Reasons to Move Out from parents

[Guest Fucking]

1 hour ago, mate69 said:

 

No 1 is the best reason. Lol

As in...

 

"hey, want to come home with me to fuck me?"

[Why?]

When parents learn that their children are moving out, they are usually not particularly adaptable. Give them some time to acclimatize, and they'll soon appreciate having their own space, and your presence will become an inconvenience. 

[mate69]

On 6/14/2022 at 12:36 PM, Why? said:

When parents learn that their children are moving out, they are usually not particularly adaptable. Give them some time to acclimatize, and they'll soon appreciate having their own space, and your presence will become an inconvenience. 

 

This is very true

[Geekybutt]

My mum used to remind me that the house was under her name, thus, she was the law. And she used to challenge me to move out and have my own place so that I could run my own rules.

 

So one fine day, I really moved out to rent an apartment for myself for a year. I was happy and so relieved from her tyranny. She was naturally in disbelief and upset. I used the chance to educate her and let her understand that she was the one that needed me all along. Therefore, she needed to learn how to grow out and grow up as a mother.

 

She learnt her lesson. She never said those awful things to me ever again.

[Johan]

Everyone will have differences, including with our parents. Giving each other space actually improve our relationship, kinda... Hahaha. That's that case for me. 

 

Of course the freedom is something I appreciate too.

[Guest Guest]

Buy your own property and move out permanently.

[Steve5380]

All good parents will understand that, not withstanding legal issues like their custody while they are minors, or economic reasons, or caretaking reasons, their decisions and wishes should prioritize the happiness of their children.  And simply say:   "you are an adult, we are self sufficient,  if you will be happier being on your own, then do it with our blessing."

[Guest Guest]

Moving out will prove to all your friends and relatives(especially cousins around your age) that you are capable of managing your affairs as an adult. People will speak to you with respect once you make this giant move. 

 

I have seen so many oldies in their 50s, 60s and even 70s still living under the roof of their parents without a care. Spending all the waking hours cruising in mall, enjoying in sauna both local and overseas (mainly in Bangkok).

 

For these type of character, once someone or colleague discuss anything pertaining to marital or real estate, their facial expression will turn awkwardly shameful. That's my observation. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Why?]

On 7/6/2022 at 5:03 AM, Guest Guest said:

I have seen so many oldies in their 50s, 60s and even 70s still living under the roof of their parents without a care. Spending all the waking hours cruising in mall, enjoying in sauna both local and overseas (mainly in Bangkok).

 

When their home is a joint possession with their parents, how can you expect these people to move out?  As far as I'm aware, HDB does not let Singaporeans to own two HDBs. I find nothing wrong with them spending their "ME TIME" wherever they wanted to go temporarily, including the mall, a sauana. It is best to save your judgment for Singapore's more important issues, such housing inflation, unemployment, immigration, etc., which are real causes for concern, rather than comparing office politics.

Edited July 6, 2022 by Why?

[Why?]

Moving out of your parents' house can be motivated by the same factors as breaking up with your boyfriend, quitting your job, or moving abroad.  You desired to discover your niche, explore new opportunities, avoid constraint, and take pleasure in freedom.

 

 

[Guest Brainstorm]

I'm the TS. Since the thread revived, let me give a quick update.

 

Fast-forward three years, I earned enough to buy an apartment (still not old enough for an HDB).

 

It was during covid CB period, so I had a lot of time in the house with my family and we spent lots of time talking about all sorts of things. We love talking about properties and I mentioned how cheap property prices became (during that period) and how I needed to take opportunity to buy one at that price. 

 

They are supportive but suggested I rent out instead of staying there on my own. But I just said I'm over 30 and if I don't get married, it shouldn't mean that I'll stay with them forever. Plainly, I just want independence (live on my own and decide daily things myself). I thought this is the silliest excuse, but even though my parents disagree, they were not very against it.

 

Maybe it's the process of them shopping for the house together with me. I took their views and comments, and chose location near their place. They felt involved and empowered, rather than abandoned. 

 

Guess what? They even bought some house warming gifts for me~

 

For those who want to move out, every parent is different. But the psychology is the same. Make them feel involved, that they are part of the consideration in your decision making process. I guess it will help!

