Travelling Alone

[charvo87]

i first travel alone was to taiwan, it is easy as they speaks chinese and i understand the traditional chinese characters. second was to japan, it is safe and the transportation is developed and easy but complicated and i always tell ppl that although japan is a foreign place but it is easy to travel solo.

 

for gay scene, i dont know i dont do fun.

[derryfawne]

I've done a few places solo: Europe, Morocco, Kinabalu, Vietnam, Jordan, Philippines.

[Guest curious]

6 minutes ago, derryfawne said:

I've done a few places solo: Europe, Morocco, Kinabalu, Vietnam, Jordan, Philippines.

 

Unfortinately, you didn't share where you encountered the biggest dick...

[Guest Guest]

51 minutes ago, derryfawne said:

I've done a few places solo: Europe, Morocco, Kinabalu, Vietnam, Jordan, Philippines.

Wow!! Morocco and jordan..how is that like? U r brave....want to visit morocco one day.

[derryfawne]

8 hours ago, Guest curious said:

 

Unfortinately, you didn't share where you encountered the biggest dick...

 

Surprisingly the biggest dick I have came across to date is a Singaporean Malay lol, and following that a Mexican.

 

Many of the solo trips I did while I was still attached though, so I didn't really play around in many of those countries... well, only in the last 1 year I finally have the chance to play around since now I'm happily single lol.

 

I think European in general has bigger ones than Middle Easterners/Asians, but that one particular Malay guy just happens to be pretty well-endowed lol.

 

7 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

Wow!! Morocco and jordan..how is that like? U r brave....want to visit morocco one day.

 

Jordan is beautiful, but Morocco is especially fantastic.

 

I realized if I had to wait for people to become available I would never be able to see the world (my ex had completely opposite working hours with me, my families and friends are just not that adventurous) so can't be helped I embark on some trips myself.

[bigdanbeam]

Biggest perk of travelling alone is "own time own target". No need at all to accomodate anyone's preference.

 

 

[LeanMature]

It's not easy to accommodate when it come to which flight to take, which hotel to stay, what food to eat or places to go etc., so been travelling solo most of my life. 

[Guest Chatty buddy]

Only downside is no one to share those moments with so have to take more photos.

 

The good part? You won't ever be distracted by a chatty partner when exploring museums and monuments and will be able to fully immerse yourself in admiring and understanding their beauty and history.

[auri]

I have been to many places, but by no means everywhere..... and I find that I am losing interest in exploring new places.

It seems the world is increasingly homogenous, and seeing many things through youtube videos and whatnot is almost as good.

I seem to be revisiting some places a lot, eg Taiwan, BKK, cos I know I will have fun there.

[Guest Guest]

52 minutes ago, auri said:

I have been to many places, but by no means everywhere..... and I find that I am losing interest in exploring new places.

It seems the world is increasingly homogenous, and seeing many things through youtube videos and whatnot is almost as good.

I seem to be revisiting some places a lot, eg Taiwan, BKK, cos I know I will have fun there.

How many places you visited huh? Also 1st time I read someone saying watching youtube is almost as good as visiting the place for real and dealing with real people...so I guess if you wantch porn on your hp, its almost the same hor.

[lonelyglobe]

Watching video of the places that u r going have 2 different results, either u r still interested to go and explore or u find there is really nothing much interesting to see....

[mlyfunp]

4 hours ago, bigdanbeam said:

Biggest perk of travelling alone is "own time own target". No need at all to accomodate anyone's preference.

 

 

 

But sometimes you have some shared great memories if you travel with others. Even traveling with a friend must not mean, that you have to accommodate, you must not do all things together all the time. For me I dislike walking along shopping malls which locals here favour a lot. That's why nowadays I mostly don't join my Singaporean friends to BKK, because I m tired after walking for days at those cheap cheap buy 5 get 1 free Andrew Christian underwear.

I once even shared the same room with a gay friend and we just gave ourselves some "out time" to taste some local flavours. if you are on good terms, then why not. It's just a matter to talk and plan beforehand. Most single guy would understand and what's the deal to go to a coffee beans for 2 hours and just do some chit chat on your phone or you go for a professional massage during the same time.

