GachiMuchi Posted January 2, 2018 Report Share Posted January 2, 2018 Top 12 Most Popular Posts Of 2017 Dear Straight People, Seeing as the start of a new year is always a good time for reflection, here is a recap of our 12 most popular posts of 2017 on Dear Straight People. From powerful opinions to inspiring interviews, here are 12 posts we produced this year that got a lot of people talking. 12. Songkran 12 Trailer: Giveaway Video The first entry on our list is none other than the recent promotional trailer we produced for gCircuit! With 2 VIP ALL ACCESS PASSES worth over $2,000 to Asia’s largest gay dance festival up for grabs, it probably shouldn’t come as a surprise that our promotional video for Songkran 12 was one of our most popular posts of 2017. You can still grab discounted tickets to SK12 here: http://www.gcircuit.com/ticketing.php 11. Spotlight On Chemsex In Asia Chemsex addiction is a mental health issue, NOT a moral issue! Taking up the 11th spot in our list is none other than our feature on the chemsex phenomenon in Asia. This collaboration with DJ Big Kid sought to address the growing issue of chemsex addiction throughout Asia in the hopes of raising awareness about this thorny issue. 10. An Open Letter To Those Bent On Destroying Pink Dot Coming in at number 10 with over 3,000 shares is this powerful letter by acclaimed Singaporean playwright Alfian Sa’at, who had some strong words for those who go out of their way to oppose Pink Dot SG. This note may have originally been written over a year ago but its message continues to remain relevant up till today. Read the powerful letter here: http://bit.ly/AlfianLetter 9. Out Of The Closet – Whyan Chen Shares His Story ”My mum went crazy. She cried a lot. It took her almost one year to get over it.’ The 9th most popular post of 2017 belongs to the story of Whyan Chen – starting from his humble beginnings in Taipei to working alongside Taiwanese pop diva Jolin Tsai. Read the full story here: http://bit.ly/WhyanChen 8. Out Of The Closet – Jono Kwan Shares His Story ‘A pack of them would forcibly force open my legs and smash what was down there and my tailbone with a metal pole.’ The 8th most popular post of 2017 is the story of how Jono Kwan went from being an outcast with no friends to becoming the confident young man you know today. Read the full story here: http://bit.ly/JonoKwan 7. Out Of The Closet – Theresa Goh Shares Her Story ‘At the end of everything, I want to be able to say that I have lived as truthfully and happily as I can’ The 50th feature of our Out Of The Closet series is none other than paralympic medalist and 2017 Pink Dot SG ambassador Theresa Goh – Singapore’s FIRST ‘out’ athlete! Read the full interview here: http://bit.ly/TheresaGoh Watch the full video on Facebook here. 6. Fitspiration Of The Week – Gerald Koh From Singapore For those of you whose New Year’s resolution is to get fit, here’s a story you should bookmark. The fitspirational story of how Gerald Koh managed to shed off his excess weight in just 8 months is our 6th most popular post of 2017 Read the full story here: http://bit.ly/FitspoGeraldKoh 5. Out Of The Closet: Jack Lim Shares His Story ‘Walking on the street, homeless for the first time, I whispered to myself that I will turn this around and build a successful life out of this.’ Kicking off the top 5 is yet again, another shirtless hunk, proving that sex really does sell! But there is a lot more to Jack Lim than his hunky physique. Outed against his will and forced to drop out of law school, the inspirational story of how Jack Lim beat the odds to become a Talent Business Partner in the world’s largest media agency was so powerful it was shared over 3,000 times on Facebook alone! Read the full story here: bit.ly/JackLim 4. Out Of The Closet: Sean Foo Shares His Story ‘My aim has always been to tell stories that broaden hearts and open minds.’ After single-handedly running Dear Straight People for over 2 years and interviewing over 50 queer individuals, the founder of Dear Straight People finally decided to come out publicly. With a reach of over 100,000 people and media coverage from publishers like Millennials Of Singapore and HornetNews, the personal coming out story of Sean Foobecame the 4th most popular post of 2017. Read the full story here: bit.ly/DSPSeanFoo 3. Taipei Pride Parade 2017 – First Look Coming in as our 3rd most popular post of 2017 is our inside look at what went down at the 15th Taipei Pride Parade! The first parade to be held since Taiwan’s top court ruled in favour of same-sex marriage, this was definitely one of the highlights of 2017. 2. Meet The Mother Of Two Gay Sons ”To parents of LGBT children, please choose love!’ This video may have been filmed in 2016, but that hasn’t stopped it from being our 2nd most popular post of 2017. This touching interview of a Singaporean mother of two gay sons has accumulated over 150,000 views across Facebook and YouTube to date! 1. Home – LGBT National Day Cover Of Kit Chan Song This shouldn’t come as a surprise for people who’ve followed Dear Straight People’s content closely. Our MOST popular post of 2017 is none other than our viral LGBT National Day cover of ‘Home’, that earned features on numerous media publications ranging from queer sites like Gay Star News to mainstream media such as Mothership.sgand MustShareNews. As we move on to the start of a brand new year, Dear Straight People would like to sincerely thank you for all of the love and support you’ve given us! Running this website has not been an easy task. But seeing the positive impact our content has had, particularly the heartwarming messages we’ve received from those still in the closet, has made everything worth it. We’ve got some incredibly exciting plans for 2018 that we cannot wait to share with you so like us on our Facebook page to keep up to date with the latest updates! Support Dear Straight People On Patreon Support Dear Straight People and our mission in telling stories that broaden hearts and open minds by joining us on Patreon! 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Guest I now pronounce u man&man Posted April 10, 2018 Report Share Posted April 10, 2018 https://dearstraightpeople.com/2018/04/09/gillyn-jolyn-story/ felt pretty pissed/sad that they were rejected by hotels and the only approved one set a restriction on what you should wear on your wedding day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zackling Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 why are u pissed..?? they're happily married.. that's it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 can i propose to change the title , to gLBT marriages or affairs? it is not even about straights, hence i didnt click on it until now (as i read q fast) the reason i like this article is cos about the couples, they appeared (on phy appearance) lady like w at least shoulder-length hair the way they stand/pose etc i saw some ladies, she pretend to carry a shoulder pouch in front of her chest (to cover her......) and wear bigger clock-face watches as well as carry a short crew cut Some yayapapaya claimed they have won when our F&B staff addresses them as "Sir" (there is no unprofessional term as addressing a male as uncle, even customers - caucasians addresses staff as sir/mr. in return) be proud of your body if u have a voluptuous breast or... the same applies for males (but of course if u r a cross dresser or something along that line, so b it, a trans, then u cannot claim u r a gay or les) u r fine to search or luv les, (just 1 is to be proud that he is a btm) but be proud of the body your parents gave to u it is unprofessional to make a service staff be confused in how to address u Celebrating their wedding in Singapore however, wasn’t quite as straight forward. Most of the hotels the couple approached turned them down. When one hotel finally accepted their request, they demanded that the couple not wear a gown during the ceremony. Of course we rejected that offer. HOW IS IT THE BRIDE IS GETTING MARRIED BUT IS NOT ALLOWED TO WEAR A GOWN ON HER BIG DAY?? It took some time. But eventually, they found a hotel that was happy to host them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 On 09/04/2018 at 6:55 AM, TwoChnBTMs said: https://dearstraightpeople.com/ Whats with your obsession with str8s?? Suck str8 married men and now thism what is there 2 discuss abt str8 people? Gossip queen! And what Dear Straight People? Like straight people will read a gay site. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sad Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 It’s really disgusting that it’s already 2018 and yet singapore is moving backwards compare to Taiwan, Australia, England & America. Look at Love Simon. Anyhow MDA give R21 even though there’s no sexual intercourse. When will singaporeans ever open their hearts to the LGBT? They can hate the LGBT all the way but they still need to know that LGBT exists in singapore Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 58 minutes ago, Guest Sad said: When will singaporeans ever open their hearts to the LGBT? They can hate the LGBT all the way but they still need to know that LGBT exists in singapore Good question! Until today, Singapore society still cannot accept GLBT. There are many reasons. Let alone be gay marriage. Gay marriage will not happen in the next 10-20 years. Believe it or not, Pink Dot is a pain the ass for Singapore Gov't. I can tell you, the Gov't is not very welcome this idea. Just like Nation party held in Sentosa. The event pissed the Gov't off so much, that it shut everything down. Remember? Now, how to create one step closer towards gay-harmony accepting society? 1. Can the straights tolerate gays/lesbians holding hands and kissing openly in the public? 2. Do black hair local gays dare to tell employers they are gay? 3. Do black hair local gays dare to show their intimacy photos in facebook? 4i. Is Singapore ready to organise a mini Pride Parade? 4ii. Can the Pink Dot organiser create mini-Pride Parade theme starting from Lau Pat Sat to Hong Lim Park? 5. Is Singapore ready to have a mini-Songkran with gays/lesbian wearing swimwear running around splashing water at people? 6. Can MINDEF accept 302 without charging them? 7. Is MDA able to let loose on gay films in local cinema? 