[passinthenight]

On 7/10/2022 at 2:48 PM, Guest Brainstorm said:

I'm the TS. Since the thread revived, let me give a quick update.

 

Fast-forward three years, I earned enough to buy an apartment (still not old enough for an HDB).

 

It was during covid CB period, so I had a lot of time in the house with my family and we spent lots of time talking about all sorts of things. We love talking about properties and I mentioned how cheap property prices became (during that period) and how I needed to take opportunity to buy one at that price. 

 

They are supportive but suggested I rent out instead of staying there on my own. But I just said I'm over 30 and if I don't get married, it shouldn't mean that I'll stay with them forever. Plainly, I just want independence (live on my own and decide daily things myself). I thought this is the silliest excuse, but even though my parents disagree, they were not very against it.

 

Maybe it's the process of them shopping for the house together with me. I took their views and comments, and chose location near their place. They felt involved and empowered, rather than abandoned. 

 

Guess what? They even bought some house warming gifts for me~

 

For those who want to move out, every parent is different. But the psychology is the same. Make them feel involved, that they are part of the consideration in your decision making process. I guess it will help!

 

 That's a lovely story and I envy you for having such a lovely and warm relationship with your parents.

 

[yhtang]

On 7/10/2022 at 12:48 PM, Guest Brainstorm said:

I'm the TS. Since the thread revived, let me give a quick update.

 

Fast-forward three years, I earned enough to buy an apartment (still not old enough for an HDB).

 

It was during covid CB period, so I had a lot of time in the house with my family and we spent lots of time talking about all sorts of things. We love talking about properties and I mentioned how cheap property prices became (during that period) and how I needed to take opportunity to buy one at that price. 

 

They are supportive but suggested I rent out instead of staying there on my own. But I just said I'm over 30 and if I don't get married, it shouldn't mean that I'll stay with them forever. Plainly, I just want independence (live on my own and decide daily things myself). I thought this is the silliest excuse, but even though my parents disagree, they were not very against it.

 

Maybe it's the process of them shopping for the house together with me. I took their views and comments, and chose location near their place. They felt involved and empowered, rather than abandoned. 

 

Guess what? They even bought some house warming gifts for me~

 

For those who want to move out, every parent is different. But the psychology is the same. Make them feel involved, that they are part of the consideration in your decision making process. I guess it will help!

 

 

I am very happy for your that things worked out positively.

I think it was a very good idea to involve your parents in the property shopping process.  Indeed, they would have felt involved and empowered.  In addition, I think they would have felt proud that their child was able to take a (in their eyes) very adult decision in the form of the purchase (and therefore a firm commitment) of a property. 

 

 

 

[Guest Melvin]

Need a reason ?? can afford should own your property (ies) 

 

Some question asked very silly ..... 

 

 

[Guest Guest]

Move out - Let the world know that you are an independent adult with backbone. You can still be a filial child with frequent parents visit. Cut your spending in saunas/clubbing, entertainment at Golden Mile Complex, Bangkok sex trip and lady boy clothing and invest in a HDB for your security during your twilight years. 

 

For those with low income, get a 2nd job. The supplementary income will make things possible.

 

I know of many 50s oldies who are still leeching on their parents and have no idea what a SP utility bill look like. When ask why have they not move out yet, putting on a brave front, they will give a typical response,,,,,,, "I am not interested in SG property because of such and such policies and as such I am considering buying a condo in Bangkok" and then start showing the condo sales brochure collected in the past 15 years !!!!!!!! They are still considering till today and will continue to do so knowing their heck-care attitude.

 

Make a move. Don't be like them when you are in your 50s.

 

 

 

[Why?]

Most people will decide to live close to their parents in order to prevent their parents from feeling wholly abandoned.  If I choose to retire, I'm hoping to live in a 2-room BTO with a shorter lease, near Changi Village and spend the rest of my days by the beach. On the other hand, the persistent sound of the plane overhead can be annoying.

[Guest Ericka]

I moved out sometime back to be independent and I think the break is good not just for you but your parents.

 

I think it helps them remind themselves that they are individual people and that they too can do things for themselves versus the family unit.

 

Being independent is great and has many perks including yes socialising and dating. And yes a test run for how things will look like when you are alot older, when you family is gone.