By traveling alone on times you miss out on some interesting items and some laughs. it;'s not so entertaining to slurp your own soup all the time.

[Guest Fair game]

When travelling alone it is easier to linger at sights you particularly enjoy to take in everything before moving on to the next target. But sometimes, you wish to have a buddy to share those memories and experiences with. It helps if both of you have the same interest and wavelength, and have never been to the places before.

[lovehandle]

when 1 travel along, he will have encounters like Kit chat even come  out with R21 ideas during her trip

 

 

 

[Lonelyboy90]

i did my solo trip to malaysia and thailand. 

 

like what others say, u can OTOT all u want.

[Leanmeat]

On ‎9‎/‎20‎/‎2018 at 5:17 PM, birth_ave said:

Travelled alone to Japan. People are polite enough I didn't have to worry and could travel feeling safe.

 

Other times, it was for work and mostly to China. Also went to Mauritius alone before and it was an amazing relaxing short trip after my worktrip. 

 

Don't u find it inconvenient that most of them can't speak english? (U speak japanese?)

I find it hard if its a place I can't communicate with the locals.

[samdiggin]

6 hours ago, Leanmeat said:

 

Don't u find it inconvenient that most of them can't speak english? (U speak japanese?)

I find it hard if its a place I can't communicate with the locals.

 

I just pointed for food haha (sadly). Otherwise, it was mostly just roaming around the sites I wanted to go and see and snapping pictures so it was quite alright :)

[Guest Dying Alone]

Dying alone... Anyone experience before?

 

[Steve Temp]

3 hours ago, Guest Dying Alone said:

Dying alone... Anyone experience before?

 

 

There are serious reasons to believe that we all die alone, no matter how many people are around us.

Same as being born,  always alone even if a mother is always involved.

These experiences are very...  personal!

[Hornyalways]

Love to travel alone. I think it’s a matter of your own mindset. 

I think travelling alone makes one interact with others (locals) and that allows you to get to know a place better. 

[Leanmeat]

Anyone here travel to Hanoi alone before?

[quanjishou]

2 hours ago, Leanmeat said:

Anyone here travel to Hanoi alone before?

yes

[zzzzzzzz]

Traveled alone most of the time because of the need to lock in cheaper airfares or hotels. Usually friends cannot firm up the plans. 

 

Do enjoy the space by myself, like i could sleep in late. Or start early to beat the queue and head back for a nap, or simply head to the beach and relax. 

 

Of course the trade off is lack of companion, human interaction and higher expenses but i do enjoy the space. The challenge remains that it is really difficult to have space when you travel with your friends. It is like constant 24/7 interaction for 2 weeks and that could very challenging. 

 

Though i do welcone friends joining me part of the trip, like 3 to 4 days, but not the whole trip. Finding a good independent travel companion is tough. Managing expectation is a key. 

[derryfawne]

2 hours ago, zzzzzzzz said:

Traveled alone most of the time because of the need to lock in cheaper airfares or hotels. Usually friends cannot firm up the plans. 

 

Do enjoy the space by myself, like i could sleep in late. Or start early to beat the queue and head back for a nap, or simply head to the beach and relax. 

 

Of course the trade off is lack of companion, human interaction and higher expenses but i do enjoy the space. The challenge remains that it is really difficult to have space when you travel with your friends. It is like constant 24/7 interaction for 2 weeks and that could very challenging. 

 

Though i do welcone friends joining me part of the trip, like 3 to 4 days, but not the whole trip. Finding a good independent travel companion is tough. Managing expectation is a key. 

 

Many fair points I can relate to here, actually.

[lonelyglobe]

Go with friends better try out a few days trip first and see how everything goes....one option is to book apartment from airbnb, much cheaper than 2 hotel rooms, each of u will have your own personal space.

