you, I agree with they guy who posted above, and think you should think about what you really like and how you will deal with things like pressure from family.

 

No need to be in a rush. Don't do things you might regret later. Think about what kind of sex you truly enjoy and what kind of long-term relationships you want in life.

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Physical wise, read up on various STI and determine for yourself if that individual is worth the risk.

Money wise, pay S$500 plus for a Comprehensive STI Test in case you are already down with Herpes Type One, gonorrhoea  and others.

Other part wise, just keep in mind being "Not Straight" does not mean you are obliged to have sex with any person that comes your way.

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i m still a virgin, but recently encounter a money boi who i like a lot based frm pics, shld i engage w him to try his services n lose my virginity? pls advise, r they safe n is it worth? 

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6 hours ago, Guest err said:

i m still a virgin, but recently encounter a money boi who i like a lot based frm pics, shld i engage w him to try his services n lose my virginity? pls advise, r they safe n is it worth? 

Dude, how stupid or desperate r u? 

 

Honesty, if u r virgin, post here n I bet you peanuts to dollars that many members here will reply. There are just so many "eager" people here but whether they are good looking enough or not, you be the judge. 

 

Anyway, good luck.

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22 minutes ago, fab said:

No.

 

Unless u r 90 now.

 

 

Probably yes.

Unless u r 90 now.  (a little late...)

 

IT MAKES SENSE to lose your virginity to someone you like  (for money or not)

YOU SHOULD NOT lose your virginity to someone you don't like. 

 

Furthermore, you should not have sex with someone you don't like.  There is no point in it,  unless your profession is money boy.

 

To "lose your virginity" has a negative connotation.  Better see it as "gain the state beyond virginity".

 

 

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Virginity is overrated. Don't put a value on yourself. If you want to lose it to him, go right ahead.

 

In 20 years you'll recall this episode as the first time you had sex, but it probably didn't alter your life paths much, or at all.

 

Being a virgin or someone who isn't doesn't and shouldn't matter.

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imho, it's something sacred that only can be taken by your soulmate. imagine you feel the blood leaks when the right one is inside you. that will bring you the the next level. it's not a lust anymore, but it's a moment when two becomes one sacred body.

 

please keep it for the right one only. and you will be glad that you bleed for him, not during some random earthly penetration.

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I lose my virginity to my bf :redface:

 

Now that I've experienced what a bottom feels, it is definitely overrated. Sore and feel like shitting only. Those bottoms must have high endurance ass :mellow:

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13 hours ago, Guest kian wee iec97 said:

imho, it's something sacred that only can be taken by your soulmate. imagine you feel the blood leaks when the right one is inside you. that will bring you the the next level. it's not a lust anymore, but it's a moment when two becomes one sacred body.

 

please keep it for the right one only. and you will be glad that you bleed for him, not during some random earthly penetration.

 

With your criterion, if it is time for your colonoscopy don't have it done until you find a gastroenterologist  who is your soulmate, because he will see your INSIDES like no one else can see them, not even your mother or your most intimate lover.   Also, if you ever need an operation like an appendectomy,  look around for a surgeon you can become one sacred body with, because he will have to open you up and work INSIDE YOU like no other person would.  

 

There are persons and institutions I have to bleed for them, because they bleed my bank account every month.

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If you get a good and kind-hearted money boy, the experience might be so good that you will fall in love with him and lose your sense of judgement. 

 

That's always a danger for people who set too much stock in their virginity.

 

If you get a bad money boy, you will always regret that your first fuck was an uninterested performance with no emotional satisfaction (and that's the best you can expect from a bad money boy.)

 

If you are waiting for Kwok Fu Shing or his twin brother to come and sweep you off your feet and straight to his fairy castle in Hong Kong, you will always remain a virgin.

 

Old and experienced but always ready for naughty fun! 

