vera. Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 how does one turn down an offer of sorts if he/others states that he/others is chubby/other factors that are not in your favour... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xiaoxianrou Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 Just be normal friends and don't meet up if not keen lor. Unless they specifically ask if I'm keen. Then it makes our job easier. vera. and jdu 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 53 minutes ago, vera. said: how does one turn down an offer of sorts if he/others states that he/others is chubby/other factors that are not in your favour... Tell them they are not your type. You looking for (describe here ) vera. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 U r too good for me. U deserve better ones. vera. and kingbitch 1 1 Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 犯贱冰冰 Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 2 minutes ago, fab said: U r too good for me. U deserve better ones. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightsmith32 Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 (edited) On 12/16/2018 at 5:33 PM, vera. said: how does one turn down an offer of sorts if he/others states that he/others is chubby/other factors that are not in your favour... Just be open and let them know you are not interested in them in that sort of way and also not looking for flings and etc ... u feel more comfortable having a platonic friendship of sorts. Edited December 17, 2018 by lightsmith32 vera. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ben S Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 Just be honest without adding anything derogatory. I have experienced rejection before, I have rejected few offers as well .... it's life In this case, I would usually say "Thank you for the offer, but you're not my type (or you're not what I'm looking for)" vera. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Blank Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 He's gonna feel hurt anyways, so don't say sth like he's too good for you etc. Be direct and to the point, it's better since this will be done online Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdu Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 Just be polite and apologise that you are not keen. It somehow Give a soft landing. vera. 1 Quote Life is like a river flowing into the sea, Love Life. Love, Joy and Peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jim.boy Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 The problem is not you, its me.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 (edited) Aren't there smart ways to reject someone. Mostly I would tell a guy that I don;t think it would work out. Who wants to share sex, partnership etc if you know the other is not content of you? Singaporeans and other Asians tend to make a rejection to something so difficult. They resort to keeping quiet or even blocking you just to avoid to say no. often it makes sense to just reject and not to elaborate too lengthy on the reasons. However, I still prefer to receive a rejection instead of being simply ignored by the other. Edited December 18, 2018 by singalion typo TehSi 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lemonjuice Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 If the person is a logical type, provide reasons. if the person is an emotional type, provide excuses. If you don’t know the person good enough, then you are the problem, apologise and leave. vera. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Bye!! Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 On 12/16/2018 at 5:33 PM, vera. said: how does one turn down an offer of sorts if he/others states that he/others is chubby/other factors that are not in your favour... Don't worry, the rejected person will do just fine. You are not the only one in his world and both of you won't be the first time facing rejection in this society. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdu Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 It takes two to clap. Sometimes the worse case scenario is when you reject someone they still keep coming back to look for you... even after u politely reject them... Quote Life is like a river flowing into the sea, Love Life. Love, Joy and Peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beefycub Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 i just say 'not interested but thank u'. some take it well. some don't. i face far more rejections than acceptance. i don't see the point of providing reasons for rejections, nor am i interested to know why i'm rejected either. donno why some take it so hard. jdu and aelwaien 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Blank Posted December 21, 2018 Report Share Posted December 21, 2018 On 12/19/2018 at 12:11 AM, jdu said: It takes two to clap. Sometimes the worse case scenario is when you reject someone they still keep coming back to look for you... even after u politely reject them... Then have to resort to plan b, to say you're already seeing someone exclusively Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Yes Posted December 21, 2018 Report Share Posted December 21, 2018 Sg guys are like that taking NO as an answer. It irritates me most of them. I try to walk away in the darm maze sauna. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jdu Posted December 21, 2018 Report Share Posted December 21, 2018 On 12/19/2018 at 5:16 PM, Beefycub said: i just say 'not interested but thank u'. some take it well. some don't. i face far more rejections than acceptance. i don't see the point of providing reasons for rejections, nor am i interested to know why i'm rejected either. donno why some take it so hard. the hard truth is we were never taught how to accept rejections in life dude... Quote Life is like a river flowing into the sea, Love Life. Love, Joy and Peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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