8. Can Singapore Gov't be a model role to accept gays in CS? 9. Can the restaurants in Singapore have entirely gays and topless servers? The list goes on... Once we achieved all these, it certainly means Singaporeans are ready! If everything is no-no-no, then forget it! Singapore will forever not accepting GLBT. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 17 minutes ago, Guest Guest said: Good question! Until today, Singapore society still cannot accept GLBT. There are many reasons. Let alone be gay marriage. Gay marriage will not happen in the next 10-20 years. Believe it or not, Pink Dot is a pain the ass for Singapore Gov't. I can tell you, the Gov't is not very welcome this idea. Just like Nation party held in Sentosa. The event pissed the Gov't off so much, that it shut everything down. Remember? Now, how to create one step closer towards gay-harmony accepting society? 1. Can the straights tolerate gays/lesbians holding hands and kissing openly in the public? 2. Do black hair local gays dare to tell employers they are gay? 3. Do black hair local gays dare to show their intimacy photos in facebook? 4i. Is Singapore ready to organise a mini Pride Parade? 4ii. Can the Pink Dot organiser create mini-Pride Parade theme starting from Lau Pat Sat to Hong Lim Park? 5. Is Singapore ready to have a mini-Songkran with gays/lesbian wearing swimwear running around splashing water at people? 6. Can MINDEF accept 302 without charging them? 7. Is MDA able to let loose on gay films in local cinema? 8. Can Singapore Gov't be a model role to accept gays in CS? 9. Can the restaurants in Singapore have entirely gays and topless servers? The list goes on... Once we achieved all these, it certainly means Singaporeans are ready! If everything is no-no-no, then forget it! Singapore will forever not accepting GLBT. Was declaring 302 a chargable offence? Please lah...you think the opposition accept gays? Go and ask Workers Party, NSP and so on if they accept gays. Only SDP openly said they accept gays but they are anti anything govt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zackling Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 must all these trolls "Guest" .. stop being so defensive or go on the offensive.. must everything be political link..?? just be glad that u can & are able to watch "Dear Simon" . Rather than the govt banning the show right..? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lesbians rawr Posted April 11, 2018 Report Share Posted April 11, 2018 Wah they so man until take wedding photo in santorini purposely must show off the “hard mountain” instead of the “feminine” famous blue sea, which most people who take weddng peektures in santorini are known to be aiming for in their photos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gayleo Posted August 18, 2018 Report Share Posted August 18, 2018 Anyone read this article about a three way relationship on Dear Straight People? Quite an insightful read on how three way relationships work and very brave of Paul Ng to be so open about his relationship: https://dearstraightpeople.com/2018/08/13/out-of-the-closet-paul-ng/ To me it sounds like a more troublesome than normal relationships: Quote "In the beginning, James felt insecure, and that required me to be sensitive to the position I’ve put him in. It required me to let him know that my feelings for him hadn’t changed and won’t be changing just because Ian’s now in the picture. Ian felt out of place. So I had to constantly be cognisant of what was happening and sometimes invite Ian into our conversations. I also had to get James to understand the need for similar mindfulness. Fundamentally, the primary challenge is for all of us to see ourselves as one unit.For James and Ian, they are more than friends but perhaps less than lovers; so what are they? I don’t think it is necessary they have a defined role but it definitely requires more thought to see how we are all placed with each other in this relationship." Do y'all approve of his 3-way relationship and would you ever consider one? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted August 18, 2018 Report Share Posted August 18, 2018 Its not for the most of us Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted August 18, 2018 Report Share Posted August 18, 2018 55 minutes ago, Gayleo said: Anyone read this article about a three way relationship on Dear Straight People? Quite an insightful read on how three way relationships work and very brave of Paul Ng to be so open about his relationship: https://dearstraightpeople.com/2018/08/13/out-of-the-closet-paul-ng/ To me it sounds like a more troublesome than normal relationships: Do y'all approve of his 3-way relationship and would you ever consider one? is not up to us to approve or disapprove of his arrangement Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Glyph Posted August 18, 2018 Report Share Posted August 18, 2018 2 hours ago, Gayleo said: To me it sounds like a more troublesome than normal relationships: Almost sounds like you saying his relationship is abnormal. Not a very nice way to put things, imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted August 18, 2018 Report Share Posted August 18, 2018 (edited) 15 hours ago, Gayleo said: Anyone read this article about a three way relationship on Dear Straight People? Quite an insightful read on how three way relationships work and very brave of Paul Ng to be so open about his relationship: https://dearstraightpeople.com/2018/08/13/out-of-the-closet-paul-ng/ To me it sounds like a more troublesome than normal relationships: Do y'all approve of his 3-way relationship and would you ever consider one? Paul Ng started with a monogamous relationship that became open after a while. This openness allowed for a third person to join the two. I can see a potential problem with this three-way, and it is that it is possible for any of them to feel left out by the other two. This will never happen in a two-person relationship. But I cannot find anything else negative. This case is a good example that open relationships not necessarily degenerate into wild promiscuity, although the article does not go into the open sex lives of the three with others. One thing I am absolutely certain: a relationship like these three have is much, much better than NO relationship. . Edited August 18, 2018 by Steve5380 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomcat Posted August 29, 2018 Report Share Posted August 29, 2018 I have chanced upon this gentleman in Grindr and we did get to talking a little bit. All signs show that he is very clear and mindful, as well as level headed on what the throuple is, its definitions, limitations and boundaries I don't think there is anything wrong if the individuals can make it work, who are we to judge anyway? If they can make it work, I'd say that actually means they have found a dynamic that most gay men do not as such, gay men tend to click sexually first, and only later formalise their commitment with a relationship and as such our sexualities/attractions evolve as we grow so even the two that are not necessarily attracted to each other, might develop something in the future, never know. Wish all the best to them! Ironrod 1 Quote 🌑🌒🌓🌔🌕🌖🌗🌘🌑 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ironrod Posted August 29, 2018 Report Share Posted August 29, 2018 Everything about r/s is abt effort. Imagine 2 person has to put in so much effort to maintain a r/s - 3 person would be much harder. We are not talking abt 3somes whom fuck and go. R/s is a totally different level. It can work but takes tons of effort. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Huh Posted August 29, 2018 Report Share Posted August 29, 2018 In the olden days, the emperor has one empress and countless concubines. If the empress go heaven, one of the favoured concubines will be made empress. Is this possible in the gay world to have one main steady and multiple sub-steady ones? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sticka Posted August 29, 2018 Report Share Posted August 29, 2018 (edited) 👻 Edited February 7, 2020 by sticka Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sir_GM Posted August 30, 2018 Report Share Posted August 30, 2018 No. 2 is a qn ans https://dearstraightpeople.com/2018/08/21/qa-three-way-relationship/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted August 30, 2018 Report Share Posted August 30, 2018 16 hours ago, Guest Huh said: In the olden days, the emperor has one empress and countless concubines. If the empress go heaven, one of the favoured concubines will be made empress. Is this possible in the gay world to have one main steady and multiple sub-steady ones? I guess you could, if you are the Emperor... iamziz 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gayleo Posted August 30, 2018 Report Share Posted August 30, 2018 8 hours ago, sir_GM said: No. 2 is a qn ans https://dearstraightpeople.com/2018/08/21/qa-three-way-relationship/ Very insightful and well thought out answers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gayleo Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 Quote After a few topless shots inside, I was told to remove my underwear. I was startled by the instruction and hesitated as he did not mention that there would be nudity before. He repeated himself and beckoned me to hurry up. Being my first experience, I naïvely complied with his commands. Later when he took the liberty to apply oil on my body without my permission, I voiced out clearly that I felt very uncomfortable. But he brushed it off and tried to reassure me that it was all very ‘normal’. Over the course of the session, he behaved very unprofessionally. He made suggestive remarks, such as commenting on how ‘nice and big’ my chest was while oiling my pecs. He also made plenty of inappropriate physical contact, which included caressing my muscles, hugging me, kissing my shoulder, tickling my nipples, brushing against and ultimately even stroking my penis. It occurred in small incremental amounts, just enough at the start to make it seem like harmless insignificant “accidents” that could be dismissed, and he got bolder as time went by. His actions were also always very brief and quick, so I never had much time to react. The most I could do was pull away. Sometimes I froze. He would also quickly recover by moving on to doing something else and behaving as though nothing had happened. Anyone read this article by Dear Straight People about the model who was molested during a photo shoot? https://dearstraightpeople.com/2019/01/17/i-was-sexually-assaulted-during-a-photoshoot-by-a-sleazy-photographer/ Is this a common thing in the gay scene? I've always suspected that these kind of photo shoots involve some hanky panky. Anyone got stories? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 42 minutes ago, Gayleo said: Anyone read this article by Dear Straight People about the model who was molested during a photo shoot? https://dearstraightpeople.com/2019/01/17/i-was-sexually-assaulted-during-a-photoshoot-by-a-sleazy-photographer/ Is this a common thing in the gay scene? I've always suspected that these kind of photo shoots involve some hanky panky. Anyone got stories? I think its common leh ~those artistic videos also have such encounters one. Sex forever sells. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 I agree with Kimochi usu if u need to take a photo (some pregnant ladies took photos of themselves and the tummy, to me ie naked) by a studio/photographer, u will definitely pick one that is reputable if it is all along a non-nude photography , he should know clearly that he doesnt need to do anything beyond that, He is a Doctor and has a masters degree furthermore Not sure did he regret his choice of wanted to try initially but... He claimed he mentioned 4 times yet he didnt walk out , this is NOT acceptableDo not come crying after u wanna try initially yet regret due to uncomfortIf the photographer wanna take action/adventure shot, and he demanded the customer to jump out of windows and climb back again, will he do it????????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 I wonder how old is the model. Any primary boy would know it's unacceptable for another person to touch his kkj if he doesn't want it. superflawless 1 Quote 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 Silently feel good ~ Kimochi desho morphymonster 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 Reminds me of a story I heard about a girl who was approached by a guy to take model shoots of her. Apparently he wasn't that professional and he revealed he took photos of her as he had a fetish for her body type, and even asked her if he could sleep with her. (His definition was having no sex means not sleeping together.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan 28 Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 Big bicep but with a small child brain ....behaving just like a chick wearing sexy and in a room with a straight guy but hoping nothing much will happen at all superflawless 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 9 minutes ago, Dan 28 said: Big bicep but with a small child brain ....behaving just like a chick wearing sexy and in a room with a straight guy but hoping nothing much will happen at all Why do you have to blame the victim and victim shaming when you are not there to witness what happened. Why are there people who doubt the words of sexual assault victims ? So you saw what happened is it? The photographer already apologised and that is an admission of misbehaviour why do you have to twist things around to blame the person filing the complain? So , you think you are smarter and will not end up in dame predicament as the victim, good on you, but please dont blame someone if he seems more gullible than you, you might be a victim of gullibity one day and you need people of soft hearts to believe your story. Do you want.the tables turned on you then ? Your line about dressing sexy being in a room with straight guy sounds exactly like those who blame victims for being at the wrong place at the wrong time . We call this type of person, bigot and misogynistic. agree? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaze Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 18 minutes ago, Dan 28 said: Big bicep but with a small child brain ....behaving just like a chick wearing sexy and in a room with a straight guy but hoping nothing much will happen at all i wish to point out it is precisely comments like these that blames the victim only which results in fear of exposing such shameless perpetrator. no doubt his inability to protect himself or his rights is very lacking of him and that it should be pointed out and he should learn a lesson from this! I wish to pose a question to all the people who replied this until Dan 28 - does this justify the act of the perpetrator? why is it every time when a outrage of modesty happened, the victim have to be shamed. people who shamed the victim is like accomplice in the act! what we should, as a human, is to stand together with the victim not the perpetrator. sure the victim has done something to entice the perpetrator to act but that shaming can wait. the replies i've seen here is vastly disappointing.. to the point its cancerous.. must something only happen to you or your loved ones then you will be able to sympathise?? if so, i really pity