 

I am actually moved back recently to be closer to family cause at the end of the day they are what matters. Doesn't mean I won't move out again but definitely for something i own especially in this bullish property market.

 

Do it! Experience new things. I secretly think my mom hated when I moved back but she respects my personal space alot more now. 

 

[Guest Guest]

In today's Straits Times...............................................................................................(glad I bought mine years ago) 

 

HDB rents rise for 24th straight month; condo rents up for 18th straight month in June

[Guest Guest]

I always encourage anyone to buy own place whenever possible instead of renting. Many tenants now are at the mercy of landlord when contract is up for renewal. Current economic and geopolitical conditions will ensure prices and rental to stay high into the foreseeable future. 

[Guest fresh7up]

As for me, my parents kind of indirectly ask me to move out. It started with my dad selling our old house to buy a BTO. I told him why not take a 4-room BTO and share the flat ownership with me. I have a younger brother 10 years junior. So I was thinking I could get my own room, my younger brother another room and my parents the master bedroom.

But my dad said that he doesn't want to share ownership and prefer to get a 3-room for himself. He bought our old flat for around $26k back in the 80s and sold it 10x the cost in 2017. So he basically want the profit money which its up to him. But what I was thinking is to take care of them if they grow old. At least I will be living with them but I didn't tell them that definitely.

So cut the story short, 2017 the year I turn 35, I apply for a 2-room BTO but my queue no. was very high and I didn't get a chance to choose a unit.

A year later, 2018 I applied again at Sengkang Rivervale Shore and got a 2-digit queue no. I am happy I get to choose a favorable unit. 

I am 40 this year and am still waiting for collection of my flat keys (most probably next year as stated in HDB website) as construction got delay due to covid.

[JayRoss55]

Here are common reasons people choose to move out from their parents’ home, ranging from personal growth to practical needs:

 

Personal Development & Independence

 

· Learn life skills – Cooking, budgeting, cleaning, and home maintenance without a safety net.

· Build confidence – Solving problems and making decisions on your own fosters self-reliance.

· Develop your identity – Space to explore your values, routines, and lifestyle away from family expectations.

 

Career & Education

 

· Job relocation – Opportunity requires a different city or shorter commute.

· Focus on studies or work – Quiet environment with fewer distractions or family obligations.

· Networking & flexibility – Living near campus or job hubs can open doors.

 

Relationships & Social Life

 

· Romantic relationships – Privacy for dating, cohabitation, or starting a family.

· Roommate experience – Learning compromise and cooperation with peers.

· Hosting friends – Freedom to socialize without worrying about family schedules or rules.

 

Mental & Emotional Well-being

 

· Reduce conflict – Constant tension or arguments at home take an emotional toll.

· Establish boundaries – Physical distance can reset a strained relationship with parents.

· Heal from dysfunction – Leaving an environment with toxic dynamics, criticism, or control issues.

 

Practical & Financial (with caveats)

 

· Test financial independence – Managing real rent, utilities, and groceries builds discipline.

· Access better amenities – New place may offer shorter commute, safer area, or specific features.

· Job requirements – Some roles (remote or on-call) need dedicated quiet space.

 

When to reconsider: If moving out would cause severe financial hardship, mental health crisis, or leave a vulnerable parent without needed support, it may be wise to wait or plan a gradual transition.

[cutejack]

On 7/16/2022 at 9:12 PM, Guest fresh7up said:

As for me, my parents kind of indirectly ask me to move out. It started with my dad selling our old house to buy a BTO. I told him why not take a 4-room BTO and share the flat ownership with me. I have a younger brother 10 years junior. So I was thinking I could get my own room, my younger brother another room and my parents the master bedroom.

But my dad said that he doesn't want to share ownership and prefer to get a 3-room for himself. He bought our old flat for around $26k back in the 80s and sold it 10x the cost in 2017. So he basically want the profit money which its up to him. But what I was thinking is to take care of them if they grow old. At least I will be living with them but I didn't tell them that definitely.

So cut the story short, 2017 the year I turn 35, I apply for a 2-room BTO but my queue no. was very high and I didn't get a chance to choose a unit.

A year later, 2018 I applied again at Sengkang Rivervale Shore and got a 2-digit queue no. I am happy I get to choose a favorable unit. 

