Cruising In Singapore - Part 1

I do not get much chance to cruise so my information may not even be accurate. What really gets me " hooked " on cruising is the excitement of meeting all kinds of gay and not so gay married men, not just for sex ( though that would be very nice ;-) ) but to know why each person is risking so much for sex.

As we all know, Singapore is a highly regulated society where homosexuality is swept under the carpet. There's no openly gay sauna, gay bars, discos etc. Anything that exist as such is just a convenient herding place for the authorities to watch over us and gather any incriminating information on those desperate souls there. We all know yet we still gather there like sheep waiting to be slaughtered !

Likewise all the popular cruising grounds are well known to the police and we hear of frequent arrests. Still we come after a cooling period after a raid. The newspaper reports seems to inform those innocent ones and more will come ! I myself got to know them from the newspaper reports before the Internet made these information easier to find.

These are my observations of the various places :-

1. RAFFLES PLACE/CHINA STREET

Used to be very daring and open sex can even be observed in the bushes or abandoned shop houses. It's the open sex that made this place legendary ! There were many who hung around waiting to watch these free sex acts. This was where I saw my first fucking or oral sex or group sex. You can imagine how excited I got when I first saw these sex acts. Most times I just watched and jerk off myself in a dark corner. There were usually men cruising around and watching out for police as well as others to play with. Occasionally, I let someone else play with my cock when he was careful to give the right signals as not to scare me off.

So what are these "safe, gay signals" ? First, he must not approach as a group because the undercover policeman need a witness to collaborate their story so they usually work as a group of two or more. He must make the first move by quickly flashing his cock or at least rub his crotch and smile in a sexy way. That's the hard part for the police to fake because they are supposed to be straight and their smile were more forced than a bad actor's. Then if he makes the first move to unzip my pants and touch my cock, I will freeze and watch for any covering actions from his colleagues nearby. I will not move to touch him till he exposed and played with my cock. Then I listen for quickness of breathe and other signs of excitement. A policeman would not want to go this far and looked like he enjoyed it when his colleagues were watching ! If he even go further to suck my cock, he was definitely alright and sex felt like double dose of orgasm.

You will notice that many fellow Singapore Webbies say that people at Raffles Place have an attitude. It is partly because we want play it safe and wait for the other person to make the first move. If no one makes the first move, then we watch each other for sometime to see who he is with and whether he is secretly communicating to his police colleagues. Cute and ordinary looks do not say much about a person. I had seen the undercover police get off their police vehicle some distance away. The policemen had backpacks and looked very ordinary with all the right dress codes of a gay; they do have an intelligence unit to study these codes by watching over the gay places ! One thing that I noticed was that they were junior staff so they were usually 23 to 30 years old. A senior staff above 30 would be humiliated to carry out such duties especially when he is married. These staff usually have a grumpy look because they must be very reluctant ! The more one protest, the worst the reputation that come from the question " why choose you if you are not gay when others would be too grossed out to co-operate ".

Eventually when we watched enough and depending on who is hornier, someone will make the first move. Or if one is too cautious, the target would have been gone by then. So cruising is a balance of caution, attraction and competition. One wrong move, you can get into trouble or if lucky, sex can be so good that it can be addictive.

One valuable asset is to drive a good car. Singapore is the most expensive place in the world to own a car. So some guys think better of you if you drive a car and cruise around. This is especially so after midnight when the taxi fare rise by 50%. I've tested the reactions of people to different dress code. When I dressed simply in long pants, loose shirt and slippers, I hardly got a look from those I desired. When I dressed in tight short pants to show off my smooth, fair, muscular thighs and.tight t-shirts to show off my stout body with big pecs, I can get what I desired quite quickly. Otherwise, I will jangle my bunch of car keys and chances will improve dramatically. Okay so it did not happen everytime and those I desired may not be the muscular one of my dream but they were usually hot enough for good sex. Let's face it, we take the best that we can get.

Okay, once you hooked a hot one, how to consummate ? It was the most common question asked and the solution is never easy. I try not to do it in my car because the smell of sex seems to linger on in the car unless that is the only solution. I find it exciting but the family may not think so. If the guy is so hot, I will purposely do it in the car so that his smell lingers on even after he is gone. I'll pretend nothing happened when the family smelled the sex scent :-). Yeah, those hot ones really make it fun. But they are usually the most promiscuous ones. They are so hot that they seem to eat up your body. But once they had tasted your body, they lose further interest and you are just another trophy. They ignore you when you meet them later as they are searching for fresh meat. It makes me wonder if I scored because I am desirable or I am just fresh meat then and used meat now. Sigh, for guys in our late 30s we can't help but wonder if we still can attract others.