[Guest Questions]

21 hours ago, lonelyglobe said:

Go with friends better try out a few days trip first and see how everything goes....one option is to book apartment from airbnb, much cheaper than 2 hotel rooms, each of u will have your own personal space.

How's your experience staying with airbnb? Interacting with host(s) necessary? Tried the gay version mrbnb or couchsurfer? How do they compare in experience?

[lonelyglobe]

Only try airbnb, no host if u book the whole apartment, i suppose most of the host should be friendly as they are doing a business and u r the guest.

[Guest Introverted]

1 hour ago, lonelyglobe said:

Only try airbnb, no host if u book the whole apartment, i suppose most of the host should be friendly as they are doing a business and u r the guest.

Thanks i was wondering if anyone here has tried airbnb, mrbnb and couchsurfer, don’t mind to share and compare their experiences of each, especially for those who only booked a room as opposed to the whole apartment, how the hosts treated them, etc. 

 

I was exploring the option of doing the same but was wondering if guests on such platforms and portals are generally expected to fraternize, be “friendly” towards or socialise with the host and their family, etc., as i find it a bit ackward to do so if we do not share the same frequency and wavelength, or at least even interests.

 

Any thoughts?

[Guest guest Gujji]

On 9/19/2018 at 1:53 PM, Guest Guest Guest said:

If u were to travel alone, where will u go? I'm kinda introvert and always wanted to try travelling alone. Most of the time i go on a holiday i'm always with my friends and such i've never been able to try out the gay scene in other country.

 

If u have travel alone, whats country would u recommend to visit? what have u done there and what was fun about that place ?

Kena rape then you know.....don't travel alone....it is very very very dangerous....if no choice, make it a point to go places with a huge crowd......reach 5star hotel latest by 5.30pm......do not open hotel door at night.....no matter what happens.

 

 

[Guest scared to hell]

4 hours ago, Guest guest Gujji said:

Kena rape then you know.....don't travel alone....it is very very very dangerous....if no choice, make it a point to go places with a huge crowd......reach 5star hotel latest by 5.30pm......do not open hotel door at night.....no matter what happens.

 

 

 

Damn , I m already so scared now. I always leave my hotel door leaned at night hoping that some cute hotel staff boy will come and enter me.

Now after reading Guest Gujji ;s post I m so damn scared of getting raped. I will just stay at the 5 star hotel and never move out.

 

(Yes, and we need more of such useless posts, please)

[Steve Temp]

9 hours ago, Guest guest Gujji said:

Kena rape then you know.....don't travel alone....it is very very very dangerous....if no choice, make it a point to go places with a huge crowd......reach 5star hotel latest by 5.30pm......do not open hotel door at night.....no matter what happens.

 

 

Fear mongering nonsense. 

 

4 hours ago, Guest scared to hell said:

 

Damn , I m already so scared now. I always leave my hotel door leaned at night hoping that some cute hotel staff boy will come and enter me.

Now after reading Guest Gujji ;s post I m so damn scared of getting raped. I will just stay at the 5 star hotel and never move out.

 

 

It is doubtful that the guy who enters your room at night is one you would like to let in.  Unless you stay at the right place.  And this is not a 5 star hotel.

It happened to me one night while staying at the Babylon Barracks in Bangkok.

I had inadvertently left my room door unlocked, and at some time during the night

a Thai boy in heat walked in.  A perfect gift.

He stripped naked, I was naked already, and we had a good time in bed.

Thereafter we went to the communal bathroom on that floor and showered together.

There, a young guy came in, saw us showering and joined in.

He invited us to his room where he had all the anal sex paraphernalia

and we took turns fucking the Thai boy.

Then the boy and I returned to my room,

where the Thai boy got dressed, kissed and left.

 

This is the ONLY place where I would leave my door unlocked, and not too often

.

 

 

Edited October 10, 2018 by Steve Temp

[kimlo777]

On 10/10/2018 at 10:54 PM, Steve Temp said:

 

Fear mongering nonsense. 

 

 

It is doubtful that the guy who enters your room at night is one you would like to let in.  Unless you stay at the right place.  And this is not a 5 star hotel.

