Homeless Man Targetted For Oral Sex

[oralb]

Found an interesting article on a blog today.

Here's the link

http://us.asiancorrespondent.com/secret-blog/are-the-homeless-in-singapore-being-raped

In case the link's broken, here's the copy from it.

Are, the, Homeless, Singapore, being, raped?

Being deprived of a house does not just mean that one lacks a shelter from the storm, an abode of peace and a place to return to every night. A house does not just afford protection of items, of the self, of the physical. Rather, a house can be the very bedrock, upon which our dignity can be securely founded on.

I met Mike a few days ago. He is homeless and alcoholic. As I went around Singapore with him in the pursuit of governmental help for him (a journey which I am going to document later), he told me a few things about himself.

Being male, filthy and unshaven, I was taken aback by the incredulity of his story. Yet, it is a simple and straightforward one – when he sleeps, men unzip his trousers and perform oral sex on him. Perhaps, as he wondered, their throats feel “itchy” and they need his semen to soothe the itch.

If he wakes up to the act, the men offer to buy him a beer or two. If they do not make such an offer, Mike will initiate and ask them for some money, for want of support for his alcohol addiction. When he does so, he sometimes has to be the perfomer, and he told me that his knees hurt since some of the men want it fast... What takes place is a commercial transaction in which sexual pleasure and human dignity are traded, bartered and cheapened.

Did Mike have a choice? If he had a choice can this still be called rape? It might seem as though he has a choice since he could change rape into a commercial transaction. Perhaps what happens might be more accurately described as prostitution. But as I watched his eyes water, I doubt that he had a choice… merely the illusion of it. He was going to be raped anyway. Being drunk has enfeebled him, and he could have thought that he might as well gain something from it. Neither does the urges of his addiction help matters – dignity to him came to be valued less than a can of beer. In effect, Mike was not presented with choices, merely options. Cruel, cruel options.

I doubted his story at first, still being in disbelief that such a thing could happen to Singapore, and that the homeless could be regarded as sexually desirable. I changed this view only when both of us arrived at Clementi Mrt. Both of us went into the toilet. Mike stayed at the taps and I proceeded to use the urinals. When we came out, Mike mentioned to me that he recognized two people in the toilet just now. Then I recalled that one of the uncles beside me was looking at my direction, downwards, but I had dismissed it as accidental. I realised that those are the people who had solicited sex from him in the past; the people too poor to purchase the services of a male prostitute; the people exploiting the vulnerability of the homeless and addicted.

After I became convinced that Mike was telling the truth, I thought to myself: If a girl was raped, the Straits Times will be more than willing to cover the story. If a male, filthy, homeless, disregarded, disremembered and discounted for is raped, will the Straits Times cover the story? Will society be able to look at one of its members that it regards as its eyesore? Will the government finally be able to recognize that a flat is not just a roof, but so much, so much more?

[oralb]

I would say rape is too strong a word being used, generally "Mike" agreed on the sexual act, to curb his alcohol craving. However if the act is performed onto him while he is asleep, that's a criminal offense.

[Freedom711]

I think given a choice, he wun wan this to happen to him...On certain extent he felt he could reject but on the other hand he could have felt that its an opportunity that he can get somethin out of it. He may agree to the sexual transaction but he was forced by circumstances. hmmmmm I dun understand y ppl wan to attack poor guy like him...tats sick....

Edited February 3, 2010 by Freedom711

[Guest Consensual notwithstanding]

I would say rape is too strong a word being used, generally "Mike" agreed on the sexual act, to curb his alcohol craving. However if the act is performed onto him while he is asleep, that's a criminal offense.

While I agree that rape might be difficult to substantiate, awake or asleep, consensual sex between males in Singapore is still a criminal offense despite assurances that it will not be policed aggressively since it appears that charges have been proffered when vulnerable parties (e.g. minors) are involved and if the homeless is considered as a vulnerable member of society ...

[manlybigsize]

I think given a choice, he wun wan this to happen to him...On certain extent he felt he could reject but on the other hand he could have felt that its an opportunity that he can get somethin out of it. He may agree to the sexual transaction but he was forced by circumstances. hmmmmm I dun understand y ppl wan to attack poor guy like him...tats sick....

hi freedom711,

i guess when ppl are desperate....they wont choose or be to choosy.Anything appear infront of them,they will take it without much consideration.In the other hand,the poor guy will ask something in return or those ppl will offer to buy him drinks or give a few dollars so that the poor guy wont go to police...just imagine that ppl pay just abt 5 to 10 buck after blowing him and when in irc, those money boys or money guys will ask u more than 50 buck....

