Guest reject Posted September 28, 2022 Report Share Posted September 28, 2022 It seems ghosting/ignoring seems to be the generally accepted way of rejecting people on apps. For me I don't know why I feel particularly hurt by some rejections than others. Tier 1 (least impact): silence and no response right from the start Tier 2 : responded with a 'hi' and then ignore Tier 3: after some 'what do you seek here' leads to some dealbreaker, like want to go raw, or share album then radio silence (ikyk) Tier 4: like Tier 3 but with immediate block Tier 5: meet up then say 'you don't look like your profile...sorry I can't do this' Tier 6: chat happy and compliment looks and promise to arrange to meet up after upcoming trip (funny how many people hook up just before some overseas trip), then radio silence to all messages. To me Tier 6 just feels like the greatest betrayal. Its not being polite. Telling me to fuck off cos not interested would have been kinder. Of course I've ignored people at tier 1. But if reach Tier 3, I would politely decline and at least give a reason why (not my type, etc) and wish the person a good day. What are your thoughts? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted September 29, 2022 Report Share Posted September 29, 2022 Part of developing a thick skin is to reach complete immunity to rejection. Our self-esteem can grow with our immunity to rejection, respecting the right of others to reject us and never getting angry or depressed over a rejection. There are however rejections that are very ugly, and then we can simply shrug and feel sorry for the son-of-a-bitch who missed out on civility. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pubic01 Posted September 29, 2022 Report Share Posted September 29, 2022 Disappointment is always paired with prior expectation. So likely you saw potential in some for new connections, but alas .. that’s life (gay life in particular; highly impermanent). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fakes online Posted September 29, 2022 Report Share Posted September 29, 2022 Online people are fakes. Stop wasting. Join actual group, meet up see face to face. Have real conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest reject Posted October 1, 2022 Report Share Posted October 1, 2022 On 9/29/2022 at 5:19 AM, Pubic01 said: Disappointment is always paired with prior expectation. So likely you saw potential in some for new connections, but alas .. that’s life (gay life in particular; highly impermanent). Expand Well if the person doesn't say things like 'let's meet some day', I wouldn't have had any expectation la. Is it the person paiseh to say he's changed his mind after sometime? If i did change my mind, i would apologise and say 'I've changed my mind about meeting up sorry about it.' It's online and not even f2f, shouldn't be too hard right? After that then block still not too late lol How did people do it f2f in the gay bars last time? Reject people graciously? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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