azimuth Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 Which do you prefer? What are the pros and cons of each? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 (edited) 一个人如果活得快乐自由自在，单身又如何? 要是有伴了却"同床异梦"更孤独寂寞，尝尽背叛，那还不如单身来得潇洒。快乐与对的人分享，才会加倍有意义。 Edited March 1, 2016 by snowball max001 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FirsTimer Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 When it's time. Time for me to be attached. Reply was "she is overseas" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 Definitely attached. You get to have an enjoyable person to spend lots of time with, lots of sex, someone who has your back in terms of emotional support. Sometimes they make you breakfast. Pretty fun. Sagui_32 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 2AM Posted March 1, 2016 Popular Post Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 Being single means you can have freedom with your time, your wants and needs etc. When other couples are fighting, you're just glad you don't have to face such messy drama. You can just focus on yourself and come through until you reach a point where it starts to get lonely, had enough of messing around with strangers etc. Your past haunts you and you wish you could have your "happily ever after" fantasy (it doesn't exists really!) Being attached means that everything must have the consent of the other. Communication is rather important, that's where the trust and foundation grows. Both have to manage time to spend with one another, get to know both the good and the ugly side - accepting it and completing each other. Sex and chemistry depends on both. Cheating is only an issue based on one's temptation ("where were you when i needed you? bla bla bla") Other challenges faced would be the acceptance between both friends and family, different cultures etc. All in all, love isn't really the same these days. Everyone is expecting too much. Not everyone wants to be in a relationship cause not ready for commitments and since it's "better" to be friends with benefits in the present time and age, I guess people can't tolerate those clingy hopeless romantics that will be bugging them after that one night stand = BLOCKED AND IGNORED. bla bla bla Just don't live it up till you end up with regrets. Be safe always, never be naive to trust people so easily and take time in finding your other half. I'm just saying based on my views and experiences. darkflame, azimuth, daddyboi and 3 others 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 I am attached for several years. We both have our free times to do our own things without informing each other. At the end of the day we come back to each other. It is the trust that keep us sane. He has his own pool of friends and mine too. Staying attached gives us the sense of belonging, wanted , vulnerabilities and much love. Sex with love and respect brings us to a different level in life where singles may not understand or even enjoy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hairy springroll Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 Single single single Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkflame Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 Living alone for 2 years, I have learnt to appreciate singlehood a lot more. At the current moment and considering existing circumstances, I would prefer to be single. I'm always running after you. You are my ideal. You are me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sad & lonely Posted March 1, 2016 Report Share Posted March 1, 2016 I have been single for 34 years since graduating uni and living alone for 28 of those years. At first it feels good - so free, do what I like. But see my own gay friends grow attach and meeting them as couples make me wish I can find my own man to be with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkflame Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 2 hours ago, Guest sad & lonely said: I have been single for 34 years since graduating uni and living alone for 28 of those years. At first it feels good - so free, do what I like. But see my own gay friends grow attach and meeting them as couples make me wish I can find my own man to be with. Being attached is a privilege. Still, the less privileged find other ways to keep going - children, pets, activities, hobbies, work etc. I'm always running after you. You are my ideal. You are me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teatree Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 When there is attached, there will also be detached, every beginning has an end. When the end comes, pains also come. Still prefer open relationship. Come and stay over, have dinner and sex, as and when convenient to both. It is so much less stressful. hornbird 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeowPrince Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 When I was single, and dated through several relationships, and back to being single, I've always felt that being single gives a freedom that would be lost whenever I started a new relationship. Going through five short relationships (1-2 years) over the decades had made me somewhat cynical. Then I met my current partner. Our initial two years were rocky, a lot of learning and relearning of ourselves. We were of different generations, a full 18 years apart in age, and of different intellectual/educational backgrounds. Disagreements and lovers' tiffs we had our share (and probably will still have), but that is what brings us closer. That I am a person who values my "independence" and my Me space is not a factor that might help. Last week we quietly celebrated our anniversary, and a week prior to that, outed to my closest circle of friends. In a couple of months' we'll be