It happened to me one night while staying at the Babylon Barracks in Bangkok.

I had inadvertently left my room door unlocked, and at some time during the night

a Thai boy in heat walked in.  A perfect gift.

He stripped naked, I was naked already, and we had a good time in bed.

Thereafter we went to the communal bathroom on that floor and showered together.

There, a young guy came in, saw us showering and joined in.

He invited us to his room where he had all the anal sex paraphernalia

and we took turns fucking the Thai boy.

Then the boy and I returned to my room,

where the Thai boy got dressed, kissed and left.

 

This is the ONLY place where I would leave my door unlocked, and not too often

.

 

 

In the early 80s, I travelled on my own to Vancouver and stayed at the YMCA on Burrard.  Lots of action there and the communal open shower is the perfect place if you are either a voyeur or exhibitionist.  The nude swimming pool is also a fantastic place to hook up with straight married men who come to do a few laps and then are almost always in a hurry to get home for dinner but ever so willing to receive a quickie blowjob.

[Guest too good to be true]

1 hour ago, kimlo777 said:

In the early 80s, I travelled on my own to Vancouver and stayed at the YMCA on Burrard.  Lots of action there and the communal open shower is the perfect place if you are either a voyeur or exhibitionist.  The nude swimming pool is also a fantastic place to hook up with straight married men who come to do a few laps and then are almost always in a hurry to get home for dinner but ever so willing to receive a quickie blowjob.

 

as if straight married men are looking for blowjobs from gays and for sure they frequent YMCA's while their wives are waiting at home with a freshly cooked dinner...

Just wonder that no 2 pool attendants passed by inadvertly while the dick sucking went on...

[Steve Temp]

1 hour ago, Guest too good to be true said:

 

as if straight married men are looking for blowjobs from gays and for sure they frequent YMCA's while their wives are waiting at home with a freshly cooked dinner...

Just wonder that no 2 pool attendants passed by inadvertly while the dick sucking went on...

 

It can be true.

A long time ago I was a member of the Downtown YMCA in Houston,  and I went there on lunch break from work nearly daily  to work out.  And I was there to WORK OUT. But this place famously was (is?) like part of the  gay scene, nearly  a playing ground  in the open showers and a meeting place in several dark remote corners.  Twice some cute guys hooked up with a straight looking divorced man (me) in some corner, and my Asian friend when he came with me to train he had also some encounters. But too bad!, the swimming pool there was not for nude guys but for the  general public.  

[kimlo777]

On 10/14/2018 at 1:29 AM, Guest too good to be true said:

 

as if straight married men are looking for blowjobs from gays and for sure they frequent YMCA's while their wives are waiting at home with a freshly cooked dinner...

Just wonder that no 2 pool attendants passed by inadvertly while the dick sucking went on...

the pool is a place for hooking up... we usually carry on our liaison in the privacy of a cubicle in the shower/changing room; several times I brought them to my room.  ymca on burrard has both dormitories as well as private ensuite rooms.  i prefer my own private room but use the communal bathrooms for obvious reasons.  open sex in the communal bathrooms are quite common too.

[nate42]

Travelling alone has its advantageous.  I have been doing it for many years.  Not on long trips though.  Usually a couple nights in Desaru or Bintan.

 

Now that I am married, it is even more precious for me to get away for a couple days alone at least once a year. Sleep as late as I want, drink a couple bottles of wine or 12-pack beer, get a little drunk without the kids around.  Prefer my own room when I travel for business, and I will extend a night.  I get to do lots that I wouldn't do at home.  Haven't travelled with a "friend" before.  It is an intriguing thought though.

[Guest Guest]

On 10/10/2018 at 6:51 PM, Guest scared to hell said:

 

Damn , I m already so scared now. I always leave my hotel door leaned at night hoping that some cute hotel staff boy will come and enter me.

Now after reading Guest Gujji ;s post I m so damn scared of getting raped. I will just stay at the 5 star hotel and never move out.