you.. i seriously hope such things do not happen to your loved ones cuz u wont be able to say anything other than adding shame to them.. just want to make my stand clear - both have their wrongdoings but clearly the photographer is the one that is unforgivable! that's it.. dont want to comment further in this cancerous thread.. averageguy, Dreamaway and barocco80 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dreamaway Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 1 hour ago, kaze said: i wish to point out it is precisely comments like these that blames the victim only which results in fear of exposing such shameless perpetrator. no doubt his inability to protect himself or his rights is very lacking of him and that it should be pointed out and he should learn a lesson from this! I wish to pose a question to all the people who replied this until Dan 28 - does this justify the act of the perpetrator? why is it every time when a outrage of modesty happened, the victim have to be shamed. people who shamed the victim is like accomplice in the act! what we should, as a human, is to stand together with the victim not the perpetrator. sure the victim has done something to entice the perpetrator to act but that shaming can wait. the replies i've seen here is vastly disappointing.. to the point its cancerous.. must something only happen to you or your loved ones then you will be able to sympathise?? if so, i really pity you.. i seriously hope such things do not happen to your loved ones cuz u wont be able to say anything other than adding shame to them.. just want to make my stand clear - both have their wrongdoings but clearly the photographer is the one that is unforgivable! that's it.. dont want to comment further in this cancerous thread.. Well said. Totally agree with @kaze Regardless of whether the victim would have been wiser, we should not make the victim feel that it's his fault or we become like spectators cheering on the perpetrator. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Be smarter Posted January 19, 2019 Report Share Posted January 19, 2019 Happens in america nyc all the time. Gay photographers got two kind - dignified and the manipulative pervert. Know how to tell the two apart. Just need to read the remarks in their ig and facebook from the people who know them for a flavor or gauge of the photographer’s personality and character. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carpenter Posted January 20, 2019 Report Share Posted January 20, 2019 On 1/19/2019 at 11:39 AM, -Ignored- said: I agree with Kimochi usu if u need to take a photo (some pregnant ladies took photos of themselves and the tummy, to me ie naked) by a studio/photographer, u will definitely pick one that is reputable if it is all along a non-nude photography , he should know clearly that he doesnt need to do anything beyond that, He is a Doctor and has a masters degree furthermore Not sure did he regret his choice of wanted to try initially but... He claimed he mentioned 4 times yet he didnt walk out , this is NOT acceptableDo not come crying after u wanna try initially yet regret due to uncomfortIf the photographer wanna take action/adventure shot, and he demanded the customer to jump out of windows and climb back again, will he do it????????? You are really biased. If this photographer actually is a professional n make money off of this, the photographer should act like so. If he mention beforehand that it'll only be a topless shot with no waist down nudity then he should upheld it. A professional will actually make a written statement/contract in which both client/model n photographer must abide. If the model or photographer wants to add something different than stated in the paper, then they should both go over the contract again before the photoshoot date or on the spot to make sure everyone is in agreement n no breach of contract or any unwanted scenarios like "pinching the model's nipples while oiling them or model rub one out in front of photographer". A contract really is a must, to protect everyone involved n to limit them so didn't go over within the stated agreement. It doesn't matter if the photographer is doing a casting call for model, even a short 1page of agreement from the photographer of "date n time" "location" "theme" "type of shoot" "payment" "what the photographer wants the model to bring if they had any or what they should wear" is enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted January 20, 2019 Report Share Posted January 20, 2019 If the photographer wanna take action/adventure shot, and he demanded the customer to jump out of windows and climb back again, will he do it?? The answer is a No means NO! if it is a wrong , it is a wrong. So? if one cannot even handle on the spot, is airing on the fb or whatsapp really gonna solved the issuethere was once i stepped on someone's foot/shoes, or accidentally tapped on someone's shoulders, they immed slap me and curse&swear like a crybaby (as though the world is collapsing) as though it was so uncomfortable to them Would there be any continuation in rubbing of oil or pinching of nipples when one is so uncomfy? I