Edited February 3, 2010 by manlybigsize

[TopChinese]

It is just a sexual fantasy... the homeless guy gets a Tsingdao and the other guy gets a real man to fxxk.

As long as both parties are willing, why not?

[Guest Guest]

Found an interesting article on a blog today.

Here's the link

http://us.asiancorrespondent.com/secret-blog/are-the-homeless-in-singapore-being-raped

In case the link's broken, here's the copy from it.

Darn! I really must go out more often.

Seeing the words Oral Sex and the name Oralb, I thought OB was either asking for or offering oral sex!! Stim stim oni!

[Kopi Gao]

There is an earlier article prior to "Are, the, Homeless, Singapore, being, raped?" written by the same blogger(s).

http://us.asiancorrespondent.com/secret-blog/i-brought-a-homeless-back-home

I brought a homeless back home

His name is Mike.

I met him at Redhill Mrt station, and before long we were on my sofa in my living room and he was hugging me and kissing my neck and cheeks.

While he was hugging me, I looked at his pants (or rather the pants I gave him) and realized:

"Gosh no, he has a bloody erection".

I am not kidding. It really happened. I am no gay literature writer.

Att first, at 11pm, I was sitting down at the Redhill Mrt Station, then Mike came to sit behind me. After some time elapsed, he asked me for some money. I obliged and gave him three dollars, thinking that he needed transport fare. Suddenly he mentioned that he was homeless, nobody helped him, and that he was suicidal.

Because it was too late at night for me to contact a social worker i know, I told him to sleep at a playground near my home and help him the next morning. I was also planning to bring him to my church to see if they could help too, since he is a converted Indian (he furnished a tattoo of Mother Mary on his right arm). At first he was reluctant because he was going to find a friend at Clementi. When I asked him if his friend could help him, he said no. His friend could only give him alcohol. Mike is an alcoholic.

So I offered to help him. I will let him into my home, bathe, shave and give him a change of clothes. Then he will go downstairs to sleep at the playground, since my parents are at home sleeping. He agreed, though he was really skeptical of me. Throughout the whole trip to my home, he kept telling me not to cheat him and that he is not trying to cheat me either. I promised him with a solemn shake of hands that I won't. And I had to touch his hands many times to assure him of my best intentions. At that point, he was filthy, and just touching his hands and shoulders gave him acceptance that society had denied. He asked for a hug, I hugged him and the tickle of his beard made me laugh and forget about his filth. His faith in humanity renewed, he told me more details of his life:

Mike was in jail for 28 years for doing drugs, violence, and an array of crimes. He was released on April 22 (I think 2009, he didn't say which year), and he has been homeless and drunk since at the age of 46.

Mike wants to live. He does not want to be drunk anymore. When I offered him a bath, he asked me if he could shave. He wants to change, and the first thing to do will be to groom. And it does make sense. Unkempt with the stench of alcohol, he cannot possibly be confident in himself, or inspire confidence in others as well. Having a bath and shave will mean so much to him.

Mike said that he wanted to work and that he didn't mind doing any job, even those paying around $500. His physical condition was good too; his grip was stronger than I expected.

Mike apparently did not have any sex in 6 years or so; a point he made when telling me that at least he did not have sex and drank instead, and that it was pointless to have a woman sexually without being able to provide for her. Strangely enough, the math means that he had sex in prison, but I did not want to pursue the matter further.

Anyway, having brought Mike home at this point, I left him to use the amenities of my toilet and passed him my change of clothes. After having bathed and completely clean, he came to me. I wanted to chat with him for a bit, so I brought him to the living room. He sat down on the sofa uninvited, and asked me if he could watch the television. At midnight.

Needless to say, out of the fear of waking my parents up, I said no. He insisted; I refused. A feeling in me told me that if I gave in, he will have stranger demands, which unfortunately, were soon to come.

Having declared that my decision was resolute, he accepted the fact that the television will not be turned on. But, the first strange request came. He touched my hands, remarking that they were really rough, and he rubbed them all over. I told him that its because I trained in Judo, and he got interested. Then he asked to see my body. I said no. I am not comfortable to take off my shirt in front of a stranger. He got a bit aggressive, and insisted, but backed down after I insisted with a greater intensity.

Suddenly he asked to hug me. I obliged. It was after all natural for him to want to hug, a gesture of love he never had for… over 30 years. However, it soon got uncomfortable. He started to kiss me on my cheeks, and I was thinking “its okay Norvin, Westerners do it too”. Then I pushed him away and wanted to talk to him to find out more. He asked for another hug. I obliged once more. Then when hugging me, he kissed me again on the cheeks, then he licked my left cheek.