 

(Yes, and we need more of such useless posts, please)

must wear more underwear to protect yourself. A decent indicate number is 12 pieces comprising of boxers and briefs of different size and fabric.  At least a few pieces should have a fastener or string around the waist to double safety.

 

If you were raped, try your best to rub one of these underwear against the rapist's groin or cock. Best is to get some cum on the fabric as evidence.

 

Good luck.

[Mixguy]

Travelling alone to langkawi coming September fr 23-27,accommodation n car free,if anyone interested can pm me...

[Vometra]

It's far better to travel alone than travel with the wrong crowd ... other than the usual ease and convenience, you will also be far more inclined to talk to locals and fellow travellers from all over the world. Down side is you can get very lonely at times, and the feeling not able to share something awe-inspiring and spectacular, as well as those special quiet moments, with loved ones; you'll miss them ...

 

Anyway, a useful thread from hwz

https://forums.hardwarezone.com.sg/travel-accommodation-89/those-who-love-travel-alone-3566620.html

[Letsrelaxpp]

Travel alone go theme park also not so fun......go concert / clubbing also not right.... cannot order more dishes to try in a restaraunt or night market. 

Edited June 3, 2019 by Letsrelaxpp

[quanjishou]

10 hours ago, Letsrelaxpp said:

Travel alone go theme park also not so fun......go concert / clubbing also not right.... cannot order more dishes to try in a restaraunt or night market. 

i travel alone i did almost everything u listed here except concert. no issue at all.

The thing is when travel alone most likely u will stay in hostel, depends on the hostel some hostel will organise group activities, so it really depends on how open u are and who u met on the way.

[Guest funoverseas]

is it common for a lone gay traveller to visit gay sauna overseas? I find I will visit gay suanas or open grindr in each country i visit to have fun with the locals there, rather than focusing on sightseeing, shopping / appreciating the cultures of foreign countries etc. It seems to be a sex trip

[lonelyglobe]

I suppose it depends on where u travel to, bangkok yes as sex is so easily available and cheap but if is a long trip then probably u want to maximise your sightseeing activities beside sex.

[Magenta_Lilies]

A couple of months ago, I don't know what came over me. As soon as I've gotten my performance bonus, I surfed around online to see what are the popular destinations currently. Picked Rome, went on to an airline's website and booked a return flight for December, 10 days total. Booked an Airbnb right after that as well. The thing is, I'm very introverted and have never travelled alone. Definitely will be out of my comfort zone. Excited yet extremely nervous. Fingers crossed that everything will go smoothly!

[Letsrelaxpp]

Just relax,  nowadys a lot of info u can get online,  just  be prepared and enjoy your first time experience. 

 

If u r traveling a lot on train,  dont forget to buy your eurail train pass before leaving. 

[Vometra]

4 hours ago, Magenta_Lilies said:

A couple of months ago, I don't know what came over me. As soon as I've gotten my performance bonus, I surfed around online to see what are the popular destinations currently. Picked Rome, went on to an airline's website and booked a return flight for December, 10 days total. Booked an Airbnb right after that as well. The thing is, I'm very introverted and have never travelled alone. Definitely will be out of my comfort zone. Excited yet extremely nervous. Fingers crossed that everything will go smoothly!

 

Rome is full of pickpockets and other unsavoury characters.

 

https://romevacationtips.com/avoid-pickpocketed-italy/

 

https://www.tripadvisor.com.sg/ShowTopic-g187791-i22-k10488040-Pick_pockets_in_Rome_Italy-Rome_Lazio.html

 

 

Edited June 4, 2019 by Vometra

[Guest comfort]

7 hours ago, Vometra said:

 

Rome is full of pickpockets and other

 

 

You better never travel out of your comfort zone of your HDB flat and please never go farer the the hawker downstairs of your block.

[tinkymale]

I go on single trip annually to countries for marathons and holidays. I like travelling alone as I can plan where I want to go without the need to care. Along the trips, I make new friends and they becomes my friend eventually. So now if I visit the country again, I’ll have a local to bring me around. However, given my age, I prefer to stay in proper hotel rather than Airbnb or hostel.