I am 40 this year and am still waiting for collection of my flat keys (most probably next year as stated in HDB website) as construction got delay due to covid.

Come come to sengkang. I'm here. We could take care each other when we grow old. Hahaha

Can try my massage too. Huhu.

Joke aside.

 

Y not buy a bigger unit n rent the rooms out while u stay in one room for passive income when you have retired? 

[Guest Lek Milk]

I had never seen my parents so angry. I grew up in a household where I was always taught to respect my elders and to never backtalk.

 

But when I brought home yet another guy for a one night stand, my parents had had enough.

 

Said that I disrespected them because I treated the house like a hotel

 

My parents scolded me for treating our family home like a hotel room. They said that if I wanted to have a one night stand then I should at least have the decency to book a hotel room.

 

However, I argued that it was free at home and I didn’t want to waste money on a hotel.

 

My parents were further enraged when I said that it was free at home. They said that I was disrespecting them and our home.

 

They said that the house was not to be used for such activities and that I should find somewhere else to bring my partners.

 

I tried to explain to them that I was just trying to be frugal. I was trying to save money. But they didn’t understand. They said that money is not everything and that I should think of the consequences of my actions.

Even though I knew they were right, I did not bother because it is always more comfortable at home than at anywhere else.

 

I might not know if the guy is attached to someone or if he will cry rape after we are done outside and I get into further trouble but most importantly for me at home, it is FREEEEEEE.

[cutejack]

On 7/4/2026 at 5:18 PM, Guest Lek Milk said:

I had never seen my parents so angry. I grew up in a household where I was always taught to respect my elders and to never backtalk.

 

But when I brought home yet another guy for a one night stand, my parents had had enough.

 

Said that I disrespected them because I treated the house like a hotel

 

My parents scolded me for treating our family home like a hotel room. They said that if I wanted to have a one night stand then I should at least have the decency to book a hotel room.

 

However, I argued that it was free at home and I didn’t want to waste money on a hotel.

 

My parents were further enraged when I said that it was free at home. They said that I was disrespecting them and our home.

 

They said that the house was not to be used for such activities and that I should find somewhere else to bring my partners.

 

I tried to explain to them that I was just trying to be frugal. I was trying to save money. But they didn’t understand. They said that money is not everything and that I should think of the consequences of my actions.

Even though I knew they were right, I did not bother because it is always more comfortable at home than at anywhere else.

 

I might not know if the guy is attached to someone or if he will cry rape after we are done outside and I get into further trouble but most importantly for me at home, it is FREEEEEEE.

They knew that u r not str8 n you brought him back home for fuck? U kidding dude!

 

Many claim that they are brought up in a repectable way n family background but practising adultery sia. 

 

The family background n not to talk back bla bla is exactly my family background n upbringing but I'm very low profile, dude.

 

My late mum don't even know what I'm doing. She might suspected but bringing back a guy is a big NOOOOO...

Even if I lied that its a fren n he needed a shelter for a night but still can't dude.  Lol.

Edited July 5 by cutejack

[radiusulnar]

On 7/4/2026 at 5:18 PM, Guest Lek Milk said:

I get into further trouble but most importantly for me at home

 

Not sure if the trouble will be less if it is at home. I guess you are thinking your parents are be your witnesses that everything was consensual and they didn't hear fighting or shouts for help. 

Hope you managed to sort things out with your parents.

[doncoin]

On 7/4/2026 at 5:18 AM, Guest Lek Milk said:

 

They said that the house was not to be used for such activities and that I should find somewhere else to bring my partners.

 

I tried to explain to them that I was just trying to be frugal. I was trying to save money. But they didn’t understand. They said that money is not everything and that I should think of the consequences of my actions.

Even though I knew they were right, I did not bother because it is always more comfortable at home than at anywhere else.

 

I might not know if the guy is attached to someone or if he will cry rape after we are done outside and I get into further trouble but most importantly for me at home, it is FREEEEEEE.

 

 

I have to assume that you were conceived in a hotel room then since the house is not to be used for such activities. 

 

 

[Dart]

The eagle will tear its nest once the eaglets are grown up but refuse to leave the nest.

 

Once a mature adult and parents are still very much capable, it's not healthy to continue living with them.

[Guest Moving On]

When you start hating yourself and your life,  it is time to move out.