Needless to say, I freaked out. And by this point, I noticed that he had an erection, and I suddenly realized that something has gone wrong. I pushed him away, and told him that I was feeling really uncomfortable and that I need my own personal space. But apparently, homelessness and institutionalized life had deprived him of normalcy and all understandings of human norms. He couldn’t really understand and felt sad that he was rejected.

He asked to lie down on my lap for five minutes, thinking that it was a compromise. Much as I wanted to assure him of my love for him and that being destitute has not deprived him of love, I couldn’t do so. All barriers of my personal space have been violated by him, and I cannot find the heart in me to trust a man with an erection.

I felt that this must end. I realized that he is straight, but the sudden physical intimacy he experienced has in some way generated lust within him or perhaps triggered the natural instincts of his lower half. Not wishing to change his sexual orientation, I told him that he was going to the playground really soon, and I will help him again tomorrow, at 7am. With breakfast.

He continued to insist for hugs. I allowed him to, minus the kissing. Then he asked for me to look at him. His hand went behind my head and I could feel the strength of his hand. Had I not been a Judoka, I will have been unable to resist. My personal analysis is that he has finally found someone who was willing to look at him in the eye - someone which an eyesore of the disgust-adverse society can hardly find. Through the gaze of another, he has finally found proof of his existence; to be beheld is existence itself. But not wishing to accommodate any of his requests anymore, I decided to stop the whole thing and told him that he was going to the playground now.

His erection having died down, he became more practical. When I was near the door, he asked me if I could give him a portable radio. I said no. He pointed to the antique radio I had at home and asked me if he could have it. It was my dead uncle’s. Disgust displaced some compassion at this request. I diplomatically disagreed and told him that a bath, shave, change of clothes and a day which I will dedicate to helping him is all I will do. And I brought him down to the void deck.

There, he cried, and thanked me for everything, all the love I showed and the fact that no-one has ever bothered to help him to this extent before. Despite the situation verging on homoerotism, and the occasional commerical request, I still felt a lot of love for him. Because I felt that he really loved me. Though he was a little aggressive in physcial contact with me, his eyes showed... that he really lacked such love, and therefore he could only demand more for a love he never knew.

Let us not judge him. His behavior is caused by society. By us.

[oralb]

TC! welcum back, or are you still overseas?

Guest @ 12:47: hahaha... good try...

Kopi: Tks for digging that out, the more i read, the more i felt that the writer is biased. He wanted to see the situation in his angle. Though mike initiated contact and even spotted an erection, the writer insisted that Mike is str8 and only wanted to be loved. right!

[Guest ascender]

Excatly.. sounds like a very "loving & kind" but navie man. haha

[rotikawin]

before long we were on my sofa in my living room and he was kissing my neck and cheeks.

It was after all natural for him to want to hug, a gesture of love he never had for. However, it soon got uncomfortable. He started to kiss me on my cheeks...he kissed me again on the cheeks, then he licked my left cheek.

And by this point, I noticed that he had an erection,

I realized that he is straight....Not wishing to change his sexual orientation,

verging on homoerotism,

Let us not judge him. His behavior is caused by society. By us.

Both the blogger and I must be born in 2007 to believe that "Mike" is straight.

[nvms]

someone asking for trouble...

[Guest comments]

someone asking for trouble...

Oralb ... do you know the blogger personally?

Sound he has agenda on challenging gahmen? as his blog titled secret political blog and his intention to do documentation on the person he help ..... (trying to took advantage by doing so? if pure helping why shud do documentation and even think of gahmen challenged him)

by Anonymous on 02/02/2010 10:53 am

wow, is this and the last post fiction or real?

by Liau Chuan Yi and Norvin Chan on 02/02/2010 12:27 pm

both are real. I have Mike's full real name and NRIC with me. I made a police report, took him to tanjong pagar family service center, got him to SGH and IMH. There will be a lot of documentation to back me up if the government challenges the story.

by qutequte on 02/02/2010 03:09 pm

I am more concerned that the homeless are sorta forced to a corner and branded as a 'criminal'.... Now that it's a crime not to change your home address, once you've moved away from a last residential address. This is totally unfair.

by Anonymous on 02/02/2010 04:37 pm

What do you mean by "he was going to be raped anyway"? Would he have been overpowered? Forced to take it up the ass? Forced to not scream? If it was so, then Mike's "lack of choice" was indeed lamentable. But if his "lack of choice" was because someone (or anyone) who went down on him (man or woman) made him erect (that does not count as rape by the way), he had the choice to just walk away. What were the men going to do? Continue sticking their mouth to his dick without letting go?