[FattChoy]

I wanna share my experience,  as it can help some of you.  

 

I'm in the midst of my HCMC vacation.  The trip came abruptly when I spoke to a Beijing friend whom I knew while I was in Beijing.   I asked him if he was going anywhere soon and he said he is planning a trip to HCMC to resolve some purchase matters. So I decided to join him, bought all my tickets and changed some money.  

 

Last minute he bailed on me, saying his office team have a crucial project and the boss won't let him leave.  So I was all alone with tickets and I had to make a decision.   I checked the weather,  and it showed a week of full-day rains.  I checked YouTube and saw videos of flood and how to stay safe from moto- snatch thieves.   In the end, I booked a high ranking hostel room on agoda and flew here.

 

Upon arrival,  I got ripped off badly by the cabbie,  but the total amount wasn't too bad.  The fortunate thing about my trip was the hostel owner - a lady and her family,  and she was THE-BEST host I couldn't even dream of.  She was so accommodating with my questions and gave me all the best recommendations.  I decided to extend my stay at her place from 2 to all 8 days. The weather has been sunny and fantastic and I had a blast in the first day. 

 

Then things took a turn on day 2 when my China friend said he did overtime to finish his work and that got him leave from his boss.  He arrived late on Day 2 and we went travelling together in Day 3.  I hated Day 3 because he was such a whiner.  Can't drink water too cold, can't eat banh mi cos it's too spicy and caused his ear/headache to inflame, can't sleep cos a/c too cold (he switched to 25°C).  He even complained the Grabcar he ordered didn't arrive fast enough when he was the one giving out the wrong pickup location and wanted to cancel. He also only want to eat street food which are bottom of the pryamid/barrel @10k VND (that's 58 Sg cents ffs!) roadside by the dumpster types of stalls.  I mean I'm also for streetfood, but not necessarily the cheapest where hygiene is doubtful.   Just to save a few thousand VND, he might end up paying for expensive Vietnamese medical treatment.  It's anything and everything lar with him; it's like all those economic success had made Chinese like him soft to adversities.  I really missed the tough-as-nails 北方爷们s which can basically take anything you throw at them without any complaints. 

 

On Day 4, we didn't speak much; we had an unspoken understanding we go do our own stuff.  So Day 4, which is today, I'm having a blast again travelling solo.  I don't think he will bring back a Vietnamese twink, that said, I now can't bring back a Viet bear. (which might be a good thing to avoid loads of uninvited trouble).

 

Conclusion: Having a travel mate means some degree off loss of liberty and fun, especially if you two don't click as much as you think you could.  The pros is that it's good to have someone looking out for you in case of an emergency, which was something I used to enjoy in my travels with my significant other. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited June 6, 2019 by FattChoy

[Steve5380]

On 6/3/2019 at 10:58 PM, Magenta_Lilies said:

A couple of months ago, I don't know what came over me. As soon as I've gotten my performance bonus, I surfed around online to see what are the popular destinations currently. Picked Rome, went on to an airline's website and booked a return flight for December, 10 days total. Booked an Airbnb right after that as well. The thing is, I'm very introverted and have never travelled alone. Definitely will be out of my comfort zone. Excited yet extremely nervous. Fingers crossed that everything will go smoothly!

 

Stay calm.  It is good to be concerned and think about all the eventualities.  Also realize that most fears never materialize.  You have plenty of time before December to become an expert on Rome tourism.  Pack light, just for 10 days and nothing fancy.  One carry-on bag and a back pack perhaps.  Start making a check list of what you will take.  The cellphone and laptop should be the most expensive items to take with you. Research the means of transportation in the city, towards the places you want to visit.   Load map of Rome on your cellphone.  Uber does not work in Rome, and taxis are expensive.  Become expert in its public transportation, and plan to walk a lot.  Carry a copy of passport in your wallet, not the passport itself.  And a minimum of credit cards and cash.  Be friendly but don't trust anybody.  Remember the magic word "No".