going for our second overseas trip together, and this time to a much more romantic spot on earth, one of my favourites! We only meet up on weekends as we have our jobs, sometimes less often when I have to work weekends. When we meet up, its a simple meal together, whether home-cooked or dine out. Its just the presences of the other nearby in the same, it doesn't matter that he is surfing shopping sites and I'm tweaking photos, it doesn't matter that he is watching crime dramas and I'm napping, that we are near each other it all that matters. He follows me to feed the community strays, I follow him to our friend's home so that he can play with their foster cats. Outside of that, we each have our own lives - he goes to church, visits his work friends, while I go movies with my good friends. Physically, we are neither's exact stereotypical type (hunk/chub/bear/twink/etc), and we both admire our respective types still. And we still maintain friendship ties with several of our fetish-community friends. What I am trying to point out is that there does not need to be a sacrifice of mutually exclusive magnitudes. A couple we are, but we still live our own individual lives, happily. But together, we are better, brighter and more complete. Phil, max001 and jeeves 3 Instagram @the_meowprince Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azimuth Posted March 2, 2016 Author Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 5 hours ago, MeowPrince said: What I am trying to point out is that there does not need to be a sacrifice of mutually exclusive magnitudes. A couple we are, but we still live our own individual lives, happily. But together, we are better, brighter and more complete. I do agree with this. The more we sometimes try to compromise the other half, the more the frustration may build within. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
badpuppy Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 I prefer attached. I know to be single are freedom and good. Just... i love to share my life with my beloved! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
escapade Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 Single if the person is not right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lohwpr Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 Generally, Human is not made to be alone. Most of us have the capacity to love and to accept love from others. Given a choice, I would opt to be attached than to be single. The sad thing is we will eventually be alone when our better half go before us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeowPrince Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 2 hours ago, azimuth said: I do agree with this. The more we sometimes try to compromise the other half, the more the frustration may build within. Sorry, but you may have misunderstood me there. I wasn't implying any compromise or an absence of it. In my case (and a few couples I got to know), it is both sides making a little effort to reach each other. When you love enough to do so, it isn't a compromise any more. Instagram @the_meowprince Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 2, 2016 Report Share Posted March 2, 2016 2 hours ago, MeowPrince said: Sorry, but you may have misunderstood me there. I wasn't implying any compromise or an absence of it. In my case (and a few couples I got to know), it is both sides making a little effort to reach each other. When you love enough to do so, it isn't a compromise any more. i do agree fully. For the past 12 years of my wonderful relationship, the element of compromise seems to be absence. We blend well into each other psyche. Though at times there are frictions we never allow such petty issues to germinate into frustrations. At times some differences in opinions and wants seem to strengthen our relationship further. I believed when you love someone things all these minor idiosyncrasies will tend to solve by themselves. We behaved like mature adults and not into unnecessary tantrums. It makes us beautiful to be together even though we are about 15 years in age gap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 5, 2016 Report Share Posted March 5, 2016 I have been attached twice but always feeling like a beggar , having to beg the other party to spend some time with me ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teatree Posted March 5, 2016 Report Share Posted March 5, 2016 (edited) On 2/3/2016 at 10:50 PM, Guest said: i do agree fully. For the past 12 years of my wonderful relationship, the element of compromise seems to be absence. We blend well into each other psyche. Though at times there are frictions we never allow such petty issues to germinate into frustrations. At times some differences in opinions and wants seem to strengthen our relationship further. I believed when you love someone things all these minor idiosyncrasies will tend to solve by themselves. We behaved like mature adults and not into unnecessary tantrums. It makes us beautiful to be together even though we are about 15 years in age gap. Nice to hear that. It simply means that both of you are very similar in character and demeanour. It's remarkable to hear the element of compromise is absence in a relationship. Perfect tango. Edited March 5, 2016 by teatree Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teatree Posted March 5, 2016 Report Share Posted March 5, 2016 15 minutes ago, Guest said: I have been attached twice but always feeling like a beggar , having to beg the other party to spend some time with me ! This is too lopsided and a tortured relationship. It means he placed you on a lower priority over his work, friends and family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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