Was Mike tearing because he felt violated or was Mike tearing because he felt guilty for letting his addiction to alcohol justify his being a prostitute?

What really was Mike's problem? From what I read from you, Mike's problem was not really homelessness but his addiction. I am not pro-PAP, but it's always so easy to blame all your personal problems on the government and expect them to make everything go away when really we must be objective to know when certain responsibilities lie upon us to make ourselves not be victimized this way.

by Liau Chuan Yi and Norvin Chan on 02/02/2010 07:30 pm

to anon @ 4.37

Sometimes being drunk, Mike does not wake up. Such cases will be considered as rape without question.

As to making the "choice" to offer his services for alcohol, I will say that his addiction prevents him from making the "choice" not to. It is an option, not a choice.

I will say that homelessness and alcoholism reinforces each other. Not having a home means that mike roams about aimlessly and he drinks to idle the time away.

I am not blaming the government on this one. The government has done quite a fair bit to help Mike, I will explain how the government has done so in the next few posts. The objective of this post is to lend pressure on the government and to force the fact on them that being homeless is not just being exposed to elements...

by Anonymous on 02/03/2010 01:37 pm

i am a little amused by your article. I will not go into homeless but clearly Mike has a choice. he could refuse the sexual act, or even round up the men that perform onto him to the authority. Yet he chose the money to curb his alcohol.

Was Mike forced to perform the acts? no, you even mentioned that " Mike will initiate and ask them for some money, for want of support for his alcohol addiction." He condones those acts, put it bluntly he may even wish those men come more often, so as to satisfy his craving, rather than you.

As someone's commented, Mike biggest issue is Alcoholism, and I would think it will be more beneficial to help him fight this, rather than clouding the situation with all these so called "raped" cases.

And if you are that righteous, how about helping all those hookers in Geylang? Clearly most of them, if not all, were "not presented with choices, merely options. Cruel, cruel options."

by Andrew on 02/03/2010 04:16 pm Anon 1.37

The approach should be multi-faceted. Targeting only one aspect will not be a holistic approach. Solving alcoholism will stop the act, but the cause behind alcoholism (i.e. being homeless) is still unresolved.

What the writers of this blog wants to do is to make us aware that such a situation is happening to people. At least the writers has done their parts to help rather than sitting down as an anonymous typing fast and furious.

I believe you can help hookers more by visiting them more frequently. They apparently do not have a homeless problem and certainly no pride/ego issues.

by xingrencha on 02/03/2010 05:16 pm

Norvin, u r getting yr faction confused... in yr earlier piece u said this fictitious Mike had no sex for SIX years... so how cld he have been raped while homeless??? LOL!

by Liau Chuan Yi and Norvin Chan on 02/03/2010 05:20 pm

he is not fictitious.

Some of the things he said in the previous post are incoherent and does not fit in to what he said later. And if I recall, he said that he did not have sex with a woman for six years.

I cannot change what I said in the earlier piece or else people will accuse me of twisting what happened earlier to hide my tracks.

If you wish to challenge the truthfulness of this story, I am willing to prove it to authorities such as the TOC. I cannot reveal his full name or nric number to everyone.

by Anonymous on 02/03/2010 07:29 pm

all of you please pay a visit to the police station or imh.

by Anonymous on 02/04/2010 07:55 am

I thought there were no such things as homeless in Singapore. I've never seen one on the street. This is very sad.

by xingrencha on 02/04/2010 04:01 pm

Haha, Norvin etc.. always so convenient to say xyz is incoherent. U make a gd story teller. Tap deeper into yr imagination, and u may become a great one :-D

As for the authorities, whom do u mean by TOC? The Online Citizen? TOC ain't the authorities, LOL!

[lucwind78]

Hmmmm...

Actually, if u see America, where homeless r so common, raping is like everyday thingy to them... and do u know, there are many of them who have been infected with HIV?

I feel what you have done is way beyond what those religious people would do. It's brave, it's selfless and it's really noble. When you pass... you will be the next god.

If u see a monk, he probably drives a MPV and chant at funeral for money and eating nice char kway teow at hawker center...

If u see a priest, he probably owns the whole shit like church and still expanding it... with a wife who bares her breasts at some ang moh awards which I wonder why she's there...

Anyway...

What I'm trying to say is... even religious leaders r so $ minded, how do u expects their followers aka the government to do what you have done? That's why I feel u r rare and u r a saint!

They probably try to solve problems that they created like gambling issues than to care those people who really needs our help.

And for the sake of the country image, they would rather help ppl from oversea, then to look inside to focus on ppl in their own land who really needs them.

Sad!!!