As with any other cruising places, there are all kinds of gays with different grades of attractiveness. The tall, young, muscular and handsome ones are the premium grade. Well most of us have some of this and missing in some of that so who is more desirable than who can be a mess to figure out. This plays a big part in the cruising game. The desirable ones want to " act class " and want to be seen to be pursued by others. As beauty is in the eye of the beholder, some of us of not premium grade want to be desirable to others too. Problem is if we " act class " too much, we may not get anything if we keep ignoring the good-enough ones who risk humiliation by signaling the first move. Once, there was this guy who approached my car but I wanted to look for better meat since the night was young. After cruising around, and on closer look I found him quite attractive with his fair, young handsome look though he is not quite tall enough. So I signaled to him by walking around him but he was apparently pissed off with me for humiliating him earlier and ignored me. Now, I feel humiliated as I imagined others watching my mating ritual fell flat ! Such are the perils of the gay mating game.

I find that watching all these going on around me interesting and addictive. Sometimes, I just watched for hours from my car. There was once this guy who came to me because he saw me "acting class" in my car for hours so he thought I must be highly desirable. So he took me to a hotel and we had passionate sex together; his sexual techniques were so good then I almost let him fuck me. He was stout, muscular and smooth with a winsome smile that I was almost bewitched. He talked to me about himself like we were buddies. So I teased him by poking my finger up his ass. It was warm and tight. He then licked my ass and got me hot inside. I half jokingly said that if he wanted to fuck me, he must also allow me to fuck him. He thought about it but said he was saving his virgin ass for his future lover.

I am not too sure if I want to get fucked like a woman otherwise in future when someone scolded " fuck you " I will feel humiliated because some guy really had me on all fours and poked my ass with his cock. Sometimes, my straight friends like to joke about this in crude details. We Chinese men have this superiority complex over women; when I fuck my wife I feel that I am the one doing her the favour and for that she is to serve me like a faithful wife. I wonder if it felt as good to be fucked like the way women seem to enjoy it. I felt intense pleasure when I ejaculate and I always believe women feel the same when they get fucked. If getting fucked in the ass also produced as much pleasure, then it must be a waste to miss out on such an intense pleasure That really got me curious and itching. Watching those gay videos seems to suggest that when men get fucked they groan as much as a woman. But I tried fucking myself with a rounded glue tube and felt only slight tingling sensation that makes me feel like urinating. Maybe a man's cock is warmer and of the correct texture compared to a plastic tube. I am sure my wife will find my hard, throbbing cock more satisfying than a dead plastic tube that needs to be pushed by hand. The shape of the cock head and the hip pushing penetration of a man's cock seems to be designed perfectly to fuck a woman so it should also be perfect for fucking a man. But then the warm embrace and skin contact are also part of sex, so I need a complete man. Or are somethings better left untried ?

Now if I allow someone to fuck me, then he must be more macho than me to make me submit my manhood in womanly humiliation. If that guy is less macho than me, I usually do not want to fuck him. But I have met hungry bottoms who are as pushy as a woman and want to grab my cock with their holes. These usually turn me off. Except one time when I put on a condom and threatened to rape a guy who pursued me too closely.

I scolded him, " you want to get fucked is it ! "

He looked like the rough "Ah Beng" type, so I thought he would be offended.

He responded " hey brother, I know I have no shame to pursue you like this. I am also a man too. If you want to fuck me, then fuck me like fucking a man, don't scold me like I am your woman !"

I thought he wanted to start a fight. But before I knew it, he turned around grabbed my cock and shoved it into his ass. This surprised and excited me because those around were urging me to " kan " him. I must had lost my mind because I felt so macho with this guy bend over in front of me and others wanting to watch me fuck him. To encourage me, everyone took out their cock and masturbated in front of me. So I dropped my pants and fucked him while others watched and put their hands to feel us up. It was like a feeding frenzy. Actually he was not a good fuck; he was skinny and his asshole was too dry and tight. But I came and then pulled off the condom and smeared it on his face ( that from watching too much xxx-movies) then pulled up my pants and ran like hell. It was stupid and dangerous and I told myself never to do it again.

With the bushes gone and the shop houses locked, Raffles Place is now much milder but the attitudes still remain. It's now mostly young gays who gather there in groups for a night out or something. If they are all gay then why not have a sex party among friends instead of wasting time chatting and cruising. Or do they prefer fresh meat ? Some looked so young and some carry their school bags with them. Are they trying to attract dirty old men ?. Some Webbies said there are some doing it for money but I have never come across any. Compared to some of these guys, I feel old but hey some guys find my type attractive ( stout and square jaw looking macho, I was told ). But I tried to avoid guys who are too young as I prefer the muscular macho type. Okay, I was curious and picked up some older looking ones for sex. But their boney bodies and small frames are not exciting to me.They do have wonderfully smooth and supple skin and they are very keen to please. I try to avoid those groupies because I don't want them to look at me and giggle as they talk among themselves about their sexual conquests. I tried to listen in on some of their girlie chatters and occasionally I heard them describing the sexual characteristics of a guy who just walked by and encouraging the next guy to try him. From the way they giggled, I was imaginging that this guy felt like he was some piece of used meat and his desirability is lowered.

This is getting too long so I'll add more in part 2.