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Hi people reading this thread,

Basically, to the point, Im a pure virgin (to the extend i've never dated before), and strange enough i have this mentality that i should give my Virginity to my BF in the future.

and recently the hunger to open myself for BJs and even HJs are kinda overwhelming. So yup, i need help (Yes, im of legal age)

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Sex is part of us, not all of us.

Yet there is every likelihood of losing all of us due to STI and social repercussions.

Instead of diving head first into any sexual intercourse, you may care to self-reflect on what keeps you from engaging in it in the first place.

So big a world, so many people, 

knowing ourselves and understand where our limitations are,

may well be anyBODY's greatest accomplishment.

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1 hour ago, wilfgene said:

Sex is part of us, not all of us.

Yet there is every likelihood of losing all of us due to STI and social repercussions.

Instead of diving head first into sexual intercourse, you may care to self-reflect on what keeps you engaging in it in the first place.

So big a world, so many people, 

knowing ourselves and understand where our limitations are may be anybody's greatest accomplishment.

Thank you so much for the advice!! TBH i'l kinda thought thru it while waiting for the replies, its more like i dont feel comfortable to do IT as a casual thing. Hence restricting myself, but in anyways thank you!!

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I think it is great that you are saving yourself for that someone special for your very first time. School boy sex (BJ and HJ) are fine and should take care of your current sexual needs. However when you decide to venture to the next level, by all means do it with the guy who is your bf. 

Love. 

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4 hours ago, Unagi said:

Hi people reading this thread,

Basically, to the point, Im a pure virgin (to the extend i've never dated before), and strange enough i have this mentality that i should give my Virginity to my BF in the future.

and recently the hunger to open myself for BJs and even HJs are kinda overwhelming. So yup, i need help (Yes, im of legal age)

 

1 hour ago, Unagi said:

Thank you so much for the advice!! TBH i'l kinda thought thru it while waiting for the replies, its more like i dont feel comfortable to do IT as a casual thing. Hence restricting myself, but in anyways thank you!!

 

In the past, when young guy wants to have sex, they have to know where to cruise to get sex, and usually, those are hit and miss. Nowadays, if one wants to look for sex, just download an app and they can meet people they want. Although it can also be hit and miss, you can still score and have the sex you want. 

 

If you really looking for sex, I am very sure you will find it, but if you are looking for love, then that will be another thing altogether.

 

Many young people at your age, are looking to give their virginity to someone they love, but most at your age, don't know what IS Love.

Many young people has a naive idea what they think is love and many time, they give their body thinking that that is the ultimate sacrifice they can do for their "only love"; their current boyfriend, but time will eventually tell them that who they don't know how to handle a relationship, let alone know what is love.

They think that being possessive and controlling is showing love and they will also demand time and love from their partner, eventually they will have fights and arguments and eventually, the relationship will suffer a bad ending.

After a few more relationship of the same cycle of love, fights, break-off, etc. Some do eventually settle with someone, but some will continue those cycle and ends up being single and jaded.

 

So, how your love life ends up, only time will tell.

There is no hurry to offer your virginity (I presume is your ass) to anyone, anytime soon. but I am sure you will be receiving lots of PMs from horny people, since you openly announced that you are looking for BJ and HJ.

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On 7/9/2019 at 2:15 AM, Unagi said:

Thank you so much for the advice!! TBH i'l kinda thought thru it while waiting for the replies, its more like i dont feel comfortable to do IT as a casual thing. Hence restricting myself, but in anyways thank you!!

Since we are at it,

any idea how to shift the focus of this thread to "Why Sexual Intercourse"?

 

Me being long-winded,

warm-up,

extra exercise,

sexercise,

physio-theraphy,

1st and 15th day of the month,

holydays,

evil-warding ceremony,

unable to carry out gardening due to rain,

fill in the dead time between dinner and piss term,

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I was thinking of you when I did it,

desire to be desired,

last but not least,

sexual desire.

 

But no childhood trauma to compound on. 

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