wil do reflection upon myself first before i raise anything Seniors (who are so experienced) like Fab or Kimochi have also kimochily expressed their opinions (if u read the thread in details ) silently enjoy it yet......... What is the age of the model, at the time of occurence, things that r so uncomfy yet he could NOT even dare to raise it (Model need to do SO MUCH more during intvws/castings), after that going home then Regret? Why didnt he stop him?????? Will stop him lead to a death ? will stop him takes time to stop eg both have to put up a brutal fight to do a stopage? and i didnt assume i mentioned : "Not sure did he regret his choice of wanted to try initially but.." ( i wasnt sure) What is there to bias? i dont even know the photographer and i didnt approve of his actions at all neither did i justify the acts of photographer i will alwys do a reflection based on an indv first As a master graduate, how do u pick a proper studio? (any grandma illiterate knows cheap may not be necess gd)He claimed he mentioned 4 times yet he didnt walk out , this is NOT acceptable (mayb 1st-2 time , 1 is unsure, hence that is still acceptable) I would strongly recommend the person to see a doctor and to review his studies/knwledge on common sense and alertness He has totally no sense of his environment and he cannot react i have frens warning me not to go to ctries like America alone, cos they carry weapons , i felt this is no wonder many felt we have no sense of env and alertness If a person cannot even define or express uncomfort , let alone weapons?! I returned home safe in one piece with a stronger gun down there! Who are we to even stand for the model? u know him well? do u know what is goin thru his inner thoughts to assume he is really a victim? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyglobe Posted January 20, 2019 Report Share Posted January 20, 2019 7 hours ago, Guest Be smarter said: Happens in america nyc all the time. Gay photographers got two kind - dignified and the manipulative pervert. Know how to tell the two apart. Just need to read the remarks in their ig and facebook from the people who know them for a flavor or gauge of the photographer’s personality and character. Find a reputable one if u r doing a full nude shots, even if nothing happens on the spot, u never know if they are keeping any copies...and if is overly cheap, then u need to question how come so cheap? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Thomas Didymuz Toh Posted January 20, 2019 Report Share Posted January 20, 2019 Where can I find such photographers here in Singapore for a full shoot? What are the charges like? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted January 20, 2019 Report Share Posted January 20, 2019 6 minutes ago, Guest Thomas Didymuz Toh said: Where can I find such photographers here in Singapore for a full shoot? What are the charges like? Forum have such topic. Nude photography. Go find ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10156668714701251&substory_index=0&id=543396250 Quote 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Dale Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 I believe he should firmly say NO and put back his clothes and just walked out. Even the photographer was trying to rape him, with his size and built he could easily fight back unless the photographer was a WWF wrestler. But he didn’t. Of course, the photographer was unprofessional and wrong to do that to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest disclosed yourself Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 14 minutes ago, Guest Dale said: I believe he should firmly say NO and put back his clothes and just walked out. Even the photographer was trying to rape him, with his size and built he could easily fight back unless the photographer was a WWF wrestler. But he didn’t. Of course, the photographer was unprofessional and wrong to do that to him. Stop victim-shaming!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Well Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 He sees the good in people and gives others the benefits of doubt, therefore is prone to abuse by lascivious manipulators. On top of that he is gorgeous and has a generous and accomodating personality. That didn't help him in that kind of manipulative situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allegro Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 Some of these perverts loiter in apps as well. Pay me to take professional nude pictures for me? Too good to be true lah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beefycub Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 don't flame me, but i kinda think he's a wimp. not that i condone the photographer's actions either (if true) just sayin' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alponsu Posted January 22, 2019 Report Share Posted January 22, 2019 It's hard to say who is right or what happened. Now is a matter of a one-sided story. But still let's not victim blame, maybe he did freeze up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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